So, Soompiers, are any of your exes currently really close to your close friends?
If they are.. do you actually care? Does it kind of annoy you?

Just wondering, because it seems that my ex-bf is close to my closest friend at school.
I don't dislike them for it, it's just a little weird, that's all. Well, I guess it's only weird since we dated for about a year and a half and it was a pretty serious relationship.. as opposed to another guy I dated casually for about a month - my relationship with him is still good while I don't talk to my serious ex at all.

What are your experiences?

i'm still friends with two of my ex's,
and ones actually going out with a good friend of mines
but i don't mind, why should i?
we're broken up and i don't have rights to control anyone elses feelings.
i'm a mellow person, and i don't think it's right to be the reason why your friend and ex can't find love in each other.

when love happens, you can't stop it,
and you don't have the right to stop it either.
to me, if the relationship is dead and gone
let everything in it die and don't be so damn jealous or territorial either.

well my current bf is close with my bff....
i think is we were ever to break up and they were still close.. this would bother me a lot

QUOTE (JK_justme @ Nov 4 2009, 10:22 AM)

well my current bf is close with my bff....
i think is we were ever to break up and they were still close.. this would bother me a lot

Haha! That's the same with my situation =) except I'm the bff.
My best friend's bf is SUPER nice and they've been going out for almost 5 years now =X I'm really close to him and in fact, we all LIVE in the same house =P
But they're so close that I doubt they'll ever break up... if they do, I still think they might be close in terms of friendship, so I doubt it'll be awkward ^^''

--xoxo.
TM

Doesn't this completely depend on how your relationship ended?

well i do not mind their relationship.

LOL yep yep.
It does annoy me, but mainly because I just think he's the biggest sleaziest loser ever. I see girls as practically degrading themselves by being friends with him. There's only one way he forms friendships with girls and it kind of disgusts me to watch them go along with it.

If that reason weren't there though, I still don't think I would like the situation. But then it's more complicated than that lol, and depends on the person. Because if she were 10x less attractive, hadn't had history with another ex of mine, isn't one of those people who can get any guy she wants, etc I might not mind I suppose...=X

I've met most of my ex's through my friends, it's just how I've ended up meeting people, so it's natural that they're still friends. They wouldn't stop being friends just because we broke up.
Try your boyfriend being best friends with your most recent ex That's a good one!

yeah i think it really depends on the breakup.
everyone knows each other where i live, so it's really no surprise if they're friends with each other. of course, there's always awkwardness and i feel a bit uncomfortable with the idea initially, but at the end of the day, they can be friends with who they want.
one bad experience i've had... i got close to my best friend's ex. he was actually my boyfriend's (at the time) best friend, so i'd met him before they even started dating - i thought it was fair enough that i became friends with him. my best friend got extremely upset, because she thought i'd support her and join the 'he is a dickhead' group because he'd dumped her for another girl. anyway, everything turned into a big mess and my best friend and i had a falling out. we're okay with it now though (:

This happened to my boyfriend. I was the ex, and his best friend and I became best friends after he and I broke up. It was funny. At first, he was terrified that we might get together. Later, probably because he felt bad for some reason, he kept urging us to get together even though we didn't like each other.

If that happened to me, I'm guessing it would feel weird, especially if they went out. I can't help but feel a bit disturbed realizing they'd be doing the same things together I did with him. o.O

I make sure my friends are not affiliated with the girls I see.

Well I had to go through that with both my sister and my best friend. I wasn't best friend with them or anything but I still kept talking to their exes. And it become a big loyalty issue all the sudden. All I'm saying is I don't care about what transpired in your relationship it has nothing to do with me. He treated you bad? ok fine I can decide not to talk to him on my own, but you shouldn't expect me not to. Are we still in elementary school where we stop being friends with people just because our friends tell us not to? And what type of double standard is this? When everything is going smoothly in the relationship it's only between the two of them, but when things get crappy, we all have to carry the burden? Dude I wasn't there when you decided you wanted to date him,why should I be involved in your break up mess. *Sigh* sorry I'm rambling, but this is a really sensitive matter for me. Anyway that's what I think.