Should I Be Worried About This? Options

[dazemazehaze]

The GF said she was just heading out with her girl friends to have dinner and stuff. My friend calls me up and says he bumped into her at a club surrounded by guys getting hit on. Her friends (the non skanky ones) weren't there, while only the wilder ones were. Her table is covered in empty bottles and shot glasses. I've been calling her most of the night and she turned her phone off throughout.

I don't even know what plausible explanation there can be or what I should be thinking. What do you guys think?

[MNLV27]

Just wait til the next day, don't jump to conclusions and don't act irrational to her when you're talking. Just simply ask her what happened and see how she answers you. Then from her answer, you decide whether you believe her or not.

[ShadowMax76]

doesn't matter what we think; thinking makes things worse.
therefore the old adage:

"woo. confrontations~ "

[sunstori]

Totally understandable that you are worried.

Maybe she has a perfect explanation for this. So let her explain. And don't verbally abuse her when you confront her otherwise she'd get annoyed and not tell you what happened.

Ask her later.

[Snowy_Angel]

ask her, let her explain, as stated above a few times, take it from there and see whether you should believe her or not.

[babyrice]

Maybe she did just went out for dinner with her gfs but then her gfs wanted to do something fun after? and usually if theres a goodlooking group of chicks in a club....guys are not far behind and being in a club ... mostly everyone drinks.

Just stay calm and casually pop out the Q: hey my friend saw u at the club etc....

[Jtrang]

Do you trust her? If you trust her, then I don't think there is need to worry. Wait till she gets back, then try to talk to her about it and go from there.

[damyoungji]

I know quite a few people have said stuff about trust, but heck .. Most people are not like that.

Confront her about it. She lied and you deserve an answer. I am sure that if she was in your shoes, she would have been curious, too.

Sure, we can all act like we don't care and that we trust the person, but deep down inside, we all know that we are dying to figure out what happened.

[Regrets]

yeah
don't jump into conclusions JUST yet.
Wait and see..

[jadeooo]

ask what happened casually
see if she lies about going to the club. if she lies, somethings up.
skanky girls = bad influence

[The Pink Panda]

hope it's worked out for you but maybe she just wanted to go clubbing and knew you'd get upset about it and so didn't tell you? though imo it's always better to tell the truth but if she didn't do anything too bad then you should let it slide

[Lie]

A couple people mentioned that she lied to you. But based on what you said,

The GF said she was just heading out with her girl friends to have dinner and stuff.

I don't know that it's really fair to call it lying, unless she specified what that "stuff" was, and it didn't include clubbing. Even if it didn't, I don't think it's an incredible deal, unless she actually hooked up with someone at the club. Perhaps they decided once they were already out that they wanted to stop by the club for a bit? She may not have known beforehand that they were going to hit up the club, and it's definitely not good to make her feel like she has to check in with you on everything she decides to do. That's a great way to ruin a relationship, let me tell you--so try to avoid that. In fact, I'd let her call you, honestly, and when she does, don't be confrontational about it necessarily. Just as someone else mentioned, say something like, "Hey my friend said he saw you guys at the club. Did you have fun?" And see where she goes with it.