[[HyuNi]]

Hahahaha... That's true! I started talking to a guy in class due to the fact that both of us have watched the kick-ass movie, Transformers. I then proceeded by talking about the Dinobots and whatnot, but he didn't know who they were, and so the conversation stopped right there.

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Anyways, my question is I'm going to be 23 this year, and duuuuuuuuuude, I have yet to find my first boyfriend.

Is there something wrong with me? I admit, I use to be antisocial and stuff, but I'm working on that.

I mean I've dated in the past, but dang... they all turned out to be jerks. One guy was too cocky with his "I make the best pho using the best of the best for broth, ox tail." And dude, his pho tasted like cardboard. And another guy was looking for U.S. citizenship. The last guy I tried dating was too ugh... girly. Like he would wash his face at the beach every 30 minutes with Arrowhead water. Yea, like that's really attractive man.

So, like, what's the deal? Any tips? I probably need to be the aggressor in this type of situation, but how?

And please say something other than "You will find the right guy someday," or "Don't worry... There's someone out there who is perfect for you. You just haven't met him yet." I've gotten that enough already.

Big thanks!
And sorry my post is long. It's my first time posting here.

Bahaha, I know what the dinobots are! Beast Wars! haha
Anyways... I'll be 23 in 4 days and it took me that long to find someone who I connect with.

One suggestion is, please don't be that older female who is so forceful and aggressive with guys. I think a lot of girls that haven't had many boyfriends tend to feel like if they don't initiate some kind of relationship soon, they will turn into a crazy cat lady or a nun for life or something. You still have PLENTY of time!

Is there someone in mind that you like? Because I wouldn't try to find a "boyfriend" for the sake of just having one.
I think a lot of relationships don't last these days because someone goes around poking everyone around to see if they would date them and the first person who falls for it, they date. (mostly guys do this) But it's really missing the point because a boyfriend or a girlfriend seriously won't solve all your problems and as happy as someone can make you, man... they have the power to make you so frustrated and sad.
Don't think of "once I have a S/O, WOW! I'm going to be this awesome person and we're going to do this and that and love each other and blah blah blah..."
I have this theory that the easier it is to enter into a relationship with someone, the easier it is to end the relationship. Maybe you've been waiting all this time to meet someone you'd be willing to fight... megatron.. and win for? haha (bringing back the transformers) haha I suggest you don't go look for someone that's down in the dumps because he also, has never had a girlfriend. Oh man.. that's gonna be like a pityfest. Good people tend to be busy living their lives, regardless of having a g/f or b/f.

I think people our age must realize that the relationships we enter into have to be on another level. If you are interested in someone that you really feel like you both could have a connection with, then it's worth a shot. I was very indifferent to girls before I met mine, but she really made me want to go after her. She was the first person I proposed to and the first to deny me, but I had to show her that this wasn't just another infatuation. Things just felt natural even though it was the first time for me proposing. I imagine it'll be the same for you. Just don't be that older female going to younger guys and grab their arms and say stuff like, "Oh my gosh! You're arms are so big! It's OK! I'm your older sister, I can do these kinds of things!" Girls can be super heeby too... At least when guys are heeby, they at least know they are...

So I'm going to end with "Don't worry" or "You'll find the right guy someday" because even though cliche, they are absolutely correct.

-John

[Inevitable]

Hey guys, I was hoping if you could answer my semi-childish question. ^^;v

My SAT class has already had four sessions and we've had the opportunity to talk to some of our classmates. The thing is, there's this one guy in my class who I really like (alright maybe more like infatuated ), yet I haven't had the opportunity to even talk to him. But when I do want to talk to him I get extremely nervous, my heart pounds really fast. The worst part is his frend is in our class so they're always with each other and they never talk to anyone else. I guess it also doesn't help how I'm an extremely shy person, I'm self-conscious, and he kinda gives off this aura of a mean guy (which I probably guess he is not),which only gets me more nervous. So I was wondering, what are some ways I can start a conversation with him without making me appear like an idiot. Or do you guys know any good ice breakers that you would like a girl to say to you?

Thanks so much! <3

Maybe start off by talking about the SAT sessions, and how helpful or lame it is as an ice breaker, then let the conversation flow from there. Sometimes, you just have to break out of your shy capsule and take a risk, otherwise, you might end up regretting a missed opportunity. Good luck!

