(...................hope this is okay and that takashi doesn't mind my copy-catting. I checked this forum's polls and this side hasn't been covered yet)

NOTE: I put "generally speaking" because I think it's to be understood that for most of us, the height rule wouldn't apply to a really amazing guy.


I'm not naturally attracted to guys who are shorter than me, even though I'm a little over 5'8. And most of the guys I meet do tend to be taller than me, but I don't even consider a guy to be tall unless he's 6'2" or taller. (My ex was 6'1 or so, I think, and he didn't look so tall to me. I didn't wear heels with him and I don't think he would have wanted me to, either.) The guy I've found most attractive in my lifetime though was 5'9 or 5'10 or so but he pointed out that he was taller right away, which kind of made him taller than that in my head... Still, I consider him to be on the shorter end of my physical attraction spectrum (?).

So generally speaking I don't think I would date someone shorter than me. If the guy was somehow really interested, of course I would consider it, but I don't really expect guys who are shorter than me to find me all that attractive either, so it works both ways. (My mom does think shorter individuals, especially men, tend to be more innately hardworking and successful though, and not to be heightist but I kind of agree. Plus the idea of a guy who's shorter than me but loves that I'm tall and doesn't feel at all threatened by it is really attractive.)

i don't think i'd ever consider dating a guy who's shorter than me, i've always had a hard time with my own 5'7 stature. i feel more secure with a taller guy. i've read before that girls are attracted to taller guys because it's a primitive "taller guy represents more power, can provide better" thing.

I've actually dated a guy who was about 2-3 inches shorter than me and another who was only a little bit taller than me (about half an inch difference, but I'd be taller with heels on). I'm actually not tall at all (about 5'5.5''), so I guess I just attract really short guys? "Generally speaking," I'm not physically attracted to shorter guys...but personality and a great sense of humor always win me over! Confidence and the way a guy carries himself are also important...it's kind of funny because the shorter guy I dated loved having a "tall" girlfriend and liked when I wore heels, even if it made our height difference even bigger o.o; But the guy who was close to my height hated it and never wanted me to wear heels...the lack of confidence and need to be taller was definitely a turn-off. =.=

Well.. I'm 5'10" and that tends to intimidate guys who are shorter than me.. so no, I would not (unless I really liked him and we could both look past our respective heights).

I think I would, but I would probably feel a bit self conscious at least at first. I'm 5'5" so it's not a problem I come across often, but I do prefer when guys are significantly taller than me b/c I often wear heels that are 4 inches or more. Luckily my bf is 6'.

I'm 5'11 so it's really tough for me to find a guy taller than I am. My exes thus far have all been either my height or just a little taller. It's funny because height had been a really important dating factor to me and I could never imagine myself dating someone shorter. Ever since I could remember, I've been insecure about my height and I always felt that dating a shorter guy would just draw unwanted attention.

Even if the difference was by an inch or two, I'd be very reluctant to pursue anything further than just friendship. If the difference was more than that? No way, I wouldn't (and still can't) consider dating that person. I love how safe and secure I feel when I'm with a guy that's taller and bigger than I am. I feel like a shorter person would be unable to provide me with that.

It's funny because I actually just started dating someone who's around 5'9-5'10. In the beginning, I was shy, maybe almost embarrassed, to hold hands and walk side-by-side with him in public. A lot's changed though and I'd like to think that I'm not as insecure or self-conscious as before. If he doesn't care about our height difference, why should I? I doubt that I'd still date someone who was significantly shorter than I am but I've come to realize that height isn't everything.

So to answer the question: yes, I would.. but to an extent!

I'm 5' so I'm lucky that there are rarely any guys out there in the sea that are shorter than me. But in senior high I dated someone that was my height and let me tell you, it felt weird as heck. I felt like we were elemenetary school kids running around and that wasn't cool. I dumped him not because of that reason but because he did something stupid.

