[Belleluvly]

sorry this is just a rant..but I'm hoping at least some of my fellow soompiers can relate.

ok..I CAN"T STAND BORING PEOPLE!

I have friend, she loves Anime, games all that good stuff..but she's such a HOME BODY!!!
I invited her to go clubbing with me sometime before winter break is over..and she sais " well..I work..and I'm always tired" I understand completely , but come on she doesn't work all day every day...trust me. I worked two jobs this semester and still went to school full time.
then she sais " I'm not a clubbing person" I understand that too, some of us just don't like being in that enviornment...I just..happen to like it.
and it's not like I go clubbing all the time...if I go clubbing any time soon, it will be my first time this year.

but..then she sais " I'm playing ( insert game title) I can't go" but this is ALL The time!
GOSH SHE IS SO BORING!
and , I even have other friends that always want to do the same old thing, movie, mall, movie, mall, restaurant, mall, mall, movie...COME ON!
let's...DO SOMETHING THAT WE've NEVER DONE BEFORE!!
how about a concert at some shabby night spot?
how about a museum?
how about meeting that new Indie band at the 9 30 club?
how about going to a RAVE?!?!
how about LASER TAG??

GOsh, I'm just so antsy right now, I want to get out and do something!
but no...all ( at least some) of my friends don't ever wanna do anything!
it's Winter break for goodness sake!
I'm gonna go bother my dad now.

[Cheri.B*]

eh... shouldn't you rant in one of those pinned rant threads

I find this offensive because you practically describe your friends boring and I share some of their traits.
It isn't that they are boring. Maybe the things they like to do are considered fun to them.
So please do not diss them like that.

You can try to find and meet new peoples who share the same interested as you.
That way you guys can enjoy the things you like to do.
Try going out and explore the world.
Find a new place like places to socialize.
You'll probably find someone that matches your interested soon enough.

[imperfect.]

Find new friends?

[Melitus]

eh... shouldn't you rant in one of those pinned rant threads

I find this offensive because you practically describe your friends boring and I share some of their traits.
It isn't that they are boring. Maybe the things they like to do are considered fun to them.
So please do not diss them like that.

You can try to find and meet new peoples who share the same interested as you.
That way you guys can enjoy the things you like to do.
Try going out and explore the world.
Find a new place like places to socialize.
You'll probably find someone that matches your interested soon enough.

I have tons of friends like you and seroiusly you guys are only fun to hang out in class. I agree with the thread creator, you guys should atleast try to be more outgoing, and when someone invite you to hang out just say "yes" instead of staying home and be emo. I have a very timid shy introverted friend, and she's annoys me sooo much, she whines about life...well that's becuase you don't live your life to the fullest. I'm glad I'm cutting any connections or strings with these people.

It's best to find new friends, if they arn't willing to open up and get to know you..why should you.

[cbxjenn]

maybe theyre not boring.. it's just that they are too lazy. i know sometimes im like that.
my advice is like x T H U Y's, go find some new friends.

[Cheri.B*]

Melitus, why are you generalizing all people who stays home are emo =_=
I'm acutally satisfied with my life. (ah getting off topic)

[SkeptiCal]

maybe she likes being boring...

there are people who aren't interested in trying new things. why are you trying to force them to do what YOU want? last I heard, it's their life, not yours. don't like them? find new friends.

[`ANITA]

Um, what's wrong with staying at home? (Note to Melitus: Not everyone who stays home are emo, you know.) o.O
Maybe she likes staying home as much as you like going out... there's nothing wrong with that.
You shouldn't blame her for being 'boring'.

If you think she's so 'boring' then maybe you should just go and find new friends.

[-K-]

Maybe she's a social outcast.

She may seem to be a boring person to you. But actually, the things that you do/like are completely different from the things that she likes/does. No point forcing her to go as she would end up feeling bored there anyway.

so yes, go and find some new friends that would actually share the same interest as you.

[Belleluvly]

maybe she likes being boring...

there are people who aren't interested in trying new things. why are you trying to force them to do what YOU want? last I heard, it's their life, not yours. don't like them? find new friends.

someone actually enjoying being boring?
I'm just not seeing the logic in that.
life is sooo much more than a video game or the roof of a house.
I glanced at your Signature and it just seems that people that are ALWAYS in the house and ALWAYS playing games are not living their life to the fullest.
there is so much to explore out there and I feel that people are wasting their youth ( did I spell waste right? lol).
It just really erks me when people ABUSE the ideal of relaxation and chilling out.

and I'm defenitly not trying to force anyone to do what I want to do. I'm trying to give them options to explore in their life, you never know..they might have always been interested in doing something, but never met someone that actually wanted to do it, maybe they need a little push..not a complete life turn around.

[kfreak]

find someone else to hang out..
is she the only one? lol...
i like to stay home too..
i dont hang out that much..

[LittleSmurfie]

Have you even told her about this.
If you haven't then I think it's a good idea.
Communication always works you know -.-
If that doesn't work that you should consider hanging out with different friends.

I too stay at home a lot but not as much as your friend does.

[.moony.]

