[Stevent]

Hmm... What's the best way to start a convo with a guy who's really shy and doesn't talk much? We're friends, we went to high school together. But we weren't like, best friends or anything. Just friends. So... We've seen each other a few times since graduation and I'd really like to get to know him better. The problem is... I can't really find the guts to talk to him because I dunno how to start a convo with him. >.<

He's not into sports. He's not into games, either. He studies...a lot. I think he's trying to get into med school or something. :x Whenever we see each other, we just look into each others' eyes and then one of us looks away. Argh, it's awkward! @_@ I want to say something, but he doesn't look at me.

It's weird because he greets my other friends normally, like "Hi, *insert friend's name here*! Where's your next class?" But with me, it's just... ._. We used to talk in high school. But now we're college seniors, and I'd really like to get to know him better before we graduate (before I leave for another country T_T).

So... I should start off with a "Hi, *insert his name here*! How are you?" Then... What comes next? >.<;; Everything I think of seems stupid to me. ):

Help, anyone? :x

Thanks. ^^

after he answers the "how are you", ask him where is he off to. Basically, just pound him with questions.
Ask him what's he planning to do after college, has he given any consideration where he might be going.
He'll probably turn the tables and ask about you and where you're headed. Then tell him the country that you are leaving to.

it is said that guys dont care about the "size" of a women's chest or rear end.. (got it from cosmo) I'm one of the unfortunate ones.. (if i might add)

but anyways..

my ex's said.. "they didn't care about the size of my chest or rear end" that "they loved/liked me for who and what i am" but when a "hot" girl passes by they would glance at them.. "hot" as in "big chest & big rear end"

do guys really dont care about size? or are they just saying it because they dont want to hurt a girl's feelings?

-- off topic --

what do guys think about girls having plastic surgery?
so i guess i'm just asking your personal opinions on it... =)

I dont care about size as long as the girl is proportion. Sure big chest and a big rear end may grab my attention, but it doesnt mean that it's the decideing factor in whether I would like you or not.

I'm not for plastic surgery unless it's for a cause like if a person was 3rd degree burns, mauled by a bear, car accidents, etc...

[la folie]

Oo I have another question!

How would you like girls to cheer you up when you're not feeling as upbeat?
(say you're talking online and he's feeling like 'crap' for no reason)

[lily-chan]

Who's better looking? A girl that looks like Jessica Alba or a girl that looks like BoA? So it'd be something like hot girls VS innocent/pretty girls.

Need pictures? (I've heard guys are mostly visual )

[Inevitable]

Oo I have another question!

How would you like girls to cheer you up when you're not feeling as upbeat?
(say you're talking online and he's feeling like 'crap' for no reason)

Offering to take me out and have fun, do random stuff, etc would definitely cheer me up. Or a visit, hang out at home would work too

Who's better looking? A girl that looks like Jessica Alba or a girl that looks like BoA? So it'd be something like hot girls VS innocent/pretty girls.

Need pictures? (I've heard guys are mostly visual )

hmm.. not sure... pics please!

[hoer]

Who's better looking? A girl that looks like Jessica Alba or a girl that looks like BoA? So it'd be something like hot girls VS innocent/pretty girls.

Need pictures? (I've heard guys are mostly visual )

Can't I have both?

[what~the~vu]

Oo I have another question!

How would you like girls to cheer you up when you're not feeling as upbeat?
(say you're talking online and he's feeling like 'crap' for no reason)

you should call me and tell me funny jokes. even if its cheesy and stupid..lol cause when you talk online..theres hardly any emotion put into the things you say.

[DaAzNkIgGa627]

Oo I have another question!

How would you like girls to cheer you up when you're not feeling as upbeat?
(say you're talking online and he's feeling like 'crap' for no reason)

If she'd call me and slip in an inside joke that she knows will make me laugh ^.^ I'd appreciate that....

Who's better looking? A girl that looks like Jessica Alba or a girl that looks like BoA? So it'd be something like hot girls VS innocent/pretty girls.

Need pictures? (I've heard guys are mostly visual )

*Drools..............................

If I have to... BoA...... but I bow to them both.

[aznxrawr]

What impression would you get if a girl you were dating hasn't called or IMed you in a long time (like 2 weeks)?

[touche`]

Can you describe 'lazy' in this situation? sorry, it's just a little vague I mean, you two did go to her house to relax so the whole point of it was pretty much asking to be lazy. I guess if this was an ongoing thing, it'd be a bit of a turn-of but not tooooo much. As long as she has ambition to succeed in life, laziness doesn't matter much.