I usually attract guys that are 6'0 plus though, I have no clue why? My last bf used to LOVE to tease me every day and even joked I had dwarf syndrome and nicknamed me "The Short One" on his caller ID. Men.

i'm not against short people i just think every girl out there would like their man to be taller than them..so you feel protected and safe...and let's face it when you're out with someone shorter than you, you'll get a few looks here and there..

Yes, I would. I don't really care, though below 5'2" or so would be pushing it. It would be far more likely that the guy was the one who would have ego issues or feel weird about it. I'm 5'5" and I actually like guys right around my height. A bit shorter is fine. Taller is OK, too, but am I the only woman who dislikes the feeling of being towered over by a hulk of a man all the time? I don't give a damn about "feeling protected" either, so maybe that's why I have no problem with shorter or younger guys. I don't need a protector or a hunter, I just want a decent man. Oh well, between not minding guys my height or a bit shorter and not minding younger guys, I guess that just leaves more options for me!

i'm 5'1" and i used to ONLY be attracted to shorter guys.
but i ended up marrying a taller man.

i think if you love the person it just never matters.

Sure I would if they had a good personality.

Of course, if there were two guys with equally good personalities but one was short and the other was tall I would go for the tall one. Luckily, I'm 5' 3" so it's not hard to find guys who are taller than me.
Actually in high school, I had a crush on a guy who was the same height as me. So I say, if the personality shines, height can be overlooked.

No. I'm already really short so I can't have a guy that's shorter. I can't even consider them to be of a love interest if they are shorter than me

I'm 5'1" so I don't think I'd fancy the idea of dating a guy shorter than me. I think it's the whole man protecting woman thing. Maybe it's because I get insecure about my own height that I find taller dudes so attractive. They have what I want, and all that Freudian goodness.

No I don't think I would. I mean, come on, i'm like 4'11.. how hard is it to be taller than a girl my height? Lol.

i went on one date with a guy who is like the same height as me. from a distance away, i thought he was a midget. sorry but i cant date a guy shorter or the same height or even just BIT taller.

i dunno with me height is a big issue. You can put the hottest guy in front of me to date, but if he is shorter than me...its a turn off..

Boy, for a guy my height ..... I'm afraid I don't like the trend I'm reading here....

I'm 5'2 and my boyfriend is shorter than me He's about 5 (And HE'S 26! ILY babe ). Don't think it should matter though... why pass up a short guy with a great personality and settle for a tall guy who treats you like crap? (Been there, done that - not a great result as you can imagine). And yeah... I agree that you want someone who will protect you and all of that, but let's face it. If a guy is not into you he won't protect you. A short small statured guy might not look like he will protect you, but if he loved you he'd fight to the death (Literally maybe) to protect you and a tall, muscular who doesn't give a crap about you might be the first to runaway. Didn't you guys learn, "Don't judge a book by it's cover"?!

I'm pretty sure I'm shorter than you.

C'mon ladies, give me a shot. I cook a mean microwavable mac&cheese, lol.

@123qwerty - T^T you give me hope. Thanks.

No im short enough.. man ill feel bad for my kids if thier father was SHOrter =(

Wow I didn't realize women paid attention to height so much, I won't slouch anymore =)

I'm already short enough (around 5'0"). It's not soo much about height, too, but proportions - like if the guy is tall but has a smaller frame than me, I would find that really unattractive.

But if you guys really are shorter, tell me the honest truth: Would you feel secure dating someone taller? It's more an issue of the guy feeling uncomfortable than anything else for me. I like feeling "protected" as much as the next girl but what really bothers me about the thought of dating a guy shorter than me is how it would make him feel. And it does generally seem to be the case (according to the other thread) that a guy is going to find it hard not to feel threatened or less "manly" around a girl who's taller than him. Dating someone who you intrinsically make feel insecure is rarely going to turn out well for anyone.

