Of course, if you have a good occupation such as a teacher, nurse, doctor, then probably most people would say no. But say you earn only $13USD or less an hour and you have no parents to give you a house to live in, etc. You're COMPLETELY dependent on your own with that low income. Would you marry a guy who's rich, but you don't have any feelings for him at all?
For me, i definitely would. The fear and depression everyday that people feel with low income is unbearable. You never know when you're going to get laid off with this sh*tty economy. So yah, i'd rather feel safe knowing that i'll always live decently even if i have to face a man i don't like at all, than to live with low income.

What about you guys?

no.
i've worked jobs that pay less than that.
in fact, before my current job, my previous job was part time and i was making $8-9 before i quit.

marrying someone for money is not going to help my life.
cuz when/if we get divorced i probably am not going to be taking any of that money with me.
and what if the guy thinks that beating his wife is fun?

working the crap job actually gives me more freedom in a way...

Being trapped in a relationship with someone you don't love will always do a number on you mentally. That's what you will be if you are completely financially dependent on someone, trapped. It will keep eating away at you and you will end up miserable. Money and things can only make you happy up to a certain point. In the end, it will not be worth it.

Well said. What's sad is that in today's society, most girls probably would marry for money. They think that it would be a win win situation.

An example would be them marrying the guy just to get money. Then divorcing the guy and still getting half of his stuff.

I would prefer to depend on other people (financially) than to have to marry some guy I'm not fond of.
And by people, I mean family.

Dang, you're one helpless person, lol.

No.

I have never been in actual situation. But somewhat similar. Anyways, even with working a $9/hr, I wouldn't resort to marry a rich guy I don't even like. It might boost your finance but not your mental health.

Scrapping jobs from jobs, I would still feel better.

This is a great question. Except for one flaw.

It assumes marriage is forever.






So, to answer the question, no i wouldn't.

But, to really answer the question, yes i would. Then, find vehicles and avenues to gradually draw money out to secret accounts and the such. Then, once i'm financially well off, we divorce.

Um yea, no i wouldn't.

I might actually. I'm honestly have never and don't think I will ever fall in love.
I love my parents, I love my friends. I've never been "in love" and don't particularly want to be.
That sounds sad, but that just the kind of person I am.
So why not marry for cash. There are lots of different reasons people get married.
Getting married to live a life of comfort? Why not? It's not like married couples are together 24/7.
Everyone lives different lives, to find their own happiness.
I'm the kind of person that can get along well with almost anyone.so it doesn't
seem that bad to me.


It's ironic i think this way though, because my parents have been married for over 25 years now,
and they still hold hands at the supermarket and do a goodbye kiss on the way out lol.

Yes, I would!!!!! I never thought money was important until I graduated from school and actually started working. And yes! money is very important. Having money means having security. Never having to worry about what you might do if you'll get fired suddenly, where's the money to pay the bills will come from, how to buy food, etc. If you're sick, you can go to the doctor instead of just buying OTC medicine hoping whatever you have will go away in time

Yeah, I would soooooo marry for money. Being poor is NOT fun. Living day to day, wondering and stressing out if something bad could happen any moment and if there's enough money to cover the expense.

Besides, love is over-rated.

Haha we are on the same wavelength. But no, I would not marry for money. I'm confident in my abilities enough that I don't believe that I will ever be that poor.

No I wouldn't because to me marriage is forever and sure money is important to survive, but I wouldn't want to marry someone I don't love just to survive. I'd rather work a low paying job, make my own money and know that i'm surviving on my own even if I live paycheck to paycheck.

No, as much as I want the security, I think in the end, money will just make my life more complicated.

no...
I would prefer to live alone and live a humble life than be forever with someone I don´t love

How much money does he have and how much does he love you?

If he only has a million but he loves you, I think it's fine because there's a good chance that you'll grow to love him after realizing how much he cares about you.

If he has 10 million and doesn't love you, I would think that he's as willing to switch you out as you are with him. That doesn't sound like income security to me.

No, I wouldn't. I know how much stress lack of money causes from past experience, but I would feel too trapped and be less independent if I married a man I didn't even like and tried to live off his money hoping he wouldn't unceremoniously kick me to the curb. I don't think I could stand the shame I would feel for not supporting myself and pulling my own weight. The money would never feel like mine and I would never feel comfortable enough spending it to even enjoy it or feel secure. I may not have a lot on my own, but at least I would know that it was mine and that I had every right to spend it as I chose.

Kind of ironic that I'm seeing this question.

I met someone with money and I will honestly say I was at first attracted to him because of his money. However, now I wish he wasn't wealthy because it wouldn't make me feel so guilty with the way I feel about him now. I wish he didn't have a dime so liking him wouldn't hurt now and force me to second guess my motives.

So the answer, I would consider it, but I probably would be guilted out of it.

depends on the guy. if he's annoying then nope. if i just don't have any feelings for him but can see myself with him then yeah i guess.
But from my personality, I can't leech off of ppl.... I've always been in control with my money. I don't know how I would be like if it wasn't the case

Hell no.