I have 3 questions and i'm not sure if they've already been asked before. This thread is so big! ^^"

1-Do guys like girls that are smart in the studies?
2-What does it mean when a guy friend of mine is outgoing and talkative with other girls but act more seriously with me?
3-Why do guys tickle girls that are not even their girlfriends?

1-Definitely! Smart girls are really attractive
2-This depends a lot on his feelings about you, i'm guessing youre that ^smart girl up there, and he gets this vibe that he should act serious. I might be wrong, but i tend to do that sometimes. If you jokearound with him and show himthat he doesn't have to be serious all the time, that may help him loosen up
3-Probably flirting, lots of guys like making girls laugh, even if they end up getting hit in the end because they tickled the girl

i just want some opinion on wat u guys think about this situation.

i found out that my bf just made a promise to come back to his ex in a few years. i mean they havent even talked to each other 4 these past few years and now outta nowhere they met again and he asked her to wait 4 him. does that mean he doesnt see any future with me? but the weird thing is. he didnt bother to keep in touch with her again. so any ideas?

This is a pretty difficult situation. I personally would talk to him because it just isn't right that he is making you feel like the temporary girl. Right now, since he's with you, you have the upper hand so i think you should confront him (that is, if you are certain he told his ex to 'wait for him')

Hahahaha... That's true! I started talking to a guy in class due to the fact that both of us have watched the kick-ass movie, Transformers. I then proceeded by talking about the Dinobots and whatnot, but he didn't know who they were, and so the conversation stopped right there.

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Anyways, my question is I'm going to be 23 this year, and duuuuuuuuuude, I have yet to find my first boyfriend.

Is there something wrong with me? I admit, I use to be antisocial and stuff, but I'm working on that.

I mean I've dated in the past, but dang... they all turned out to be jerks. One guy was too cocky with his "I make the best pho using the best of the best for broth, ox tail." And dude, his pho tasted like cardboard. And another guy was looking for U.S. citizenship. The last guy I tried dating was too ugh... girly. Like he would wash his face at the beach every 30 minutes with Arrowhead water. Yea, like that's really attractive man.

So, like, what's the deal? Any tips? I probably need to be the aggressor in this type of situation, but how?

And please say something other than "You will find the right guy someday," or "Don't worry... There's someone out there who is perfect for you. You just haven't met him yet." I've gotten that enough already.

Big thanks!
And sorry my post is long. It's my first time posting here.

The first problem is you are looking for a boyfriend. As cliche as it sounds, you dont look for love, love finds you. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. The anti social thing might be one of the biggest problems because it may make guys feel like you arent interested. Keep working on that. You don't need a complete change, just open yourself up more and show people that you have a genuine interest whenever you conversate. Flirting really helps too, just dont overdue it to the point that you seem desperate Good Luck!

[dianannsano]

Bahaha, I know what the dinobots are! Beast Wars! haha
Anyways... I'll be 23 in 4 days and it took me that long to find someone who I connect with.

One suggestion is, please don't be that older female who is so forceful and aggressive with guys. I think a lot of girls that haven't had many boyfriends tend to feel like if they don't initiate some kind of relationship soon, they will turn into a crazy cat lady or a nun for life or something. You still have PLENTY of time!

Is there someone in mind that you like? Because I wouldn't try to find a "boyfriend" for the sake of just having one.
I think a lot of relationships don't last these days because someone goes around poking everyone around to see if they would date them and the first person who falls for it, they date. (mostly guys do this) But it's really missing the point because a boyfriend or a girlfriend seriously won't solve all your problems and as happy as someone can make you, man... they have the power to make you so frustrated and sad.

So I'm going to end with "Don't worry" or "You'll find the right guy someday" because even though cliche, they are absolutely correct.

-John

Wow, thanks so much for your detailed reply. But yes, I am afraid of being single for the rest of my life.
My friends are always making fun of me on two things:
1. I'm going to turn into one of those crazy, old cat ladies (that you've mentioned) who throws cats at young, pretty girls out of jealousy
or
2. Once I become a teacher, I will have sexual relationships with my students, therefore, ending my career for the rest of my life. This will only result in me becoming, once again, the crazy, old cat lady.

I guess I shouldn't try and force myself to get a boyfriend or find a relationship, because like you said, then the very foundation of the relationship itself is not pure and will most likely end in regret later on. I'm probably just going through some emotional crap right now.

