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..hi?
I NEED some advice.
I am generally a shy/quiet person. Usually the only reason I'm sometimes loud/out-going or whatever is because of my friends. Also, I am really self-concious when I speak because I have this kinda weird accent - it's kinda British/Canadian/gibberish. Anyway, because of my shyness (or as I call it "my affliction") people generally see me as kind of stuck-up/rude/a weird person.
Moving on, there is this guy who has the locker right next to mine, and he is FRICK'NOMGSH.. he's really cute. When I first saw him, my locker door was blocking his so we exchanged that awkward "Oh I'm sorryblahblah.." and that was it. We do not talk to eachother AT ALL besides for some of those awkward aforementioned situations and I feel really bad. I would really like to be able to say something like "Hi/Bye" when I see him everyday (because I actually kinda like him) but when I think about it (which is probably why its never happened) I just remember how I've never said anything before and it will just be even more AWKWARD, for both of us. Also, a couple months ago I noticed that we live on the same street (I live on an opposite side of the road that cuts through the street). It's kinda weird when you know where someone lives and don't even know their name.
Anyway, what I would like to know is:
- should I just randomly start saying "Hi/Bye" (I see him basically everyday) or will he think I'm some sort of freak?
- am I a stalker? (lol, don't answer that please)
- should I just stop trying (or attempting to try)? because everyone knows that awkwardness kills everything..
- what are some ways for me to become a little more outgoing?
..I'm sorry if this is really weird/long/stupid. It's really my first time asking about this kind of stuff, so yeah. If it's too retarded please delete this and I'm really sorry.
Looking forward to advice.. if any.
I NEED some advice.
I am generally a shy/quiet person. Usually the only reason I'm sometimes loud/out-going or whatever is because of my friends. Also, I am really self-concious when I speak because I have this kinda weird accent - it's kinda British/Canadian/gibberish. Anyway, because of my shyness (or as I call it "my affliction") people generally see me as kind of stuck-up/rude/a weird person.
Moving on, there is this guy who has the locker right next to mine, and he is FRICK'NOMGSH.. he's really cute. When I first saw him, my locker door was blocking his so we exchanged that awkward "Oh I'm sorryblahblah.." and that was it. We do not talk to eachother AT ALL besides for some of those awkward aforementioned situations and I feel really bad. I would really like to be able to say something like "Hi/Bye" when I see him everyday (because I actually kinda like him) but when I think about it (which is probably why its never happened) I just remember how I've never said anything before and it will just be even more AWKWARD, for both of us. Also, a couple months ago I noticed that we live on the same street (I live on an opposite side of the road that cuts through the street). It's kinda weird when you know where someone lives and don't even know their name.
Anyway, what I would like to know is:
- should I just randomly start saying "Hi/Bye" (I see him basically everyday) or will he think I'm some sort of freak?
- am I a stalker? (lol, don't answer that please)
- should I just stop trying (or attempting to try)? because everyone knows that awkwardness kills everything..
- what are some ways for me to become a little more outgoing?
..I'm sorry if this is really weird/long/stupid. It's really my first time asking about this kind of stuff, so yeah. If it's too retarded please delete this and I'm really sorry.
Looking forward to advice.. if any.
^ Because it's been a good 8 hours and no one has answered your thread, I will venture the second "real" post on this thread to aid you.
In my opinion, being outgoing is a mixture of having something to talk about and willingness to put yourself out there. Although you say that your "shy" demeanor as well as "weird accent" prevents you from more social interaction, I would have to say that this is only a product of your own mind. You don't sound awkward and I think the first step is to realize that no one will make fun of you because of your accent and if they do, then they're just not worthy people to speak to.
Second, I would encourage you to engage in reading out loud more often. Although this may seem like a stupid bit of practice, it will help you get over your accent. I had a friend who through elementary school stuttered frequently whenever he spoke in public. Eventually, he became nervous and shy, even through middle school, where he was teased and often quiet. However, the summer between middle school and high school, he practiced reading out loud everyday for two hours. During high school, he eventually became one of the most prized speech and debate members in our school.
Third, I think that in your social development it would be good for you to open up with something to start the conversation with. After all, the age old stigma that us males have to begin any conversation is, after all, age old. I hope that you will take heart to this response and simply encourage yourself to say "Hi! We've never really introduced each other though we've had lockers all this time. Etc." After all, it could never hurt to try to gain a new friend!
So to answer your questions:
#1 Don't say it randomly, introduce yourself this will make you seem less like a freak.
#2 Absolutely not, just a little shy and in need of a little encouragement.
#3 Never stop trying. Have a little bit of pride and try your best. After all what's the worst thing that could happen? Being embarrassed for one day? It's better than being silent a lifetime.
#4 Like I said, I think mastery of your own voice--either through a mode of speaking out loud all the time or reading out loud to yourself--is one of the main ways you'll become more outgoing.
If you have anything else you'd like to ask about, feel free to PM me. Best of luck!
P.S. Your accent sounds quite attractive to me! I'm sure you'll fit in just fine. Guys flip for accents.
In my opinion, being outgoing is a mixture of having something to talk about and willingness to put yourself out there. Although you say that your "shy" demeanor as well as "weird accent" prevents you from more social interaction, I would have to say that this is only a product of your own mind. You don't sound awkward and I think the first step is to realize that no one will make fun of you because of your accent and if they do, then they're just not worthy people to speak to.
Second, I would encourage you to engage in reading out loud more often. Although this may seem like a stupid bit of practice, it will help you get over your accent. I had a friend who through elementary school stuttered frequently whenever he spoke in public. Eventually, he became nervous and shy, even through middle school, where he was teased and often quiet. However, the summer between middle school and high school, he practiced reading out loud everyday for two hours. During high school, he eventually became one of the most prized speech and debate members in our school.
Third, I think that in your social development it would be good for you to open up with something to start the conversation with. After all, the age old stigma that us males have to begin any conversation is, after all, age old. I hope that you will take heart to this response and simply encourage yourself to say "Hi! We've never really introduced each other though we've had lockers all this time. Etc." After all, it could never hurt to try to gain a new friend!
So to answer your questions:
#1 Don't say it randomly, introduce yourself this will make you seem less like a freak.
#2 Absolutely not, just a little shy and in need of a little encouragement.
#3 Never stop trying. Have a little bit of pride and try your best. After all what's the worst thing that could happen? Being embarrassed for one day? It's better than being silent a lifetime.
#4 Like I said, I think mastery of your own voice--either through a mode of speaking out loud all the time or reading out loud to yourself--is one of the main ways you'll become more outgoing.
If you have anything else you'd like to ask about, feel free to PM me. Best of luck!
P.S. Your accent sounds quite attractive to me! I'm sure you'll fit in just fine. Guys flip for accents.
QUOTE (bruisedRose @ Mar 11 2009, 02:25 PM) 
..hi?
I NEED some advice.
I am generally a shy/quiet person. Usually the only reason I'm sometimes loud/out-going or whatever is because of my friends. Also, I am really self-concious when I speak because I have this kinda weird accent - it's kinda British/Canadian/gibberish. Anyway, because of my shyness (or as I call it "my affliction") people generally see me as kind of stuck-up/rude/a weird person.
