So yes... and I'm in the process of FEELING TERRIBLE.
It started out the day before yesterday that he asked me after we finished a chapter test, and I got nervous and I contemplated about it for a second so I told him I would give him a chance. It was just because I never got asked out before so I jumbled my words. He got so happy, and then I felt even worse. He was really nice and all, but I didn't really want to date him.

Today, I didn't want to go deeper into this mess so afterschool I told him it just wasn't going to work out.

He had this look on his face.

AND I FELT LIKE I WAS JUST GOING TO DIE.

He was so happy and I feel like I've just crushed him. @_@;

I just feel so terrible. I feel like a bad person. I feel like digging a hole and then hiding in it. I wasn't even the one rejected... but it hurts almost the same. TT_TT

Honestly, being the one who does the rejecting is just as bad as being rejected. Both are difficult positions to be in (I've been in both). Sure it was mean that you told him you'd give him a chance and then just said no right after, but we all make mistakes. Don't be so hard on yourself. You're gonna feel really horrible for a little bit, but give it some time. The good thing is, that you learned something from it. In the future when someone asks you out and you don't like them, tell them right away. Don't make them wait because that gives them hope, so when you turn them down later it will hurt more.

Being rejected is going to happen someday. But I wish you would have corrected yourself the minute you "jumbled" your words so it wouldn't have dragged on for a day.

Don't worry so much about it, he'll get over it.

Wow. Way 2 go on jumbling the words. Wonders if you told him you jumbled the words?

^ Thanks a lot, fellow soompiers.
I really appreciate the time you guys took to write a response, haha.

Sigh... what do I do... when I see him on Monday... I hope we can just pretend like this never happened.

EDIT: Well... I said yes... but I meant no... but his face was happy... I was just suddenly in this state of oh-dear-what-did-I-just-do but I couldn't be like... I MEANT NO, LOL.

It was a bad decision by going along with it. I know some fault is on me. :/

It's gonna be a little awkward at first, but trust me, it's worse in your head than it will be in real life on Monday. Try not to think about it too much.

sucks for you. now hes gonna come back and punch you in the face.

I had a crazy midterm yesterday, we probably feel the same poop right now.

Oh my, i was gonna post something like this!! totally know how that feels! except.....i still havn't told her that "i meant no" D=

....And mine is even worse...she has been liking me for awhile..and recently we were pretty close...and at one instance idk what was wrong with me i thought i should try, so i asked her to be my gf >.<" and after that i was thinking the SAME THING as u did >< then few days later she started talking to me as if we couples......omg....after reading your story im even more afraid to tell her the truth! Dx Any replies for me? ><

other than that @Gazette: Wow... you're deeper than me. D:
Well, the only thing you can do now is hope that you can actually get to like her... or make your decision quickly. The more you drag on... the worse it may get.

it'll get better after a while but it'll be so awkward for the time being.
For me, I didn't really reject but made up a really terrible lie/excuse which was so blatantly a lie that i'm pretty sure he saw right through it. And i felt really bad afterwards, that i ended up missing lectures for that unit for the rest of the semester cos' he and i were the only ones that we knew and i didn't know how to deal with it.... and had to do ilectures instead....... ughhhh.

But its ok now, we wave and make small talk. lol

Well, the fact is, u did crush him. However, at least u did it sooner than later. Imagine how much worse that look on his face would look if u told him u weren't interested a week, or heck, even a month later. Pat urself on the back because it's over with now. If he can't handle it, boo for him, cuz he's a big boy now and he should be able to handle rejection. And now this, it's not ur fault for not liking someone back. Never ur fault. The only thing that u'd beat urself over is if u innappropriately dealt with someone's feelings, and in this case, u didn't really.

It's ok. Of course you would feel bad for him, and of course he would be hurt. Love cycle.
It's your first time getting asked out? dont worry so much about it, i screwed up too but with me i REALLY liked the guy.
In the future , you'll go through these situation (having to reject a guy/guys) again.
It's a good thing you told him the next day, he's hurt, but he's human , you scarred his heart but it'll heal and he'll move on.
When i was in 6th-7th grade i felt really bad about turning guys down too.
I've turned down guys, and some of them hated me.
or say things like "WHY?!" and reasons reason when i reject them.

