[sockrahtease]

Pale or tanned girls?

I know a lot of guys who are split on this. Is it simply a matter of preference or is there a reason behind it? LOL.

[coffeeduck]

do guys appreciate it when a girl trys her best to comfort him when hes depressed, but the shes not that good at comforting ppl and so the comforting ends up being not so effective?

[mshl]

guys....
why do you ignore your girlfriends sometimes? as in, not pick up calls, not text, etc...
is it usually because you're busy? or because you just need your own space?

[Sapphire852]

Pale or tanned girls?

I know a lot of guys who are split on this. Is it simply a matter of preference or is there a reason behind it? LOL.

for me, it's really about how the guy thinks the tan on the girl makes the guy look. if the guy is really pale, he probably doesnt want a really tanned girl since it makes him look even more pale, and "pale" isnt really a "masculine" descriptive word.

do guys appreciate it when a girl trys her best to comfort him when hes depressed, but the shes not that good at comforting ppl and so the comforting ends up being not so effective?

definitely, even a long hug will do, we just need to know you care, just make sure you dont nag the guy, some times when a person is depressed he needs some time alone too.

guys....
why do you ignore your girlfriends sometimes? as in, not pick up calls, not text, etc...
is it usually because you're busy? or because you just need your own space?

we're usually just too lazy, personally, i really dont feel the need to constantly be interacting with the other person.

[tritiahan]

i didn't really word my question very well so it was pretty confusing.
maybe thats why it only got one response :[
but i reallly need a lot more opinions because i can't stop worrying and thinking over thiss. (pretty sad-.-)
and i don't know what to do

anyways, here it goes..again

i have a guy friend. and we've been pretty close friends for a while.
at first, he didnt tell me straight up that he liked me or anything. but he would hold my hand and things like that.
but about 4 months ago, he told me that he liked me
but i didnt tell him(right then) that i liked him too..although i did.
but about a month after that happened, i thought it would be right to tell him. so i did.
and then i guess he was happy about it. not sure how to word it. but yeah.

anyways, so he's been away for about a month for something.
and while he was there, i found out that he met this other girl.
he told me about how there was a girl he met there that was being a little to "attached" to him. and she would act all emo if he talked to other girls there. and when i asked him if he liked that girl, he told me no. so i was relieved.
but for some reason, i couldnt really believe him :[ because i saw pictures on his (and her) myspace. and they seemed to be prettyyy close.

yeah, well. i don't know what to do.
i dont have the courage to actually confront him about this because im afraid he'll think i'm over reacting and things might get akward between us and i realllly don't want that to happen.

so what should i do?

ohyea. and another reason why i think it'd be sorta hard for me to talk to him(about ANYTHING) is because when he called me last week, i was sorta acting "cold" towards him. i was pretty unhappy(maybe a litttle jealous) about this whole thing & i was also having a pretty bad day >_< but anyways, i knew that he knew that i wasn't exactly happy at him(or at anyone at that point). cuz before he hung up he was all like "yeah. it was nice talking to you" and things that sorta made me feel bad. and he hasnt called, IMed, texted, commented on myspace or ANYTHING like that. :[ so i don't know if he's avoiding me. and if he is, should i start talking to him again? and if i do. what am i supposed to say? apologize for being a total bxtch on the phone? :[

[Elee]

So I met this guy online and he's 28 and I told him that I was 18 (I'm actually 16). The only reason why I told him I was 18 was to protect myself from online predators. At first, I didn't mind lying about my age to him, but now that I've gotten to know him, I feel bad for lying. He seems like a really nice guy. Well, we've been talking for a few weeks now and he knows that I have a bf. So, we were playing a game together online and I won again for the second time. After I won, the conversation went like this:

She: I beat you again
He: I hate you again
She: I know (in a joking manner)
(After a pause, he continues.)
He: I actually really like you
She: do you really mean that?
He: yeah
She: oh
He: I know it's weird being so far apart and online
She: yeah it kind of is

Anyways, after he confessed to me, I really wanted to tell him the truth about my age, but was afraid that he wouldn't want to talk to me anymore nor like me anymore (yes, I am starting to have feelings for him). So, my questions are:

1. Should I tell him the truth about my age?
2. If you were him and I told you the truth, how would you react or feel?
3. Do you think his feelings are sincere?

I'll need more than one guy to answer these questions. Thanks!

im a girl, but i advice that you shouldnt go for it.
1. your young & underaged.. i know that age doesnt matter, yada yada yada, but you never know... plus, long distance relationships SUCKKKKK major butt.

