Sometimes I think of doing gay things, like when I was high one time with my friends. I was almost compelled to kiss my best friend. But later I thought about it and felt somewhat annoyed because I was thinking of doing something like that. I know I'm not gay, and nothing really attracts me about the same sex, but do weird thoughts like that ever come into your heads?

Haha, yep. I consider myself straight too.

It's perfectly normal and nothing to be ashamed of.

I'm straight, but Kwon Sang Woo and John Stamos are damn sexy.

I don't think it's abnormal, or anything to be ashamed of either. Sometimes it happens. You like/fall for or have feelings for--the person, not what gender they are.

ahahah, you're definitely gay or bi-sexual dude. you thought about kissing your best friend? ahahah
just come out of the closet. dont fight the urge!

What are you? 12?

From a psychological standpoint, it's actually quite normal to get these urges and feelings, especially when you're younger. You'll more than likely grow out of them as you get older.
I almost dated one of my female friends, now I think back at that time and I laugh

They're not "gay" things. You're only lumping those types of thoughts into a crude generalization.

It's normal if you don't act on it.

how is it not obvious that he might be bisexual/gay?
the guy has urges to kiss his best friend and often thinks about gay activities. i'm not saying it's wrong or anything, im just saying he shouldn't repress his urges and just let it come out.

so it isn't normal if you do?
that makes no sense.

even if you act on it and you consider yourself straight.
more than likely, yeah, you are straight.

people can't really choose their sexual orientation.
even if they experiment, they still end up following their sexual orientation.
if that makes sense.

apparently, many people are very bi-curious.
before, there were only extremes.
you were either straight or gay. there were no in-betweens.
but now there's a whole spectrum.
there are some people who are bi, but leans more towards being straight.

it's completely normal that you're thinking of the same sex.
you're not the only one!

My question is how is it not obvious that things like this are extremely normal for a human being, and a lot of the time don't end up in homosexuality?
Oh, it's not obvious because you don't know anything about basic human psychology and are too busy being "lol ur gay" to learn.

even if i do
it would just be the girl version of the guy i'm attracted to lmao

I think a person could think about anything when she/he has a high adrenaline rush too (sometimes not even thinking about it).
Like when a person becomes so mad, he's got some anger producing adrenaline rush making himself thinking about murdering people around when he's not a murderer... Sometimes thinking about example "Oh this random guy thinks he's got not fear, what if I push him off the cliff? How beautiful is this gonna look like? Naaah I'm not a killer..."

Probably something similar.

Sorry but I've been a heterosexual for all my life and never had homosexual urges or thoughts. please show me some sources that show that this sort of thing is "extremely normal". I wasn't laughing at him for the possibility of him being gay, I was laughing at how confused and in denial he seemed about the whole thing.
geeze you people sure get sensitive.

LMAO agreed! I think a lot of people on this site get really sensitive sometimes. It's a mass generalisation, but sometimes I feel that people need to chill with the voracity and general throat-strangling shiz.

To answer the question, there was this one time when I was ablaze with euphoria and I planted this massive kiss on my girl friend's cheek. Probs didn't seem like a lesbian in front of 500 people.

And sometimes I get urges to ARRGHH! pash her. Or like to play with her hair and hug her.

Yeah....it's like that with other girls as well, I must check them out and comment on them.
Still haven't grown out of this phase. Jeez.

Yea it's not like I have these thoughts often. I like my best friend, but I don't love him to the point that I'm gay for him. I think it was mostly the drugs that gave me these kinds of thoughts.

Also, getting a lack of what you want from the opposite sex tends to make you feel desperate and confused.

definitely. not with irl people tho.
but whenever i see hyori... hoo~~~
if i was a dude, id totally get a hard on at the sight of her. lolll
a bunch of my friends think the same way as well

i dont think weed normally gives you homosexual thoughts.

i used to have lesbian thoughts all the time!!!! haha, but not anymore. dunno what happened but they stopped.

I think it's normal; I don't think anyone is 100% straight or 100% gay. There is no such thing as exact certainty.

I was at a party and was so drunk that I waved off all the cute guys that tried to talk to me. And all I could think of was kissing this one girl who was giving me a lap dance (FOR FUN). But I'm not attracted to her, at all. And I know I'm straight cause I've been liking a guy for almost over 2 years.

i agree with the person who mentioned the adrenaline rush thing
it's also a fleeting thought, like a "what if..."
It could also be partly curiosity for a new/different experience.

Like the other person said, sometimes you get the urge to hurt someone really badly or kill someone, but it often passes quickly - it doesn't mean you're a violent/angry person or a potential criminal.

I feel similarly...sometimes i have an urge to kiss a friend - absolutely no emotional attraction, just a fleeting thought.

I say don't think too much about it unless it becomes a regular thing

I check out girls. I smack my girlfriends' butt. I rub their leg as a comfort gesture. I kiss them on the cheek. I have had kissed girls on the lips. I also made out with a girl.

But I'm straight. All the things I do with my girls is how we act around each other without any feelings past close friendship.

hahahahaha no? that was insane, really.

Thinking of possibilities -- yup, it's normal isn't it? lol.

Totally normal. Just for clarification, even if you do act upon it, it doesn't mean that a person is gay/lesbian. I've kissed girls before but it doesn't mean I'm sexually attracted to them.

Even if you kiss or make out with someone of the same sex you can't be classified as a homosexuality yet.
It's when you actually have feelings for them ... I did this in psychology ... =] Everyone is curious in a way @ a young age.

lol, we're teens so it's natural to be bi-curious ..i think O_O

You don't have to be confused and in denial to have homosexual thoughts. o_o I don't understand why this concept is so hard for you to grasp.
He's not even in denial, he posted a whole freaking thread dedicated to it.

Blanket statements, blanket statements, blanket statements.

I won't even mention how much that first statement of yours makes it seem like YOU'RE the one who's got something to hide.

Yup. Sure. It's normal. It happens. No biggie.

I can't really say I've been in your position, because while I have had "gay" thoughts, I consider myself to be pansexual, not straight. All the same, though, I know that it's normal for teens (or even adults, I guess) to be bicurious. You want to experience something new and you're still finding out who you are as a person. Plus puberty is a plain old confusing time.

It's even more normal with what you described, because a best friend is someone really close to you who you can trust. You have a mutual, platonic love for them, and if you're going to have bicurious ideas, it's normal for them to be directed at your friend.
Even if you act on these ideas, it does not mean you're gay. People seem to think that if you want to kiss or sleep with someone of the same sex, you're gay/bi, and it isn't like that. You need to be attracted to someone emotionally too. If you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with someone of the same sex, THEN it counts. If you can see your Cinderella/Prince Charming actually being a Prince Charming/Cinderella, then you start the deep thinking.
So anyway, you sound bicurious. Doesn't mean you're gay or even bi; it's normal, and so is experimenting.

I learned from my psychology class that;
You are not considered homosexual if you have sudden homosexual urges especially when you're not even in your conscious stage.
You wanted to kiss someone, big deal. Its also proven that you are still not considered homosexual if you were engaged in any homosexual sexual activity or any sort. You are only considered "gay" if you have actual deep romantic feelings for the same gender.

LOL, according to my Humanities class. Sex stimulates creativity lol. So you're just trying to achieve creativity, taking risk, just understanding how another world is.


SO YOU ARE NOT "GAY".