Moving on, there is this guy who has the locker right next to mine, and he is FRICK'NOMGSH.. he's really cute. When I first saw him, my locker door was blocking his so we exchanged that awkward "Oh I'm sorryblahblah.." and that was it. We do not talk to eachother AT ALL besides for some of those awkward aforementioned situations and I feel really bad. I would really like to be able to say something like "Hi/Bye" when I see him everyday (because I actually kinda like him) but when I think about it (which is probably why its never happened) I just remember how I've never said anything before and it will just be even more AWKWARD, for both of us. Also, a couple months ago I noticed that we live on the same street (I live on an opposite side of the road that cuts through the street). It's kinda weird when you know where someone lives and don't even know their name.
Anyway, what I would like to know is:
- should I just randomly start saying "Hi/Bye" (I see him basically everyday) or will he think I'm some sort of freak?
- am I a stalker? (lol, don't answer that please)
- should I just stop trying (or attempting to try)? because everyone knows that awkwardness kills everything..
- what are some ways for me to become a little more outgoing?
..I'm sorry if this is really weird/long/stupid. It's really my first time asking about this kind of stuff, so yeah. If it's too retarded please delete this and I'm really sorry.
Looking forward to advice.. if any.
I NEED some advice.
I am generally a shy/quiet person. Usually the only reason I'm sometimes loud/out-going or whatever is because of my friends. Also, I am really self-concious when I speak because I have this kinda weird accent - it's kinda British/Canadian/gibberish. Anyway, because of my shyness (or as I call it "my affliction") people generally see me as kind of stuck-up/rude/a weird person.
Moving on, there is this guy who has the locker right next to mine, and he is FRICK'NOMGSH.. he's really cute. When I first saw him, my locker door was blocking his so we exchanged that awkward "Oh I'm sorryblahblah.." and that was it. We do not talk to eachother AT ALL besides for some of those awkward aforementioned situations and I feel really bad. I would really like to be able to say something like "Hi/Bye" when I see him everyday (because I actually kinda like him) but when I think about it (which is probably why its never happened) I just remember how I've never said anything before and it will just be even more AWKWARD, for both of us. Also, a couple months ago I noticed that we live on the same street (I live on an opposite side of the road that cuts through the street). It's kinda weird when you know where someone lives and don't even know their name.
Anyway, what I would like to know is:
- should I just randomly start saying "Hi/Bye" (I see him basically everyday) or will he think I'm some sort of freak?
- am I a stalker? (lol, don't answer that please)
- should I just stop trying (or attempting to try)? because everyone knows that awkwardness kills everything..
- what are some ways for me to become a little more outgoing?
..I'm sorry if this is really weird/long/stupid. It's really my first time asking about this kind of stuff, so yeah. If it's too retarded please delete this and I'm really sorry.
Looking forward to advice.. if any.
This is sort of whats happening to me. This boy rides my bus and we never say hi, but we always look at each other.
So do what I will do, and try talking to him. Maybe tell him a little white lie and say, I didn’t know you lived in my neighborhood. Start a conversation with that, and maybe continue it with, so what’s your name? What grade are you in? Blah blah, all those GET TO KNOW YOU questions. Then find common ground, and go from there. ^__^
As for becoming more outgoing, it has to do with your confidence, so forget that you have an accent (I laugh at myself when something comes out wrong, and usually my friends laugh at my laughing at myself). This confidence should also go with you not giving up until you give it a fair fight. ^__^ Guys like confidence (or so I am told).
Anyways, good luck on this. lol
P.S maybe what i wrote doesnt make sence because english is my second language and im horrible at writting. -__-
Can someone help?
Here is the situation. I have a friend whom I do care for. I feel he cares for me too. We were on a few dates. However, our personalities seemed too different. I feel he is insensitive to my situation. For example, my dad does not allow me to chat on the telephone too long; this boy insisted that he only want to talk on the phone, instead of sending text message. At first I tried my best to accomodate him; but as time goes on, my dad is very angry at me for keep talking on the phone. I told the boy that I can't no longer talk on the phone and asked him to talk with me in person or sending text instead. He still doesnot want to do that. Finally I was very frustrated and broke up with him. I tell him how uncaring and not thoughtful he is. But I feel bad for saying that. Do you think I should apologize for saying these things? I know I was too harsh on him, but I was really under pressure too. I don't want to date him again, however, I think I was too harsh by telling him he is insensitive and not-thoughtful. I don't know may be I was too stressful from my dad and went over board. Do you think I should apologize to my friend?
Thank you.
Here is the situation. I have a friend whom I do care for. I feel he cares for me too. We were on a few dates. However, our personalities seemed too different. I feel he is insensitive to my situation. For example, my dad does not allow me to chat on the telephone too long; this boy insisted that he only want to talk on the phone, instead of sending text message. At first I tried my best to accomodate him; but as time goes on, my dad is very angry at me for keep talking on the phone. I told the boy that I can't no longer talk on the phone and asked him to talk with me in person or sending text instead. He still doesnot want to do that. Finally I was very frustrated and broke up with him. I tell him how uncaring and not thoughtful he is. But I feel bad for saying that. Do you think I should apologize for saying these things? I know I was too harsh on him, but I was really under pressure too. I don't want to date him again, however, I think I was too harsh by telling him he is insensitive and not-thoughtful. I don't know may be I was too stressful from my dad and went over board. Do you think I should apologize to my friend?
Thank you.
awh i think... he just rather hear your voice. maybe he doesnt have a texting plan? lol 
just get skype or some other stuff. or a webcam and do video chat on msn.
I think you shouldn't. Don't apologize to him.
Be strong. And just leave it that way.
He deserved it because he did not respect you after knowing you cannot talk on the phone for too long.
It is okay to be harsh sometimes when it's reasonable. It helps someone learn from their mistakes.
Be strong. And just leave it that way.
He deserved it because he did not respect you after knowing you cannot talk on the phone for too long.
It is okay to be harsh sometimes when it's reasonable. It helps someone learn from their mistakes.
QUOTE (M i l k C o o k i e @ Mar 17 2009, 01:20 PM)
awh i think... he just rather hear your voice. maybe he doesnt have a texting plan? lol
So you think I should say "sorry" to him?
QUOTE (Onizuka @ Mar 17 2009, 01:26 PM)
I think you shouldn't. Don't apologize to him.
Be strong. And just leave it that way.
He deserved it because he did not respect you after knowing you cannot talk on the phone for too long.
It is okay to be harsh sometimes when it's reasonable. It helps someone learn from their mistakes.
Be strong. And just leave it that way.
He deserved it because he did not respect you after knowing you cannot talk on the phone for too long.
It is okay to be harsh sometimes when it's reasonable. It helps someone learn from their mistakes.
thank
QUOTE (parkie871 @ Mar 17 2009, 01:25 PM)
just get skype or some other stuff. or a webcam and do video chat on msn.
That's not the point. We are no longer a couple. I just want to know if I should say "sorry" for being too harsh on him.
mikasaranghae - lol, don't apologise to him. as I see it, he's at serious fault for not understanding that you were barred by your family from phoning too much. if he couldn't adjust, he either doesn't like you or is an bubble gum. BUT.. still try to reconcile somehow.. its never a bad idea to apologise
o hey soompi, haven't been on in months.. but I've got a problem. this is kind of long, so sorry.