[lemoncake0910]

hey guys, tell me what u think about this:

I rejected a guy about a year ago and I could NEVER imagine myself with him in any way except as FRIENDS... (but not as VERY good friends, cuz i dislike his attitude-- i'll explain more later)
Anyways, the thing is... this dude has a ... 'my way'/'if-i-can't-get-it-i-will-use-all-my-power-to-make-it-mine'/'I am the GREATEST' ... mentality.
His self-centered-ness pisses me off... and I think he's spoiled b/c he's an only son in his family.
Since the time we got into a 'fight' a year ago, I ignored him and cut-off contact with him completely (and i'm still doing that today). Why did I do it? It's because arguing with people like him is useless. He wrote manymany blog postings about his hate towards me (wth.) and like disses me on every one of them.. and wrote things about "love" (omg. like.. wth... i DON'T love him.) and he even writes about some of these things on his msn display name (it's like.. eveytime I see it, i'm like: omg... SHUT UP. )
Although i'm angry at him for hurting me with all those things he's done, I've NEVER done anything to diss him back or anything.
I think he's so immature and I hate his attitude. Still, I choose to ignore him and cut-off connections with him.
And yes, he's still going at it today... and not moving on from what happened last year.

What do u guys think about these types of guys? Any suggestions about what other things I should do besides ignoring him? I've never met anyone like him before... and most guys I know who get rejected don't do these types of things to the girl who rejected them.

oh.. just to let u know.. i don't really hate him... but it's just that i... don't wanna connect with him.

Thnx for hearing me rant. =p

lol...hes immature and insecure. He's dissing you n all, because he feels insecure about his position. So he makes it sound like he doesnt really need you.

HA.
If he's making it sound like he 'doesn't really need me', then why doesn't he leave me alone? It's been a yr and a few months already... and he's still going at it.
Note: this is the behavior of a 21 year old guy... (i mean.. for this particular 21 yr-old guy).
Also, he sometimes stalks me at my workplace (tch~ - -").. he heard from someone about where I work at. The last time he came, I saw him and gave him an attitude (but didn't talk to him at all).. and then walked far away from him.

[blue_shoe]

Analyze this:

I'll keep it simple.

We met a year ago. Then we just got talking, mostly chatting, but we do go out among friends every now and then. After the last time we went out among friends, I just stopped chatting with him because I don't know whether he likes talking to me or not. We're both egoistic and insecure people, as what i can tell. Neither make an effort to talk...2 months later I chatted with him asking if a girl doesn't innitiate to chat with him he wont innitiate to chat w/ them or is it me? His reply is that he likes to talk to me but due to his insecurity, he was afraid otherwise. Then he said he made a promised to himself that if I ever talked to him again, he would ask go to out to lunch, which he then did.

Now, we went to dinner instead, and then to dessert. So, it's kinda safe to assume that it was a date. However, something he said during dinner bothered me. He said he will not marry cause chances are he's not going to meet the right girl.

The question is, you guys don't say those kind of things to girls you seem kinda interested in, or do you? Cause the way I figure is that, sure he can think he might not meet the right girl, but if he's giving me a chance that I could tiny bit possibly be that right girl, then why would he say such a thing?

This lead me to think after all these cheap talk, he just wanted to have somebody to eat dinner with so he doesn't have to eat alone.

[what~the~vu]

do guys appreciate it when a girl trys her best to comfort him when hes depressed, but the shes not that good at comforting ppl and so the comforting ends up being not so effective?

yes, but being too persistent can be annoying though.

[hiswendy]

[Okay, this question might be like a preference thing or w/e but GENERALLY, what would guys do/think?]

I have a really close, great guy friend. Summer last year, we got closer than ever & developed feelings for each other. We went out. I really, really liked him. But considering how I`m seriously messed up-- I`m EMOTIONALLY & MENTALLY unstable!-- I got really, really nervous. When we went on the date, it hit me how serious he was. Not that I wasn`t. But I guess he was more ready for a 'relationship' than I was.... Anyway, the sparks, the chemistry, the "magic" I felt for him... all transformed to nervousness. I got so nervous, that it turned to fear, I guess. To the point where I broke it off with him. He told me he still liked me. We went back to school & I completely avoided him. =( He changed after that. He was always such a good guy but after that... he suddenly got on with bad company & just did horrible in school (he used to be in the honor roll!). Friends said I 'broke' him. You get the point-- it was a messy break. But then, just lately, we became close friends again. I told him everything about my new guy 'Jet'. Jet & I fought a lot, & COFFEE (my great guy friend-- let`s call him that) made it obvious he didn`t like Jet. Coffee often got upset when I talked about Jet, too. But that was just him being a good friend, I guess? But yeah. Everytime I mentioned Jet`s name, COFFEE got... upset. Mad. Pissed off. Anyway, he told me about his new girl... Gabby. Gabby turned out to be my friend EJ's good friend. So we were all connected. I met Gabby-- I didn`t like her. What I found out later? Gabby & Jet were together before. ANYWAY! Despite all that, I still encouraged COFFEE to get with her because he liked her a lot. I wanted him to be happy. So I helped him. Hell, I even helped him sneak out of class to buy a rose for Gabby. That day, I remembered why I liked COFFEE before. But I ignored it. Anyway, the next day after that, he asked her to be his gf & she said yes.

