My mom and i were talking about how we think my sister might have a bf, and my sister mentioned before about redecorating her room, so i said "maybe she wants to redecorate her room so it looks good when she brings her bf over!" My mom is a really traditional woman, and she made a big fuss about a bf going into his gf's room. I never knew there is such a "restriction" until today when she told me. She's like "why would she let her bf go into her room?? A girl going into her girl friend's room is okay, but a guy friend or boyfriend definitely cannot unless he's her fiance!". wth?? i've never heard of such a thing, so my mom went "why would you be so open to let your bf into your room just like that? And you've had so much education, i thought you would've known you should not let a guy into your room". So i'm like uhhh...i understand if moms wouldn't let their daughters go to a guy's place to sleep over, but not to let your own bf go into your room?? that, i've never heard of I mean, my parents are at home all the time, so what are the chances that my sis and her bf (or my bf and i in the future) are going to do something "inappropriate" when they're at home? They're treating a girl's room like as if it's a sacred woman's chamber where no men can enter.
I don't have a bf now, but in the future when i do, and i invite him over, won't it be funny if he asks if he can go into my room, and i said "you can't, my mom won't let you enter my room"
Do you think this is ridiculous??

hun, i would never let my bf in my room out of respect for my parents and myself. when u think gf & bf in the same room, what crosses ur mind? mmhmm. so it doesnt matter if my parents are in the house, i would never let my daughter. would you? ur gonna do some 'fun' stuff in a room one day with ur bf, and recall it in the future when ur daughter says "me and the bf will be in my room"

Your mom was once a teenager herself also, maybe there were things that her and her boyfriend(s) did
in her room so she automatically thinks that will happen to you or your sister if guys were to enter into
your rooms in the future. Your mom's not allowing because she probably thinks this : girl + guy + bed = NONO
LOL If you really insist on being able to bring guys into your room then just talk with her and say that
nothing's going to happen.

My mom just made me leave the door wide open when I had boys over, whether they were my boyfriend or not.

Until I turned 18, then she didn't wanna know anymore XD

oh, i had my bf over once but she just thought it was a friend.
my sis was in the room so she was fine with it.
but she mind the fact that we were sitting on the bed together
watching a movie. the thing is, there was huge gap between us two....

My cousin is 15 and her boyfriend, 17, is allowed to sleep over her house. In the same bed! Visa Versa. I know, this is so bad. But IDK it's her life and her mom's choice so I don't really say anything. But I know how your mom feels. I can't even be in my boy cousin's room without the adults nagging that girls aren't allowed in boys room. Lol so traditional.

^ haha my frd who's was 17 2 years ago could sleep over at her 21 year old bf's house and have her bf sleep over at her house. Now she practically moved over to his house and hardly ever goes home.... lol.
I understand why your mom won't let your sis's bf in her room. A girl's room is her private place and they can do anything in there. My mom won't even let me bring any guy home. and i'm 20.

coodies and various other diseases.

I don't see the problem. When a guy and a girl are alone in a room with a bed, sound proof walls, and a lock, I think MARIO PARTY.

What are they going to do in her bedroom that they can't do in a living room or outside or something.. probably something intimate eh? That's why your mom won't let her bf come into her room. Besides, it's probably your mom's house = technically your sister's room belong to the mom

i thought you would know better -_________________-

well, i live with my brother and he hates it when i invite my boyfriend over and let him into my room - even if the door is wide open. my mum doesn't care so much, because she adores my boyfriend and lets him get away with anything haha

how old are you? you are so naive and clueless about boys.

*pat Maos's head*

As traditional and dated their viewpoints may seem, if it's your parents' house, it's their rules.

She only says that so your sister and her bf wont get themselves comfortable to make out and S..tuff

Your mother is only saying such things because she knows how couples can sometimes do unexpected stuff once they are inside a bedroom (when they have privacy). She is only watching out for you and your sister and if your boyfriend (in the future) wants to see your room, I guess you can let him only when your mom is home. If you do, keep the door opened so at least your mom will not freak out.

you know what happens when a guy and girl are in a room with the door locked? miracles happen

LOL oops
I let guy friends into my house
and some guys just like going into my room (for some reason) (my mom doesn't care/know)


HOWEVER my mom did give me an evil eye when she said "yeah um if you think you can get your future boyfriend into our house when no one's home, into your room with the door closed YOU GOT ANOTHER THING COMING" and then added "and you're not allowed at his house if no one else is home"

what does she think I'm gonna do

I would keep the door open.

HE'S GONNA RAEP YOU RUN AWAY

^ LOL. That could be a possibility? xD

Anyway, my parents don't care if there's a guy in
my room with the door shut. Plus, I'm not that
stupid to suddenly fall for the moves, lol. And if my
friend did try that on me, I'd punch him in the face.
Other than that, my parents are more like, "Girls
can go to guy's homes." No idea why, lol. It just
doesn't work like that? -shrugg-.

yeah i wouldn't want my boyfriend to go into my room because i know my parents would not love it.
i wouldnt enjoy the idea of going into my boyfriend's room either. its not my home to walk into and do as i please or my significant other for that matter. in some cases it boils down to respect and how parents end up looking at you and your relationship. It is very understandable for your mom to take that kind of stance. you'd be surprised how things can escalate lol. your mommy's just worried :]

hmm my boyfriend goes into my room and I go into his room with the door closed...

I'm almost 20 though so I don't think my mom cares at this point XD

It depends on your age and how your parents view this whole thing with their daughters being friends with guys. As for me, I let guys in my room when I know they can go in. Besides, it's not as if we do something up in my room or anything LOL.