So I guess I shall accept your cliche and not worry.
But when should I start worrying? When I start going to petstores to buy cats?

P.S. Yea, go Dinobots! My fave was Sludge, the brontosaurus. His comments were always so stupid and funny.
P.S.S. What the heck is "heeby"?
P.S.S.S. Happy Birthday in 4 days.

The first problem is you are looking for a boyfriend. As cliche as it sounds, you dont look for love, love finds you. I don't think there's anything wrong with you. The anti social thing might be one of the biggest problems because it may make guys feel like you arent interested. Keep working on that. You don't need a complete change, just open yourself up more and show people that you have a genuine interest whenever you conversate. Flirting really helps too, just dont overdue it to the point that you seem desperate Good Luck!

Flirt? Ugh... no, I don't flirt at all. It's not my thing. Why? Should I really flirt? Like flip my hair around and bat my eyelashes? Gahhhh! I shiver just thinking about it. Sorry, flirting is just not...who I am... I was hoping guys would be more drawn to me for my personality. Could I still attract guys if I rarely flirt?

But yes, I'm starting to be myself a lot more now around people I don't even know. I'm going to events, talking to classmates, etc.

[iEatPowder]

To IEatPowder:
Yeah, I think he might've been hurt. Like, I know that he has around 3 girlfriends in the past? Or maybe more that I don't know much about. I wanna sit down and talk to him about it sometimes, but before we went out.. we were w/ 2 other friends and we brought up the ' relationships ' topic. [ His friend did it on purpose cus he knew we liked each other.. haha ] Anyways, all he had to keep saying was " no comment " to this & that. He didn't tell us ANYTHING. And later at night I asked about his last relationship and why it failed and he told me that the girl lost feelings for him. And I think that was his longest relationship, but I'm not sure. I know his longest relationship is 1 year.. but I don't know if it was the last one he had. There's like too many problems in our relationship right now.. small things that we can fix but just don't know how. =[. But yeah, maybe you're right that he put his guard up for awhile. I guess I'll wait and see. =\

Well, give it time, and see if he begins to let his guard down. And by time, I mean lots of it; however long you can hold out for and put up with his distant attitude. Once it reaches that point, present him with an ultimatum. You can say something like, "If you want me to lose my feelings for you too, then continue treating me like this." But it can be something else. Maybe he'll snap out of it, because right now, it seems like he's just taking you for granted. You shouldn't have to put up with that. But that really is a tough situation. I trust you'll make the right decision.

wow! you must be more than happy that you and your friends like goin to spas together and havin a blast!!.. i hope all your doin there is gettin massages.. cuz obviously you live such an "unsheltered" life that you enjoy doin things outside the box.. and as you said yourself "TWO, this is an opinion thread" and you gave your opinion on my suggestion and i merely gave an opinion on your suggestion. i never insulted, you did first. So before you call someone immature, why dont you google the definition first ok?

Way to put words in my mouth. PM me, or keep your post relevant. Your comments are so convoluted and abstract, now, that it just seems like you're desperate to say anything for a comeback. I'm not continuing this here and getting warned.

[GDlovesBEE]

what do you guys think of male musicians (ie; rappers) who have no respect for their female fans and simply refer to them as "hoes" or "groupies"?

[Inevitable]

Flirt? Ugh... no, I don't flirt at all. It's not my thing. Why? Should I really flirt? Like flip my hair around and bat my eyelashes? Gahhhh! I shiver just thinking about it. Sorry, flirting is just not...who I am... I was hoping guys would be more drawn to me for my personality. Could I still attract guys if I rarely flirt?

But yes, I'm starting to be myself a lot more now around people I don't even know. I'm going to events, talking to classmates, etc.

haha the thing is, flirting isn't all about physical actions like flipping your hair and whatnot, it's a play on mindgames. All you need is creativity, and let it go from there. It provides men with a basis to pursue you because you've caught their interest. And yeah, the flirting stuff you mentioned is a little more on the desperate side that I was talking about (no offense to others who've used this technique), it either works for the guy, or they think the girl is trying too hard, and usually it comes off more as the latter.

what do you guys think of male musicians (ie; rappers) who have no respect for their female fans and simply refer to them as "hoes" or "groupies"?

