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#1601 User is offline   chiluvskk 

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Posted 01 July 2007 - 06:39 PM

QUOTE(chiluvskk @ Jul 1 2007, 11:10 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
so if a cute girl showed interest but she's rather shy so it's harder for you to get to know her, how long are you willing to take?

and also there's this guy im attracted to and im kind of sensing he likes me too, but im not sure. we don't talk a lot, but when we do he always looks at the ground and seem really nervous, or talk really slow. not like when he's with other girls, he'd always laugh and joke with them. i also notice he fixes his appearance a lot, and always tries to sit next to me in class. and i don't know if im just crazy but sometimes he also like immitates what i do. lol i don't know how to explain it. when i walk past him his friends would look at me and smile too.

however, i don't know where this is leading because even though i notice all these signs, all he does is just glance at me or something but not actually try to make a conversation. im shy so it's hard for me to make the first move. does it seem like he has interest in me? because he acts so different around other girls......



can someone answer my question, i think you guys skipped it blush.gif
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#1602 User is offline   j'adoreAZNpop 

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Posted 01 July 2007 - 06:48 PM

Hey guys~ i emailed privately on june 29 using facebook to this guy... wanna just become friends

i thanked him for dance at prom, gave him pic of us (very blurry though) and asked if he wants to hang out sometime before he leaves.
he didnt reply and he normally does with my other emails.... i will be leaving for family vacation on the 5th so im desperate to know the truth....even if it's bad.

i believe he misunderstood my email...maybe thought it was a joke or afraid i wanna be more than friends.

should i this time post on his facebook page OPENLY
"hey, are you busy on july 3? i heard transformers out! are you interested?"

it's impossible to talk to him face to face and i dont have his # :S
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#1603 User is offline   DaAzNkIgGa627 

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Posted 01 July 2007 - 07:04 PM

QUOTE(chiluvskk @ Jul 1 2007, 09:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
can someone answer my question, i think you guys skipped it blush.gif


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so if a cute girl showed interest but she's rather shy so it's harder for you to get to know her, how long are you willing to take?

and also there's this guy im attracted to and im kind of sensing he likes me too, but im not sure. we don't talk a lot, but when we do he always looks at the ground and seem really nervous, or talk really slow. not like when he's with other girls, he'd always laugh and joke with them. i also notice he fixes his appearance a lot, and always tries to sit next to me in class. and i don't know if im just crazy but sometimes he also like immitates what i do. lol i don't know how to explain it. when i walk past him his friends would look at me and smile too.

however, i don't know where this is leading because even though i notice all these signs, all he does is just glance at me or something but not actually try to make a conversation. im shy so it's hard for me to make the first move. does it seem like he has interest in me? because he acts so different around other girls......


As kind of a nervous/shy guy around girls, a lot of the things I do are trying to be subtle. Also I try to be around her a lot.
So I think he's definitely in to you. Guys don't fix up there appearances just for anything. (and if they do, they put extra attention when they're around girls they like)

So he's interested in you at the very least, but he's too shy. You can't control his actions, but you can manipulate him if he's too shy. Start flirting with him a little more, take imitative (As in flirt instead of maybe conversation talking). Maybe once you do that he'll be compelled to talk with you more because he'll know you're definitely somewhat interested (I'm assuming you aren't exactly the person that will flirt with every guy... if you are don't use this info)

Well that's all, good luck and go for it!
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Posted 01 July 2007 - 08:10 PM

My boyfriend uh...messaged some of my guy friends to stop flirting with me. o_o (They said I was so cute, don't take the picture off, sexy, etc.) Was it right for him to do that? LOL ;;; I mean I would get pretty angry and/or jealous, too, but they were like...throwing curse words back and forth at eachother. It kinda makes me worried...since my boyfriend's one of those "nal la ri" (slacker in school, etc) type but they really care about their girlfriend. >o>; I have a lot of guy friends by the way because I don't really like associating with girls very much..