Then, anyway, there was this thing where he told me he was going to transfer. On MSN, I said, "SURE SURE =) WHATEVER`S GOOD FOR YOUR FUTURE! WE WON`T HATE YOU!! WE'LL MISS YOU BUT WE'LL SUPPORT YOU!" The day I saw him at the guidance office to try to sign up for the other school & he told me, I walked out on him & started crying. He came out after me & I pretty much cried on his shoulder & said, "JUST DONT TRANSFER!!" Being the good guy that he is, he doesn`t like it when he displeases anyone so I know I hurt him that time. >_>;; Oh yeah, he missed his meeting with the guidance councillor because of me. >_>;; Ever since then, he`d look at me with some weird look... like he resents me. &when 'last summer' was brought up, he turned to me with that same look of resentment.
Our friends: blah blah plans last summer
Me: YAH! YOU NEVER INVITED ME TO THOSE PLANS LAST SUMMER!
COFFEE: *turns to me with that look* Jodelle, I have a whole file of e-mails from you saying no to all those plans.
Me: ... *shuts up & walks quietly*
I apologized to him about last summer repeatedly before, he swore he was okay. He swore he didn`t resent me or anything. Btw, nobody besides me know the real reason why I broke it off with him. Our friend Dawnnii thinks I got bored with him...

Now I find myself falling for him again. But now things are different. Because he has a gf whom he`s so infatuated with.

The question is or... are: Do I have the right to tell him I like him? If you were him, would you accept me saying I liked you again? If you were him, should I tell you? AND let`s say Gabby didn`t exist, would he accept me again?

Sorry it`s so long. &sorry if it made me sound like a spazz.

[joongielove]

Okay. So I met this guy...around...er..October 2006. That sounds about right. We didn't actually start talking until Like, mid-November. He knew me since like, sept. 05 through a friend, but he never approached me[i dont think im scary ;;] but he thought i was cute/pretty. So I invited him to my party this year. I'm pretty sure he liked me then, but he didnt tell me, cuz he thought i was going out with someone else. So I finally worked up the nerve to tell him about..a month ago that i liked him. and he said he felt the same. we went out on like 'dates' and stuff, to the mall and whatnot. He gave me his hat, he offers to do anything for me, he walks with me in the rain[and i got a cold ;;], he plays around with me, my parents LOVE him, we've been to each others houses. Buthe said he must be the first guy to not do anything after i told him.

uhm, HELP?

[DBSK_love]

how does a guy feel if a girl cries about...

family?
friends?
about them?
another guy?

if there friends..? or if he likes her?

[lily-chan]

What do you guys prefer: A girl who wears makeup and wears stylish/fashion-oriented clothes or a girl who is the opposite of that. I'm not saying she's wearing overalls/stretch pants and is total crime against fashion... but doesn't wear makeup and has normal/plain clothes.

Urg. I don't think I'm clear about this... but you get what I'm trying to say, right?

[DaAzNkIgGa627]

Analyze this:I'll keep it simple. We met a year ago. Then we just got talking, mostly chatting, but we do go out among friends every now and then. After the last time we went out among friends, I just stopped chatting with him because I don't know whether he likes talking to me or not. We're both egoistic and insecure people, as what i can tell. Neither make an effort to talk...2 months later I chatted with him asking if a girl doesn't innitiate to chat with him he wont innitiate to chat w/ them or is it me? His reply is that he likes to talk to me but due to his insecurity, he was afraid otherwise. Then he said he made a promised to himself that if I ever talked to him again, he would ask go to out to lunch, which he then did.Now, we went to dinner instead, and then to dessert. So, it's kinda safe to assume that it was a date. However, something he said during dinner bothered me. He said he will not marry cause chances are he's not going to meet the right girl. The question is, you guys don't say those kind of things to girls you seem kinda interested in, or do you? Cause the way I figure is that, sure he can think he might not meet the right girl, but if he's giving me a chance that I could tiny bit possibly be that right girl, then why would he say such a thing?This lead me to think after all these cheap talk, he just wanted to have somebody to eat dinner with so he doesn't have to eat alone.