Like her mom ask her to cook and she ignores it. Or asking her to clean the living room but walked away instead.
Sit there and do nothing, waiting for the last minute to get yell at. xD

[tritiahan]

Do guys ever try to make a girl jealous? If so why? Don't they know that the girl really will get jealous and maybe pissed?

[CriticalHit]

I met this guy a couple weeks ago and we started out talking a lot, then I said "I trust people too easily" and after that he stopped talking as much. I got really confused and I thought he got mad at me for something. A couple days later I asked him "Did I offend you?" and he said "No, I just don't put too much energy to people who don't trust me." then later he told me to call him because he was tired and didn't want to talk on the computer. It was awkward for me because I sort of just met him, but anyways he told me that he's really picky with his friends, he has few of those but lots of aquaintances.

So if he counts me as an aquantance why would he want to talk to me on the phone?

And also, while we were talking he said another girl was going to call him in an hour, and he was also talking to a bunch of girls on AIM. So would that mean he just likes talking to a lot of girls because he likes hanging out with them, or just so he can tell everyone "Girls like to talk to me on the phone a lot"? Just wondering.

[Stevent]

What impression would you get if a girl you were dating hasn't called or IMed you in a long time (like 2 weeks)?

either she may be really busy, or she just doesnt seem interested anymore

Do guys ever try to make a girl jealous? If so why? Don't they know that the girl really will get jealous and maybe pissed?

some guys do, some guys dont. It's the very same reason why you girls do it, to make someone jealous. And yes, we do know that the girl we like will probably get pissed or jealousy, that's the reaction that we are aiming for.

I met this guy a couple weeks ago and we started out talking a lot, then I said "I trust people too easily" and after that he stopped talking as much. I got really confused and I thought he got mad at me for something. A couple days later I asked him "Did I offend you?" and he said "No, I just don't put too much energy to people who don't trust me." then later he told me to call him because he was tired and didn't want to talk on the computer. It was awkward for me because I sort of just met him, but anyways he told me that he's really picky with his friends, he has few of those but lots of aquaintances.

So if he counts me as an aquantance why would he want to talk to me on the phone?

And also, while we were talking he said another girl was going to call him in an hour, and he was also talking to a bunch of girls on AIM. So would that mean he just likes talking to a lot of girls because he likes hanging out with them, or just so he can tell everyone "Girls like to talk to me on the phone a lot"? Just wondering.

By saying that he talks to alot of different other girls, he's just boosting his self-esteem.

He still wants to talk to you because maybe he wants you to be in his little circle of friends.

[DBSK_love]

so theres this guy i jus met, n well hes not into girls, like hes not gay or anything he doesnt date and doesnt care much about girls...hes like 5 years older then i am, A LOT of girls ask him out and stuff but hes turned down all of them....when i hang out with him and were alone hes so sweet and nice and funny, and he treats me like we're dating, like he pays for everything i get, he gives me his jacket when it rains, and stuff like that...
i thought he liked me, until i heard him taking to his friends saying that he likes me as a friend, but i still get confused cuz when we're in a big group he always stands next to me, and always walks me home too...when i was joking around with him saying "i wonder what it would be like if we dated?" and he jus said it would never happen cuz were good friends...so whats wrong with him? why is he acting like that?

[jimmylim]

How would you like girls to cheer you up when you're not feeling as upbeat?

i'd like a phone call to just chat about why i'm feeling upset. however, i'd prefer talking in person in these situations.

What impression would you get if a girl you were dating hasn't called or IMed you in a long time (like 2 weeks)?

if i can reach her when i call her then doesn't matter. if i can't reach her then i'd be worried. if i find out that she's actually ok then i wouldn't be pleased that she's been ignoring me.

I met this guy a couple weeks ago and we started out talking a lot, then I said "I trust people too easily" and after that he stopped talking as much. I got really confused and I thought he got mad at me for something. A couple days later I asked him "Did I offend you?" and he said "No, I just don't put too much energy to people who don't trust me." then later he told me to call him because he was tired and didn't want to talk on the computer. It was awkward for me because I sort of just met him, but anyways he told me that he's really picky with his friends, he has few of those but lots of aquaintances.

So if he counts me as an aquantance why would he want to talk to me on the phone?