I think it's all part of the business. They may use those words in their songs and it can be really offensive, and degrading to women, but I'm sure not many of them actually feel that way in real life. It sells, many people like the music, when it plays at the clubs they dance to it, I mean.. although there is a lot of criticism for it, it really won't stop until an epidemic against this type of language in music occurs.

[Stevent]

my guy friend who lives fairly close by me has been coming over after midnight.. and we'd sit outside and he'd play his guitar and sing to me.. and after we'd talk for an hour or so.. but he tells me about hte girl he likes and everything.. so i mean, doesnt that automatically mean he doesnt like me when he got a girl on his mind already? i cant tell whether or not him coming over to play his guitar for me can mean anything more than a just friend..

well, did he ever described the girl he likes to you? Does it sound very similar to you? If so, then it just may be you. By describing this girl, he's giving you a clue as to who it is.

Damn it! What's up with the nice guys? Huh? Bein all nice to us, givin us your jacket, complimenting us all the damn time, giving us hugs, embracing us with that hot, sexy, Acqua di Gio scent you got on you, acting all nice and smiling all the time and then you go "aw, but we could never be more than friends."

Of course, I'm just making this up.
But I see it all the time! And it annoys me!
WHY?!?! If you don't like the girl, don't act that way
damn. Leading us on and mini cooper.
AHHHHHHHhhhh.
Oh an actual question - what do you guys think is more important - the ass or the boobs

We're not leading you on, refer back to Riderkamen's post.
But to me, I dont think the ass or booty is more important than the other. I like a girl that is proportioned.

Haha, you guys dare call us drama queens? Our thread doesn't have as much drama as the yours.

Anyways. Now to my question. How do you feel about girls who still sleep with a teddy bear on their bed (or in some cases, teddy bears)? Let's say the age range is from 16 to 22.

You ladies are drama queens. Your thread does have more drama then ours. My reasoning wins over any other girl's rebuttal.
So with that said, +1 for the fellas. *In a deep voice* OHH YEAH!

If a girl was to sleep with a teddy bear, it's fine with me. It's more of a comfort and security thing for you ladies.

Hey guys, I was hoping if you could answer my semi-childish question. ^^;v

My SAT class has already had four sessions and we've had the opportunity to talk to some of our classmates. The thing is, there's this one guy in my class who I really like (alright maybe more like infatuated ), yet I haven't had the opportunity to even talk to him. But when I do want to talk to him I get extremely nervous, my heart pounds really fast. The worst part is his frend is in our class so they're always with each other and they never talk to anyone else. I guess it also doesn't help how I'm an extremely shy person, I'm self-conscious, and he kinda gives off this aura of a mean guy (which I probably guess he is not),which only gets me more nervous. So I was wondering, what are some ways I can start a conversation with him without making me appear like an idiot. Or do you guys know any good ice breakers that you would like a girl to say to you?

Thanks so much! <3

Start off with the conversation with a "Hi". Then ask him for his name. A good ice breaker is to make the conversation serious yet add a little bit of humor at the same time.
There's no need to be nervous about. You need to stop putting guys on a pedestal, to which you cant reach but only to admire. By doing so, you already place huge odds against yourself.

I have 3 questions and i'm not sure if they've already been asked before. This thread is so big! ^^"

1-Do guys like girls that are smart in the studies?
2-What does it mean when a guy friend of mine is outgoing and talkative with other girls but act more seriously with me?
3-Why do guys tickle girls that are not even their girlfriends?

1) Yes, a girl that has brains is always a +
2) More then likely it's nothing. These other girls, are they his friend also, or some random people. If they are his friend, something may be up.
3) Teasing, flirting, having fun, etc...

[xxkoreansahrang]

why are most guys attracted to girls with the looks??

[underneathHERskin]

What should I do to hint to a guy friend that I'm interested in him without seeming desperate and overly flirty? And what do you fellas think about girls confessing that they like you? Like it? Or no...

[moonk379]

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Way to put words in my mouth. PM me, or keep your post relevant. Your comments are so convoluted and abstract, now, that it just seems like you're desperate to say anything for a comeback. I'm not continuing this here and getting warned.

haha w/e dude

[hked]

What should I do to hint to a guy friend that I'm interested in him without seeming desperate and overly flirty? And what do you fellas think about girls confessing that they like you? Like it? Or no...