So I've had this extremely complicated situation with this girl for like 2 years now. Before I didn't really know her but after doing summer programs together and having every single class including next door lockers (set up was just.. perfect) this year, I've turned into one of her best friends. Various hints throughout the years, the strongest of which: she's blushed once talking to me, she frequently wants to be my partner in math/science labs, she decorated my !@#$in locker on my birthday!, she's awkwardly asked for me to go sit next to her in class, she used to say hi every chance possible, has gone out of her way to ask me obvious questions about class, and we've even done the "legs touching" thing. Now this is all probably hyperbolised like mad, so to cast some doubt, she is EXTREMELY friendly and talks to nearly every guy, seemingly to the point of flirting at times. I totally would've gone for it years ago when she started treating me especially friendly, but some other problems came up. So now ~2 years later where I have every class with her and we still have SOME "special" moments, I don't know.. I think I might be entering the dreaded twil-er.. friend zone. Even after all this, I'm extremely insecure lol.
I recently got mad 'cause she was talking about prom and was implying that she had "no one special." So I started ignoring her more, which is kind of hard since we have every class.. Its just a slight desensitization to conversation with her but its enough to be noticed I think, because I have noticed that recently she's actually responded to me being cold and has started to talk to someone else rather than me at one of our regular everyday chat spots. Also, since we're good buddies and such and have always hung out together in some classes, some other guy, probably jealous of me heh, noticed this and started joking about her + me as a couple like a regular skeptic jealous guy would. Now usually she would just yell "shut up!" or not care because its happened with another of her good guy friends before. But they were JUST friends. Her response to the jokes about her and me were a REALLY pissed off "whatever," followed by some more obviously annoyed silence. Hmm.. so what the hell is this eh?
Were those two instances obvious indicators that she still considers me as a possible "more than just a friend"?
Ignoring was probably a bad move on my part, since she's becoming increasingly hostile towards me o.o
And if you think she holds possible feelings, should I try to reconcile and like ask her out to prom or something?
o hey soompi, haven't been on in months.. but I've got a problem. this is kind of long, so sorry.
So I've had this extremely complicated situation with this girl for like 2 years now. Before I didn't really know her but after doing summer programs together and having every single class including next door lockers (set up was just.. perfect) this year, I've turned into one of her best friends. Various hints throughout the years, the strongest of which: she's blushed once talking to me, she frequently wants to be my partner in math/science labs, she decorated my !@#$in locker on my birthday!, she's awkwardly asked for me to go sit next to her in class, she used to say hi every chance possible, has gone out of her way to ask me obvious questions about class, and we've even done the "legs touching" thing. Now this is all probably hyperbolised like mad, so to cast some doubt, she is EXTREMELY friendly and talks to nearly every guy, seemingly to the point of flirting at times. I totally would've gone for it years ago when she started treating me especially friendly, but some other problems came up. So now ~2 years later where I have every class with her and we still have SOME "special" moments, I don't know.. I think I might be entering the dreaded twil-er.. friend zone. Even after all this, I'm extremely insecure lol.
I recently got mad 'cause she was talking about prom and was implying that she had "no one special." So I started ignoring her more, which is kind of hard since we have every class.. Its just a slight desensitization to conversation with her but its enough to be noticed I think, because I have noticed that recently she's actually responded to me being cold and has started to talk to someone else rather than me at one of our regular everyday chat spots. Also, since we're good buddies and such and have always hung out together in some classes, some other guy, probably jealous of me heh, noticed this and started joking about her + me as a couple like a regular skeptic jealous guy would. Now usually she would just yell "shut up!" or not care because its happened with another of her good guy friends before. But they were JUST friends. Her response to the jokes about her and me were a REALLY pissed off "whatever," followed by some more obviously annoyed silence. Hmm.. so what the hell is this eh?
Were those two instances obvious indicators that she still considers me as a possible "more than just a friend"?
Ignoring was probably a bad move on my part, since she's becoming increasingly hostile towards me o.o
And if you think she holds possible feelings, should I try to reconcile and like ask her out to prom or something?
QUOTE (mikasaranghae @ Mar 17 2009, 08:17 AM)
Can someone help?
Here is the situation. I have a friend whom I do care for. I feel he cares for me too. We were on a few dates. However, our personalities seemed too different. I feel he is insensitive to my situation. For example, my dad does not allow me to chat on the telephone too long; this boy insisted that he only want to talk on the phone, instead of sending text message. At first I tried my best to accomodate him; but as time goes on, my dad is very angry at me for keep talking on the phone. I told the boy that I can't no longer talk on the phone and asked him to talk with me in person or sending text instead. He still doesnot want to do that. Finally I was very frustrated and broke up with him. I tell him how uncaring and not thoughtful he is. But I feel bad for saying that. Do you think I should apologize for saying these things? I know I was too harsh on him, but I was really under pressure too. I don't want to date him again, however, I think I was too harsh by telling him he is insensitive and not-thoughtful. I don't know may be I was too stressful from my dad and went over board. Do you think I should apologize to my friend?
Thank you.
Here is the situation. I have a friend whom I do care for. I feel he cares for me too. We were on a few dates. However, our personalities seemed too different. I feel he is insensitive to my situation. For example, my dad does not allow me to chat on the telephone too long; this boy insisted that he only want to talk on the phone, instead of sending text message. At first I tried my best to accomodate him; but as time goes on, my dad is very angry at me for keep talking on the phone. I told the boy that I can't no longer talk on the phone and asked him to talk with me in person or sending text instead. He still doesnot want to do that. Finally I was very frustrated and broke up with him. I tell him how uncaring and not thoughtful he is. But I feel bad for saying that. Do you think I should apologize for saying these things? I know I was too harsh on him, but I was really under pressure too. I don't want to date him again, however, I think I was too harsh by telling him he is insensitive and not-thoughtful. I don't know may be I was too stressful from my dad and went over board. Do you think I should apologize to my friend?
Thank you.
A relationship is all about sacrifice and compromise. He was unwilling to compromise and it would seem selfish for him to get you in trouble, just because he wanted something. Although, in your case... you may have overreacted since the matter was so trivial such as talking on the phone versus texting. Yeah, you should apologize, for being hypocritical. You said harsh things to him, you were inconsiderate and not-thoughtful of his feelings. Apologize.
QUOTE (Rymd @ Mar 17 2009, 04:00 PM)
mikasaranghae - lol, don't apologise to him. as I see it, he's at serious fault for not understanding that you were barred by your family from phoning too much. if he couldn't adjust, he either doesn't like you or is an bubble gum.
o hey soompi, haven't been on in months.. but I've got a problem. this is kind of long, so sorry.
So I've had this extremely complicated situation with this girl for like 2 years now. Before I didn't really know her but after doing summer programs together and having every single class including next door lockers (set up was just.. perfect) this year, I've turned into one of her best friends. Various hints throughout the years, the strongest of which: she's blushed once talking to me, she frequently wants to be my partner in math/science labs, she decorated my !@#$in locker on my birthday!, she's awkwardly asked for me to go sit next to her in class, she used to say hi every chance possible, has gone out of her way to ask me obvious questions about class, and we've even done the "legs touching" thing. Now this is all probably hyperbolised like mad, so to cast some doubt, she is EXTREMELY friendly and talks to nearly every guy, seemingly to the point of flirting at times. I totally would've gone for it years ago when she started treating me especially friendly, but some other problems came up. So now ~2 years later where I have every class with her and we still have SOME "special" moments, I don't know.. I think I might be entering the dreaded twil-er.. friend zone. Even after all this, I'm extremely insecure lol.