If a guy takes care of himself, is somewhat confident in who he is and willing to take initiative I think other things kind of fall out of the picture. Guys don't have to be tall or super built to be protective or masculine but I think it's because even they feel that those are qualifications that girls tend to think it's generally a taller guy who's going to make her feel more safe or more like a girl(?).

I'm 5'4 so really just around average but I've never been attracted to guys that are shorter than me. I don't know what it is but it might be that my dad tends to be on the taller side of asian men and my mom kept brainwashing me when i was growing up that I have to find a guy taller than me. I just like taller men. Preferably someone at least 4" taller than me so that when i put on those 3" pumps they're still taller than me!

^ i'm also 5'4 and it feels i would date a kid when the guy's shorter than me ><

I'm 5'9 and the answer is NO.

shorter by 1cm...maybe
if he had a kickarse personality


otherwise, no. I'm 5'7

lol, i don't think that there would be any guy shorter than me.. *the advantage of being short! haha*
and uh.. i'd feel bad for my kids DX

I honestly wouldn't know the answer if I would feel secure dating someone taller. All I know is, if given the chance and having the right mindset....I'll go for it. I'll worry about everything later.

When I said give me a shot, I meant the shorties, lol. All the REAL short ones want the super tall ones >__<

i'm less than 5' so that guy has to be a midget
who knows. I like short guys - they're less intimidating

nope, i'm already shorter (5'3) so there's no way i'd date a guy shorter. since i tend to wear heels quite a lot, i actually would need my guy to be at least 5'8.

I am fond of tall guys. I feel secure with their height, if anything happened, I can depend on his height.

I'm 5'3" and already short so I rather want to date 5'6" or taller guys.

no i wouldn't. i wouldn't even consider dating a guy shorter than me. :x

Height is one of those things that all my female friends are nitpicky about. I'd say it's the biggest contributing physical factor.

That said, I don't mind it when a girl prefers to date a taller guy, but when they require a 10-12" height difference, that's just beyond weird. 5'0" girls wanting to date 6'0" guys...rofls

I think it's reasonable for both parties to expect somewhat of a height difference to play into what they find attractive.

^

I was going to say something similar. Haha.

I am a guy and my GF is the same height, 5'8. She's a physiotherapist so she's really active and fit- maybe that's why she's also aggressive + positive and never the type of girl to back down and get scared. I have to admit I do love confident women.

For a guy, I am pretty short. But my personality never let it bothered me. People would assume that I would want a shorter girl but looking back on the past I mostly fell for girls over 5'4. I never lacked confidence despite my height so I wouldn't want to be with someone who would let it bother them. Most of the girls that I have met in the past who were about 5 feet acted like they couldn't do anything for themselves. I mean it is great to always be there for your lady and help her out, but it gets tiring when she constantly lets simple things challenge her from living her life. Taller women seem to have that go getter type of personality.

She is very mature- maturity is very attractive to me- so she isn't bothered by it either. Her exes were always one or two inches shorter or taller than her so height isn't a big deal for her. I remember her saying it is really the personality that does it for her. There are guys who are 6'0 and want to be 6'5 so they walk around with that kind of outlook on things.

I like it when she wears heels, but nothing outrageous like 4+ inches high, they look like torture devices to me. She feels the same way, actually with her occupation she's always running around in comfortable gears with orthopedics ("feels like walking on clouds"). Honestly, I like girls who can make jeans and sneakers look good than a girl who's always clanking her heels. I know height does bother some guys and others who embrace taller girlfriends, but I know more guys who like to tower over their women- I guess it's evolution + society. And from this thread- it seems like many women like to feel smaller than their man.