One of my friends kept calling me "Jagi" which is like wife/s.o in Korean, but we're like on a brother/little sister level and staying on that, and he told him to stop because it bothered him. ;; Because I call my boyfriend "jagi" but not anyone else and vice versa. I don't flirt back at all or anything and he doesn't know that me and my friend are on a bro/sis/friend only relation. Now my friend is all giving me this nagging even though he knew I had a boyfriend. -__-;;

I don't want it to seem to my boyfriend that I don't care, because I do, but I don't want my friend to call my boyfriend a stick in the hole. >_>

Anyway.
Is he reacting rightfully? Or is he being too protective..? o_o


When you guys get jealous, how far do you take it? :x
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Posted 01 July 2007 - 08:40 PM

would you guys ever lie about your virginity? either way of being a virgin or not being one.
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Posted 01 July 2007 - 08:46 PM

QUOTE(kimseo @ Jul 1 2007, 11:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My boyfriend uh...messaged some of my guy friends to stop flirting with me. o_o (They said I was so cute, don't take the picture off, sexy, etc.) Was it right for him to do that? LOL ;;; I mean I would get pretty angry and/or jealous, too, but they were like...throwing curse words back and forth at eachother. It kinda makes me worried...since my boyfriend's one of those "nal la ri" (slacker in school, etc) type but they really care about their girlfriend. >o>; I have a lot of guy friends by the way because I don't really like associating with girls very much..

One of my friends kept calling me "Jagi" which is like wife/s.o in Korean, but we're like on a brother/little sister level and staying on that, and he told him to stop because it bothered him. ;; Because I call my boyfriend "jagi" but not anyone else and vice versa. I don't flirt back at all or anything and he doesn't know that me and my friend are on a bro/sis/friend only relation. Now my friend is all giving me this nagging even though he knew I had a boyfriend. -__-;;

I don't want it to seem to my boyfriend that I don't care, because I do, but I don't want my friend to call my boyfriend a stick in the hole. >_>

Anyway.
Is he reacting rightfully? Or is he being too protective..? o_o
When you guys get jealous, how far do you take it? XD


Honestly I think he's a little too overprotective. He's kinda being selfish in his actions although who can blame him. Just the fact you have a lot of guy friends would be a concern. I mean I'd definitely think about it if I was going with a girl with a lot of guy friends.

Talk to him that the friends are seriously not on the level that you two are at (Do something special for just him just to show you care also). Also ask your friends to tone down their flirting a little bit. (Especially in front of your boyfriend...)

That should solve everything ^.^


QUOTE(chineseduckling @ Jul 1 2007, 11:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
would you guys ever lie about your virginity? either way of being a virgin or not being one.


I wouldn't... I'm one of those guys that finds it too bothersome to lie... Especially about stupid little things like that...
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Posted 01 July 2007 - 08:48 PM

So uh, I really like this guy and he likes me back as far as I can tell, but he's shy, and I'm pretty shy as well. xD;
We joke around a lot and some people tease us like "Aww, you guys make a cute couple!" "Stop ignoring your girlfriend!" when we're not dating. He just laughs it off or goes like, wtf.

I even asked for his phone number, but I call him when we're instant messaging and he jokes around saying his phone's on vibrate/silent and that it's too far away. xD Which is funny, but yeah. Why exchange if you don't call, right?

He also tells me that he enjoys my company out of everyone and that he likes me the best [ there's so many girls after this boy! ], but he talks comfortably around other people than me. He tells me that I give him butterflies, it's flattering and all, but still, does this mean he's uncomfortable with me?

Ugh, I don't even know what my original question was.
Maybe uh, in a shy-guy's point of view, is this how you show that you like someone?

It's kind of troublesome and heart-aching to see how comfortable talking to everyone, but me. /:

Please help guys~
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#1608 User is offline   natt2828 

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Posted 01 July 2007 - 09:06 PM

Any suggestions of a date for a shy guy?

well, i like this guy and i'm thinking of asking him out on a date
but i dont know where tho...
I want a place that we can open up ourselves a bit
and have fun
no clubbing tho >,<

Thanks!
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#1609 User is offline   mygroove 

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Posted 01 July 2007 - 09:13 PM

QUOTE(Lunched Box @ Jul 1 2007, 11:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So uh, I really like this guy and he likes me back as far as I can tell, but he's shy, and I'm pretty shy as well. xD;
We joke around a lot and some people tease us like "Aww, you guys make a cute couple!" "Stop ignoring your girlfriend!" when we're not dating. He just laughs it off or goes like, wtf.

