[bonitagirlx]

well, i'm a commuter and i go to a very big college filled with say about 6,000 students. i'm a very shy person and when it comes to converstaion with new people i always seem to clam up.

the last semester has already come to a close, so it is too late to join and clubs or go to any student events.

i also have a lot of toruble communicating with the other students in my classes because im shy.

does anybody else have this problem?

or has anyone HAD this problem and over come it?

please help me. i dont want this year to happen like the last (i am a transfer student and the same thing happened the year beforE)

[hippiehop]

6,000 isnt that much...

all the kids i know who were commuter their first year dont know a lot of people :\ because i think living in the dorm helps a LOT.

are you friends with anyone who lives in the dorms? you can probably get closer and hang out with them and therefore meet other people...

[itrayya]

6,000 is A LOT.

if your school is 2,000. like mines. so sad.

but, even though many peeps know each other here.....
only the close close ones hang out all the time.

people either leave campus for fun.
or they just stay in their room for homework and movie.

since you commute, maybe you can offer to help take some friends out.
out to eat, out to site seeing... take the ones from outta state or those without a ride like me.

good luck.

[xtrammieex]

no ur nott the only one with that problem..my school only has abotu 6000 i think too and im also a commuter. most of my classmates are residents so they basically know all the other residents...so its kinda hard to start up a convo with them when they usually all just stick together. i dont really mind it though. i hang out with this other girl thats a commuter so i think it was easier for us to communicate

[Velocitii]

dont worry you're not the only one, i have this problem too
all the people that dorm are tight with each other and im one of the few commuters in most of my classes so it sucks

[annyunghee]

Ditto.
Since I am a commuter, I usually arrive at school when it is near time to get to class and leave afterwards.
I wish I had joined a club or something.
I've also found out that no one really lives near me so i usually hang out with old high schoolers. *sigh*

How I usually break the ice is when I ask them if we had any homework due. *shrugs*
Or sometimes I just talk about class: "how do you find this class?" stuff like that.
They;ll either feel the same way or differently, but I'm sure you will find something to say with whatever response.

My advice is that you just keep talking to someone. It can be that person who sits next to you every other day. just converse together and soon you'll be friends! This really works. =)

[untungl]

Bullet point list time!

-6000 isn't a lot
-it's never too late to join clubs and attend events
-suck it up and talk to someone


How exactly are you wanting us to help? You want us to find cool pick up lines that would be funny conversation starters? Or wait, this is the year 2007... where's my mind control gun!
But seriously, the ball's in your court.

[borkborkbork]

it's also not the quanity of people you know, but the quality. if theres one person that you'll always talk to and is always open to you, that's worth a lot more.

[aznboi1107]

I think there's a lot of schools bigger then 6000. Have you ever had friends? If you have, then you'll get them again eventually. I noticed that girls compliment a girl they just meet to like disarm them I think *scratches head*. It's up to you, socialize or do nothing.

[takki_fanatic]

you think 6,000 is alot? there's over 25,000 students at my campus and there's other campuses that's also part of my college lol
i guess i have the advantage since a few of my friends from hgih school apllied to the same school as me, but yeah try to talk to your classmates more, it's not bad once you get a head start and remember other people are trying to meet new people too =)

[sulfuric_ACID]

well i've just had random people sitting next me in classes going hey what's your name? it's not so bad getting to know the people around you

[DKYang]

I don't know how many students my school has, but I know is more than 6k.

Group projects help a lot because you have to communicate with each other and it's good to know a little bit about each other. I did 3 group projects this year and made couple of new friends, the rest we just say hi to each other and the usual. If your the leader of the group, then you can suggest everyone if they all want to go eat lunch together, plan things out, talk about random things, and etc.

Plus, if they are in the same major as you, then you two already have something in common which is a good start.

Just talk! I don't hang out around, but I do talk to them whenever I see them at school and communicate through other means.

[birthdaycakes]

Well....my school has more than 6000, I think 15000, and I'm not a commuter, but I used to be really shy, never left my room much. But then I was like, "Hey, whatever, I should talk to people, even just to say hi," because I wanted to get to know people, and now I have a lot of friends and know a lot of people, and my college experience is definitely happier with more people in my life. It's kinda weird deciding to come out of your shell it in like your second year when people have groups of friends already, but I mean, most people don't mind getting new friends anyway.

I came here knowing about 10 people, and I don't really see them much anymore, but I've got great friends. One thing I did was study outside of my room and just talk to people, let them study at the same table as you wherever you are. That's how I met a lot of people.

Basically just take deep breath and give people a try. They won't bite.

[seashells]

I think it's actually hard to meet people because I have courses with my friends so we often sit together and talk among ourselves, unless we have group presentations and such.

[DefinePerfection]

yeah. my school is pretty small also and i'm a commuter. i think it's like 2500? or 1500? i forgot which one it was. i remember it was one of those two since i go to a small private college. but yeah. i have a small group of friends i hang around with. it's not that i don't know other people, but i guess you're just close or stay with the ones you connect or are close with. but yeah. i do realize you will know a lot more people if you live in the dorms. it's a different experience than if you're commuting.

[duchess]

i'm finishing up my first semester right now and i haven't made any friends since i started college. i really don't mind though, i like doing things on my own because it helps me think easier and get things done faster without the distraction of other people. yeah it would be nice to talk to some people once in a while but i like my alone time. also i think it's also because i already have a group of close-knit friends outside of school so i dont bother trying to meet new people. that, and i need to work on my social skills. =\

[chickyl3aby]

6,000 isn't that much.... my school is about 40,000+ students

anyways, i'm a commuter too.... and it IS hard to make friends in class... i'm usually shy too but if u get together and study together or something that helps..... i don't think it's ever too late to join clubs, but if u don't join now, u could always join in the beginning of next year...

good luck!

[evoJDM pauL]

dont worry dude
i used to be like you..acting all shy
but you gotta enjoy life and talk it all out man...dont miss out in the real world
tell them who you really are

it'll be chill

[baoi]

the undergrads in my school is 9,000 - 10,000
Hmm.. i make friends easily... but back in the day.. i was super shy too.

[carebear]

my school has 55,000 students o.O ... 45,000 undergrads.

i didn't meet a lot of people at first, but the best way was really to join student organizations, especially since you're a commuter. you'll meet people so quickly that way. it takes a little while to get integrated, but trust me it won't take too long and it'll be worth it. don't be afraid to smile or say hi!