*talk to him, start conversations etc. call, sms him
*STARE at him....naa but do look at him, and maybe he'll catch u looking ^^
*give him hugs...but dont give any to other guys



but as a guy, i fail at reading hints, anddd i like girls who confess, saves me a lot of trouble trying to read if they like me or not ^^

[[HyuNi]]

Wow, thanks so much for your detailed reply. But yes, I am afraid of being single for the rest of my life.
My friends are always making fun of me on two things:
1. I'm going to turn into one of those crazy, old cat ladies (that you've mentioned) who throws cats at young, pretty girls out of jealousy
or
2. Once I become a teacher, I will have sexual relationships with my students, therefore, ending my career for the rest of my life. This will only result in me becoming, once again, the crazy, old cat lady.

I guess I shouldn't try and force myself to get a boyfriend or find a relationship, because like you said, then the very foundation of the relationship itself is not pure and will most likely end in regret later on. I'm probably just going through some emotional crap right now.

So I guess I shall accept your cliche and not worry.
But when should I start worrying? When I start going to petstores to buy cats?

P.S. Yea, go Dinobots! My fave was Sludge, the brontosaurus. His comments were always so stupid and funny.
P.S.S. What the heck is "heeby"?
P.S.S.S. Happy Birthday in 4 days.
Flirt? Ugh... no, I don't flirt at all. It's not my thing. Why? Should I really flirt? Like flip my hair around and bat my eyelashes? Gahhhh! I shiver just thinking about it. Sorry, flirting is just not...who I am... I was hoping guys would be more drawn to me for my personality. Could I still attract guys if I rarely flirt?

But yes, I'm starting to be myself a lot more now around people I don't even know. I'm going to events, talking to classmates, etc.

You know where the crazy cat lady that throws kittens is from? I bet you know~ Simpsons... so poetically comedic. haha #2 was a little.. over the top~ haha I don't know you in real life, but I have a feeling you really won't have a time when you should be worried. Buying cats at a petstore shouldn't worry you... what you should be worried about is if you start raising stray cats in your home and the cats take over the place. haha Or maybe when you look at a cat and think, "that cat looks so throwable" haha All joking aside, you're fine.


Before my girl, some girls sometimes would be kinda flirtatious with me which I kinda enjoyed, but I ended up thinking, does she to this to all the guys? If you're not used to flirting, then don't force yourself to. It will definitely show by the awkward silences.
I think what inevitable is trying to say is, "have an open mind." Maybe it wouldn't hurt to open your eyes and your ears too. Maybe someone hasn't "found" you yet because you've closed the door before he got to know you. You don't necessarily have to flirt with everyone you have a good feeling about, but everyone could definitely live life with a more open mind. You want someone to start liking you after looking at your personality right? Well, if you don't give anyone that chance to see it, not a lot of guys will stick around and wait for you to feel comfortable enough to show them your real character.

PS My favorite dinobot was obviously Optimus Prime when he became fully transformed (when he accepted the sphere or w/e)
PSS I'm not exactly sure about the definitional term of "heeby", but it's said when talking about a guy (he) that's creepy. So for girls it must be "sheeby"? haha
PSSS Thanks

[Simply_M3]

wow. This thread grew like crazy.

This is going to be my second time posting in here haha. My first one only 1 guy answered but whatever.

Anyway. Onto my dilemma.

I've been friends with this guy since 2005 so almost two years now. We used to hang out a lot in the beginning but then we lost contact because of school and such. But then I saw him at the beginning of this year at Meijer buying socks lol. I was geeked when I saw him because he happens to be one of the coolest guys there is until recently. Before I get into the what my problem is and what my question is, let me fill you in on how we are.

We are close. He knows my biggest secrets/fears/goals. He can read me like a book seriously. He can even tell when my dearest friend TOM is visiting when my bestfriends can't tell. He knows what to say to make me laugh, to cheer me up. He buys me food when we hang out. He looks out for me. I told him problems at home that I didn't even tell my bestfriends because I didn't want them to look at me differently, because I knew he wouldn't. He can tell when I'm not being myself because apparently I have this certain tone or vibe around me. I'm usually very good at hiding when I'm sad or when I'm angry but he just can tell!

I know what his fears/secrets/goals are. He's shown/told me things he's never shown/told anyone before. I know when he gets irritated, but I can't read him like he can read me. It's was always that way. He was able to see right through my facade and he was able to help me. I tried my best to help him with whatever problems he had. I even told him I was sorry that i couldn't help him much but he says talking to me was more than enough.