I'd be annoyed if I were married to someone who made more money than me.

That's actually really interesting. I never really thought about it that way. I think in a very superficial manner, I am very attracted to men with money, but I can honestly say that I would never marry a man for money. It's great if he does, but I can honestly say that optimistically, we will have relatively same income levels. If not exactly the same, then at least he can live comfortably without me in his life and I can let him pick up the check without feeling bad (or something like that). I would feel too insecure if *I* was the breadwinner in the relationship (of course, it's different if he gets laid off or something...). Among other things, I would think HE was a gold-digger.

Maybe cause I'm still young...but I just cannot be with someone I don't love....!! I wouldn't enjoy doing anything with someone I don't love, so I definitely wouldn't be able to stand living and being married to him. I've only had two boyfriends - I did not love my first bf....it just kinda happened because I was young, it happened so quickly, etc....after some time, I was emotionally MISERABLE....he paid for everything btw (rent, bills, and spoiling me)...in the end, it didn't matter. I still wanted to end it.

Cause I'm the type of person that likes to be with my significant other all the time....or else, I'd rather just hang out alone...unless I'm single and I'm with my girl friends or guy friends to go out and meet new people (bars, clubs, etc)..which is really in hopes TO meet someone I like/ will love. lol does that even make sense?

No way.. firstly because I plan on making a lot of money myself so I don't need to be with somebody solely for financial reasons. Secondly, I can't imagine being with somebody for the rest of my life if I didn't love them.

I was actually in this sort of situation before. I was being flattered and showered by presents, expensive dinners and etc from this one guy that came from a wealthy family. I knew him all throughout my high school years. Although I was a little happy and really enjoyed the attention, it all boiled down to the one day when he asked me to be his serious girlfriend with marriage in mind. Suddenly, all the gifts, money, dinners, social status that would be involved if I DID go out with him all vanished - I could only see him as my older brother. I gave him back all the presents he gave me and sadly rejected him. I knew deep in my heart that it wouldn't work out either way.

Even if I reaped all the benefits of having a "rich boyfriend," I'd rather be in a relationship with a man who earns an honest living, and have real feelings for him.

I don't think I can. It's such a tempting thought to not have to have financial stress and just shop and dine to my heart's content but having to look at someone I have no feelings for day in and day out is too much. I am very picky with people and if its someone that I have to have an intimate relation, I would suffocate.

Definitely no. I have too much pride to depend on someone else's money. No offense but marrying for money = gold digger, in my dictionary.

And I think you can live off what you make. Just don't spend it on things you don't need, like new clothes or eating out all the time. I guess it all depends on your standard of living.

Hell yea I would marry for money. I've been saying for years that I want to marry that rich girl and live my life casually. I even thought of trying to go for 40 year old.....cause they're probably financially stable, lol j/k...sort of. Anyways, I probably wouldn't mind.

you know, i actually thought about that seriously with the sh1tty economy and applying to 6-yr phd programs and still in debt and my family's financial situation not too great. i used to silently scorn people who would marry for money, but now i can understand why. i'm tempted to, but ultimately, i don't think my conscience would allow me to just because i still, sadly, believe in marrying for love.

like the chinese saying "eat soft rice" it may be tempting but it really is hard to actually do it from a guy's perspective because i would prefer to be a "big man" and take care of my girl instead of vice versa. but if the girl was rich and hot then i would go for it right away =p

there's nothing wrong about being a gold digger; everyone has their own preference.

for me if he's old enough to be my dad or grandpa i'd say hell no. i'd rather be poor and endure the hardship.

but on the other hand if he's decent looking (average) and loves me then maybe. love is over rated. i don't think all the marriages in this world are due to love only. if he treats me well then what's the reason not to love him back? but i still don't plan on using all his money. you definitely have more freedom if you earn and use your own money not anyone else's.

i wonder why people are so naive in believing that marrying people for money is so easy. using other's people ain't easy i'll tell you. you think they're just gonna give you all their money? that's stupid. if they're that dumb they wouldn't be rich. what if they're a wife beater like someone said? haha i won't take that risk. besides rich people only marry rich people of their class. who's gonna look at someone poor?

though i wish there was a good looking rich guy for me LOL only in dramas sadly.

As much as I love money I don't think I'll be able to marry a guy for money. I mean I would be able to do all the things I've wanted or buy the things that I want! But, I can't imagine myself being with someone I'm not attracted to. Just thinking about having to sleep with him makes me want to run the other way. I'm assuming I'm not physically attracted to this person. I think I'm at a stage where looks matter more than money. So, I guess I'd rather marry a hot poor guy. =/

no. i would never marry for money.
that's a terrible thing to do. you are allowing someone to purchase you. that's prostitution.

make your own money. depend on yourself. marry someone because you love them, not because you love their wallet.

marriage without love will be miserable for both people.

