[liztical]

I really think I need anger management or something.
My temper problems are getting worse and worse.
I don't know WHYYY i get so angry so easily especially at my mom.
I feeel so bad saying all those things to her.
I'm such a creeeep. arghs.
I have to stop cursing and yelllling at her. this is not gooood.
what do i dooooooooooooooooo.
I always tell myself that I'm going to try to stop doing it and control myself but wow...it's been like 2 years since I said that. I don't want to be all talk...I actually want to show it to her. Not only her but to others too.

hadsadhgajhaklhkal so fustrated these days.
does anyone have this kind of problem?

[cpopbaby19]

^AAAAHHH!

IM SO LIKE YOU!

;_;

and im not becoming mad at my mom, but to my siblings as well! :x T^T; plus, i get mad at everything not in order~ T___T; i hate to be mad but i can't control it now~

[tainted_innocence]

When it comes to hot tempers & irritability , it comes down to either stress or just your personality. Since it’s coming as such a surprise to you, I think the lashing out is just circumstantial to perhaps other difficulties you’ve been experiencing? For instance, I was going through a truly rocky time when I lost some loved ones. At first, I was literally enraged. Though I never got to the point of physical violence, I would lash out at anyone and everyone for no particular reason; I labeled almost everything as stupid, and I wouldn't tolerate it. Seriously, even huge, bulky guys felt intimidated by me. Later, my petulance came to the point where I don’t even need to express anger physically, all I need to do is calmly say very terrible things to a victim during a bad mood of mine. The anger had become a part of my personality so I didn’t even feel like a jerk afterwards. I don’t really believe in counseling or therapy, but I how got through it is through major self-control, careful consideration of others, & communication. I can’t say that I’m necessarily the mildest person now, but I'm nothing like the monster I used to be, that's for sure.

As for you, I don’t think it’s severe since everyone reacts that way to nagging mothers at one point or another. I think it’s a good thing that you feel guilty afterwards, though; it shows that you’re still aware of what you’re doing. The first step you should take is really force yourself to think back about all the things you said but didn’t really mean. Next, just pinch yourself and make yourself think before you talk. Also, I think venting your problems to a friend or a diary always helps. I’ve experienced this myself, so you can always send me message if you’d like. This was a really long ramble, but I hope it’s at least minimal help.

[DocKorean]

LIZ! i'm suprised! u seem like a nice complacent person!

anyways, i had a lot of anger issues in highschool (fights and such), and in iraq, just because i was so depressed. the most important thing to do is to identify the source of ur stress and anger. once u can realize the source, u wont be so short fused with ur mom. what i did was just sit down and write in a little book when, why, and who i got really upset with. when i got back, i wanted to seek help because i wanted to avoid PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder), and they said that because i kept a little diary, i avoided PTSD. they reccomended that when a person gets mad and channels it at another person, the best thing to do is to find a new outlet, sports, video games, hobbies, etc... until u can positively identify and control the anger.l

i hope this helps, and know that i'm praying for u! ur relationship with ur mother is very important. my mother and lil sis took care of trini for me while i was in iraq and i couldnt have done it with out them! think about all the good things and sacrifices that ur mother made for u, and that will help u to not be mad with her.

GOOD LUCK!


ps. ur mother has probably noticed that u've been upset with her, and might think its her fault... this mother's day, try to do something to really make her day. or just look at her and say, "mom, i'm sorry i've been so mean to you, just know that its not ur fault. i love u and ur the best mom in the world. thanks for everything u've done for me, i'll never forget all the sacrifices. i love u mom!" >then give her a big hug, it helps if ur crying too... lol<

[AMIbunny]

omg same here... i have anger problems too! like.. i get mad at my bf soooooo easily..and like i call him stupid and stuff :[ i feel bad. Sometimes i yell at my parents too ='[ *sigh.... life as a teen eh?

[Love Virus]

same same

when i get angry i have a habit of scratching at my hand untill it bleeds
i basically relives the anger with pain =____=;;

[xtrammieex]

im the same way..i get mad way too easily but half the time i dont kno someone well enough to tell them y they bug me so much. i also get really mad my mom a lot lately and talkin back to her.. O_o

[liztical]

^AAAAHHH!

IM SO LIKE YOU!

;_;

and im not becoming mad at my mom, but to my siblings as well! :x T^T; plus, i get mad at everything not in order~ T___T; i hate to be mad but i can't control it now~

guess i'm not the only one heh~~

When it comes to hot tempers & irritability , it comes down to either stress or just your personality. Since it’s coming as such a surprise to you, I think the lashing out is just circumstantial to perhaps other difficulties you’ve been experiencing? For instance, I was going through a truly rocky time when I lost some loved ones. At first, I was literally enraged. Though I never got to the point of physical violence, I would lash out at anyone and everyone for no particular reason; I labeled almost everything as stupid, and I wouldn't tolerate it. Seriously, even huge, bulky guys felt intimidated by me. Later, my petulance came to the point where I don’t even need to express anger physically, all I need to do is calmly say very terrible things to a victim during a bad mood of mine. The anger had become a part of my personality so I didn’t even feel like a jerk afterwards. I don’t really believe in counseling or therapy, but I how got through it is through major self-control, careful consideration of others, & communication. I can’t say that I’m necessarily the mildest person now, but I'm nothing like the monster I used to be, that's for sure.