I even asked for his phone number, but I call him when we're instant messaging and he jokes around saying his phone's on vibrate/silent and that it's too far away. xD Which is funny, but yeah. Why exchange if you don't call, right?

He also tells me that he enjoys my company out of everyone and that he likes me the best [ there's so many girls after this boy! ], but he talks comfortably around other people than me. He tells me that I give him butterflies, it's flattering and all, but still, does this mean he's uncomfortable with me?

Ugh, I don't even know what my original question was.
Maybe uh, in a shy-guy's point of view, is this how you show that you like someone?

It's kind of troublesome and heart-aching to see how comfortable talking to everyone, but me. /:

Please help guys~


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Posted 01 July 2007 - 09:16 PM

QUOTE(natt2828 @ Jul 1 2007, 11:06 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Any suggestions of a date for a shy guy?

well, i like this guy and i'm thinking of asking him out on a date
but i dont know where tho...
I want a place that we can open up ourselves a bit
and have fun
no clubbing tho >,<

Thanks!


just go for an icecream...its summer and hot, best time to just chill and talk while snacking on ice cream. Keep the date simple and short, it'll make him want you more (thats IF he's interested and attracted to you).
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Posted 01 July 2007 - 09:19 PM

hey i totally agreee man, seriously, if a guy is shy, then how? they will never get the ger they like?

sometimes, it is just so tough to interpret a shy guy's actions, if esp they are always so deep in thoughts..u know that kind of 'think alot' before any actions....


it is going to be so tiring for the ger...
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#1612 User is offline   Stevent 

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Posted 01 July 2007 - 09:54 PM

