At home, study, work or in a social environment? Past or present? Have your ever encountered bullying? If so, feel free to share your personal experiences and opinions

In what ways have you personally coped with a bully or bullying of a loved one?
- My 9 year old niece. I went through all the proper channels without much success. Final straw was her grazed knee and a swollen lump to her forehead. I taught her self defense.

- In my youth I was bullied a bit, it usually ended up physical but one bully went on into high school (we didn't even
attend the same schools ) but I remember her well, was more about intimidation and psyche. I beat her in success at an activity

Were your methods successful or not, why?
Yes, they were successful, yet some went on for years I remember the day she came home, the look in her eyes, confidence and achievement, "I did it, Aunty! I did it! It worked! It worked! I did what you told me!" But because she fought back, she was placed on detention

In your opinion, which is the best approach to bullying?
I think it depends. Approach varies Unfortunately, from personal experience, the most widespread approach has been a physical one

Share some of yours and thanks!

If I had kids, I'd tell them "do not feed the trolls" but also teach them the bob and weave and the old one-two. Hopefully they'll come to understand what's appropriate for what situations.

In what ways have you personally coped with a bully or bullying of a loved one?

Being weird has always cast me as an outsider, so bullying was all the natural side effect of that. I wish I had done more but nothing came to ends. I ignored the attempts of bullying and their flame fizzled and they moved to someone better. Sure the emotional scars are left, I'm still dealing with them though highschool was years away.

Were your methods successful or not, why?

If you mean by success they left me alone eventually yes, if by success you mean I avoided emotional strain then no. I wish I had spoken up and stood up for myself, I would be more confident in fighting everyday battles and dealing with difficult people who criticise and obliviously put you down.

In your opinion, which is the best approach to bullying?
I don't believe in violence, I don't condone it and I never will. I believe in self defense, I also believe in mediation and talking it out. Most cases bullies are abused/bullied themselves and so going through the problem will save two people, not just one if you are comparing to fighting which humiliates one party and deludes the other party that violence solves problems.

a gun is the simplest way to cope with bullying

In what ways have you personally coped with a bully or bullying of a loved one?
My brother got picked on a bit in elemntary school while I was in high school. I went to pick him up one day and he came and told me about it. I made it abundantly clear to the boy that I wouldn't condone anything like that. I did the same for my sister when we were very young. She got picked on my a classmate. That was a bit tougher since her bully was a girl, I made it very obvious the consequences of such continued behaviour.

Were your methods successful or not, why?
Oh yes. Back then I was a VERY large lad for my age and people took me very seriously.

In your opinion, which is the best approach to bullying?
Hard to say since I've never been bullied. I guess the threat of very severe consequences is usually enough. Me and my brother are quite large lads so it's usually pretty obvious that picking on either of us or our sister would be very bad idea. Having siblings is a blessing.

I WAS the bully in school. I was also a straight A student, president of the student body, and a member of the chess club, book club, and math club, etc.

Bullying is an enjoyable practice that more people should consider in their youth /sarcasm

In what ways have you personally coped with a bully or bullying of a loved one?
Weren't we all bullied once in life? Infact I'm sure "we" were all once a bully (don't lie now, making fun of someone behind their back counts). For me, "bully" isn't the right word, being "picked on" was. Nothing ever got physical.. really, unless you consider bumping eachother in the hallway to be physical which technically is but no one got seriously injured >=) But anywho the way I dealt with it, was just as immature as they were, but it all happened in high school and high school is high school.

On the other hand, my bestfriend whom I known for 4 years now which attended the same school as I did was bullied sorta, but moreso being taken for a fool. I basically just sorta gave her the shake on the shoulders and told her what was happening. She figured it out and dealt with it in her own ways after that, which got pretty hilarious but gave her the two thumbs up for it.

Were your methods successful or not, why?
Successful in terms of scoring the goal to hurt my enemy? Well, I don't know about that, but I can tell you we sure weren't afraid to be bold about our actions But again, it was immature and it all happened in high school so it's nothing I'm proud of and if I were as mature now back when I was in school, I can say I would definately have treated the situation differently.

In your opinion, which is the best approach to bullying?
Do not stoop to their level (duh) and if you ever get bullied by someone, think of it this way, you must be pretty special for them to be revolving their lives around yours:) So just sit back and relax, enjoy your life, and just watch these idiots tard out. It'll be entertaining.