At my age, no. If I was near my 40's and have had no successful attempts at love, then I would consider it. I would have to at least like him as a person though. Not all marriages are based on love. I wouldn't fool him and tell him I was in love with him, but I would be a good partner and stand by him and not just use him for money. I think that is too devious, I couldn't do that to someone....

But wow, I'd love to make 13USD an hour right now, argh. It doesn't sound like much but considering I live a pretty good life at a muuuch lower income, gosh, I wonder what the hell people spend their money on when they make 50K a year and complain about not making enough money.

I would never marry for money for two reasons. One, marriage is never guaranteed to last (and even more so if you go into a marriage not loving that person for them) and I wouldn't want to waste years being with someone I don't care about . And two, I'd rather depend on myself than others because I hate when people throw things in my face later on down the road. Both are personal experiences I had to learn the hard way.

I've thought about it when I was younger and I had said no, but now that I'm older heck yes! LOL! Why? Well, I hate to admit it but money does make the world go round and it does buy happiness. Tell me otherwise, but I don't care. It's the obivious especially here in the US of A. We work so hard for what? MONEY!

Anyway, if I could choose to marry for money I'd probably would. It definitely would make me happier and I can so much more with my life. Who knows how things will turn out, but it doesn't hurt to at least dream a bit of it. I've never been one who gets all in life. I grew up poor and til this day I am still struggling, but I've learn to make most of it. If a little money comes along my way, I might just take the offer.

Yes, and then divorce. haha
But seriously,
the way how you put it, wouldn't it be equivalent to prostitution more or less? lol

No, because I can survive hunter and gatherer-style. Just like the general wild mammal, I'm bound to live for love.

There are places in this world where people don't have much, but depend on one other's love to survive. A baby from a family living in poverty can live clinging to the mother by the love she gives best.

Yes but only if I like my partner. Meaning, I don't love him but like him enough to sleep with him and live with him

No. As cynical as I am about the idealism of love in this day and age, I still would never marry for money.

gosh no, that would probably make me miserable. Sure money is desirable and all but forcing yourself to be with someone you really have no value or liking towards would be painful and tedious.

You are a typical Korean, they marry for money and status, or to help their families.

My sister once said to me AFTER her divorce with her husband...she said; "Don't marry someone who you love more than he loves you." I thought that was no way to live your life. What about the sacrifices you make or the hardships you go through together to make your relationship stronger???
So I guess if you're afraid of heartbreak, and you are someone who doesn't care to experience all that life has to give then...why not marry someone who you're only partial to. Even if it is for money...it probebly won't last anyways.

I agree that love is over rated, BUT I'm also a romantic at heart. I still believe there is someone for everyone. So no, I refuse to marry for money. But hey if the guy happens to have some...thats a good plus. Though good ol' gentlemen are in low supply. Its quite disappointing that they're only found in a good novel these days.

lol wtf? You clearly did not read what I wrote properly.
1. I'm not korean
2. I never said I would marry for money . In fact, I said the contrary.


lol

No.
I wouldn't wanna sleep in the same bed with somebody who I don't find attractive or am not in love with.
I would never marry for money.

Like what some people say....
if you want to marry a rich person, then why not BECOME a rich person?

Yes I would marry for money but I would have to like him enough to want to be with him.

only if there's no pre nup

=)

No, I have much more self respect than that.

Nope. It's really easier said than done as well lol (when people say that they're able to marry someone whom they don't fancy), I think. True love and being with someone you are really, really into are one of the best feelings in the world, no amount of money can give me that much happiness.

I chose freedom over security.

I don't think I could live with someone forever, even outside of the marriage, just because they provide for me.
I would rather change myself, my views, my morals/principles and try to make money to support myself. I don't really need all that much. A human actually doesn't need much when it comes to SURVIVAL. Basic calories, some heat...clothes on your back, maybe even a roof over your head with 3 walls is fine.

If you think you NEED a car, a house, channel bag, gucci shoes, or even fancy Kellogs branded cereals, you're wrong.
You don't need all that stuff to survive, you need it to fit into society and maintain a specific lifestyle, not necessarily survival.

Capitalism is a funny thing. "Standard of Living" pffffft, what is YOUR standard?

^ Basics needs....hm.....that's boring!!!! To live JUST to survive...that's a way to live your only life you have on earth. Money just makes a life lots easier and to do whatever you want in your lifetime is just something a lot of people want. I know I do.

Money doesn't make me happy, it helps me do the things I want to do.
Doing what I want, makes me happy.

So yes, having money frees up a lot of time, I like money.
However... give myself for money? Having to be with someone (marry) to have money?
Spend 1/2 my life with them JUST so I can do what I want to do?

No thanks, my time is more valuable.
I can make my own money and have the power to chose who I want to be with.
If I can't make money, I would still chose to live a simple life and do what I want.

I would rather have freedom over security.


I was using survival (need) vs living comfortably/living to a standards (want).