And also, while we were talking he said another girl was going to call him in an hour, and he was also talking to a bunch of girls on AIM. So would that mean he just likes talking to a lot of girls because he likes hanging out with them, or just so he can tell everyone "Girls like to talk to me on the phone a lot"? Just wondering.

yeah he sounds pretty bossy to make you call him. unless you're short on friends, i'd just stick to the online convos so that he doesn't get too controlling in case you do date him in the future.

so theres this guy i jus met, n well hes not into girls, like hes not gay or anything he doesnt date and doesnt care much about girls...hes like 5 years older then i am, A LOT of girls ask him out and stuff but hes turned down all of them....when i hang out with him and were alone hes so sweet and nice and funny, and he treats me like we're dating, like he pays for everything i get, he gives me his jacket when it rains, and stuff like that...
i thought he liked me, until i heard him taking to his friends saying that he likes me as a friend, but i still get confused cuz when we're in a big group he always stands next to me, and always walks me home too...when i was joking around with him saying "i wonder what it would be like if we dated?" and he jus said it would never happen cuz were good friends...so whats wrong with him? why is he acting like that?

he doesn't sound straight. from your post it sounds like he knows you well already, and from your pic you're pretty good looking, so if he's straight i don't see a good explanation.

[yanshimkim]

^ Ask if he wants to wrestle.

Ahahahaha! I dunno... I doubt he would. XDDD

after he answers the "how are you", ask him where is he off to. Basically, just pound him with questions.
Ask him what's he planning to do after college, has he given any consideration where he might be going.
He'll probably turn the tables and ask about you and where you're headed. Then tell him the country that you are leaving to.

Hmm. Yeah, I've always been wondering where he's going after college... :x I heard he's going to med school, but I'm not sure. @_@

Thanks for the advice! ^^

[zzombie]

Why do you guys take your girlfriends for granted? I.E. thinking that she'll always be there when you eff up too much.

[theofficefreak]

so my male friend thinks that he can't ever get married because he knows that the girl he is in love with now (who has a boyfriend and is in a great relationship) will never be in love with him. they've never been a couple or anything. she is basically an acquaintance of his. oh, and he's only 18. i got so worried when he told me this because it seems like he's setting himself up for misery. i talked to one of his friends about it and he told me that my friend will forget about all this when he goes off to college, and that "that's just the way guys think." he refuses to talk about it and says that "if i don't get married, then i don't get married." do guys really think like that? and do you think he will forget? is there any way i can try to help him through it?

[Stevent]

Why do you guys take your girlfriends for granted? I.E. thinking that she'll always be there when you eff up too much.

the thing is, we dont do it on purpose.
Sometimes we dont think things through thoroughly before we do it.

so my male friend thinks that he can't ever get married because he knows that the girl he is in love with now (who has a boyfriend and is in a great relationship) will never be in love with him. they've never been a couple or anything. she is basically an acquaintance of his. oh, and he's only 18. i got so worried when he told me this because it seems like he's setting himself up for misery. i talked to one of his friends about it and he told me that my friend will forget about all this when he goes off to college, and that "that's just the way guys think." he refuses to talk about it and says that "if i don't get married, then i don't get married." do guys really think like that? and do you think he will forget? is there any way i can try to help him through it?

I dont think he'll forget, but he'll move on. College is just over the horizon for you guys and with a new environment comes new possibilities.
There's not much you can do if he's not willing to talk about it.

[jirappo.]

mmkay, so there's this guy. i'm more than friends with him, but we're not boyfriend/girlfriend. i;m 99.9% sure he actually really likes me, and i like him back. in public, everyone thinks we go out 'cause we hold hands, kiss, and all that junk. so...why hasn't he asked me out yet?
one of his close friends and mine told me that he didn't wanna feel "trapped" or "tied down" which is exactly why my other friend didn't go out with this girl he liked who also liked him back. what does that mean?! i mean..if you really like someone..shouldn't you wanna be with them?

he hasn't talked to me in two days...and before that we talked and saw each other almost every day. i don't know what his intentions are anymore.

thanks fellas.

[honeylove]

My boyfriend hasn't been in a relationship for 2 years. And like, sometimes we don't even act like a couple. It's bothering me & I don't know if I should bring it up. I did bring it up once talking about how we don't even act like a couple at times or whatever and how we can't open up sometimes.. he's just like " o " or " i don't know " or some crap. I like him a lot and all but he just doesn't really show that he cares & I'm so used to people saying corny sweet things to me, and he just doesn't do that. He doesn't ask me to go spend time w/ him nowadays.. well rarely. We see each other every 2-5 days and we rarely have alone time. We've been going for about a month & almost a week and he hasn't even kissed me yet. He has told me before that he's more of a " fighter " not a lover. x__x. I asked him if he's sure about his feelings for me & he said yes. I really wanna spend more time w/ him, but I don't wanna bring it up because I don't wanna make it seem like I'm FORCING him to hang out with me. It's so annoying though!! And he goes out EVERYDAY, so why can't he go out with me? What's wrong with him? x__x.. are a lot of guys like this? Does it just take some more time? O_O.