Kanye West knows whats up.

Non-violence doesn't solve violence. Violence solves violence.

^AHAHAHAHA! i laughed out loud at both those comments.

scared my cat, too.

Gosh this happened a lot for me actually. In 2nd grade I just took it.Looking back I wish I would have kicked his ass. In fourth grade when I moved to korea this kid would try to pick on me cause of my limited korean. Punched him in the face and he left me alone after that. 6th grade back in america, another bully gave me mini cooper. Couldnt really fight it since it was much bigger than me. After that was when I got big into sports, so I got really muscular. People left me alone after that.

If my future children ever got in the same situation, I would encourage them to kick their ass. It would be nice to just say "Tell them it isnt nice and to stop" but we all know that isnt going to accomplish anything.

In what ways have you personally coped with a bully or bullying of a loved one?
i have not been bullied but did get into fights and maybe did some light bullying in the past. but my cousins been bullied which is a lot younger than me and i went to the school told that guy to bring his brother and his friends and i went with 3 friends then the guy got scared and left my cousin alone. recently my gr1 cousin got bullied and her gr7 sister told the "bully" that she'll call the cops then that "bully" got scared lol

Were your methods successful or not, why?
my method was successful because in order to beat a bully your have to scare them.

In your opinion, which is the best approach to bullying?
how i see it is don't let anyone mess you around. if someone is bullying you then you could snitch but it isn't the best option. if you want to beat a bully then stand up for yourself or start taking martial arts then learn to defend yourself otherwise join a "group" so then you're not alone.

Certainly you don't mean that?
Must be the sippy-sippy talking.

As for bullying, there's nothing that I can really do when I am bullied.
I mean my gosh, telephone collectors and landlords are pretty much relentless.

wow anyone who gets bullied is a small fry

I used to be bullied a bit back in preschool, and in middle school (a lot) and a little in highschool. Middle school was probably the worst. I got picked on, but I held my ground. I would have liked to drop kick them back then, and yes, I would have liked to stand up for myself a little better, but I have a tougher skin now. Instead of swaping insults, it's time to take their buts to HR~

When a loved one is bullied, it's a completely different matter! I'm all over that bully like white on rice on a paper plate in the middle of a snow storm... I can't stand seeing my loved ones getting bullied.

Sucessful...I'm not really sure. I'm at the point where bullying is for kiddies, and doing so now just makes you look ridiculous.

To approach bullying...I say verbal first, and don't be the one to throw the first punch. I'm all for non violence and what not, but who's going to feel good about themselves if they stand there and get punched in the face?

one time my smart lanky friend was sitting on a bench and the cool kids started throwing acorns at him.

and he was like a friendly giant kind of guy so he was just sitting there doing nothing.

i totally lost it and grabbed like 10 acorns off the ground and threw it at them as hard as i could

hahahahaha
john teshers
man i was pisssed

this was like almost 10 years ago i think iwas 14 or 15

i duno hahaha


bully the bully!!
=D

also who is john teshers????

i definatley did not type that...
freaky

If bullies can be identified so easily then we would have a list of suggestions for parents.

Fact of life is 'bullies' are as hard to define as 'good' or 'bad'.

I would think the central message to kids is: bullies are people too.

Then follow up with: and you have to learn to deal with different kinds of people in the world.

Learning to cope with situations and figuring out their own way of dealing with bullies (which includes seeking help) is something that kids have to be taught, and then do for themselves in my opinion. Of course as parents, overseers etc. it is only natural to intervene and do things for them ...

i remember being in 2nd grade and taking taekwondo, some boy in my class was making fun of me. during recess, i showed him a few of my cool tricks i learned in taekwondo only to get in trouble by one of the teachers. i remember clearly what she said to me, too, "this isn't a power rangers episode. you shouldn't kick your friend." friend, my as*. he stopped bothering me after that.

but my nephew is taking karate. the "older" kids or more advanced level kids occasionally bullies him. what's worse, those stupid parents sitting there watching their kids see the bullying happen yet still blames my nephew for being the "bad kid". when my sister went to pick him up, the other parents talk so much crap and tells her that her "brother" needs to calm down (when he's her son) and that my nephew punched the other kids but somehow my nephew ended up with a bloody nose. now i have to be there to monitor the situation so i can handle it or have his dad do something about it. ugh.

