Parents Vs Teenagers, woo. parenting articles. Options

[ShadowMax76]

http://www.gaywired.com/article.cfm?section=84&id=18608
http://www.ronitbaras.com/index.php/2008/0...et-parents-off/


_ this one's obviously inspired by that reply not too long ago on another thread. that went so far as to say one life owned another, when it seemed to just have an unnecessary 'n'.


for example. if a parent wants you to stop hanging around a certain guy. you'd obviously think s/he's racist or sexist. or some sort of stereotypical old fart.
but then , if they explain, you'll realise that they just don't want you to be surrounded by losers to drag you down. borrow money from you, make you believe that uni isn't for you. etc.

where your parents would rather you hang around those who can reach for the stars. ...which would happen to be uni. lol.

_ What i ask in your replies.. is what logic you've found in the things your parents say.

[insanelyCRAZY]

im lucky to have parents that dont give off that kind of aura.
i actually have a really healthy relationship with my parents.
we're really well communicative with eachother.
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[kindaconfusedd]

although they aren't as good with relationships as i am, they have their ups and downs.
mostly ups known as wisdom and actual experience.

but the problem is, i usually realize it too late.
so rather than barge off/act arrogant, cocky, or all knowing, listen to what they have to say.
think about it.
the nicest/friendliest/smartest people ive known ALL (yes im not kidding) have a GREAT relationship with their parents.
ok, jk. one guy hates his dad but maybe thats why he does weed. yet again, he is extremely smart.

listen to your parents. dont argue with them. sit down, talk about it, be rational, thoughtful, and also look at it from their perspective.
im sure you would want the "best" for your child too, which is probably go get a great education and find someone nice LATER on in life after you can support yourself.

i recommend that if you dont have an older brother or sister (or a really wise friend) who listens to your problems, talks to you about them, and gives you good advice, then you should REALLY REALLY take note of what your parents say.

also, not all parents are racist and hate you having a boyfriend or girlfriend of BLAH decent.
its more of a, they dont want you HAVING a s/o because some times, school and work and your future (which probably doesnt include your s/o if you're in high school) come first. and there are soo many GREAT people out there that you will meet someone. probably even better.

and if you're growing independent. tell/hint at it. talk to them about it. theyll understand. or atleast TRY to. and if they feel like you really are, hey now you can go out with friends really late and guess what, they might even give you a 20 before you leave.


so
i beg of you.
one of the best relationships you can have is with your parents.
dont mess it up because of some small thing.
cherish it. and go tell them how much you love them right now.
i bet you theyll remember this day for as long as they live.

[insanelyCRAZY]

nice job of ending this kindaconfusedd ;D
thats really true..not every parent is told that they're raising their children right.
im sure they'd love the reassurance that they're doing a successful job at raising their kids.
and who better to tell them that than their own kids who really can see that have the ability to truly appreciate them.

[kindaconfusedd]

nice job of ending this kindaconfusedd ;D
thats really true..not every parent is told that they're raising their children right.
im sure they'd love the reassurance that they're doing a successful job at raising their kids.
and who better to tell them that than their own kids who really can see that have the ability to truly appreciate them.

haha thanks.
and yeh. i realize not every parent is great, but if they're still taking care of you and not abusing you, atleast they're trying.
they're humans too. and we humans love a compliment or too.

btw, i like how our usernames are: adverb and adjective. haha.
oh snap. jk. kinda isnt a word. and "kind of" is an adjective. aw

[ShadowMax76]

omg. ==' where's my jack hammer..... LOl.


_ i ask for a simple explanation of those few things that parents bug us about.
like
- " stay away from him"
- " you're not allowed out"
- etc

[blush]

I have a horrible relationship with my parents, honestly. I pretty much never talk to them personally and whatnot.
But that's really because they're not willing to listen. When I talk, they ignore.. So I eventually kind of gave up and we all drifted apart. Now my family's always apart from each other and nobody really 'talks' with each other in my family. We all have our own little 'space' and my mom has never confronted me about it, so I assume she doesn't notice what she's doing.

I know I should probably confront her, but the last time I did (probably about 4 years or so ago), she denied EVER ignoring what I have to say, so just that one day she listened to me but after I said what I said, all she did was nag, and it didn't make me want to talk to her afterwards.

I really long for a healthy relationship with my parents, but the way my mother carries out her 'advice' (aka, nagging), just intimidates me from wanting to conversate with her.
And the fact that she doesn't listen anymore.. well, that's another reason. I can't even tell her what I did in class today without her attention somewhere else. :L Or her having to go, "huh? Say that again?"

I still love her, appreciate her hard work in raising me and putting up with my crap, and respect her, but yeah. Haha.

Edit: Just read the articles. That was a very interesting read!

[Kiribati]

DJ Jazzy Jeff & The Fresh Prince - Parents


My parents bug me about little things now, since I can take care of myself...
But then again I only see them about 2 hours a day.

[sushiix3]

*whew* im lucky to have the type of parent that is really open minded and is ok with whom ever i dated

[babiiqrlxT]

Me and my parents don't have the best relationship there is but I know they love me here and there. My family doesn't share a strong relationship like some other family might do. I don't go tell them anything actually lol, nothing about how I feel to how I live my life.


My mom was fine with my ex-boyfriend actually, and my dad just disapproved it. I guess fathers are like that?