QUOTE(beinspired @ Jul 1 2007, 07:37 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
-How do you personally, as a guy act in front of someone u have interests for?eg.does ur eyes go weak when ur talking to them? etc....-And... let's say that there is a cute girl that hangs around your social group of friends. and she appears to be interested in you...... would you automatically begin to have interests for her as well in return?Because i heard somewhere.. that guys AUTOMATICALLY have interest for a cute girl who is interested in them..?
1)I tend to have more eye contact with her and try to single her out from the whole group by trying to get to know her better.2)It depends because this is the only time personality goes before looks. If we like the way she acts, then surely enough, we would start to develop something for her.
QUOTE(Belleluvly @ Jul 1 2007, 11:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
alright..this is probably a stupid question...but I'm gonna ask anyway.Are guys attracted to...say..Vixen type girls?..that are confident and mysterious and play hard to get? kinda like..girls that like to show off their..assets but not too slutty or revealing while still being femenine....kinda like...seducing the guy they are interested in indirectly?orwould a guy be rather attracted to a more..softspoken, innocent seeming, somewhat confident kinda quiet..and seem to just make small talk with the guy they are intrested in?this is confusing even me....ok try to make the best of this question.
I like the second option biggrin.gif
QUOTE(star.DUST @ Jul 1 2007, 12:17 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If a guy likes a girl... does become friends with her just to get close to her?AND does he seem to get stuck there?
He will be stuck if he does something wrong to get his rear end in the friend zone
QUOTE(mygroove @ Jul 1 2007, 12:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hey guys, ask u all...if in the office, u like a ger, will you talk to the ger or be quiet. but silently helping her....However, you will also talk and be really friendly with other gers just to spite the ger that you like?And also, is touching a gal on her head a sign of affection?
1)I would approach her to get to know her instead of being subtle.2)No, I dont play games3)Not that I know of.
QUOTE(ingi.girl^ @ Jul 1 2007, 03:30 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why do guys break promises?
Things happen, we cannot control future events that happen to arise.
QUOTE(SOeun. @ Jul 1 2007, 08:32 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
when guys have a gf and also flirt with other girls, do they do this because theyre bored of their gf or comfortable w/ other girls or looking for the next gfs? Do guys hate it when their girlfriends play hard to get even though they're already their girlfriends, I mean, she'll probably do that just to tease but do guys see that? ._.
1)He's not satisfied in his relationship, therefore new girls = new excitement2)No, if she's my gf, no need to get mad because deep down, she's mine cool.gif
QUOTE(swtamy83 @ Jul 1 2007, 08:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Is it wrong for me to be man at my bf when he:- buys me one single rose after 6 months of dating- never surprise me- never bought me one present- promised to make me a graduation present and now he's one month late cuz he siad he doesn't know how to finish it and his laziness got in the way- tells me many things but never seem to do itNevertheless, i forgave him and hope that he will change. If not, it's over! What do u guys think?
Yes, because even though he cant keep his promise, at least try or make an attempt.
QUOTE(kimseo @ Jul 1 2007, 11:10 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My boyfriend uh...messaged some of my guy friends to stop flirting with me. o_o (They said I was so cute, don't take the picture off, sexy, etc.) Was it right for him to do that? LOL ;;; I mean I would get pretty angry and/or jealous, too, but they were like...throwing curse words back and forth at eachother. It kinda makes me worried...since my boyfriend's one of those "nal la ri" (slacker in school, etc) type but they really care about their girlfriend. >o>; I have a lot of guy friends by the way because I don't really like associating with girls very much..One of my friends kept calling me "Jagi" which is like wife/s.o in Korean, but we're like on a brother/little sister level and staying on that, and he told him to stop because it bothered him. ;; Because I call my boyfriend "jagi" but not anyone else and vice versa. I don't flirt back at all or anything and he doesn't know that me and my friend are on a bro/sis/friend only relation. Now my friend is all giving me this nagging even though he knew I had a boyfriend. -__-;;I don't want it to seem to my boyfriend that I don't care, because I do, but I don't want my friend to call my boyfriend a stick in the hole. >_>Anyway.Is he reacting rightfully? Or is he being too protective..? o_oWhen you guys get jealous, how far do you take it? :x
He has the right to be jealous. How would you take it if other girls started to flirt with your bf and started sweet talking to him. Sure you might say that you would be fine with it, but once it does, you will feel otherwise.
QUOTE(Lunched Box @ Jul 1 2007, 11:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So uh, I really like this guy and he likes me back as far as I can tell, but he's shy, and I'm pretty shy as well. xD;We joke around a lot and some people tease us like "Aww, you guys make a cute couple!" "Stop ignoring your girlfriend!" when we're not dating. He just laughs it off or goes like, wtf.I even asked for his phone number, but I call him when we're instant messaging and he jokes around saying his phone's on vibrate/silent and that it's too far away. xD Which is funny, but yeah. Why exchange if you don't call, right?He also tells me that he enjoys my company out of everyone and that he likes me the best [ there's so many girls after this boy! ], but he talks comfortably around other people than me. He tells me that I give him butterflies, it's flattering and all, but still, does this mean he's uncomfortable with me?Ugh, I don't even know what my original question was.Maybe uh, in a shy-guy's point of view, is this how you show that you like someone?It's kind of troublesome and heart-aching to see how comfortable talking to everyone, but me. /:Please help guys~
Yes, he likes you, but doesnt want to risk being rejected. He's scared of putting his neck on the chopping block and then somehow take a turn for the worst.
QUOTE(natt2828 @ Jul 2 2007, 12:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Any suggestions of a date for a shy guy? well, i like this guy and i'm thinking of asking him out on a datebut i dont know where tho... I want a place that we can open up ourselves a bit and have fun no clubbing tho >,<Thanks!
4th of July is coming up, why not invite him to the park with a couple friends and watch fireworks and you can work your magic then?
QUOTE (sushiwhore @ May 3 2008, 09:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
exactly STEVEN YOU ARE MY HERO prince charming or w.e he was omg STEVEN IS MY HERO my brain is failure O_O

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Posted 01 July 2007 - 10:11 PM

QUOTE(j'adoreAZNpop @ Jul 1 2007, 09:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Hey guys~ i emailed privately on june 29 using facebook to this guy... wanna just become friends

i thanked him for dance at prom, gave him pic of us (very blurry though) and asked if he wants to hang out sometime before he leaves.
he didnt reply and he normally does with my other emails.... i will be leaving for family vacation on the 5th so im desperate to know the truth....even if it's bad.

i believe he misunderstood my email...maybe thought it was a joke or afraid i wanna be more than friends.