As for you, I don’t think it’s severe since everyone reacts that way to nagging mothers at one point or another. I think it’s a good thing that you feel guilty afterwards, though; it shows that you’re still aware of what you’re doing. The first step you should take is really force yourself to think back about all the things you said but didn’t really mean. Next, just pinch yourself and make yourself think before you talk. Also, I think venting your problems to a friend or a diary always helps. I’ve experienced this myself, so you can always send me message if you’d like. This was a really long ramble, but I hope it’s at least minimal help.

wow. maybe you're right. i must stop this....arghs! lol thanks for the headsup!

LIZ! i'm suprised! u seem like a nice complacent person!

anyways, i had a lot of anger issues in highschool (fights and such), and in iraq, just because i was so depressed. the most important thing to do is to identify the source of ur stress and anger. once u can realize the source, u wont be so short fused with ur mom. what i did was just sit down and write in a little book when, why, and who i got really upset with. when i got back, i wanted to seek help because i wanted to avoid PTSD (Post traumatic stress disorder), and they said that because i kept a little diary, i avoided PTSD. they reccomended that when a person gets mad and channels it at another person, the best thing to do is to find a new outlet, sports, video games, hobbies, etc... until u can positively identify and control the anger.l

i hope this helps, and know that i'm praying for u! ur relationship with ur mother is very important. my mother and lil sis took care of trini for me while i was in iraq and i couldnt have done it with out them! think about all the good things and sacrifices that ur mother made for u, and that will help u to not be mad with her.

GOOD LUCK!
ps. ur mother has probably noticed that u've been upset with her, and might think its her fault... this mother's day, try to do something to really make her day. or just look at her and say, "mom, i'm sorry i've been so mean to you, just know that its not ur fault. i love u and ur the best mom in the world. thanks for everything u've done for me, i'll never forget all the sacrifices. i love u mom!" >then give her a big hug, it helps if ur crying too... lol<

James! haha yeah...you didn't expect me to be such a mean person but i dunnoo...lately, i've been gettting worse and worse. thank you for your advice...maybe i should write in a book or something. i just have to find my 'source' now lol ~~ i guess my life is so overwhelming right now....but of course my life cannot beat the hardships and pain you went through. i'll pray for you and you pray for me! haha & yeah, i went out to the city today and actually bought my mom a mothers day card on my way backkk. that's a good start i guess ~~~
thanks for the heads up james! say hi to trini for me she's tooooo cute ah!!!

omg same here... i have anger problems too! like.. i get mad at my bf soooooo easily..and like i call him stupid and stuff :[ i feel bad. Sometimes i yell at my parents too ='[ *sigh.... life as a teen eh?

ahahahhha i dont even have a bf to take out my anger on..so sad.

same same

when i get angry i have a habit of scratching at my hand untill it bleeds
i basically relives the anger with pain =____=;;

scratching?.....LOL

[angelic_diablo]

i used to have anger problem. it was probably hormone. now im so much better. i hardly ever yell at anyone anymore.

[Seraphic_Gin]

i have really bad temper too.
most of it comes from stress though.

and my sister told me that my temper is just like our mother.
really.

i really really get angry when im at the middle or something that i dont want to be disturbed of, then another stress factor comes in.

[DocKorean]

i'll pray for you and you pray for me!
thanks for the heads up james! say hi to trini for me she's tooooo cute ah!!!

lol u got urself a deal! and trini says hi (i think...)!

[knockblock]

Do you want to smash something?

[Tharos]

hah well admiting it is the first step! (dun know wut the others are)

but id suggest watching a very sad anime like Elfen Lied or Air. they personally changed my morals lol

[reset.love]

try blogging...it help[at least to me]

[TakeThatBack!]

Lets all seek help together

[CLOUD:7]

I think I have some anger issues, too. It happens more at home than at school. I tend to not let people see that I'm pissed off at school..

[liztical]

it's improving guys!


or maybe it's because i'm in my room most of the time or computer..
hardly talk to my parents anymore lolss


-.-

[DocKorean]

it's improving guys!
or maybe it's because i'm in my room most of the time or computer..
hardly talk to my parents anymore lolss
-.-

BOO!! thats not good! dont isolate ur parents!! they might think that they are mad at u! try to spend time with them! let them know that u love them! its kinda wierd for asian kids to do that to their parents, but it helps, thats why my mommy loves me so much!

[L_O_V_E]

i used to be exactly like you
when i was around 16, 17
i was an angry child lol
esp at my mom
but now that i'm a little older, i've calmed down, a lot
just breathe it out
you'll look back and laugh
well, at least i did

[xstrawberry_bearx]

I think i need anger management too. I get irritated easily nowadays and I'll snap at just about anyone. >__< hopefully it's just a phase or something T_T.