I recently got mad 'cause she was talking about prom and was implying that she had "no one special." So I started ignoring her more, which is kind of hard since we have every class.. Its just a slight desensitization to conversation with her but its enough to be noticed I think, because I have noticed that recently she's actually responded to me being cold and has started to talk to someone else rather than me at one of our regular everyday chat spots. Also, since we're good buddies and such and have always hung out together in some classes, some other guy, probably jealous of me heh, noticed this and started joking about her + me as a couple like a regular skeptic jealous guy would. Now usually she would just yell "shut up!" or not care because its happened with another of her good guy friends before. But they were JUST friends. Her response to the jokes about her and me were a REALLY pissed off "whatever," followed by some more obviously annoyed silence. Hmm.. so what the hell is this eh?
Were those two instances obvious indicators that she still considers me as a possible "more than just a friend"?
Ignoring was probably a bad move on my part, since she's becoming increasingly hostile towards me o.o
And if you think she holds possible feelings, should I try to reconcile and like ask her out to prom or something?
o hey soompi, haven't been on in months.. but I've got a problem. this is kind of long, so sorry.
So I've had this extremely complicated situation with this girl for like 2 years now. Before I didn't really know her but after doing summer programs together and having every single class including next door lockers (set up was just.. perfect) this year, I've turned into one of her best friends. Various hints throughout the years, the strongest of which: she's blushed once talking to me, she frequently wants to be my partner in math/science labs, she decorated my !@#$in locker on my birthday!, she's awkwardly asked for me to go sit next to her in class, she used to say hi every chance possible, has gone out of her way to ask me obvious questions about class, and we've even done the "legs touching" thing. Now this is all probably hyperbolised like mad, so to cast some doubt, she is EXTREMELY friendly and talks to nearly every guy, seemingly to the point of flirting at times. I totally would've gone for it years ago when she started treating me especially friendly, but some other problems came up. So now ~2 years later where I have every class with her and we still have SOME "special" moments, I don't know.. I think I might be entering the dreaded twil-er.. friend zone. Even after all this, I'm extremely insecure lol.
I recently got mad 'cause she was talking about prom and was implying that she had "no one special." So I started ignoring her more, which is kind of hard since we have every class.. Its just a slight desensitization to conversation with her but its enough to be noticed I think, because I have noticed that recently she's actually responded to me being cold and has started to talk to someone else rather than me at one of our regular everyday chat spots. Also, since we're good buddies and such and have always hung out together in some classes, some other guy, probably jealous of me heh, noticed this and started joking about her + me as a couple like a regular skeptic jealous guy would. Now usually she would just yell "shut up!" or not care because its happened with another of her good guy friends before. But they were JUST friends. Her response to the jokes about her and me were a REALLY pissed off "whatever," followed by some more obviously annoyed silence. Hmm.. so what the hell is this eh?
Were those two instances obvious indicators that she still considers me as a possible "more than just a friend"?
Ignoring was probably a bad move on my part, since she's becoming increasingly hostile towards me o.o
And if you think she holds possible feelings, should I try to reconcile and like ask her out to prom or something?
You're pretty full of yourself. I'm going to ignore attacking any part of your story and instead I'm going to tell you exactly what to do.
Ask her to prom, but make the way you ask her very special and unique.
For ideas use the "official prom thread" link.
http://www.soompi.com/forums/index.php?showtopic=261350
Good luck.
ow.. so cold. I'd argue I appear pretty full of myself because of the way I try to get out the facts in words and am biased towards myself.. Please attack my story, if it means conveying your opinion on my situation. Do you mind explaining why exactly I should just go ask her to prom, and in a "special and unique" way? Because I don't understand you. Thanks.
err. nevermind.. I get it. That's sort of what I was thinking
err. nevermind.. I get it. That's sort of what I was thinking
^
Well actually your story had that "I'm so great" tone to it. I meant it not so much as an aggressive comment, but more so as a humorous one. As a guy, we can never really assume a girl likes us, until after she's said it. Even then, we can't really take it as a 100%. She might be using us or toying with us. We can just never be certain on where we stand or how they feel about us. However, it's still all about the confidence.
You should really consider asking her in a "unique" way so you make the biggest impact possible. You sounded unsure of your position in your post, like you weren't sure how you were relative to her other "guy" friends in her mind. Do something big and set yourself apart from the rest of her "guy" friends and you'll be "The guy" friend. Get what I was trying to say? Make her feel special and make it memorable.
Best of luck.
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I just read the end of your story again, make sure you aren't on hostile terms with her first.
Well actually your story had that "I'm so great" tone to it. I meant it not so much as an aggressive comment, but more so as a humorous one. As a guy, we can never really assume a girl likes us, until after she's said it. Even then, we can't really take it as a 100%. She might be using us or toying with us. We can just never be certain on where we stand or how they feel about us. However, it's still all about the confidence.
You should really consider asking her in a "unique" way so you make the biggest impact possible. You sounded unsure of your position in your post, like you weren't sure how you were relative to her other "guy" friends in her mind. Do something big and set yourself apart from the rest of her "guy" friends and you'll be "The guy" friend. Get what I was trying to say? Make her feel special and make it memorable.
Best of luck.
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I just read the end of your story again, make sure you aren't on hostile terms with her first.
Alright. I'll make her see that I like her again and then man up and be The Guy.. Or at least maximise my chances or make up for the stupid mini cooper I did by asking in a memorable way. k thanks again.
Mmm....i guess i'll ask the question...
There is this girl i seriously...seriously like alot right now and I'm pretty sure this is love anyway i called her while i was out waiting for a train back home and i was talking to her normally...joking with her and making her laugh then i asked 'hey i was wondering, maybe next friday night we can go see a movie together?' and she says 'as in hang out?' and i say 'yeah sort of~' I think thats where i screwed up because
when i met up with her again i asked her while looking into her eyes 'hey, there's a good movie on next week, how about we go see it friday night?..' she says 'honestly when you called me i had a feeling it would be something like a date' and she said it was too quick and soon at the moment....
does she mean, she doesn't want a relationship now? she doesn't want a relationship with me? or...i MIGHT have a chance with her but she wants to get to know me more before....i ask her again?
I'm really confused...and thinking way too much >3<
There is this girl i seriously...seriously like alot right now and I'm pretty sure this is love anyway i called her while i was out waiting for a train back home and i was talking to her normally...joking with her and making her laugh then i asked 'hey i was wondering, maybe next friday night we can go see a movie together?' and she says 'as in hang out?' and i say 'yeah sort of~' I think thats where i screwed up because
when i met up with her again i asked her while looking into her eyes 'hey, there's a good movie on next week, how about we go see it friday night?..' she says 'honestly when you called me i had a feeling it would be something like a date' and she said it was too quick and soon at the moment....
does she mean, she doesn't want a relationship now? she doesn't want a relationship with me? or...i MIGHT have a chance with her but she wants to get to know me more before....i ask her again?
