Something occured with me last night. I was walking in the streets downtown trying to get to a bus stop that will lead to where I wanted to go. I walked to a certain area of the city. I was going by a street to get to another place. Some black guy I passed by called for my attention. He told me to stop and hold on. I gave him my attention to see what he wanted. He offered to shake hands with me, which I did. Then asked me where I was going. I told him that I'm just trying to go home. He asked where I lived. I told him it was far away from where the city is. Here is what irked me. He asked me "where is your boyfriend?'. I'm like "what are you talking about?". He said "I know you have one.". I said "whatever" and walked away from him and moved on.

The guy seemed like someone who is poor and hangs around the streets. I want to ask. Why did he do what he did? Was he trying to mess with me or start something? Am I okay to think is a weirdo or a jackass coming to me like that? It was annoying and disturbing. What else could I have said to him?

I understand that you are bothered by it, but it's really useless to analyze the situation. It's impossible for you to know what the other person was thinking or why they did it, and even if you try to prepare something to say in case it happens again, chances are you will be caught off guard just like you were this time around. Chalk it up to the guy just being a weirdo and try to stop thinking about it.

Are you a girl knockblock? I always thought you were a guy. Anyway, I've seen a guy in my hometown that was like that. He'd walk around talking to random people saying weird things all day. You did what you did. Walk away. Forget about it and avoid it next time by ignoring.

I say you just ignore it...if you give people like that attention they bother you more...just pretend you didn't hear them and just walk by

just ignore him. i always ignore guys like that... it happens more often than not...
and okay, i'm not trying to be racist or anything, but why do black guys do this more than others? one time, my friend and i were walking to a bowling alley, and this black guy tried talking to us (and asked if we would give him money) so we just told him that we were in a hurry and walked past him. then lo and behold! he shows up at the bowling alley! and it just got creepy from there. so we just hung out at our lane with our friends at the lane but we kept watching him until he got kicked out for stealing lemon slices from the bar.

anyways, next time? i wouldn't shake his hand... man you don't know where it's been!

be very aware of your surroundings the next time you walk around that area (or in any place for that matter). you don't know what that guy is capable of doing. you may ignore him, but he may not ignore you the next time he sees you, and may do more than just a hand shake.

"Sorry, can't help you" is almost always the best response for any trash that tries to talk to you in the street.

99% of the time they're going to hustle you about how their car broke down / they lost their train ticket / they're down on their luck / etc. etc.

that's creepy!! @_@
If you were in SE asia, like in Indonesia, you probably would have died by now.
I read many cases of victims were hypnotized and robbed without them knowing, or even killed because they shook hands & had friendly conversation with random strangers like that.

to be safe, you should politely ignore if that happens again.

omg.
street smarts?

first off, if you're alone, that's dangerous.
AND you're far off from where you wanna get to.

i think he asked if you had a bf to see if you were alone?
and then rob you! attack you!!!! rape you?!
have you thought of these dangerous situation that you coulda been in?
honestly, even if he was an angel, please be aware of your safety.
you dont even know him.
of course he's gonna wanna get you to trust him first.

it's in the street, you dont have to stop for no one.

scary.

take care.
read up some street safety tips.

You need to ignore these kind of people. L2safety.

Best response is to never go near the person and ask from the distance "Can I help you?"
and if it appears that the person is just there to make conversation and you are uncomfortable with it than just reply...
"I'm sorry I thought you needed help with something. Bye" and just walk away.

be careful.. especially as a girl walking alone at night

Ignore, walk fast. If he follows, run.

First: I'm glad nothing worse happened to you!

But let me give you some advice: Don't give a stranger so much information like you did. He doesn't have to know where you are going to (at least tell lies, e.g. you're going to meet a friend or somewhere crowded) and he doesn't have to know where you live.
I suppose he wanted to check you out. e.g. if you have a bf. (yeah he knows you have a boyfriend? my ass! I mean, that was a trick just to find out I'd say)
noo don't tell em anything. He could have been trying to follow you or so

Why did you even talk to him in the first place?




LOL -----> agreed

He was just your run-of-the-mill loser/crazy person, I don't see why it should irk you. I'm sure you're not the only one who has dealt with him (or somebody similar). Just ignore it and go on with your day.

I crack up every time somebody says this because it's usually followed by an ignorant comment and/or sweeping generalization. There are creeps & slimeballs of all races.

Happens all the time in Chinatown. I never talk to them and just keep walking. Didn't your parents ever tell you to never talk to strangers? lol.

You have to be careful in this world these days, a few weirdos out there. I wouldve stopped also i dont lke being rude, but if get the feeling things are going south best to avoid the person.