Not really your fault, or anyone's here.
You were nervous, and jumbled up your words. OK!

But it's good to reflect a bit on this and know what to do better next time.

trust me he will get over it I know that because my best guy friend confessed to my best girl friend lol....and she rejected him....^^; after some months he got a girlfriend and they've been together for half a year now ^^
so don't worry to much I think it would be worst if you had no feelings for him and date him Oo,,

I never really got the "rejecting someone is just as bad as being rejected" argument that people often make. In one case you're telling someone they're not good enough, in the other you're the one being told you're not good enough. The second is infinitely more depressing.

Might be that I'm a guy so I don't get it, though. It sort of reminds me of when girls complain about getting hit on. With the exception of guys who are being vulgar or crossing personal physical boundaries, don't really get how that could be a bad thing ever.

Completely agreed.

You did the right thing by telling him asap. Think of how crushed he'll feel if you kept on "dating" him for a long time, and then finally find out you're not interested in him at all. He'll get over it. Stop feeling bad.

Disagreed.

People should stop taking a rejection personally. For one, I have a strict no dating policy this year, which means I said no to everyone that asked, if they all took it as if I think they're not good enough, I would have a very limited number of friends. When people get rejected, it isn't because they're not good enough, most people just aren't compatible. There are numerous different types of good people, just because they do not match in personality/sex it does not mean one is more superior than the other.

And getting (seriously, not jokingly) hit on by friends is worse than vulgar old creepers, because it is awkward and hard to ignore.

What it might mean to get rejected and how 98% of people take it are completely different things, though. Of course people should be so self-aware as to realize that being turned down isn't necessarily a calling into question of their personal worth. However, in reality, when you reject someone it's very unlikely that they're going to be thinking, "Oh, she must have felt that we aren't that compatible, well alright, I'm fine with that." They're just going to feel like garbage, and they're going to wonder what's wrong with them that you don't like them back.

Additionally, feeling awkward around someone isn't quite on the same level as feeling like you're not good enough, which was my original point.

haha wow...I think you should of just told him you'll think about it and give him an answer later but since you've crossed the bridge already you can't do anything but let it go. Hopefully, you guys can still be friends? It's not easy to turn someone down and feel content about it but it's better than to lead them on. I totally understand where you're coming from because I had to turn down a really good friend of mines who liked me for 3 years? I had no idea until I heard from another friend! After that we never talked hopefully your situation can end up better than mines did.

I know exactly how you feel.. same thing happened to me except online.
I knew the guy irl, but he confessed online, through his friend's screen name.
I felt reaaaaaaally awkward and didn't know what to do because it had never happened before.
No one had ever confessed to me.
He didn't ask me out, but he had asked if he could ask me out in the future.
I said maybe.. =/ ugh. Nothing ever happened though.. whew.
I felt sooooooo bad for a few weeks ><

I honestly think being rejected is 10x worse than doing the rejecting. I've been put into difficult situations where I had to reject the guy, but I know that the guy felt a lot worse (granted that he actually had a reason to ask me out).

I know how horrible it feels to reject someone. Just try to keep your mind off of it and make sure he's okay.

Rejections part of life. It's understandable that you will both feel about it but he has to ne able to move on too. It'll make him stronger in the long run

BLEH. I was very flattered when he said he liked me, but I just couldn't like him back. I don't like him back. But rejecting him had the same feeling of hurting a friend. While he may have felt lousy, I felt pretty bad also. It's not a case of ohoho-i-got-asked-out-so-now-im-now-showing-off-on-soompi issue.

I guess seeing it from a rejecting person's point of view, it looks impossible too. It's like, how could a person feel as bad for rejecting me? It's hard to understand... but it feels pretty bad in general. Maybe I made the mistake of saying it was of the same level. Perhaps it is not.

Doubt you'll feel this way in 10 years after having been on the receiving end on more than one occasion.

Hey, it's life.
Not like he won't be facing any more rejections later in life.

You have to know pain to experience joy.

guys dont mature if they dont go through rejection.
you MAY be helping him in the long run.

I know how you feel T_________T
It's a horrible feeling. A reason why I'm scared to get too close to a guy. Rejecting or being rejected will sometimes follow.