I'm really confused...and thinking way too much >3<
^ Slow down a bit, regardless of whether she doesn't want a relationship right now or with you.
I feel that since she said that it's "quick and soon at the moment" that she possibly may have had a potential break up recently.
Why don't you just hang out with her a bit and maybe find out if she had a boyfriend recently. If she didn't have a boyfriend recently then potentially it could point to the fact that she doesn't want a relationship with you.
Just hang out with her for now and see where it goes and in the end I still highly doubt that you love this girl. You hardly know her, so it would be really hard to decide whether or not you actually lover her not. Infatuation~~~~
I feel that since she said that it's "quick and soon at the moment" that she possibly may have had a potential break up recently.
Why don't you just hang out with her a bit and maybe find out if she had a boyfriend recently. If she didn't have a boyfriend recently then potentially it could point to the fact that she doesn't want a relationship with you.
Just hang out with her for now and see where it goes and in the end I still highly doubt that you love this girl. You hardly know her, so it would be really hard to decide whether or not you actually lover her not. Infatuation~~~~
supposedly she had a boyfriend....recently...i think they broke up around december and her friend said that she was quite uh....hurt? from him, does age really matter in this? he was 20yrs old i think....and he played with her aswell so i guess...maybe thats why she isn't ready for a relationship yet?..
Thanks for the advice, I'll do what you say haha
Thanks for the advice, I'll do what you say haha
QUOTE (Uverstar @ Mar 19 2009, 07:20 PM)
supposedly she had a boyfriend....recently...i think they broke up around december and her friend said that she was quite uh....hurt? from him, does age really matter in this? he was 20yrs old i think....and he played with her aswell so i guess...maybe thats why she isn't ready for a relationship yet?..
Thanks for the advice, I'll do what you say haha
Thanks for the advice, I'll do what you say haha
It really just means that she's not ready for a relationship/commitment since she just recently got out of one that left her with scars. Just take it slow and make it known that you're there for her if she needs anything (Or have good intentions in this). =)
since, i really don't feel like making a thread, but what do you think how long an actual LONG hug ? i am a little confused about something and i just want to clarify it.
^ Um, Sorry I'm not exactly sure what you are trying to ask so maybe I could just assume what you are trying to say? (If that is alright)
Are you asking how long an actual hug is?
Well the length of a hug could vary, a short hug between friends, a long hug between a couple, or a long over-due embrace of a reunited couple. A hug can be anywhere from a few seconds to several minutes depending on the occasion. Usually, the more emotions tied with the moment the long the hug will be.
If this is not an answer you are looking for, please feel free to PM me and ask the question again.
Are you asking how long an actual hug is?
Well the length of a hug could vary, a short hug between friends, a long hug between a couple, or a long over-due embrace of a reunited couple. A hug can be anywhere from a few seconds to several minutes depending on the occasion. Usually, the more emotions tied with the moment the long the hug will be.
If this is not an answer you are looking for, please feel free to PM me and ask the question again.
Seraphyx: I think he/she was asking about how we would interpret a long hug?
ICE Coffe: If your question is about how a long hug is interpreted, then I can tell you that it depends on who you're hugging. If it's from another person other than family or really really close friends (if it's from someone that may like you or you like) then there's has to be some feeling involved to hug someone for that long.
If I interpreted your question wrong, then disregard this. =)
ICE Coffe: If your question is about how a long hug is interpreted, then I can tell you that it depends on who you're hugging. If it's from another person other than family or really really close friends (if it's from someone that may like you or you like) then there's has to be some feeling involved to hug someone for that long.
If I interpreted your question wrong, then disregard this. =)
ok i want some more opinions
my mother, siblings and I were at burger king
and i noticed a vase of these pretty flowers
i made a comment to my mother "the flowers
look really exotic. you don't see those kinds often"
and she replied:
"don't say that is public. see this is why you don't have a boyfriend.
because of the way you talk."
my siblings and I were like "huh, what are you talking about? thats a compliment.[referring to the flowers]
she just mutter "still.." and then shut up.
i know this sounds really silly
but i want to know if that rebuttal was
uncalled for and that i shouldn't feel like the wrong one here.
my mother, siblings and I were at burger king
and i noticed a vase of these pretty flowers
i made a comment to my mother "the flowers
look really exotic. you don't see those kinds often"
and she replied:
"don't say that is public. see this is why you don't have a boyfriend.
because of the way you talk."
my siblings and I were like "huh, what are you talking about? thats a compliment.[referring to the flowers]
she just mutter "still.." and then shut up.
i know this sounds really silly
but i want to know if that rebuttal was
uncalled for and that i shouldn't feel like the wrong one here.
^ Are you Asian by any chance?
If your mother is Asian and was raised with Asian values, she was taught that women are to speak when spoken to and be subservient. So your outburst about the flowers was uncalled for and unnecessary in her opinion.
However, if you are not Asian maybe she was just upset at the randomness of our outburst and or because your comment was "girly".
In the end I can only speculate as to the reason of her insult, I don't know enough about your mother to give a definitive answer.
Yes, I would say that you are not wrong in this case.
If your mother is Asian and was raised with Asian values, she was taught that women are to speak when spoken to and be subservient. So your outburst about the flowers was uncalled for and unnecessary in her opinion.
However, if you are not Asian maybe she was just upset at the randomness of our outburst and or because your comment was "girly".
In the end I can only speculate as to the reason of her insult, I don't know enough about your mother to give a definitive answer.
Yes, I would say that you are not wrong in this case.
some people just dont like flowers.
You should dump him and get with a white guy out of spite.
You should dump him and get with a white guy out of spite.
QUOTE (Seraphyx @ Mar 21 2009, 04:20 AM)
^ Are you Asian by any chance?
If your mother is Asian and was raised with Asian values, she was taught that women are to speak when spoken to and be subservient. So your outburst about the flowers was uncalled for and unnecessary in her opinion.
However, if you are not Asian maybe she was just upset at the randomness of our outburst and or because your comment was "girly".
In the end I can only speculate as to the reason of her insult, I don't know enough about your mother to give a definitive answer.
Yes, I would say that you are not wrong in this case.
If your mother is Asian and was raised with Asian values, she was taught that women are to speak when spoken to and be subservient. So your outburst about the flowers was uncalled for and unnecessary in her opinion.
However, if you are not Asian maybe she was just upset at the randomness of our outburst and or because your comment was "girly".
In the end I can only speculate as to the reason of her insult, I don't know enough about your mother to give a definitive answer.
Yes, I would say that you are not wrong in this case.
yes x.x i am.
i should've thought of that earlier but i was really ticked off by the comment.
well a clear statement is she tends to listen to herself more than she listens to others.
even when the other side is right.
ah thats good. cuz it kept bugging me like maybe my tone of voice was like etc and all that.
QUOTE (the sweetest prince @ Mar 21 2009, 12:53 PM)
some people just dont like flowers.
You should dump him and get with a white guy out of spite.
You should dump him and get with a white guy out of spite.
o.o did u read it correctly?