It's my parents house. They pay for everything for me, buy me clothes, give me money. The least I could do is follow their orders, do errands for me, etc. so whatever they say, I'll follow or take intro consideration.

My mom feels the same way. I do find it ridiculous, but eh she's allowed to be worried.
I brought my guy friend to my room because he wanted to see my room, and my mom went ballistic. She told my dad I did stuff with him

If you aren't doing anything bad.. won't you be allowed to let your bf into your room with the door open? x_x

I just had to keep the door open when my boyfriend was over, but she never once came to check or anything like that lol. I don't see how it's bad if they're in a girl's room if the door is open and parents are home. I can see why they'd be upset if the door were close or if the boyfriend was visiting when they weren't home.

you're mom raised you to be a person of high standards.
she expects a lot from you.

if your bf comes over, rapes you, your mom is the person who will feel the most burderned,
because she raised you, and protected you. she tried to do her best as a mother.
if that happened, then she will feel like she didn't do a good enough job.
she just wants whats best for you.

You got jokes man.

Anyway, your mom has a reason... a very good reason. Boys and their raging hormones.

haha. when my boyfriend and i are in a room together, we get up to no good.

KEEP THE DOOOR OPEN ! -.-
What with most mom these days ...-.- My mom always compare her when she was my age to me .. -.- Like wtf..I cant hang out with guys..when she could when she was my age. -.-

I don't think my parents are that strict, but I definitely know where your mom's coming from.

And you've never heard of anything like this? You really need to get out more. =\

A bedroom is thought to be a very private place, and thus is seen as the perfect place for some hanky panky to happen, to parents. Besides, there's a bed--what crosses your mind when you think boy, girl and bed? As hard as it is to imagine, parents were teens, too; they know what goes on 'behind the bedroom door'. Of course, it's not like much can happen if your parents are home and the door's open, but one can never be sure.

Moreover, girls have always been raised to be more conservative than guys (well, not all girls, not recently, but you know what I mean). You see guys shirtless outside but not girls (even though a law has been passed here to ensure gender equality, thus making girls legally allowed to be shirtless outdoors--though of course very few do, which further proves my point). In the same way, if a girl goes into a guy's room and sees some boxers lying aroundm, it's not nearly as embarassing, to most, as when a guy walks into a girl's room to find some bras and panties lying around.

Then again, a girl going into a guy's room would be an equally bad idea to traditional or over-protective parents.

My dad doesn't care too much, but my mom's really nit-picky when it comes an issue like this. Whenever I have friends over, she completely closes the doors to ALL of the rooms, including her's, and she just shuts herself up in there. She's afraid that they might steal something

But w/e, I usually bring my friends over when my parents aren't at home, so I bring them in anyway =P

your parents dont trust you huh?

Ahh...

well, as long as the doors open, my parents are fine with it XD

and your mom is probably just scared you two will do naughty stuff with the doors closed, or that the guy will do things to you......
o____o

i've had boys in my room, door open, slightly ajar and closed.
nothing has ever happened tho?
they sleep downstairs.

My parents and I have this non-spoken policy where I can have the boyfriend in my room as long as the door is half-open. That way nothing's really kept a secret.

LMAO, when I saw this post on the main r&l forum, all I saw was like "Guys can't go into Girl's" LOL LOL, I was like WTF...I was like...um...genitals? o_0

my mom doesn't care, she just wants the door to be open. haha.

... you're kiding right ?

Wow...at first we had a similar problem...the things, there isn't really much to do in my room, we actually prefer to be in the living room, unless everyone is sleeping. Aside from that, my younger sister and I use to share the same room together, but I am always away from university. But occasionally, I come home and bring my boyfriend along, since he has no family in the city I live in, he had to sleep over. Because of the room sharing situation, my parent decided that, all the girls (my mom, my sister, and myself), will be sleeping the the master bedroom. Because dad doesn't like guy sharing room with girls. So my dad and my boyfriend slept int he same room. As months went by, my younger sister decided to rearrange the rooms so we have our own separate rooms. So now when I come home from university, since there is no way my boyfriend will sleep in my sister's room, he had to sleep in my room. My parents don't say much about it, we even leave the door close when we go to sleep, we don't sleep on the same bed though (too small) and I don't think my parents are up for it. But I know my parents do check on us at night or early morning.

They turn into Superman and Wonder Woman.

If you absolutely MUST bring your boyfriend to your room even though your parents doesn't like it, then ask them if it would be OK if you had the door wide open and they could stop by and "check" on you two whenever they wanted? Maybe that would ease their minds. But then again, I really don't know how to handle that type of situation either since I've never been allowed to let a guy enter my room, whether it's just a friend or boyfriend.

thats exactly what my mom says too, so my guy friend i just chill somewhere else

well, i brought my ex into my room when my mom wasn't home. and when she got home..whoo. LOL
but once i had him over and she was home, she said we could stay upstairs but not go into my room. i told him that and he didn't mind. so we did things on the couch. XD lol

It's kind of an unwritten rule in our family. It just looks wrong. My guy friends, no matter how good and no matter how brief their stay is, are never welcome in my bedroom. There was one time my friend unknowingly walked into my room after me, but walked out after a millisecond. My mother saw it and talked to me about it after.

lol. yeah.
never let a boy stay into your room...
everyone knows that.

Your mother probably doesn't want them to have sex and save it for marriage.

I never let a guy into my room because its always so messy! But I always go to my bf's room, and his is so tidy! Haha, I just started university so no parents around!

Lol my mum said that when my bf came over.

Fast forward a couple of months, then my mother got over it. lol

We just keep the door open not like we're gonna do anything naughty while my family is around o.0