When I was little I hang with girls and guys, but as I was growing up, I drifted away from all of my girl friends. Some because of unnecessary drama, others because of my moving houses. Ever since I started high school (senior now), I've found it is much easier for me to make friends with guys. Not to confuse you, but I get along with girls fine, but none of them on best-friend level. I was sick yesterday, so I got bored and started to look at my phone list to find someone to chat with. And I found out I literally have two girls on my list. At first I'm fine with my lack of girl friends, NOW, it's getting hard, because most guys do not like me yammering on about my insufficient love life.


By the way, I'm not even the stereotypical tomboy who only hang with boys. I am in fact quite feminine (once you get past the part where I feel completely comfortable about jokingly hitting on girls and my anti-drama sentiment).

So what do I do? Live with the fact that I have noone girly enough to talk to about my oh-so-feminine issues? Or get out there and start making girl friends? But HOW?


Thank you so much.

actually, it's very normal.
i have minimum girl friends, maybe one or two and i have about 402394203 guy friends.
it's just easier to be friends with guys and you know it.
what's the problem? minus the drama.

Find someone you have common ground with. Go find another girl that wants to yammer about her insufficient love life. Then you can yammer together.

@ Tiffany: there are something guys just dont get? And when that happens, I have nobody to turn to.

@ Meenuh: Haha, I love how you phrase that.

I'm prettymuch on the same boat as you. I have like zero girl friends cause girls just keep backstabbing me. :/
I ended up making one this year though and she's cool. I hang out with her pretty often at school.

I met her in one of my classes and she needed a friend to hang out with since we had just got into college, so I became that person. :]

I understand where you're coming from though.. There are just some things that you can't really... talk about with guys.
I suggest trying to meet someone in one of your classes.

wow... for girls w/ such background...
i assumed u get asked out "a lot" every year...

and diff guys too...
and u'd reject a lot too.

I find it normal though... there are girls who doesn't gossip like mad in HS and hence, they got no girl-oriented friends. But if you like to gossip and spread rumors... then ur weird ^^"

I gave up. I have one best girlfriend, and like, three female acquaintances, but the fact of the matter is, I just feel uncomfortable and awkward around women, and would never be able to trust them like I trust a man.
Women complain about how awful men are and how they're all dogs, well honestly, from what I've seen, I would say the exact opposite. Women are vile.

Are you including yourself in this category?

I've had my moments, admittedly.

I've been targeted for lesbianism due to my guyish personality, I'm crude, eat like a pig, love violence and basically at the playstation all the time.

And I check out girls as well, do the whole body scan, not that I'm pursuing a romantic affair with a female. I just think it's funny.

I attend an all girls' school which has stuffed my social life in the ass, I'm not great at conversing with chicks about boobs and tampons and emotional problems, and there aren't guys to hang out with, like in the old days.

Hey, you know all those stereotypical personality traits that all girls are ideally supposed to possess, like, refinery, etiquette, submissive quietness and sugary talking niceness? What the fark is up with that? Now apparently I'm regarded as intimidating and drugged up the females.

To PristineNyte, your antagonism towards females is very confronting; I never knew female chauvinists exist!

There are still exceptions to every rule, which is why one of my best friends is a girl, and I am more than willing to assume that more good girls exist, I just have trouble finding them, apparently. I'm surrounded by women who just play video games because they're starving for attention and crave that gamer Richard. Not really my cup of tea.

It's okay, last year I had very few girlfriends. I thought I'd be lonely, but back then I simply related to guys more. And they're really nice you can talk to them about the same things you talk about to your girlfriends. Now I basically only have girlfriends, but it's not better. So be happy with your friends, it doesn't matter you don't have girlfriends

Thanks guys!

And contrary to popular beliefs, I do not get asked out very often. When I say I have a lot of guy friends, I really mean just that, they all view me as a girl they can actually go to to talk about guy stuff.

I guess I know that I won't start miraculously befriending girls anytime soon. But it's just nice to see if that is entirely possible.

ah, i'm in the same boat as you. after going from high school to college, i have very little female friends and i made friends with more guys. i find that being around guys is easier because you can talk and chill with them without being judged.

it does suck when you can't really talk about your love life or girl troubles when you are don't have many female friends. i'm sure it's just a matter of a time before you find the right friend who won't stab you in the back or talk ish behind your back.

are you in any clubs? maybe you could try striking up a conversation with someone at a club event. or strike up a conversation with a classmate.

hmm same here!
girls = drama
boys = less drama

therefore, keep the boys and take away the girls = non dramatic life = good life

but yeah, i know what you mean about can't talking to guys about everything. i have few girl friends, and more guy friends. i dont think it's a big deal, but if you want just start talking to classmates and such, get to know different types of girls who you can get along with

same here :[ some girl always betrays me so ive given up basically?? haha guys + my boyfriend are all i need<33 lol

i agree, it's easier to talk to guys sometimes because they're not as catty. but you have to have some female friends, even if it's just 1 or 2 close ones. that's really all you need. finding a girl to be your friend is kinda like finding a boyfriend sometimes. if you click instantly, get to know her better. there are just things you can't discuss with a boy that you can with a girl

ask them if they want to go shopping after school!

i only have one girl on my contact list... damm. im ashamedddddd OTL. PYSCH! no but really i dont have any girl friends except one. but i loveeeeee women. the best thing since sliced bread. worrdddd

Yeah, I'm the same. I used to only hang out with girls, but I found that there was just too much drama and talking behind others' backs. (Not to say that there isn't with guys) It's just that girls are so much more judgmental and I find that I can joke and be myself around guys.