should i this time post on his facebook page OPENLY
"hey, are you busy on july 3? i heard transformers out! are you interested?"

it's impossible to talk to him face to face and i dont have his # :S

Do you really want me to answer? Im not trying to sound mean or whatever, but even if I do give you advice, you will choose to ignore it wont you?
But, it seems that you want to be his friends in order to be closer to him so that later on, he will develop feelings for you too. But....
I'll be blunt and hopefully you will hear this, he's not interested. Dont send him any other emails until he chooses to email you first.
QUOTE (sushiwhore @ May 3 2008, 09:19 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
exactly STEVEN YOU ARE MY HERO prince charming or w.e he was omg STEVEN IS MY HERO my brain is failure O_O

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Posted 01 July 2007 - 11:38 PM

Seeing as this is supposed to be a male's POV, I would think ya'll have experience so it's almost pointless for me to ask but what the hell.

I'm seeing this guy, and so far I think I like him quite a bit. The thing is- he's never had a girlfriend, or even a love interest at all. He's told me that girls have never been a priority and that he's just never been interested because he has a lot of stuff going on with his life. Along with that he added that I was pretty lucky he has taken interest in me rolleyes.gif

So here's my question. Should I stay in this or get out of it before anything happens? Because I'm really not sure what his intentions are, he likes me but I'm not sure he knows how to handle me, and I'm looking for a serious relationship.

There is something else too. He is 21 and I'm 17. To you guys, does an age gap like that matter a lot? I've asked him and at first he said it bothered him a little, but just yesterday he said "No it's doesn't bother me. To me you're just Stella."


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Posted 01 July 2007 - 11:49 PM

QUOTE(STELLA STARR @ Jul 2 2007, 12:38 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Seeing as this is supposed to be a male's POV, I would think ya'll have experience so it's almost pointless for me to ask but what the hell.

I'm seeing this guy, and so far I think I like him quite a bit. The thing is- he's never had a girlfriend, or even a love interest at all. He's told me that girls have never been a priority and that he's just never been interested because he has a lot of stuff going on with his life. Along with that he added that I was pretty lucky he has taken interest in me rolleyes.gif

So here's my question. Should I stay in this or get out of it before anything happens? Because I'm really not sure what his intentions are, he likes me but I'm not sure he knows how to handle me, and I'm looking for a serious relationship.

There is something else too. He is 21 and I'm 17. To you guys, does an age gap like that matter a lot? I've asked him and at first he said it bothered him a little, but just yesterday he said "No it's doesn't bother me. To me you're just Stella."

He might be a natural, it's hard to tell whether or not the relationship will be good unless you try. So I really think you should decide whether or not the juice is worth the squeeze.

Age doesnt matter too much. But in this case, the age difference seems like you two would be in different worlds when it comes to social events -ex. he can go clubbing, gamble, drink, etc, while you're barely aloud to go watch rated R movies at the theaters(or is it 18?), so that can be a bit tricky. It really depends on the type of guy he is though, so don't worry too much about that if you pursue this relationship.
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Posted 01 July 2007 - 11:51 PM

QUOTE(chineseduckling @ Jul 1 2007, 09:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
would you guys ever lie about your virginity? either way of being a virgin or not being one.



nope, i see no point in lying
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Posted 01 July 2007 - 11:51 PM

How do you guys feel about gay men? I mean, most of my guy friends are homo phobics. makes me so angry dry.gif
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Posted 01 July 2007 - 11:53 PM

QUOTE(SOeun. @ Jul 2 2007, 12:51 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
How do you guys feel about gay men? I mean, most of my guy friends are homo phobics. makes me so angry dry.gif

I'm open minded so I don't really care how they live their lives, it's up to them
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Posted 02 July 2007 - 12:03 AM

Thanks Inevitable.

One last question. Do guys care about a girl's size as much as she does? Is the face more important or the body more important when it comes to appearance?
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Posted 02 July 2007 - 12:06 AM

QUOTE(STELLA STARR @ Jul 2 2007, 01:03 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Thanks Inevitable.

One last question. Do guys care about a girl's size as much as she does? Is the face more important or the body more important when it comes to appearance?

I think the face is more important cause that's what i'll be looking at most of the time, but usually, nice faces come with nice bodies.
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