QUOTE (AiriinxKumori @ Mar 21 2009, 04:21 PM)
ok i want some more opinions
my mother, siblings and I were at burger king
and i noticed a vase of these pretty flowers
i made a comment to my mother "the flowers
look really exotic. you don't see those kinds often"
and she replied:
"don't say that is public. see this is why you don't have a boyfriend.
because of the way you talk."
my siblings and I were like "huh, what are you talking about? thats a compliment.[referring to the flowers]
she just mutter "still.." and then shut up.
i know this sounds really silly
but i want to know if that rebuttal was
uncalled for and that i shouldn't feel like the wrong one here.
my mother, siblings and I were at burger king
and i noticed a vase of these pretty flowers
i made a comment to my mother "the flowers
look really exotic. you don't see those kinds often"
and she replied:
"don't say that is public. see this is why you don't have a boyfriend.
because of the way you talk."
my siblings and I were like "huh, what are you talking about? thats a compliment.[referring to the flowers]
she just mutter "still.." and then shut up.
i know this sounds really silly
but i want to know if that rebuttal was
uncalled for and that i shouldn't feel like the wrong one here.
Asian parents have to most fluctuating moods ever
Even your siblings thought that you did/said nothing wrong
Don't worry too much about it
If your parents are cranky, they are cranky. Ethnicity has nothing to do with moods.
Please don't insert ethnicity into the discussions here or I will issue warnings.
Please don't insert ethnicity into the discussions here or I will issue warnings.
hi soompiers. i just need some opinions and advice for my current problem.
so should i tell my crush about her? what would be the consequences if i told him or if i didn't?
if anyone is unclear, just say so. i'll try to clarify it when i reply back.
so there's this guy who really likes me and then i began liking him. we would hang out and show our affection towards one another, like hugging and holding hands. we would flirt and hang out ever since we found out we liked each other, which was last year. people thought we were a couple or ask us, but we're not.
but in the middle of this school year, this girl in my class has been constantly flirting with him. she's somewhat outgoing and would mess with the guys in class. she rarely talks to the girls. i'm the opposite of her: quiet but would talk to everyone. anyways, my crush developed a crush on her now but his friends still say that he likes me (confusion). some people even say that his crush on her is more like an obsession because he would always ask for her. at some days, he would ignore me and flirt with her, but other days, he would talk to me. last month was his birthday and she gave him a hug...only because she found out that day by the teacher and she wanted to copy his homework (basically using him?) -- but i baked for him. >.<
recently, my guy friend (who is also the girl's friend) told me that she would always talk to her ex-boyfriend. mostly everyone knows because she texts him while in class and she tells everyone. another friend of ours old me that she was taken. i was just upset because she's flirting with my crush, yet she's either talking to her ex or is already taken by someone.
*just a little note, but my crush rarely hangs out with her. he doesn't know her phone number, aim, myspace, or any contact. they only talk at school...sometimes. it would be about >an hour total each school day. he has a hold of my contacts already.
so should i tell my crush about her? what would be the consequences if i told him or if i didn't?
if anyone is unclear, just say so. i'll try to clarify it when i reply back.
^ Ask how your crush feels about her, since you sound unsure of how he actually feels.
The girl just sounds like a typical, flirtatious, text-fiend, middle-school kid that probably has confusing relationship issues. There seems to be a cloud of confusion about her status, which probably is caused by the fact that she tells everyone something different or that people just misunderstand or make rumors about her. I think that you should ask your crush how he feels about her before going off and talking trash about the girl to him. Talking trash to make someone dislike a person is very low, which would seem like the case if you told your crush about the girl.
Establish how your crush feels about you and how he feels about the girl, there isn't a need to tell him about her.
However, if your crush does like this girl, then you lost.
~Edit~
If you would like more clarification on my response, feel free to PM me.
Best of luck
The girl just sounds like a typical, flirtatious, text-fiend, middle-school kid that probably has confusing relationship issues. There seems to be a cloud of confusion about her status, which probably is caused by the fact that she tells everyone something different or that people just misunderstand or make rumors about her. I think that you should ask your crush how he feels about her before going off and talking trash about the girl to him. Talking trash to make someone dislike a person is very low, which would seem like the case if you told your crush about the girl.
Establish how your crush feels about you and how he feels about the girl, there isn't a need to tell him about her.
However, if your crush does like this girl, then you lost.
~Edit~
If you would like more clarification on my response, feel free to PM me.
Best of luck
DLITEvirus.: don't tell him just yet. you're not too sure if he really likes her like he did with you. he'll probably think that you're jealous and then he'll move on to someone else.
it seems like you're getting the wrong idea because you assume he likes her snce they flirt. people tend to flirt all day with different people, but at the end of the day, there's only one person they really care about. that's what happening right now. besides, you're more closer with the guy than the girl. she uses him while you care for him. the baking is cute x]
the girl sounds like too much of a flirt. and she talks to the guys in your class? what's up with the girls? is she a tomboy or anything? curiousity killed the cat =P
also, he might get the wrong idea towards you since you two are rarely talking. he might also assume that you don't like him.
if it makes it any better, hang out with him more and confess. this would really give him the message. also, don't wait for him to start the conversation.
if he doesn't like you back, move on. there's other fishes in the sea ^__^
hope that helps!
it seems like you're getting the wrong idea because you assume he likes her snce they flirt. people tend to flirt all day with different people, but at the end of the day, there's only one person they really care about. that's what happening right now. besides, you're more closer with the guy than the girl. she uses him while you care for him. the baking is cute x]
the girl sounds like too much of a flirt. and she talks to the guys in your class? what's up with the girls? is she a tomboy or anything? curiousity killed the cat =P
also, he might get the wrong idea towards you since you two are rarely talking. he might also assume that you don't like him.
if it makes it any better, hang out with him more and confess. this would really give him the message. also, don't wait for him to start the conversation.
if he doesn't like you back, move on. there's other fishes in the sea ^__^
hope that helps!
i have a question...
how do i know if this guy likes me?
-he always smiles when i talk to him
-he made me a card for my birthday (i heard he doesnt do it for other girls)
-we randomly say hi to each other and smile
-my friends tell me he looks at me while im talking to other ppl (which is why i never see)
-he often does nice things to me like gives me stuff something like that
-He IMs at night before signing off and says hows your day
iduno i just realli like this guy and hes shy and so am i and i was wondering if he feels the same way too
how do i know if this guy likes me?
-he always smiles when i talk to him
-he made me a card for my birthday (i heard he doesnt do it for other girls)
-we randomly say hi to each other and smile
-my friends tell me he looks at me while im talking to other ppl (which is why i never see)
-he often does nice things to me like gives me stuff something like that
-He IMs at night before signing off and says hows your day
iduno i just realli like this guy and hes shy and so am i and i was wondering if he feels the same way too
^ he prob does like you
if he made you a card and doesn't do this often...dingdingding lol he obviously likes you enough to take time to make it
could've just bought you one don't ya think?
other signs also kinda indicate his feelings.
You should ask him =)
if he made you a card and doesn't do this often...dingdingding lol he obviously likes you enough to take time to make it
could've just bought you one don't ya think?
other signs also kinda indicate his feelings.
You should ask him =)
QUOTE (ulzzangXlovers @ Mar 24 2009, 09:38 PM)
i have a question...
how do i know if this guy likes me?
