On February 24, news outlet Dispatch released an exclusive interview with Kim Hyun Joong’s ex-girlfriend “A,” who revealed her side of the story, as well as some text messages that were exchanged between her and her ex-boyfriend.
The report states that “A” is well aware of the public criticism directed at her, for meeting (again) and getting pregnant with the man that abused her.
She says, “Who would understand? They’ll say that I’m crazy. I know.”
“Hyun Joong has not once questioned the fact that I’m pregnant. He’ll know best whether or not I’m pregnant. Because he’s the one that said he thinks he’s made a ‘mistake’.”
September 7, 2014
KHJ: Have you not run out of your beauty products? Whenever I board the plane, I only see stuff like that. You should have run out of beauty products by now.
A: I have everything. And since when have you cared about that.
KHJ: Why do you say that. I thought you might have used the previous set up, so it popped into my mind.
A: It’s not the time for you to worry about my beauty products.
KHJ: It’s nothing. It’s not hard to do. You miss me, right?
KHJ: Really? Not even one percent? I miss you, nonetheless. I must be crazy. Is this the end? I haven’t been able to prepare my heart for this. I want to meet you after organizing everything I want to say. If it’s really the last time, then I want to give you everything I haven’t been able to.
A: No can do. That’s reality.
KHJ: I really want you to be happy. Now, there’ll be a day when we can’t contact each other, right? But just until then.. Please at least keep in touch with me.
On September 2, Kim Hyun Joong was called to the Songpa police station as a suspect. Later, on September 7, he left for a performance in Peru, and texted “A” while on the plane.
“At this point, I was set in my decision,” says “A.” “I thought it was the end with Hyun Joong. I accepted it as reality. But…”
November 7, 2014
KHJ: Sincere congratulations on your 31st birthday. I hope today will be a happy day for you, and that you will receive many birthday wishes. I’m always sorry.
A: It’s flowers, flowers~
KHJ: Do you like them? Does it feel like it’s your birthday?
A: I like them. They’re pretty. But you are not here.
KHJ: I’m not there, so I sent them to you. But you still feel happy, right? Your parents might have received them, so I did not write the sender’s name. Just tell them that a friend of yours gave [the flowers].
“It was my birthday. I got a cake and flowers from Jeju Island. I think that’s when my heart warmed up a bit. I had the thought that I could love Hyun Joong again,” “A” explains.
According to “A,” Kim Hyun Joong sought her out since September. “He was really drunk and came to my home a mess. He waited at the playground in front of my house, and he even cried.”
And the report states that Kim Hyun Joong continued to do so. “A” says Kim Hyun Joong asked her in October to be by his side so he could endure, and that her heart started to waver.
Regarding the previous claim by Key East that the two broke up in December, “A” says, “I don’t know the grounds on which Key East reported something like that. I think they’re just fueling the flames. They’re making me out to be a gold digger. Fostering misunderstandings and mistrust.”
She insists that she agreed to the interview for the sake of her baby. “Yesterday, reports seemed to make it out like there is some secret around my pregnancy. As if I didn’t show up at the hospital to hide something. I didn’t do it to ‘hide’ anything, but to ‘protect.'”
November 30, 2014
KHJ: It looks like this case will not end well, so I’ll decide myself what to do from now on. You just live well the way you want.
A: Okay. Then, let’s go separate ways and live without caring about each other.
KHJ: Okay. Let’s go separate ways. This is final. But why are the dogs in this neighborhood like this. I got angry, but I have no one who could relate to my thoughts, so I decided to send you this. (sends photo?) It’s really funny.
A: That’s really funny. Did you eat?
KHJ: I’m eating bibimguksu right now. Did you have something to eat?
A: I had some fruit. How’s the weather?
KHJ: It stopped raining and the sun rose. Make sure to eat well.
According to the report, “A” found out about her pregnancy on January 3, but was unable to tell Kim Hyun Joong about it right away.
“A” says, “On January 2, I had some weird symptoms, and I bought a pregnancy test the next day. I was of course surprised, but what surprised me more was how Kim Hyun Joong acted.”
“We were together until December 31. And we wished each other a happy new year on January 1.”
But on January 2, according to “A,” Kim Hyun Joong went on vacation to Jeju Island with another woman. “He said it was planned in advance, so I tried to understand, and justified it, telling myself that he could of course meet someone else in the time we had been broken up.”
“A” told Kim Hyun Joong about the baby on the day of his return from vacation, on January 5.
January 9, 2015
A: I’m so upset..
KHJ: Me too. Although it should be something to rejoice about, I’m upset. Sorry about that.
A: I understand how you feel, but don’t want you to feel that way.
KHJ: Things are getting complicated. When I come back from military, the baby will be two years old. What should I do then, and all these thoughts are tying me down.
KHJ: Did your check-up go well??? I arrived at the airport.