You sound like such a pinkberry.
Some people dont like to go clubbing so suck it up. Dont think they have to go along with whatever you want to do.
I think no one wants to go with u cuz ur annoying as hell from ur post. THink you are the most interesing person on earth?
Geez.

Edit: and who are you to say you are trying to give them options to explore life
Gosh Im glad I dont know you. Stop forcing what you like on other people. Maybe they've tried it but dont like it?
I personally like to go clubbing but I also enjoy reading. I dont think people are boring because they dont want to go along with what I want to do.

[SkeptiCal]

someone actually enjoying being boring?
I'm just not seeing the logic in that.
life is sooo much more than a video game or the roof of a house.
I glanced at your Signature and it just seems that people that are ALWAYS in the house and ALWAYS playing games are not living their life to the fullest.
there is so much to explore out there and I feel that people are wasting their youth ( did I spell waste right? lol).
It just really erks me when people ABUSE the ideal of relaxation and chilling out.

and I'm defenitly not trying to force anyone to do what I want to do. I'm trying to give them options to explore in their life, you never know..they might have always been interested in doing something, but never met someone that actually wanted to do it, maybe they need a little push..not a complete life turn around.

There are some people who get away with crime because people are too scared to testify against them.
I don't see the logic in that either.
I agree, life IS much more than a video game... or the roof of a house...?
Not everyone considers "living life to the fullest" as going out and bungee jumping off a cliff or being out of the house every night.
Believe or not, there are people that actually really enjoy staying in their house and relaxing.
I agree that some people just need a little push but for those who actually enjoy how their life is, well, leave them be.
Because, there ARE people with other points of views.

[romanceandrain]

The obvious solution is to go to their house, slap them in the face, and continuously dunk their head in a bath of cold water until they agree to go clubbing with you.
Or, maybe you can try doing what they do and see what it's like to play video games all day. I can tell you that time passes by way faster than you would expect it to. Unless you don't like gaming. Which then, of course, you'd probably get extremely frustrated and break the control, and proceed with the first solution.
Or, maybe trick your friends into saying you'll be going to a mall, telling them you'll drive. Then drive them to a random location that is...not a mall. They'll have no choice but to follow.


OR!! Or you could go out with friends who actually enjoy doing what you like to do instead of trying to bother these friends you described.

And just wondering, why are these 'boring people' even your friends when they obviously don't share the same interests as you do? (I think this came out a bit meaner than intended, but I'm just curious.)

[[PaperSkies]]

Well it IS Winter and who really likes going out into the slush? Okay well that's me, hating on the slush. Sometimes people NEED a break like really, you know from school. It's Winter Break now so it's time to relax. Your friend seems completely different from you from my view. She seems like a chilled out girl, you seem like a girl ready for action and adventure. Maybe it's time for a search for new friends? Ohoho you remind me of a friend actually, loves doing anything anywhere in any weather, whether it be hailing, raining, maybe even a tornado! Maybe she's not interested in clubbing. Some people maybe don't enjoy parties and such where it's all crazy lights and blasting music.

[foubelle]

i disagree with the thread starter.

i like trying new things too but saying people who don't are boring/emo/not living their live to the fullest is just wrong.

there are generally lazy people who cant be bothered going out and make new friends and then complain that their live sucks, those are the ones i say who you should stay far away from. but there are people who just want to concentrate on a single thing(ie, your room mate who just wants to play comp games all the time. or people who just want to watch movie and go to the mall all the time) rather than try everything once. it's a breath vs depth thing and people are allowed to make their won choices. just because they dont like doing what you do doesnt mean they're boring. have you tried playing video games for a whole day? if you havent try to do the things she does, then why should she try the things you do? since she's perfectly happy with what she's doing right now.

to solve the problem, maybe you should meet new people. or you can try going to these events alone and make new friends there.

i hope i'm wrong, but you remind me of those people who needs someone to go with them wherever they go, to do something with them. and when they do, they just clique together the whole time.

i wouldnt encourage you to go to the shabby bar alone though, cos that might be dangerous, but you can go meet that new indie band ALONE and make some friends that would go to meet new indie bands with you in the future.

[Pogichinoy]

Its quite simple. People have different interests.

It is obvious that you and your friend have some things in common but not everything.

Find people who you are more compatible with.

There are times when you have friends for one ocassion and friends for another occasion.

[SwtMsT]

I get what you're saying, sometimes the same old thing really drives me crazy...
try to suggest new things to friends...they might not all be negative...

[maivyaj.♥.minwoo]

My friend is like that too. I invite her to go clubbing with me but she's always 'No, it's late, I'm tired.'
I also invite her to go to open mic's with me because I find them fun. But the past two times that I've asked
her she was already at work. So she's like 'Next time. If you plan to go next time, give me a call and I won't go to work.'
So I call her the next time and she's like 'Girl I have to work.' I know for a fact that she doesn't have to go to work.
She works somewhere where she can walk in and out of whenever she wants too. It bugs me but I guess that's just how she is.
We're like best friends but we have nothing in common. She likes Thai and I like Korean. She dresses up everyday
and I dress up on special occasions. She likes to talk about movies and etc...I like to talk about music and boys.
But whenever i ask her to go out to eat with me or shop with me she's always free.
I think she only enjoys eating and shopping. LOL.