Guest ChargeBatteries Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 Does this ever happen to you?Okay so I recently started dating a guy and we have a lot of fun together. He's wonderful and we have a strong connection. However, when we're in the car and he's driving... we don't really talk. You know, like those weird silences? We can't seem to find anything to talk about! But every time we get out of the car and head to our destination, we have a lot of fun but when it's time to go home and we get in the car, we don't talk about anything again! Is this normal? Also, since I'm already writing a post... I've been told that when you really like someone, you'll feel a spark when you kiss them. I really really like this guy but when we kiss, I don't get this "spark." I don't know, what do you guys think? Thanks in advance guys! : ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dkimmy17 Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 1. Put music in the car 2. It's probably static Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pervert Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 lol that's happened to me before when i was on my first couple dates with this one guy... thankfully the drive was short. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest awesooome Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 Whenever I'm around, there's awkward silences. Haha. I have a way with making the environment feel awkward. It should be normal... Maybe he enjoys the silence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wowastyle Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 it'll definitely be akward the first few times, but my boyfriend plays a podcast and we'll comment about it or we'll play music. it's no longer akward during car rides. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest MAKEMESMILE. Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 you mean .. awkwardly weird ? cause it can only be awkward if you make it awkward. like, I don't really talk when i'm in a vehicle because I get really tired, so instead of having a full on conversation I sometimes hum or quietly sing to the song currently playing, which no one really complains about surprisingly, that, or I make things purposely awkward like staring at them for a long while until they turn to me and say, "what?", and I just smile and say, "sorry it was awkward, so I wondered what it would be like if I made it more awkward". than they laugh and the awkwardness disappears because they keep laughing whenever it starts to get awkward again, I guess. but that's just me, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mikey1186 Posted May 7, 2010 Share Posted May 7, 2010 just give him a bj or a hj while in the car...it'll solve your problems right away. jk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tuffcore Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 just give him a bj or a hj while in the car...it'll solve your problems right away. jk Dude, that was SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO not funny... ...that it was actually funny. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest SilkInfused Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 Turn on Haddaway's What Is Love? and start bobbing your heads together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taebins_luver Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 my bf notices that about us too. he says it's either we're 'quiet' or we just joke around, he said we never talk about 'us' and what 'our relationship is', which he says is rather odd to him because he always did it with his ex's. i tell him when we get too deep into the details of our relationship, we'll discover there's really nothing to talk about. we're in love, and when in love, silence is the best moment we can have together, because we're together. in the silence we can enjoy each other's pure presence, the best way to say i love you is to say nothing at all. blah~ i sound so mushy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest synergyz Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 quote from one of my favorite movies pulp fiction! Mia Wallace: Don't you hate that? Vincent: Hate what? Mia: Uncomfortable silences. Why do we feel it's necessary to yak about bulls**t in order to be comfortable? Vincent: I don't know. That's a good question. Mia: That's when you know you've found somebody really special, you can just shut the f**k up for a minute and comfortably enjoy the silence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest LOOCiEE<3 Posted May 8, 2010 Share Posted May 8, 2010 you mean .. awkwardly weird ? cause it can only be awkward if you make it awkward. like, I don't really talk when i'm in a vehicle because I get really tired, so instead of having a full on conversation I sometimes hum or quietly sing to the song currently playing, which no one really complains about surprisingly, that, or I make things purposely awkward like staring at them for a long while until they turn to me and say, "what?", and I just smile and say, "sorry it was awkward, so I wondered what it would be like if I made it more awkward". than they laugh and the awkwardness disappears because they keep laughing whenever it starts to get awkward again, I guess. but that's just me, lol! i would love to try that but i'd get too scared xD &if they never turn around & say, "what?" & just kept dealing with me staring at them, i would feel such like a stalker because then i would not get a chance to explain the joke! for me, i just try to make small talk, but yes, it gets very awkward D: sorry i can't be of much help, so i'll just share the pain with you Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OfficiallyK Posted May 9, 2010 Share Posted May 9, 2010 Its perfectly normal (or, i think so) because it happens often and it'll happen eventually--like when you're on the phone and its just silent and you're practically listening to the other person breathe. hahha. Sometimes its just nice to listen to the quiet. Sometimes the silence is nice, knowing that the person on the other end is just listening--even if you're not saying anything. But, i guess, if you had enough things in common--and not just that 'love' feeling--you'd be able to start up a conversation. And as for the spark? Well, i don't mean to offend any romantics out there, but i only thought that stuff happened in books you read or something. HAHahahha. I mean, i'm not big into love...so maybe i just don't know enough. ANYWAYS, yes, i believe the silence is normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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