I had an incident at the rail, from the corner of my eye i could see 3 guys and 1 girl, they were like watching me, so i left the rail station, they left also, then i thought that something was wrong, so i kept my distance and disappeared into the crowd, and i could see the fools looking around, but oh wells they lost me

lol good thing you had your watchful eye on them fools

lolz ever since that incident i am always watching out ppl like them , probably wanted my camera, coz i had a camera bag with me

omg that happens to me all the time. sometimes they follow me a block or two too. i just ignore them or just shake my head and walk faster away from them. That so dangerous talking and telling him details about yourself. Next time just walk away and if you sense him following you reach out your cellphone and dial 911 than press send if he doesn't stop following you. =D

^^^ maybe he was trying to go the same way as you lol

I had that happen before, i was walking the same way as a girl was n suddenly she decided to run because we had to walk the same way to get home. Guess she was scared or something...This was broad daylight with traffic all around.

^^ haha. noo most of the time they scream"aye aye! aye girl" at me. LOL. but i get where you're coming from. =D

Happened to me on school campus, I cooly excused myself to the washroom and when he wasn't looking, ran for my life.

you must be attractive

he was probably checking if you had a bf or not. maybe you should've acted like you didn't know any english and ignored him lol

No, I'm a guy. I clear that up.

Say, did you go by the name Mad Korean at one point?


Why did I talk to him? That's a good question. He called out to me. I didn't really want to talk to him but he looked like he needed help or something and he wouldn't let me go. So I decided to see what he wanted. Ironic thing is I just wanted to ignore him.

Here is the deal.


I walked past a place called Chinatown where I was going in the city I live. My parents might have told me to not talk to strangers but I can't recall.


Here's the deal with me. I'm an attractive guy. There are people that find me a cool guy to get to know or say hi to. Especially those who don't know me. Once in a long while I have been asked if I have a girlfriend.

Am I getting things somewhere now?

So that guy assumed you were gay? What a douchebag.

And yeah, I went by that username once.

Well I would have never shook his hand in the first place or even bother to stop. Please watch yourself next time.

if you're a girl. maybe he's trying to hit on you but done it very poorly.

edit: oh you're a guy. ........... ok that guy's messing w/ you.

that type of stuff happens to me a lot, especially back home.
basically it's just a pick up. a crappy one, but a pick up.

the "where's your boyfriend" question is him trying to figure out if he can try and continue hitting on you or not.
a lot of times, regardless of how you answer, guys'll still try and hit on you.

if it really gets to you, then you can pretend like you don't hear them calling at you.
there's also the possibility that they'll call something nasty after you, but yeah...

you can simply say "i don't give out personal information to strangers" if asked those types of questions again.

Wow that's really creepy. I hate being in the city alone. I grew up in the suburbs so venturing into the city causes me to think of all sorts of scary stories even though I know my chances of being attacked aren't much higher than anywhere else.

Like others have said, the dude was most likely just messing with you. Best not to think too much about it, and use this as a lesson in educating yourself with future incidents. Never reveal too much info, make up a lie if need be, and above all else, just ignore the creeps. Also, always have your phone on hand so you can make a call easily, or even a pen or pencil, something you can use to defend yourself if you get attacked.

OHHHH... He's A GUY.. LMAO!!!!

I thought ti_na created this thread. LOL @ ME..

okay sorry dude, maybe it's because you dress in a way that appear "homo" to them. No offensive. Perhaps you should leave the jewelries at home and stick to wearing clothes that won't make you stick out.

That's pretty creepy but situations like those will happen more often. I say be more weary of your surroundings.

if youre in nyc it happens on occasion. usually black or mexicans do this. i got horrible stories but then again dont stereotype. occasionally asians and old white dudes do it too

uuumm next time don't stop. Remember what your parents used to tell you when you were little? don't talk to strangers? well that still applies. be safe

Nothing serious happened right? He sounds like one of the many weirdos people come across these days.

I have been in a similar situation before, but I had no choice but to talk to that person. He was just asking for directions (before he started asking me where I lived and where I was going) and I tried getting away. However, there is really no where you can go when it is past midnight (new year) and there is only two of you and one other stranger walking towards the escalators leading to the outside in the subway.

xD always be cautious! especially if your walking alone
Ive been chased before, by some guy who kept asking me where i was going. i ran like crazy into the nearest restaurant, the owners took me to the bathroom & the guy just stood at the front asking where i was O_O they eventually called the cops on him cause he wouldn't leave me alone

I don't know if you're Asian, but I use that as an advantage to not understand English and pretend to ignore them. lol. I give them the *culture shock* look.

That's when the strange man gets to say "hello!" to Mr. Pepper Spray- it works wonders!:-)

He was definitely going to rape you.
1/4 girls get raped in their life time, dont be another statistic!!!

Next time, don't tell them you are going home. They might follow you. Just make something up, "Oh just getting some coffee" or "Just going to the corner store."

And if they ask about your boyfriend, make him up: "He's training for MMA, and I'm actually meeting up with him."


The best thing about strangers are: you can be whatever you damn want to be.

Only advice you should take, besides this one, advising you to take quoted advice.