I've heard the phrase "love is friendship set on fire" so I've always thought that your boyfriend starts off as your friend. Some say those types of relationships tend to last.

But then I also think that you should have other friends to confide in, especially when you need to get away from your s/o for space or something.

So what do you think? Should they be your best friend? IS your s/o your best friend?

For me, my boyfriend isn't my best friend. He's my boyfriend. Idk how to explain that hahaa XP

i'd say my boyfriend is my best friend. unfortunately, my past best friend couldn't accept me dating anyone so she just shut me out of her life. but yes, it is important to have other friends to confide in.

Well, my boyfriend didn't even start out as my friend. He was an acquaintance... we were on our way towards friendship but he decided to ask me out after a couple months of knowing each other. And because I liked him at the time also, I said yes. But now, I can say he's one of my best friends. I tell him everything and vise versa.

A close friend, yes. A best friend no.

If you guys ever part ways, so would your friendship.

He could be, but he doesn't have to be.

Mm... I feel like your boyfriend should be your best friend... doesn't it just naturally happen? Isn't he the one you end up calling first when something bad or something good happens to you? Isn't he usually the one you want to talk to when something comes up (unless it was something with him haha)? I don't know, but for me, my boyfriend is my best friend (at least my best guy friend).

mandoo*, that's not necessarily true. In most circumstances it is, but there's still some cases where breaking up doesn't change much except that those two people aren't in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship anymore.

I agree with Heidelightful.

I would say that my boyfriend is definitely my best friend! I tell him everything, he tells me everything. He knows everything about me and I know everything about him. I trust him and he's always there for me. I'm also his best friend. :] So it's pretty mutual.

Sad to say that during my Senior year of high school, I found out that my "best friend" was actually a b*tch.

my boyfriend is my best friend, and i like it that way ^-^
this way, i have someone who won't judge me when i have to vent or cry and who won't betray me when i have to tell a secret or something.
having other best friends is good too~ i would be quite happy with that too~ it's just that i have superhigh standards for people, and it takes a little too long and i trust too few people to call them my best friends and something more than "good friends"

While I probably trust and feel more comfortable with my boyfriend, when I think of my best friends, I think of two people -- not my boyfriend. It's separate, but kind of the same, too.

I think yes -- any guy I'm going to be that close with is going to get more of me than just about anyone else -- but what's hard is that they kind of end up being a conditional best friend. If you're with them forever they'll be your best friend forever, but it's not likely that they'll want to be as close platonically if things fail, especially if you're the one to break things off. Whether you both try to stay close or not isn't even the issue because it won't be the same.

So I definitely agree that they shouldn't be the only close friend you have.

to me... S/O's are a different catergory to friends.
S/O's can come and go but your friends are always there...
so no i dont think they should be compared as a best friend
UNLESS you guys were actually best friends before you started dating.. thats different

I wouldn't call him my best friend. We were close friends before we went out but I wouldn't call him a best friend.

It's hard to say, to be honest.
My ex and I were pretty close, but before we were going out, we liked each other for about 3 months (before I agreed to go out with him) and I think it was the only reason that we became so close, because we both liked each other. But while we were going out, I ended up seeing him as my best friend as well as my boyfriend.
I think it's good that in a relationship, you should be close, but you shouldn't pour out every single little thing to him - you have girlfriends for that~

I'm sure it wouldn't hurt.

for me, yes. he has to be my best friend. i have a best female friend too. he's the closest human to me and i think that pretty much defines 'best friend'

Nope. Dating your best friend could potentially be a huge mistake if no handled properly. When you think about it.. it should make a relationship stronger since you were best friends to begin with anyway, but if the relationship fails.. the friendship fails. There is absolutely almost no chance you could go from being in a relationship back to being best friends again.. if you ever decide to date her/him.. sure, say hello to your new girlfriend/boyfriend.. but be prepared to say goodbye to your bestfriend forever. Just a warning for y'all.

SHOULD they be? No.
But my boyfriend is my biffle and he says that I'm his. We were friends for 2 years before we started dating and now it's been almost 2 years of dating

We have other best friends too but we're numero uno!

No, they don't have to be, but for me I would prefer them to be.
Of course I'd have other friends on the side, but to have my SO as my best friend would be totally awesome!

My ex-boyfriend is my best friend. He still is now despite the fact we broke up.

my bf was my best friend for years before we got together.. i think it's a good thing. at least for me, having your bf be your bf puts your relationship on a whole different level. you're love in more ways than one. and, you'd know that as your best friend, it'd be harder for him to do something that'll hurt you. at least...that's what it is for me. but yes, there is that chance of you losing your friendship with him if you were to break up. but if you loved each other enough as friends, you'd stay friends because you wouldn't be able to bear losing him/her as a friend! ok maybe i'm too naive or idealistic. haha but thats just what i feel

My boyfriend is the person I go to when I'm piss off at my best friend and I want to rant.

My best friend is the person I go to when I'm piss off at my boyfriend and I want to rant.