And here comes in the problem.

All of the sudden out of nowhere we just STOP talking. We talked almost everyday about random things and nothing seemed out of the ordinary to me. He was himself-or at least he seemed like it to me-and then when the weekend (about a month ago) comes, I don't hear from him. So I thought he needed some time to just relax because he'd been busy for the past two weeks. Then the weekdays come rolling around and I don't hear from him till wednesday. I didn't bother bringing up what he's been doing because if he wants me to know he'd tell me. He never did. He seemed different on the phone. More distant like he didn't really want to talk to me. It bothered me a bit because he's never acted that way before. And then it just keeps on happening. I wanted to ask him what was up but I didn't want to bother him with it.

He knows that I hate it when people do this. Just stop talking out of no where with no warning. I can't stand it when people just push me out of their lives like I never was a part of it. He knows countless of people have done that to me and he even promised me he'd never do it! He said he never makes empty promises but what kind of crap is he pulling now!?!?! I don't like being left behind and he knows this.

I can't think of what I possibly did to make him just stop talking to me or what I could do. I've tried calling him to ask him about it but he never picks up or calls back. I tried texting him about it but he never replies. It's not like I bombarded him with phone calls or texts. I called him twice in one week and texted him maybe twice as well that week. So I couldn't have over done it. I tried asking our mutual friends but they can't even think of what he'd do that to me because they know how close we are.

I'd understand if he found a girlfriend but is that even enough reason to just STOP talking to your friend? And I'm not even sure if he found one because he never told me about one even when I asked him about it.

So did I confide in him too much? Did I make him feel like I was some needy/clingy little girl? What am I supposed to do? I really really enjoy his friendship and I don't want to lose him. I don't mind if he doesn't talk to me as much as before but I don't want him to just push me out of his life.

Fellas, what's your opinion on my problem? What do you think I should do? HELP!!!!

I've been punching at my punching bag for days because I've been bothered by this whole problem thus bruising my knuckles. And another question: Punching continuously-I can go for an hour straight just punching- at say my punching bag helps me a great deal with the stresses in life. Does that scare you boys? LOL




HOLY THAT'S LONG!!!

[hked]

wow. This thread grew like crazy.

This is going to be my second time posting in here haha. My first one only 1 guy answered but whatever.

Anyway. Onto my dilemma.

I've been friends with this guy since 2005 so almost two years now. We used to hang out a lot in the beginning but then we lost contact because of school and such. But then I saw him at the beginning of this year at Meijer buying socks lol. I was geeked when I saw him because he happens to be one of the coolest guys there is until recently. Before I get into the what my problem is and what my question is, let me fill you in on how we are.

We are close. He knows my biggest secrets/fears/goals. He can read me like a book seriously. He can even tell when my dearest friend TOM is visiting when my bestfriends can't tell. He knows what to say to make me laugh, to cheer me up. He buys me food when we hang out. He looks out for me. I told him problems at home that I didn't even tell my bestfriends because I didn't want them to look at me differently, because I knew he wouldn't. He can tell when I'm not being myself because apparently I have this certain tone or vibe around me. I'm usually very good at hiding when I'm sad or when I'm angry but he just can tell!

I know what his fears/secrets/goals are. He's shown/told me things he's never shown/told anyone before. I know when he gets irritated, but I can't read him like he can read me. It's was always that way. He was able to see right through my facade and he was able to help me. I tried my best to help him with whatever problems he had. I even told him I was sorry that i couldn't help him much but he says talking to me was more than enough.

And here comes in the problem.

All of the sudden out of nowhere we just STOP talking. We talked almost everyday about random things and nothing seemed out of the ordinary to me. He was himself-or at least he seemed like it to me-and then when the weekend (about a month ago) comes, I don't hear from him. So I thought he needed some time to just relax because he'd been busy for the past two weeks. Then the weekdays come rolling around and I don't hear from him till wednesday. I didn't bother bringing up what he's been doing because if he wants me to know he'd tell me. He never did. He seemed different on the phone. More distant like he didn't really want to talk to me. It bothered me a bit because he's never acted that way before. And then it just keeps on happening. I wanted to ask him what was up but I didn't want to bother him with it.