I personally never really cared in the past- I let confidence and personality be my judge. I have dated a girl who was exactly 5 feet and she had the most positive outlook on life. She was ready to roll up her sleeves and didn't mind giving anything all that she's got + sweetest personality and deep insights. If a girl has all that and was 5'10, I wouldn't mind either. With that being said- I don't know how I would feel being with a girl who measured at 6'2, give or take one or two inches, or on the opposite at 4'11. Something feels off balanced for me.... I don't know how couples that are 5' pairing up with 6'2 do it. But I do strongly feel that if I liked her enough- things will work themselves out, ya know.

height isn't an absolute deal breaker for me, but i gues it has a played a role on a subconscious level because the men i am attracted to tend to be in that 5'10" - 6'3" range.

i'm 5'6" and i love a good pair of heels so on an average day i'm standing at around 5'9", so i don't really get approached by a lot of shorter guys anyway. but back in the day height never stopped me from having a crush on michael j fox and mark wahlberg (don't judge me...i did say it was back in the day)

I probably wouldnt.. sorry For me, when a guy is taller, it adds to his masculinity.

There was a similar poll on here asking guys if they would date a taller woman, and most said yes.


I rock heels and flats, but it's either 0 or 4+ inches for me!

I'm just under 6'0 and for some reason, shorter guys seem to be attracted to me while taller guys (6'1-6'3) seem to like shorter girls but really tall guys 6'4/6'5+ tend to like tall girls like me

So would I date a shorter guy? Someone who's just around my height or like 1 inch shorter. If he's considerably shorter, I don't think so.

Height is the first thing I check out in a guy....


One of my good friends (and roommates) is 5'1, and her boyfriend is 6'3. I love them, but I always giggle inside whenever I see them together. She looks like a little child compared to him. But hey, they're happy.

I wouldn't. Only because I like the feeling of security from a guy. When a guy is big and tall (well, taller than me) then it promotes more security for me. I feel weird being with a guy who is shorter than me. But really, it's a subjective matter, to some people, height doesn't matter, and thats a good thing.

Man, I'm a guy, 5'6", and for some reason, surrounded by tall people. I'm not sure if it's fate, coincidence, or some kind of curse but 9/10 people (both guys and girls) I meet are in the 5'8" to 6'3" range. It's ridiculous T_T.

But I guess because I'm always surrounded by tall people, I'm not bothered by the height issue at all. My girlfriend is actually 5'8" and she says she doesn't mind the fact that I'm shorter either. She also wears heels all the time and I'm not bothered by it in the least when I'm with her.

I'm 5ft so I wouldn't want to date anyone shorter than me. I prefer a guy to be at least as tall or taller than me when I wear heels. I've only dated guys that were closer to 6ft though which I find weird because I've been attracted to guys way shorter than that. My friends and family disagree and like tall guys because they give off a protective vibe just because their height. Taller guys can look like they'll be protective over someone smaller but looks can be deceiving lol. In my experience I've stood up for myself more times than any guy has so for me that isn't a factor.

No...height is just one of those things for me. I like to feel security, and I can't imagine myself staring down at someone. >.< It's a must for the guy to be at least 5'7'' or taller. I'm only 5'3'' so it's not all that hard. I wouldn't feel comfortable if the guy is the same height or shorter than me when I'm in heels.

I'm pretty short, so it's probably not going to happen (meeting a guy shorter than me) but if I did, I would probably not consider him for a boyfriend x_x

I'm 5'1 so it is very rare to find a guy shorter than me, especially at my age, so I guess I should thank my lucky stars when it comes to the advantages of being a short girl, but my shallow side would like a guy that is still taller than me even when I wear my heels so preferably 5'7+

As a preference I choose taller men. My boyfriend is quite tall and I must say I'm very content with the difference, it's not too drastic. It's always odd seeing some couples with a massive height difference, it can be quite an amusing sight.

Anyways, I think I would probably feel awkward with someone shorter.. kind of 'manly' in a sense. It just doesn't seem as if it would be appealing.

i wouldnt consider someone shorter than me, cuz id feel like id be cuddling up with a kid o_O and anyways, im only 5'4", a guy shorter than that would be....very very short....

Been there...done that. Mostly because I thought height shouldn't matter as long as there was affection. Wrong...it turned out that height matters.