as the topic title asks, how did your parents feel about any of you guys going somewhere far, far from home? did they object? were they okay with it? if they were against it, how did you convince them? or did you just do what they told you?

this rest you don't have to read, you can just answer the question. the rest of this is just my situation. i'd be really grateful if you read and gave me advice though. :]

i was thinking about aiming to go to NYU even though i live in california. my mom wants me to stay home for a couple years. she even once said that the only university i'm allowed to apply and go to is the one right next to home. she PROBABLY didn't mean it, but i think she'd prefer that.

honestly, i don't want to stay around home. i want to experience new things and go live out on my own. i've been living in this bubble of a city for such a long time. i need to start becoming more independent. i want to try supporting myself. my oldest brother is always constantly telling me "move awayyy from home. you need to get out of here. you've been sheltered all your life."

i brought it up with her to see what she thought...she got slightly angry/annoyed i think and told me that there was no way i was going there. it kind of makes me sad. she's always deciding what i do with my life. i've lost confidence in telling her what i ever want to do because of how pathetic she makes me feel when i tell her.

should i just listen to her and go to the university near home? or should i try and persuade her? (which may make her more angry at me....ahh i don't know what to do. :[ )

ps. another problem that i put into mind. the university near my home isn't a totally easy place to get into. well, not for me, at least. i'm not a great student. i'll still apply, but i'm not really expecting them to accept me.

i really wanted to get out of here and kind of start new somewhere else. i have my reasons.

thank you so much if you read any of this

edit: thanks for the replies! :]] i can't believe that i actually forgot about one of the most important things to think about. lol, the cost. my mom was saying that it was really expensive and that i couldn't pay for it. well, i guess i could if i worked my way through there, but she said i would have no life if i did that. which i guess is true. and my parents won't be paying for any of my tuition. or that's what they told me, haha. i want to still think about it because it'd be like a dream to go over to NYU but, my parents completely disapprove and the cost would definitely be a problem. i still want to think about it though...LOL i was thinking of maybe getting a job right now and start saving up the money. i wonder if that would help it a bit? hahah

I currently live in Pennsylvania, and I only applied to colleges in Florida My parents actually told me that they will ONLY pay for my tuition if I go to school in Florida, which is the opposite of what most parents say haha. I am SO excited to move next summer, and I think it's going to be really good for me to learn independence this way

My sister did the same thing that I'm doing. When we were living in PA (we moved and then came back), she went to school at Florida State University. Although she was excited to be going to school there, she encountered a few problems. It was expensive for her to come home to visit us, and she got stuck with awful roommates. Eventually she met her now husband, and they got an apartment together, which solved the roommate problem though.

Wow, CA to NY is far. I'm in Central CA and I want to attend a Southern school. That alone in my opinion is far already. My mom doesn't object to where I want to go, but she tells me to apply to schools near home just in case. You never know how you'll feel once you're done with high school. I'm not going just for "experience", I think it's more than that because eventually in college, you'll experience some sort of responsibility whether you're far or near home.

& I think you'll really miss home too. I know I will. Especially having been nurtured all our lives, it's definitely hard to live without your mom right? I have 2 older siblings that go to school far away(I'll be last to leave.) My brother attends a school in Fremont and he ends up coming home every weekend--& it's a 3-4 hour drive to get here too. Talk about gas money. >.<
& my sister in Davis blogs about missing us a lot. lmao. You can tell that her mood changes once she's available to come home for just one weekend. It's all smiles. But then again, it was all their decision. Now this 'missing' is what they have to face, haha. I'm sure I'm going to feel the same next year too though. >.<

But definitely, it's your decision on what you want to do with your education. Maybe you can present to your mom what your major is and why NYU will help further that study. & if you've had a sibling that went someplace far, you can always argue with "how come [insert name] can go and I can't?". haha, that's what I'll be saying if my mom decides to change her mind. But I think I'll come to feel bad leaving her by herself. =((

Good luck with your decision. Maybe you can start applying at NYU. =D

I've been thinking about out-of-state colleges as well - UPenn - because I've been sheltered all my life as well and want to learn to be more independent. Heck, the only time I ever leave the house is for school and family parties. My parents told me to go to Berkeley if I get accepted because it's close to home, but they'd support me if I do decide to go out of state. However, my problem is whether I'd be able to leave or not if I do get accepted (which I probably won't) since it's on the other side of the United States. My sister goes to Berkeley and was going to move out, but just a few days living alone, she couldn't take it anymore and moved back home, choosing to commute instead. And this is the sister that's always out partying and hanging out with friends .. so I feel like I'm basically hopeless in moving so far away.

I say try to convince your mom to let you go if you really do want to go to NYU because you don't want to end up going to a college you don't like.

^^ you should tell them that NYU is a really good school (because it is.. ) and that its good to learn Independency..
i live in NY i was thinking about applying there but tuition is crazy expensive for NYU and i wanted to dorm so lol ..
i hope you get in!! that way your parents cant say no