He knows that I hate it when people do this. Just stop talking out of no where with no warning. I can't stand it when people just push me out of their lives like I never was a part of it. He knows countless of people have done that to me and he even promised me he'd never do it! He said he never makes empty promises but what kind of crap is he pulling now!?!?! I don't like being left behind and he knows this.

I can't think of what I possibly did to make him just stop talking to me or what I could do. I've tried calling him to ask him about it but he never picks up or calls back. I tried texting him about it but he never replies. It's not like I bombarded him with phone calls or texts. I called him twice in one week and texted him maybe twice as well that week. So I couldn't have over done it. I tried asking our mutual friends but they can't even think of what he'd do that to me because they know how close we are.

I'd understand if he found a girlfriend but is that even enough reason to just STOP talking to your friend? And I'm not even sure if he found one because he never told me about one even when I asked him about it.

So did I confide in him too much? Did I make him feel like I was some needy/clingy little girl? What am I supposed to do? I really really enjoy his friendship and I don't want to lose him. I don't mind if he doesn't talk to me as much as before but I don't want him to just push me out of his life.

Fellas, what's your opinion on my problem? What do you think I should do? HELP!!!!

I've been punching at my punching bag for days because I've been bothered by this whole problem thus bruising my knuckles. And another question: Punching continuously-I can go for an hour straight just punching- at say my punching bag helps me a great deal with the stresses in life. Does that scare you boys? LOL
HOLY THAT'S LONG!!!

woahhhh......nice typing ^^

well, ive experienced this before cept that, the person who suddenly stopped talking was my female best friend. anyhow, the reason she suddenly stops talking, or talked really little, was because of a man.

So, its not that ur being clingy, but i believe that he now has a gf, and maybe the gf doesnt want him to communicate with other girls as much...

OR, hes just found a more ''interesting'' girl to talk to...

[predator]

I have this guy friend & he wanted to ask advice.
So I said that I would post his story here so you guys could give him advice ;D


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Let's call him Bob.
& let's call the girl Mary.

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So this year, Bob and Mary got really close together & Mary would always help Bob with his homework, etc. & tell him not to slack off.
Mary isn't the prettiest, skinniest girl but they're close friends.
And Bob obviously could see that Mary liked him, so he asked her who she liked & she told him that she liked him.
But he doesn't like her.
& so as the end of the school year progressed, he didn't talk to her much anymore, because he didn't want to lead her on to thinking he had the same feelings and he didn't want to hurt her feelings by saying that he didn't like her.
And he made her cry a couple of times.

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And so my friend "Bob" wants to know how he could apologize to her without making her feel like she's being made fun of.

Thanks =]

[natt2828]

if a girl becomes really good friend with a guy for too long,
is it still possible for the guy to like the girl more than just friend?

u know how sometimes we just become friend with that person
because we like them.

sorry i dont know if my question makes sense.
i'm kinda sleepy lol

[DBSK_love]

so i wrote this a couple days ago...

so theres this guy i jus met, n well hes not into girls, like hes not gay or anything he doesnt date and doesnt care much about girls...hes like 5 years older then i am, A LOT of girls ask him out and stuff but hes turned down all of them....when i hang out with him and were alone hes so sweet and nice and funny, and he treats me like we're dating, like he pays for everything i get, he gives me his jacket when it rains, and stuff like that...
i thought he liked me, until i heard him taking to his friends saying that he likes me as a friend, but i still get confused cuz when we're in a big group he always stands next to me, and always walks me home too...when i was joking around with him saying "i wonder what it would be like if we dated?" and he jus said it would never happen cuz were good friends...so whats wrong with him? why is he acting like that?

after a few days i was hanging out with him, and i dont know how it happened but we almost kissed, so 2 days later he told me he has always liked me except he couldnt be more then friends with me, but he didnt tell me what the reason was until i heard from his friend that his other friend likes me and so thats why he cant be more then friends...so the next day the guy who likes me told me he really likes me and wanted me to give him a chance, i told him i needed some time to think cuz im really really good friends with him and i dont wanna hurt his feelings, but i really like the other guy...what should i do..? idk how to let him down without hurting him...

[DaAzNkIgGa627]

I have this guy friend & he wanted to ask advice.
So I said that I would post his story here so you guys could give him advice ;D
---

Let's call him Bob.
& let's call the girl Mary.