A: (sends ultrasound picture)
KHJ: Aha, it’s that dot. Black one.
A: Yeah.. They said that next time it’s possible to hear the heartbeat
KHJ: Is that so.. Eat well, dress warmly, and drink absolutely no alcohol. Did the hospital staff say that you are five weeks into your pregnancy?
A: Yeah. It’s almost the fifth week. I am still shaking and can’t process this, but.. It must be the same for you.
KHJ: Yeah.. I’m truly upset that I can’t congratulate you. Even in a painful situation like this..
January 10, 2015
KHJ: Let’s tell our parents later. I thought about it over, and still can’t accept what’s going on. I need to think more. Please understand.
A: Because you keep changing your mind, it’s hard for me too.
KHJ: I never changed my mind. It’s not like I can avoid military.. I can’t watch my baby grow up. Marriage is not something you do alone. You should think about it over too.
A: You won’t watch your child grow up anyways. But I have no right to say anything since I’m thinking about whether to erase this child or not.
KHJ: Did I say I’ll abandon the child? I’ll raise the baby. But isn’t it right that you and I should talk about whether we should get married or not? I don’t understand why people have to get married just because a baby is about to be born. If we live like that, everyone might become unhappier.
KHJ: Okay, I’ll get married to you. But file a petition for me. Your husband is about to get a red line across him.
A: What are you talking about.
KHJ: If I get fined like this, I’ll receive a red mark. If I’m judged guilty, my agency says I’ll be considered a criminal.
A: You’re saying you want to get married not because of me or because of the baby, but because you don’t want to be a criminal?
KHJ: No, I’m saying I will do my best for my baby. I don’t want to get involved in this kind of situation again. Let’s forget about everything and start over from the beginning. I’ll do my best. I’ll get married to you and make you happy.
January 19, 2015
KHJ: I’m going to sleep now, but first I have something to say. I know you don’t like “K” [undisclosed name]. But from my point of view it’s so embarrassing. Don’t you think it’s a bit much to send women’s products in the mail?
A: Is she in the right mind leaving things like that at a guy’s house? I just sent whatever was at your house. How do think I felt when I saw those?
“A” saw products in Kim Hyun Joong’s bag that belonged to “K,” the woman who he went to Jeju Island with, and took them and sent them back to her, which upset Kim Hyun Joong.
February 18, 2015
KHJ: How is the baby doing? I want to know.. Let’s talk when I get to Korea. I want to see my kid.
A: (ultrasound video)
KHJ: Aigoo, it’s so big now. And it’s moving. Is your hospital the same one? Send me the most recent one.
A: (ultrasound photo) The video where it’s kicking is the most recent.
KHJ: How are you feeling? Are you at home? Don’t move.
A: Can you see the baby’s nose in the side profile?
KHJ: Yea, I see it ㅠ. Shall we talk?
A: The hands and feet are moving too.. The videos aren’t sending properly through text.
February 23, 2015
KHJ’s father: “A” [undisclosed name]. No matter what, if we do things one at a time, there’ll be no problem. So don’t worry and come over with your parents. Confirm your pregnancy to us, and then let’s work thing out.
A: I’ve already sent you the pregnancy confirmation and ultrasound on February 14. What are you thinking that that’s all you’re asking? I’ll show you anywhere.
KHJ’s father: I can’t believe it with just an ultrasound photo. That’s because you haven’t acted very trustworthy to us. You seem to be twisting my words. Is there a reason for that?
A: I’ve never wanted that doctor. I’m afraid something will happen to my baby. You asked to see the documents, so we met and I showed you everything. I don’t understand why you’re still doubting me. I think any hospital will be fine.
“I met [Kim Hyun Joong’s] father on January 6. At the time, it seemed like he really wasn’t happy about the child. Since it was to the point that Hyun Joong apologized to me about his father’s attitude.”
“A” says that Kim Hyun Joong’s parents were adamant about the specific hospital and doctor that she would go to. “I just wasn’t comfortable.”
“In the end, I went to my usual hospital, and afterwards [Kim Hyun Joong’s] father let up and we agreed on a hospital and doctor.”
“A” states she has no reason to prove her pregnancy to Kim Hyun Joong’s father, and that she wants to end this war.
“As I’ve said before, Hyun Joong will know the best: when I got pregnant, that it’s his, and why I want to end this relationship.”
“A” says she’s had extreme thoughts, too, but then asks, “Have you heard an ultrasound before? There’s a baby’s heart beating inside of me. From now on, I’ll be the one to manage this and take responsibility.”
She explains that she won’t ask Kim Hyun Joong to take responsibility for anything, but she won’t block his interests in the baby, either, and that she has no plans for marriage.
“A” closes with a statement to Key East: “I understand what the agency is trying to protect. But please don’t deny my existence. And don’t pressure me. This isn’t for me, but for the baby.”