-he always smiles when i talk to him
-he made me a card for my birthday (i heard he doesnt do it for other girls)
-we randomly say hi to each other and smile
-my friends tell me he looks at me while im talking to other ppl (which is why i never see)
-he often does nice things to me like gives me stuff something like that
-He IMs at night before signing off and says hows your day
iduno i just realli like this guy and hes shy and so am i and i was wondering if he feels the same way too
how do i know if this guy likes me?
-he always smiles when i talk to him
-he made me a card for my birthday (i heard he doesnt do it for other girls)
-we randomly say hi to each other and smile
-my friends tell me he looks at me while im talking to other ppl (which is why i never see)
-he often does nice things to me like gives me stuff something like that
-He IMs at night before signing off and says hows your day
iduno i just realli like this guy and hes shy and so am i and i was wondering if he feels the same way too
You answered your own question. Yes he probably does like you, I shared a lot of those in common with the girl that I liked mutually.
Uhmm, any advice? >.<;;;
Well, i really like this one guy i keep seeing pass by me around school, and by my friend's locker. I have this huge crush on him now that I see him like everywhere. So, when I like someone i can get really nervous, and I say really stupid thing's around the guy, but this time, I don't have a single class with him, and I never do get the chance to say hi, without it sounding stupid because he doesn't even know me >///<;;
Sooo, I really need any ideas on how to talk to him a little...
Well, i really like this one guy i keep seeing pass by me around school, and by my friend's locker. I have this huge crush on him now that I see him like everywhere. So, when I like someone i can get really nervous, and I say really stupid thing's around the guy, but this time, I don't have a single class with him, and I never do get the chance to say hi, without it sounding stupid because he doesn't even know me >///<;;
Sooo, I really need any ideas on how to talk to him a little...
^ how often do you see hom? do you know anybody whose friends with him? if you do, maybe they can introduce you to him. also, since his locker is near your friend's, why not talk to him there? there's no need to be nervous around him. talk to him like how you would talk to others. :]
QUOTE (iiYUN!! @ Mar 25 2009, 05:40 PM)
Uhmm, any advice? >.<;;;
Well, i really like this one guy i keep seeing pass by me around school, and by my friend's locker. I have this huge crush on him now that I see him like everywhere. So, when I like someone i can get really nervous, and I say really stupid thing's around the guy, but this time, I don't have a single class with him, and I never do get the chance to say hi, without it sounding stupid because he doesn't even know me >///<;;
Sooo, I really need any ideas on how to talk to him a little...
Well, i really like this one guy i keep seeing pass by me around school, and by my friend's locker. I have this huge crush on him now that I see him like everywhere. So, when I like someone i can get really nervous, and I say really stupid thing's around the guy, but this time, I don't have a single class with him, and I never do get the chance to say hi, without it sounding stupid because he doesn't even know me >///<;;
Sooo, I really need any ideas on how to talk to him a little...
Have a friend introduce you if possible. You can also try the "accidental" bumping into him to start a conversation if you don't have a friend. In the end, if you don't have a friend to introduce you, you will have to engage in a conversation without help. Might as well just walk up to him and introduce yourself, if there is no other way to talk to him.
i'm in a bit of a problem.
i have this friend is super critical of everything i do. it's getting really annoying to me, and i
want to tell her to stop it. i was thinking about doing that, but suddenly, one of my friends
told me that this friend was laughing at me behind my back to other people.
so now i'm really pissed at her, and i'm ignoring her for now.
but that's no way to deal with the problem, right?
i mean, eventually, i have to face her. the only question is, how?
i have this friend is super critical of everything i do. it's getting really annoying to me, and i
want to tell her to stop it. i was thinking about doing that, but suddenly, one of my friends
told me that this friend was laughing at me behind my back to other people.
so now i'm really pissed at her, and i'm ignoring her for now.
but that's no way to deal with the problem, right?
i mean, eventually, i have to face her. the only question is, how?
Eh, I've known people like that. When you confront them, they will either cower in fear or deny the whole thing. Actually, ignoring her isn't a bad idea, since she might realize something is wrong and ask what is wrong. You can either ignore her or confront her, but don't say bad things behind her back. Confronting her would probably just make her stop talking behind your back temporarily, but it's worth a shot. I say you ignore her until she asks you what is wrong, then confront her about the issue.
Best of luck~
Best of luck~
i have a problem ):
i really like this guy and he likes me back
i used to have a huge crush on him a long time ago but i kind of gave up on that because i never really got to see him
but its kind of weird because- as corny as this sounds, hes like the perfect guy to me and it seems too good to be true
if you know what i mean :/
we have so much in common and all the things i look for in a guy, he has o__o
but theres a few things im worried about D:
1. my ex broke up with me a few months ago. i was so devestated and hurt that im not sure if im ready to start going out with someone >__>
2. my friends never approved of my ex but they really like the guy i have a crush on right now. they keep pressuring me to go out with him :[ they keep telling me that if i dont take the chance, im going to lose a great guy
3. unfortunately, he lives about an hour away from me. he can drive but i cant yet ): i dont want to be a bother and make him drive so far just to see me
will anyone give me advice? ): i know this is a stupid problem but i really dont know what to do
should i take a chance with this guy, or just stay friends?
i really like this guy and he likes me back
i used to have a huge crush on him a long time ago but i kind of gave up on that because i never really got to see him
but its kind of weird because- as corny as this sounds, hes like the perfect guy to me and it seems too good to be true
if you know what i mean :/we have so much in common and all the things i look for in a guy, he has o__o
but theres a few things im worried about D:
1. my ex broke up with me a few months ago. i was so devestated and hurt that im not sure if im ready to start going out with someone >__>
2. my friends never approved of my ex but they really like the guy i have a crush on right now. they keep pressuring me to go out with him :[ they keep telling me that if i dont take the chance, im going to lose a great guy
3. unfortunately, he lives about an hour away from me. he can drive but i cant yet ): i dont want to be a bother and make him drive so far just to see me
will anyone give me advice? ): i know this is a stupid problem but i really dont know what to do
should i take a chance with this guy, or just stay friends?
^
If you don't feel ready to get back into a relationship, then don't do it. However, in this particular case I think you should go for it. If you think someone is "perfect" for you, then don't let the opportunity slip from your hands. I doubt he'd find driving an hour to see you annoying or problematic since he probably really wants to see you. Go for it, if you don't go for it you may just lose a very good opportunity.
Best of luck~~
If you don't feel ready to get back into a relationship, then don't do it. However, in this particular case I think you should go for it. If you think someone is "perfect" for you, then don't let the opportunity slip from your hands. I doubt he'd find driving an hour to see you annoying or problematic since he probably really wants to see you. Go for it, if you don't go for it you may just lose a very good opportunity.
Best of luck~~
^ thank you soososo much for you advice :]
Soo.. how should I deal with this?
We've tried talking about it and it seemed to have taken a toll for worse.
We've tried talking about it and it seemed to have taken a toll for worse.
- Boyfriend broke up with me a few days ago. He said it, not I.
- We've only been together for like a month.
- We have talked for 3 months but he has liked me before he met me?
- Though I did cry and was mad for several days, I got over it better than he did.
