*This post is meant for the 20+ people, please don't move to Love & Relationships ...

So as most of you 20+ folks know, meeting people after college is tough. Finding a partner is even tougher. There are only so many people within your network...friends, friends of friends, colleagues...etc.

They say that online dating has started becoming more socially acceptable these days, but I feel that a certain "social stigma" still exists.

So...have you ever done online dating? Would you ever give it a go? Would you be embarrassed to tell your friends that you met your s/o through Match.com or OKcupid...or whatever else ? Do you believe that you'll ever meet a semi-decent guy/girl through online?

I haven't had the nerve to do it yet, but I'm tempted to try. I have friends that are perfectly fine, pretty, intelligent, who are also trying online dating.

I met my current BF through okcupid. We've been together a year and 10 months now, and things are great! I do feel that there is still a stigma about online dating, but I'm not embarrassed to tell anyone. I feel like it's a bit easier to get to know the person, although it could always be different in person, of course.

My girlfriend and I met on okcupid. She is amazing so I am not at all embarrassed to tell people how we met. Try it!

It's a hit or miss for me.

I dated 2 guys I've met off Plenty of Fish, didn't work out in the end for me. One guy was just a prick that seemed to try really hard to impress my friends - they didn't like it neither did i. I don't know there was something fake about him. The second guy, everything was going great. I was happier with him than I was with ANY guy, we broke up twice got back together. Then we broke up for good, simply because he thought he would of been better with a more athletic girl; so he won't feel bad about me not being included in the things he likes to do.

I wouldn't be embarrassed to tell my friends, parents maybe. Well, I met a really decent guy online before, so I guess it's possible.

If I meet anybody online it most likely would be on line in the unemployment office.
Hey, at least we'd already have one thing in common, and going out on a cheap date would pretty much be understood.

LOL - good answer.

My sister and brother-in-law met on-line and they look like a model married couple.

I am very close to trying to meet people through online dating websites. I feel like I've reached a dead end with meeting people. I've heard both good and bad experiences from other people. Seems like I should try OKcupid from the responses here.

One of my friends met her boyfriend on eHarmony. Her mom bought her a subscription as a joke but it actually worked out! They have been together for 1.5 years so far and are very happy. I think it can work, especially with something like eHarmony because it's a paid-for service which means the people on it are most likely seriously looking (except in cases like my friend's at least).

I met my husband on Myspace (first version). We are now almost 5 years married.

I have an account on okcupid but it's mostly to check out who is using it. I have a feeling that most of the profiles are fake. Also, I'm kind of embarrassed using it.

Does Facebook count?

I've met/gone out with people who randomly messaged me in my area that I didn't know.

I think there's still a stigma to it though - you don't really want to say that you met online.

I think it works for some people. I'm not against it, but still prefer to meet face to face first. I think internet tend to warp reality and if you're an "internet person", sometimes real life will fall short to what you've been privy to online.

Due to my work I know what you're talking about lol. No time to go out and or if you do have time you're either not in the mood for it or just really tired lol

I used to be really against it and is really embarrassed to talk about it but hey I think it's just the same as meeting a friend of a friend, its either a hit or a miss lol.

I met my last ex through the internet and apparently it really didn't work... apparently she was a real psycho.

im not against the idea - in a perfect world it would seem like an ideal solution, matching similar people up with similar interests and needs. however.. the real world rarely works like that

I've always wanted to try it, but I'm too chicken to do it.

I have a friend who met her SO through ICQ chat. They've been together since their teens for at least 8 years and they just got engaged a few months ago so I believe it can work =)

I definitely think you should meet face to face (in a populated area!) so you can at least get a feel of the person. Like, their vibe or aura lol since people can say whatever they want to say about themselves online.

wow , seems like there are equally positive and neutral stories about online dating!

Odds are much more in favor for girls, of course There simply are too many creepy men on online dating sites...

So I created a profile on okcupid and was surprised to see how many responses I got (as a girl).
There are definitely a bunch of weirdos, I'd say so far, 1/10 of the responses I've gotten seem like really cool people.
I wonder how the odds are...as a guy?

i actually just created one... i've messaged about 5 people.... 0 responses!

I'm open to it. Maybe I'll give it a shot.

I've never done online dating, and never will because I've got a partner. However, it doesn't stop me from making friends online.

hahaha, wait , are you a guy or a girl??

maybe i should make one too, lol.

i met an (now ex) gf on myspace. We were together for only 5 months. But hey we had good times.

To those who have found a partner online, have you ever stayed dating online and never met in person, but regarded it a 'relationship'?

I was suprised too when I made an account.

