ok you know those situations when everything is going fine with ur crush...then suddenly after maybe like a weekend, things just seem to have changed? (in a downhill way) but u dont really know whats really going on?

this girl that i like... she used to initiate random little things but suddenly after a weekend, she no longer initiates conversations or anything....

but if i initiate she still responds enthusiastically...


so im really confused and i rly hate this position.... if she doesnt like me anymore she should just say it right? right now i dont know if shes worth pursuing. but i feel like i shouldnt just go up to her and ask her bluntly, cuz that might really scare her off and really turn things downhill...

anyways any suggestions on how to get her to open up?

EDIT: LOL ok guys i simply didnt mention that i initiate things with her in this topic!! of course i talk to her/hang out/msg her and stuff!!!! -.-

Maybe she jsut wants you to do some of the work too? Maybe it's a test to see if you really want to talk to her or not.

Wait, so are YOU the girl? Cause you sure are acting like one.

Most girls will tell you that they like for a guy to take charge, initiate things, do things without having them have to ask you. If starting a simple conversation is that hard for you then maybe you should stop pursuing her.

at first i didn't really get what you thought she did.

but games... testing... yeah, i see it.

==' she could end up talking about it if you do the opp. of what she wants to the point she shouts at you what she wants you to do.

word.
you sir, do not deserve your balls. hahaha.
i'm keeding, but just keep going after her. she still likes you, i'm guessing, but she wants to see if you'll do anything on your own.

If she still responds to you enthusiastically then she is probably still interested in you... but i think the reason why she stopped initiating conversations or whatever with you might be that she's tired of always being the one initiating..cause it seems like you don't really do that? You should be the one to suggest to hang out with her, talk to her on the phone, instant msg her , etc.

Maybe she's playing hard to get?

LOL. i do this often.
why? because sometimes when i initiate things too much, i kinda worry if im annoying or pestering him so i test it out by doing that. I still like the guy, that hasn't changed, but it's just my own little way of confirming that he's still interested.

yeah , i often do that .
usually when girls initiate ,
they would also like the guys to do so as well .
cause wouldn't you want to know if the person you like wants to talk to you or not
without anyone forcing them to do so and doing things because they want to?
people eventually get tired of initiating all the time .
so you should try putting some effort in and initiate at times too .

I tend to not initiate stuff when I feel the relationship between me and a guy has gotten into a confused state or somewhat complicated mess. When this happens I don't know what to do, so most of the time I do nothing at all. I don't know if this fixes anything but sometimes I just don't know what else to do except do nothing. You could say I'm trying to let time fix whatever the problem is.

You should also consider maybe she just didn't have the time to initiate stuff with you. Maybe she was busy with work/school/life, just a thought. You should ask her about it instead of wondering and guessing.

go for it. For me, I hate guys that are wishy washy. if you start something.. finish it!
I'm in the same situation right now only I'm on the girl's POV.. and coming from my experiences.. we girls would only respond enthusiastically if we were interested. so make it clear!

would it possible if they were interested but not anymore? There's always that possibility

Well it's better to try b4 giving up in my opinion since i am the type of person taht tend to learn from msitake especially when i make the same mistake over 5 times

wow that was complicated . i do not know.

Yeah T_T One week he's all flirty with you and the next it seems like he's avoiding you. Tell me about it, I'm going through the same situation these days

Initiate FAST, especially if you like her.

I used to really like this guy, and start all of our convo's, we'd flirt and get along great. But as a girl I wanted some reassurance that the feelings were actually mutual, and he isn't just really outgoing with everyone he talks to. So I started signing on and waiting to see if he starts the convo with me, he never did and after a while I gave up.

It turns out he thought I didn't like him anymore! She probably just wants to now if you feel the same. So take the lead if you like her, if she's replying enthusiastically then she was waiting for you to start the convo.

it could be that maybe she thinks shes annoying you and wants to give you space...?
just initiate! and see what happens, things might turn out good, but if it doesn't then think of it this way at least you tried?

sounds like she's playing hard to get?

when i lyk a guy
i prefer for him to talk to me first~
so sometimes ill wait for him to talk to me
if that helpss
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but if she was talkin to u firs b4 maybe thats not the case.....


but she prolly wants u to talk to her first
coz maybe she feels lyk shes makin all the effort?
or~ that u dont wanna talk to her as much as she wants to talk to u??

juz my view dohh

Does that happen to you often? .-.

Anyways, did she already know that you liked her? Maybe she didn't like you more than a friend and she realized you liked her and... well. You know, I guess it got awkward for her so she stopped talking to you as much as before. I know it sounds weird and I'm probably the only one who's going to say that, but I'm like that :x

girls tend to want the guy to initiate things. it doesn't necessarily mean she's losing interest, don't take it too personally.
the more i like someone, the more i want them to talk to me first.
when she's no longer responding enthusiastically to you when you initiate it, then you can be worried.

Wow. I'm in the exact same situation, except I'm the girl. I had to read your post twice to make sure you're not the guy in question... Well anyway, for me, I stopped initiating because I suspected that the guy doesn't like me more than a friend. Girls need reassurance. Initiate. Since you said she responds enthusiastically still (so do I), it probably means that she's just waititng for you to start something.... Go for it =)

I know exactly what's going on. She feels like that she's doing all the work and then now she's waiting for you to take the initiative to contact her and to find out if you're interested enough to contact her after she's stopped. Not that you're saying you're not taking the initiative. So if you like her and she's been giving you the attention, why don't you just reassure her that you are interested.

Ask her out to lunch. Hell, even go for a date.

Love is NOT a waiting game.

Shes probably just seeing if you will make as much as an effort ~ take charge ~ be the man!

Girls do this ... its jjust to see if the guy is worth it ~ once she finds out he is ~ she will becoming a clingy attached girl !!!