- He is super duper depressed, crying in school, telling others about how much he wants me back, and crap.
- The guy is even posting stuff on myspace and seeking attention by writing self pity blogs, uploading slutty pictures of himself topless, and complaining to everyone that i don't 'love' him anymore. excuse me, sir.. we are not in love!
- now he's following me..
- I feel like all that time waiting for him, I could have applied for scholarships or colleges. I'm really impatient and I hate waiting and I hate wasting time!
- i've talked to him after the break up and he gave me a happy poopoo reason that he was afraid of not making me happy and didn't wanna hold me back.
- In the relationship, I was the one wearing the pants and I am a girl! I made all the plans and waited too many times for him before realizing too late that he stood me up everytime
- before we dated, the guy was so nice! he totally changed.
- we can never kiss right..
- he never made the moves on me, i always had to signal him to hold my hands or whatever. If I don't, he sits there like a deadbeat
- we have alot of awkward silences and tend to run out of things to say. or i'll talk alot and he pretends to listen
- i'm a senior ready to graduate, and he's a sophomore who's gonna turn into a junior
- he smokes.. and i don't. it's not that i'm against it, it's just not my thing.
- we have totally opposite taste in music
^
You guys just don't seem compatible. If you don't want to "wear the pants" in the relationship, then this guy is definitely not for you. If he's stalking you, you should tell him to stop or at least make it clear that you will not be getting back together with him. Don't give in to his basic, immature, and annoying myspace depression tactics, ignore them. If all these don't work, ignore him. Stay strong~
Fighting~~
You guys just don't seem compatible. If you don't want to "wear the pants" in the relationship, then this guy is definitely not for you. If he's stalking you, you should tell him to stop or at least make it clear that you will not be getting back together with him. Don't give in to his basic, immature, and annoying myspace depression tactics, ignore them. If all these don't work, ignore him. Stay strong~
Fighting~~
ok so this girl that i was once best friends with is throwing a fit and i want to know if it's just me that thinks she's being ridiculous.
So she recently broke up with her boyfriend, and thinks i want to go after him and basically texted me telling me not to. i don't like him like that, really. we're just good friends. i dated one of her exs over the summer, but she had broken up with him months before and had left him to be with someone else, who she was still with. now she assumes im just going to keep doing that. this time it was "mutual", although he really didnt want to end it. she said she doesnt want to be tied down through out high school. he's a great guy, or i wouldnt be his friend, but i dont think she has the right to tell me that even if it would make us both happy, im not allowed to date him. last time, i know her mom got upset but she never said she had a problem with it. i thought about this ages ago and decided i wouldnt let that happen again. he lack of faith just hurts, especially since we were once so close.
here, let me give you a taste of her really bad side. at the point when we were still inseperable, i asked her to promise me Alex would never replace me. well she did, and alex back stabbed her. BAD. now, i dont get along with a lot of people because they usually think im a bizz because i speak my mind, and she knew that, but she still left me alone.
do you think she has the right to try and control my relationship status? (for lack of a better phrase)
So she recently broke up with her boyfriend, and thinks i want to go after him and basically texted me telling me not to. i don't like him like that, really. we're just good friends. i dated one of her exs over the summer, but she had broken up with him months before and had left him to be with someone else, who she was still with. now she assumes im just going to keep doing that. this time it was "mutual", although he really didnt want to end it. she said she doesnt want to be tied down through out high school. he's a great guy, or i wouldnt be his friend, but i dont think she has the right to tell me that even if it would make us both happy, im not allowed to date him. last time, i know her mom got upset but she never said she had a problem with it. i thought about this ages ago and decided i wouldnt let that happen again. he lack of faith just hurts, especially since we were once so close.
here, let me give you a taste of her really bad side. at the point when we were still inseperable, i asked her to promise me Alex would never replace me. well she did, and alex back stabbed her. BAD. now, i dont get along with a lot of people because they usually think im a bizz because i speak my mind, and she knew that, but she still left me alone.
do you think she has the right to try and control my relationship status? (for lack of a better phrase)
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Your use of pronouns is an atrocity and at times I had no idea who you were referring to. Actually, whether you like it or not , friends have a moral obligation to each other for better or for worse. As a friend it should be expected of you to not date ANY of her exes without permission from the friend who was originally dating said ex. There is no need to give us a taste of her bad side in order to create some bias in the soompi populace, so please refrain from showing that. She has some right to say whether or not you can have a relationship with her ex, but she has no right in controlling one of your relationships. You already dated one of her exes already, that's a no no. Did you even ask for permission? If she says no, then it is a no unless you end your friendship with her.
Your use of pronouns is an atrocity and at times I had no idea who you were referring to. Actually, whether you like it or not , friends have a moral obligation to each other for better or for worse. As a friend it should be expected of you to not date ANY of her exes without permission from the friend who was originally dating said ex. There is no need to give us a taste of her bad side in order to create some bias in the soompi populace, so please refrain from showing that. She has some right to say whether or not you can have a relationship with her ex, but she has no right in controlling one of your relationships. You already dated one of her exes already, that's a no no. Did you even ask for permission? If she says no, then it is a no unless you end your friendship with her.
So I just got drunk dialed today... and this person im seeing
just said the... L word to me... did this person really mean it even though the person was drunk ;x?
just said the... L word to me... did this person really mean it even though the person was drunk ;x?
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Can't be 100% positive, but people tend to tell the truth when they are drunk.
Can't be 100% positive, but people tend to tell the truth when they are drunk.
^ Oh gezz... >< well thanks so much for answering ^^!
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QUOTE (BigBangLuv @ Apr 2 2009, 03:28 AM)
So I just got drunk dialed today... and this person im seeing
just said the... L word to me... did this person really mean it even though the person was drunk ;x?
just said the... L word to me... did this person really mean it even though the person was drunk ;x?
It really depends on the person. Not everyone is the same drunk. Some people get horny, some get aggressive, some get emotional, and some blab out the truth.
It seems that you don't know him that well...so I wouldn't take it too seriously. But if you are curious or unsure, you can ask him about it.
Hello,
I need some advice. So I have a friend who talks to this girl. Lately he has given off hints to me that the girl thinks im hot and fances me. The signals are pretty obvious and im quite sure i have gotten the right message.Once she asked me a question in mclass and i looked her in the eye and she felt was avoiding.
However i have not told my mate that i know all about it, and just pretend to not know. A few days ago, we were messin about and my mate joked with the girl sayin that he would tell me something she didnt want me to know, . She just says no dn't in her girlish voice.
What does this mean? Does she want me to approach her? But bearing in mind she always gives off the loud popular girl image and i am the more cool type.
I need some advice. So I have a friend who talks to this girl. Lately he has given off hints to me that the girl thinks im hot and fances me. The signals are pretty obvious and im quite sure i have gotten the right message.Once she asked me a question in mclass and i looked her in the eye and she felt was avoiding.
However i have not told my mate that i know all about it, and just pretend to not know. A few days ago, we were messin about and my mate joked with the girl sayin that he would tell me something she didnt want me to know, . She just says no dn't in her girlish voice.
What does this mean? Does she want me to approach her? But bearing in mind she always gives off the loud popular girl image and i am the more cool type.
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