I always wondered who the heck will be my bridesmaids (other than my sisters) if I get married because all my best friends are guys lol I'm like the female version of "I Love You Man".

Shouldn't it be easier for girls to make friends with other girls o__O

No, because I can't talk to girls about things I'm interested in, and the only girls I know that are interested in the same things as I am, are gigantic whores.
Girls always seem like they're judging me and everything I say and do. I don't really need that.

Gofishus: I'm sure for most girls, that is the case, but I for one do not feel comfortable (no reasons at all) around other girls and have a hard time having a serious conversation with them.

Btw, guys, life would be perfect if we all know each other. Haha.

there's girls and guys you can 'yammer' on to about your love life that are willing to listen. you just needa find them.
I'm kinda like you, but i have 1 close girl and another guy friend i can blabber and rant to.
you'll find them soon?

Same here... girls are too much to handle and in most cases gossipy. A guy is so much easier to be around, most of my friends are males.

Lol... this is so similar to the other thread...
But anyways, as a girl, here's my opinion =)
I too have A LOT of guy friends. In fact, I think I have more guy friends than girlfriends sometimes >_> And I agree that it's easier to get to know a guy more than a girl. I feel that sometimes, if you don't find the right girlfriend, there's always awkward tension between girls =S LOL! or maybe it's just me >_<
However, after years of hanging out with both genders, I find that the reason I probably have more guy friends is because most of the times, my guy friends are willing to go out/chill/talk more than my girlfriends are. They find more time for me so when I wanna go out, they're the first I call. When I want to eat/play games/talk/do nothing, they're always there with me =)
But that means nothing too because my girlfriends give me all the support that I find that my guy friends lack. Although they probably treat me well (sometimes TOO well XP haha!), my girlfriends offer a lot of common ground that I find guys don't have.
With girls, I can talk about anything from fashion to gossip to my problems about life. And I agree that there's always drama (like I said... awkward tensionnnn... >_> haha) but I think that finding the RIGHT girlfriends are important =) I was lucky that I found a group of girls who have the same values as me, we all work hard, play hard and enjoy life. Although with guy friends, I'm a lot less picky. As long as we get along, I'm cool. =P So it really depends. The only reason I think making girlfriends is so hard, is because a lot of times, you need a larger foundation for friendship and perhaps mutual friends to make the relationship stronger ^^ Don't worry! It's not a bad thing to have lots of guy friends... you just need balance in your life.

--xoxo.
TM

Oh wow how I can relate. I think it's more likely because I grew up with more guys than girls. I would choose to hang out with my brother and his friends than girls when I was younger.
I have 5 girlfriends that I can actually call friends. It's not like I don't try to make friends with girls. It's just that most girls tend to get boring after awhile. T____________________T

I totally agree with you. Almost all the girls I've met eventually prove to not be "best friend" material, and it pretty much is sad lol.


And THIS, is so true. One of the main reasons sometimes being friends with girls is tiring! I always feel like whenever I do something around girls, I have to watch myself so carefully so they don't go around judging me.

Anyways, with guys I can be more myself, because I'm a pretty random and spontaneous person. For some reason, most of my girl friends are just really quiet and...sometimes boring people and when I'm being spontaneous they get mad at me. Like seriously? lol.

If I really had to say, I have a total of about 2 girls that I would really seriously trust and enjoy talking to. All my other female friends, ehh.

Aw I feel you.
I notice it's hard to make girl friends.
You have to put a lot of effort into making one compare to guys.
Guys just naturally wants to hang out with you and are so laid back.

They usually talk a lot since I don't really yap a lot.

Plus most girls i talk to seem to think too much of my actions and taste.
They just don't wanna make friends with strangers.

I dont know how to talk to a girll... honestly unless were liek super duper close ... I guess it because of my bad communication skill but I don't know how to have a decent normal conversation with a girl O.O
T.T

i'm kinda like you, i don't really like making friends with girls because there is always some drama going on but i do have some girl friends
and sometimes i can have a better laugh with my guy friends than girl friends

WOW this is quite new to me.

I definitely agree with you on that.

I don't have a lot of girl friends either in real life (I have more girl friends online >_<) and it's because girls causes too much drama. not my type. They talk shxt behind my back if I said something that they didn't like, they get mad at me over the stupidest things and they bxtch at me everytime I talk to their girlfrineds (of course, not all girls are like this I'm just exaggerating my point lol)