I only got like 3 messages so far, and Im only talking to 1 on msn and waiting for another guy to respond.

as to Plenty of Fish, I had like 50 messasges in a minute...well maybe not a minute but within an hour my phone wouldn't stop going off, due to the emails i was getting

I'm a guy... it's definitely easier for girls. I'm sure for ever girl there's about 50 guys who are going after them.

I don't think you could have a "relationship" online. You definitely can meet people online, but a relationship can only be face to face.

Nope, that's not for me. My current bf and I talked for a few days or so online, and then met up in person.

I'm not really for it or against it.
More of a "go with the flow"


true but 90% of them are all players and just want to get some quick fix. 90% of girls don't like that.


There is the reality world, fantasy world and behold the new digital world.
here is my little input of philosophy. Anyone can be a romeo or Juliet over the internet...

or an Edward Cullen whose a sexy-vampire online but average joe in real life.

My friend said the same thing, and I completely see where he is coming from. Its easy to take on a different persona online. But my question is, people make it sound like online dating is strictly, well, online, and that you are able to create a romeo out of thin air. While I believe that there are definitely people who go around pretending to be this romeo, I don’t think many online daters have that intention. From what I’ve experienced, online dating is where you’ll find someone of similar interests, strike up a few conversations, and depending on your compatibility you’ll meetup with them in a casual setting; there is no intention of continuing conversations online because that’s not really the point. When you see the person in reality, its easy to identify what type of person they are…unless of course, they are a con-artist. Who knows…I’ll be meeting my first guy off the ‘net tonight and depending on how that goes, will determine how jaded I become about this online dating XD Here goes nothing...

I think we should all do it.

It's not like we're able to meet people in big cities just by going to the club.. lol


Besides, you get to edit yourself all the time! It's a smokescreener's dream come true!

good luck... tell us how it goes!!

Well before the actual relationship me and my ex met up first lol. I find it really hard to say that you're in a relationship if it's just "online". I mean for me, the whole concept of dating online is meeting those people who barely has no time to go out and mingle. Well that and those somewhat shy person lol..



Well I made an account with OKcupid and apparently I did get my first message the same day..... I was so happy, but like... he was gay . lol strike one i guess hahaha

Lol I followed people here and made an okcupid account myself. And as I was making the account, some girl IMed me lol. I think all you Soompier should make one haha.

It's quite disproportionate, and honestly - how many hot girls really NEED to go online to find dates...like none, or they have some crazy personality.

I remember way back in the days when I met an ex through some online thing. He was ok.. "normal" and wasnt scary or anything. I was lucky then, haha. I was also with someone here on Soompi back in high school but then I was kinda weirded out by the attention he gave me and how he was pressuring me to visit him and stuff so I called it quits. Since then I haven't tried (or planning to) online dating. I don't know..... just something about dating online feels weird to me. I'm not saying it's WRONG or BAD, but this is just my POV due to my personal experience with it. I rather have someone with me physically than digitally.

With all this talk about online dating, why doesn't soompi have something for all the inquisitive minds here?

well guys, i just came back from meeting the first guy online. My advice is...do it for the experience the guy i met was definitely a cool guy...not fake...pretty smart...i'd go on a second date with him ;P

Dare I say 13 year olds should give IRL a try before resorting to meeting strangers off the internet? Aside from the obvious liability issues on Soompi's behalf.

lol interesting read...maybe i will make a okcupid account myself and check out what this is all about... glad to hear your date went well 709394.

Given this was a 20+ thread, my intentions were that it would be for those 20+. In hindsight, I could have stated things a bit more clearly.

i online dated the OPs mom it was cool

I'm tempted to make an account on OkCupid just for fun. I like meeting new people (:

lol I'm actually surprised how well it's going for alot of you. Good luck guys.

i hope you know the OP personally and well enough to make that comment.

I'm pretty sure you did the same in another thread.

nope never saw his screen name before in my soompi career

your mom jokes don't require you to know someone personally



your face is too bright in the pic and i see you cut off your nose

^ do it

You will get a lot of responses from guys since you're a girl. But seriously, the odds are against the guys lol

yes, but being funny is a requirement

If you're just looking for friendship though, you'll want to make that clear on your profile or whatever they have you fill out on these websites (i.e. saying something like, "I already have a bf, just looking to make new friends"). Otherwise you're going to have dozens of internet boys fawning over you thinking they have a chance. 90% of guys who go onto these websites go on them to try to get laid. Though I'm sure they exist somewhere, I've yet to meet the guy who goes onto a dating website to make new friends.

most of us guys on these sites are normal and datable... we just don't get a chance

LOL +1 to this reply.