Talking from experience it's pointless to talk to teacher or other adults for help. Only violence can solve bully.

You gotta fight for your right....







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In my last office, there was this woman that made my life a living hell. Every day for a month she would make me cry in my office and screw up my work on purpose. Needless to say, I made sure I got the last laugh before I quit. I may be innocent looking and easy to push around, but once you go past my tolerance level my claws appear and I attack. But of course, only when necessary.

Bullying at the Workplace

This being in the 20+ thread I would like to think that resolution of being bullied would to confront your bully to seek understanding, compromise. There is obviously something the individual does not like about you, so would it hurt to find out what? I was bullied not too long ago and decided to take the issue to the proper authorities, but I didn't want the idiot to lose his job since I don't plan on working there for much longer. So, it'd be pointless to fight a battle with him. Yeah, I tend to have a bit too much compassion even for those that wills me harm in some form. Instead of letting someone handle my problem(s), I took it upon myself to speak with the idiot. It just turned out he was insecure of himself. Much ado to nothing. Now it seems like we're friends, but I wouldn't consider it that. He brings me pears to eat, haha! It's best to make allies out of your enemies if you can. It's the 20+ something way to deal. At least, that's what I hope.

A bully of the Family

I used to bully people because at heart I'm a devil. I used to find satisfaction and humor in making others feel like pink berries. But, my inner devils weren't at all vicious and heartless. I bullied with the intent of doing good. I chose my victims based upon an analysis of their psyche. If they respond well then I could work with them. If they responded in a negative manner then I would stop. Years after my bullying people I bullied came back to tell me how much they appreciated my bullying. Talk about reverse psychology. I had a guy come back to me in High School thanking me for the harsh verbal punishment and sometimes physical abuse I gave him. He said that had it not been for me then he wouldn't have changed for the better. When I met up with again, he had a girlfriend for the FIRST time in his life. Apparently my bullying in junior high made him stronger. Surprised? You damn right I was. The last thing on my mind was to be appreciated. It worked.

My nephew grew up spoiled and I was the one to put him in his place. Recently speaking to him I only had just found out that he doesn't carry any ill feeling towards me. Instead, the kid now in high school thanked me for it. He said to me that it has made him stronger. When people pick on him, he doesn't resort to anything because their bullying has no affect. Apparently my bullying of him as he was growing up made him immune to the bullying of others. A bright kid he is, and I couldn't be more proud to be his uncle. No matter how crappy I treated my family. They love me that much more now because of their understanding. I've long stopped being a bully, at least, to my family. Perhaps because there is no one left to bully. Haha! I've rambled enough. I shall stop. If you read this then thanks for reading.

The only way to counter a bully is to strike back. Words are meaningless. I find that bullies are cowards and if they are threatened with grevious body harm, they will stop. I was bullied once by a guy in elementary. He decided to punch me in the chest one day probably because I thought the best way to counter his bullying was to ignore him so he thought I was a weakling he can push around. So I cried but my best friends kicked him in the legs, pulled his hair and punched him in the stomach. Then called the teacher over and got him in trouble for bullying. They were a tough girls. Not only did he stop bullying me but we all became friends.

kchan

are you a girl?

did a guy punch u in the chest?

when you were still in elementary schooL?

or are you a guy

and did a gang of girls

do your dirty work for you

becuase a punch in the chest

vs a girl is pretty much low blow

fo sho

(better than the crotch tho)

In what ways have you personally coped with a bully or bullying of a loved one?
my sis got bullied a lot when she was younger, though its not like i couldve done much, shes my older sis by 7 yrs. me on the other hand, ive never been bullied. simply because ive always made it quite clear to people not to mess around with me. not that i was a brute or anything, i was simply confident.

Were your methods successful or not, why?
im assuming they were succesful, cuz ive never been bullied. i did get into some close scraps every once in a while, but as long as you dont corner yourself and they know youre not scared, theyll back off.

In your opinion, which is the best approach to bullying?
stand your ground and try to get outta there as fast as possible. violence only leads to more violence (and god help you if youre not strong enough to beat them). and dont waste your breathe telling teachers. they wont do squat.