---

So this year, Bob and Mary got really close together & Mary would always help Bob with his homework, etc. & tell him not to slack off.
Mary isn't the prettiest, skinniest girl but they're close friends.
And Bob obviously could see that Mary liked him, so he asked her who she liked & she told him that she liked him.
But he doesn't like her.
& so as the end of the school year progressed, he didn't talk to her much anymore, because he didn't want to lead her on to thinking he had the same feelings and he didn't want to hurt her feelings by saying that he didn't like her.
And he made her cry a couple of times.

---

And so my friend "Bob" wants to know how he could apologize to her without making her feel like she's being made fun of.

Thanks =]

Hmm... that was a mistake... It already seems as if he is fishing around (whether he was or not) and toying with her. I think a simple sorry will be the best thing, I mean Bob has already hurt Mary and depnding on what kind of girl Mary is, Mary may not forgive him. Although if he just simply says "Sorry, I didn't want to lead you on, I hope that we can still be friends."

if a girl becomes really good friend with a guy for too long,
is it still possible for the guy to like the girl more than just friend?

u know how sometimes we just become friend with that person
because we like them.

sorry i dont know if my question makes sense.
i'm kinda sleepy lol

Is this what you are saying? If a guy became a friend with a girl just because he liked her, and time progresses can he still have feelings for her after a while after being just friends.

The answer is yes.... It is likely that the guy will still have feelings. Guys like that generally do not retain the "friends" unless they still like her or believe that it is still viable to go out with her.

Hope that answers your question.

so i wrote this a couple days ago...

so theres this guy i jus met, n well hes not into girls, like hes not gay or anything he doesnt date and doesnt care much about girls...hes like 5 years older then i am, A LOT of girls ask him out and stuff but hes turned down all of them....when i hang out with him and were alone hes so sweet and nice and funny, and he treats me like we're dating, like he pays for everything i get, he gives me his jacket when it rains, and stuff like that...
i thought he liked me, until i heard him taking to his friends saying that he likes me as a friend, but i still get confused cuz when we're in a big group he always stands next to me, and always walks me home too...when i was joking around with him saying "i wonder what it would be like if we dated?" and he jus said it would never happen cuz were good friends...so whats wrong with him? why is he acting like that?

after a few days i was hanging out with him, and i dont know how it happened but we almost kissed, so 2 days later he told me he has always liked me except he couldnt be more then friends with me, but he didnt tell me what the reason was until i heard from his friend that his other friend likes me and so thats why he cant be more then friends...so the next day the guy who likes me told me he really likes me and wanted me to give him a chance, i told him i needed some time to think cuz im really really good friends with him and i dont wanna hurt his feelings, but i really like the other guy...what should i do..? idk how to let him down without hurting him...

Hmmm.... well how old are you? I mean if you're like 14-16 a 5 year difference is huge so I mean you have to take that into consideration. I dunno.... it kinda seems weird.

Well guys are generally loyal to their friends, they value friendships more than they value a relationship. I mean if he pursues you he risks losing two friendships (the friend that likes you, and if things go wrong your friendship also) The guy you like probably won't even pursue you if you reject his friend because as long as that friend has feelings for you, it might feel like he's betraying him.

I don't really have an answer on what to do besides wait it out... The guy will either disregard his friend and go for you after a while, or he'll not go for you as long as his friend likes you.

Hope that helps XD

[Simply_M3]

woahhhh......nice typing ^^

well, ive experienced this before cept that, the person who suddenly stopped talking was my female best friend. anyhow, the reason she suddenly stops talking, or talked really little, was because of a man.

So, its not that ur being clingy, but i believe that he now has a gf, and maybe the gf doesnt want him to communicate with other girls as much...

OR, hes just found a more ''interesting'' girl to talk to...

Are you serious? A girl/guy can make one just push a friend out of their lives like that? IMO that's pretty pathetic. I guess what bothers me the most is that he didn't have the balls to say it my face.

And the whole 'found a more interesting girl to talk to' might be it. But I guess I'm better off without a friend like that who'll just drop me like a hot potato because he's found someone more 'interesting.' Psh I'M INTERESTING!!!

And thank you for your input.

[tinamanning01]

ive been dating this guy for a few weeks now and i thought of a really cute idea but i dunno if the guy will be annoyed or not.

im going over to his house to sleepover and i kinda wanna like.....wash his hair?!? does that make sense? give him a little head message and wash his hair and then have him do the same to me...would a guy like that? not naked or anything. something totally innocent.