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miki_ah
I was just thinking if there are people out there in this situation, where the relationship isn't going so great, and you guys just start to stop communicating with each other... Then you realise that maybe the relationship won't work like this, and it just fades away without anyone actually "breaking up" with the gf/bf?



Anyone had a relationship that just ended without actually "breaking up"?
PristineNyte
No. I need things to be clean cut and clear.
No matter how bad things get, or seem like they're getting, I'm not going to start talking to other men or doing things like that until my boyfriend says "this relationship is over." Until he says that, it's not.
IcansFly
I'm sorta in the same situation as you...haha.
I don't know what to do eitherr.

Even though the relationship isn't over, feels like it is.

But. IMO. Relationships are over when both parties agreeee. : D
Kinda like how hooking up with someone is different from being Gf/bf. If you get what i'm sayingg?
xquisitebabyy_
Well technically yes?

My ex and I both talked about how if I accepted an offer to attend a University in another province that we would no longer continue our relationship since we're both not the LDR type. So the day we broke up was the day I left. On the day of, we both didn't say a word to each other mentioning that that day was going to be the last day we were together as a couple. The moment we exchanged our good byes so I could get on my flight was when we both knew our relationship was over. We didn't go through the typical break-up process but we both knew we did indeed break-up.
PristineNyte
QUOTE (IcansFly @ Oct 21 2009, 11:00 PM) *
I'm sorta in the same situation as you...haha.
I don't know what to do eitherr.

Even though the relationship isn't over, feels like it is.

But. IMO. Relationships are over when both parties agreeee. : D
Kinda like how hooking up with someone is different from being Gf/bf. If you get what i'm sayingg?

LOL yeah right! I wish. You know how many relationships I could have saved if all I had to say was "no" when a guy tried to break up with me?
On another note, you know how awful life would be if they only had to say "no" when I tried to break up with them X__X
Regina Rae

Yeah. My last relationship actually =='' We both just kind of stopped talking to one another.
Next thing I knew we both were dating other people.
miki_ah
QUOTE (Regina Rae @ Oct 22 2009, 04:27 PM) *
Yeah. My last relationship actually =='' We both just kind of stopped talking to one another.
Next thing I knew we both were dating other people.



i hope that never happens to me =(
softskin
This happened to me once. My boyfriend started avoiding me sleep.gif
First I was upset... then angry... and then realised that this guy was a jerk!, and not worth dating
At the time my girlfriends helped me feel heaps better smile.gif
Btw, the best revenge is looking hot!!

I don't wan't to make things worse (I could be wrong, and I hope I am), but if your boyfriend is too busy talking to other people on msn than to talk to you, it is not a good sign...
* veenee
it wasn't really a dating relationship to begin with.. it was, i guess you can say "almost"... or what others called friends with benefits.

even i don't know. i liked this guy, and it seemed like he did too, always took me out to eat, holding hands.. like doing what couples DO, but not boyfriend girlfriend.. but after about 2 months, i guess he got tired of me or something.. one day suddenly just avoided me and.. moved on?

aznxmushu
i know what you mean, and know how you feel.
same thing kinda happened to me... my ex puts up the "I'M BUSY" excuse all the time.
i'm in none of his classes so i never even get to see him.
eventually i just STOP talking... we went as long as a month!
then we started to be what some junior high couples are... their together but their never a couple together.
so the one day i finally get to talk to him again... i just broke it off...
i think that in you're situation.. it's not going to OFFICIALLY end if none of you don't say soo...
so it's up to you, have the 'taken' status and act feel ike you're single. or just break it off =/
good luck, hope this helps?

andi.
XJShinoda
I have a friend who ended his relationship just like that. <.< Poor girl, she deserves a better guy than him.
sus
u just have to get an answer out of him
force him... to decide...
hannieoon
Yes. LoL. But it turns out the other guy needed closure because he contacted asking me if he wanted to hookup couple of months later. -____-
yukinohana
had a similar relationship.
he ended up breaking up with me
we didnt talk for 2 months. haha
sixth.
yep. he cheated, i found out.. didn't bother officially breaking up with him, because it was pretty obvious he wasn't treating our relationship seriously anyway.
TAEKLY.


Haaa, I have, and it's not fun. There's going to be a day where you'll wonder the big "what if..." and yeah.

It's better to do it nice and clean, because it shows you're mature enough to attack the relationship head-on. 8D
courtneyy
roflmao.
yeah.
well, actually... he had gone ahead with the whole broken up thing three days before we actually talked about breaking up -___-'' he took off the pictures of us on his facebook, deleted all the quotes that was related to us, and yeah. we hadn't talked for a while before that because he failed to text me back on numerous occasions -__-''

it's actually quite lame. and i don't advise that people go this route, heh. T__T''

mizz_J
Never had this happen to me
I hope i never have to go through this =/ But eh who knows.

People should just break up face to face rather than this whole avoidance thing. Closure hurts, but it's better than nothing in my opinion.
x3Secret
It happened to my friend.
Her boyfriend just got tired and couldn't handle being in a relationship anymore so he just started to ignore her. Such a jerk.
xoxo_03
I have a friend who had a relationship like this. But back then, they were so young lol. It was during two months of school vacation they lost communication and that was how they broke up. No words were said. And now they're not together anymore.
mandoo*
Yes. The relationship never ended .. we just kind of fell apart.
secretwishess
Only like once. Its like we just stop talkinq out of no where
& fell apart. not seeinq each other
& than i saw him just starts to see other qirls & date
so i was like.. o_o
ohkaays. LOOL!
shern
that is the main reason why i don't prefer to date guys- especially the guys whom i like
queenxmabel
I have! It was right after he came back from Vegas. I guess we were both feeling like we had lost a connection to each other. We never said, "let's break up" to each other, it was just unspoken and done.
linhdahae_x
actually i dont think i broke up with my ex hahaha we only lasted for like 3days, and when i left to houston for 3months we just confirmed that it was over haha eek
superhero ♥
hope that never happens to me =[
myxo
Lol nope. I'm usually verrry blunt when it comes to things like this. I need to know things exactly. If it's over, I'll need it to actually end. I don't like leaving things to rot. I'd rather throw it out and not have to see it anymore.
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