There's thing that I can tell my boyfriend but can't tell my best friend, and vice versa. For me, my boyfriend is also my best friend, but I just interact with him a little bit differently. I can gossip and do girly things when I'm with my best friend, and I can cuddle or hold hands when I'm with my boyfriend. That'd really the only difference.

for girls, i think boyfriends should be their best guy friend.
for guys, i think girlfriends should be their best girl friend.

=)

Well, for me its a good thing. I should be able to come to him for advice like I would with any of my best friends.

Hm..i think your s/o shouldnt be your best friend..or at least you might have another 'best friend' of the same sex otherwise...

yes i think it should be your best friend.
my bf also is my best friend cuz we can talk and share everything which each other =]

He is definitely my bestfriend^-^
He was my best friend for YEARS before we got together , I think its a good thing, because then , theres nothing to hide
& they already know everything about you.

not really.
my bf is my bf, but that's because he started out that way (not really)

he doesn't like hearing about my secrets because it's about him lolz

I say ALL girls CAN be beaches, it's just who they choose to show it to.

Definitely not. I like for the two to be separate like church and state.

nope.

your boyfriend should be your boyfriend.

your best friend should be your bestfriend.

i think your s/o should also be your best friend cause he's the one you tell everything to and have your trust within .
but if you need some space, you also have your other friends to ask advice, etc.
my boyfriend is my best friend and i tell him pretty much everything and i trust him with my secrets. :]
i actually don't mind not having space from him haha

my boyfriend is ONE of my best friends. we were close friends before we started dating. I have my other best friends that i spend time with and talk to, and so if i spend time with my boyfriend and talk to him, then he is automatically one of my best friends too.

I'd say he is just my boyfriend. Imo, it's a whole different category. Of course your boyfriend is going to be the closest to you. You don't go around kissing all your best friends, do you? At least, he is for me, anyways. I've know him since elementary school, but we were never friends until this past yeaar because he scared me ahaha. Anyways, yea, we're really very close, but my girl friends are the ones who I call my best friends, and Also other guys that are completely in the friend zone in a I-Consider-You-As-My-Cousin-Or-Brother sorta way, yea? Aha idk if that made anysense but it did for me.

you can have your boyfriend as your best friend. but, it doesn't mean you shouldn't have your close friends standing by.

if you ever watched Gilmore Girls, there's this scene where Lorelai & Luke have broken up for whatever reason. she rings him at the home (of course he's not there) and she explains this movie to him (does a horrible job) and asks if he would please come over & basically sit with her, even though they're not really speaking to each other. i think that's the importance of your s/o being your best friend.


^ totally agree with this too.

you took the words straight out of my mouth [:
i was never sure how to explain it.
hehe.

I think it is usually the case that a S/O is your best friend at the same time. Because you get to know them in ways you can't with a normal friend, so shouldn't your S/O be your best friend? But I do know my S/O as a best friend is a totally different kind of best friendship.

Mine definitely is but he wasn't one before we started dating so I'll never have that feeling of regret if we were to break up and be like "T-T I lost a best friend". Even my best friend or close friend, I can't tell her everything and anything (I have trust issues). But I trust my S/O wholeheartedly.

yeah he is<3 knows me better than anyone haha or to the largest extent, i have a hard time finding a "best" friend & trusting ppl.. they always let me down.. its been 2+ years for us and it didnt start as best friends we were friends secretly liking each other, about 1.5 months after we met, he asked me out then as we got to know each other, i consider him my lover & best friend

He is one of my best friends. I usually say "I'm not your friend anymore" for jokes and he always goes, "I know you're not. You're my girlfriend." so I don't know if he sees me as his best friend (I think he does but eh)... I see him as one of mine. I know that if we broke up, we might be able to stay friends. We have a great relationship either way, just I know once we get over the hurt, something could be established.

Although, we tried this once before and fortunately we got back together! So I don't know, really. It has it's positives and it's negatives.

We didn't start off as best friends, but my boyfriend became my best friend over time <3

My bf is definitely my best friend. We tell each other everything.

You got that off Angry Little Girl, LOL.

But I don't consider my boyfriend as my best friend and he doesn't consider me to be his either.
We both feel that a best friend is on a different level. He says it's someone he can relate to both socially and intellectually, and someone he can be himself in front of when they just hang out. It sounds like it could fit in with a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship, but I completely agree that it's on a whole different sphere.
I have my own friends to call my best friends while he has his also.

it's funny...cuz... sometimes your s.o. will feel like an enemy :lol: i don't know about best friend, but being friends def helps

the s/o can be my best friend since i'm with him most of the time, but he can't really replace the four girls who know me by heart. i can't actually change that.. hehe even if i'm not with those girls, i still find them irreplaceable even by a boyfriend.

all my previous boyfriends have been close friends - but i'd never go to the extent of calling them my best friends.

I talk to my boyfriend every day, I tell him everything on my mind, I call him when I need help, but I don't consider him my best friend. I think a best friend is someone you can confide in when you and your s/o get into a fight or break up lol

I would say my boyfriend is my best friend. We confide in each other so I guess we're best friends to some extent.
But I also have a (girl) best friend too. haha (:

My bf is one of my two best friends. He's my friend and my confidant. We weren't really friends first but I have more fun with him than with anyone. The only person whose company I enjoy as much is my roommate but I can't cuddle with her, so...