I think he's fishing. I'm one of those guys that also fishes. I don't talk to a girl unless they talk to me, and it takes a lot of humility and self-confidence simultaneously to initiate conversations with girls on my part. When he says something like that he's fishing. I'm that type of guy.... I have said that to girls I like, (although I gave a reason I think like, I'm really ambitious and I think it'd be completely wrong for me to neglect a wife and a family that way if I'm never gonna be there for them)Believe me he's fishing, he's probably into you.

[Okay, this question might be like a preference thing or w/e but GENERALLY, what would guys do/think?]I have a really close, great guy friend. Summer last year, we got closer than ever & developed feelings for each other. We went out. I really, really liked him. But considering how I`m seriously messed up-- I`m EMOTIONALLY & MENTALLY unstable!-- I got really, really nervous. When we went on the date, it hit me how serious he was. Not that I wasn`t. But I guess he was more ready for a 'relationship' than I was.... Anyway, the sparks, the chemistry, the "magic" I felt for him... all transformed to nervousness. I got so nervous, that it turned to fear, I guess. To the point where I broke it off with him. He told me he still liked me. We went back to school & I completely avoided him. =( He changed after that. He was always such a good guy but after that... he suddenly got on with bad company & just did horrible in school (he used to be in the honor roll!). Friends said I 'broke' him. You get the point-- it was a messy break. But then, just lately, we became close friends again. I told him everything about my new guy 'Jet'. Jet & I fought a lot, & COFFEE (my great guy friend-- let`s call him that) made it obvious he didn`t like Jet. Coffee often got upset when I talked about Jet, too. But that was just him being a good friend, I guess? But yeah. Everytime I mentioned Jet`s name, COFFEE got... upset. Mad. Pissed off. Anyway, he told me about his new girl... Gabby. Gabby turned out to be my friend EJ's good friend. So we were all connected. I met Gabby-- I didn`t like her. What I found out later? Gabby & Jet were together before. ANYWAY! Despite all that, I still encouraged COFFEE to get with her because he liked her a lot. I wanted him to be happy. So I helped him. Hell, I even helped him sneak out of class to buy a rose for Gabby. That day, I remembered why I liked COFFEE before. But I ignored it. Anyway, the next day after that, he asked her to be his gf & she said yes.Then, anyway, there was this thing where he told me he was going to transfer. On MSN, I said, "SURE SURE =) WHATEVER`S GOOD FOR YOUR FUTURE! WE WON`T HATE YOU!! WE'LL MISS YOU BUT WE'LL SUPPORT YOU!" The day I saw him at the guidance office to try to sign up for the other school & he told me, I walked out on him & started crying. He came out after me & I pretty much cried on his shoulder & said, "JUST DONT TRANSFER!!" Being the good guy that he is, he doesn`t like it when he displeases anyone so I know I hurt him that time. >_>;; Oh yeah, he missed his meeting with the guidance councillor because of me. >_>;; Ever since then, he`d look at me with some weird look... like he resents me. &when 'last summer' was brought up, he turned to me with that same look of resentment. Our friends: blah blah plans last summerMe: YAH! YOU NEVER INVITED ME TO THOSE PLANS LAST SUMMER!COFFEE: *turns to me with that look* Jodelle, I have a whole file of e-mails from you saying no to all those plans.Me: ... *shuts up & walks quietly*I apologized to him about last summer repeatedly before, he swore he was okay. He swore he didn`t resent me or anything. Btw, nobody besides me know the real reason why I broke it off with him. Our friend Dawnnii thinks I got bored with him...Now I find myself falling for him again. But now things are different. Because he has a gf whom he`s so infatuated with. The question is or... are: Do I have the right to tell him I like him? If you were him, would you accept me saying I liked you again? If you were him, should I tell you? AND let`s say Gabby didn`t exist, would he accept me again? Sorry it`s so long. &sorry if it made me sound like a spazz.

Ok.Well I dunno. You did do a lot of stuff to him, and it sounds as if you were just not ready for a relationship with him. But it sounds as if the guy doesn't have any feelings for you right now.The guy will probably also not be a complete believe (albeit he may somewhat half hearteningly believe) the reason you broke up with him was because of nervousness. (If I was the guy I'd assume I did something wrong... XD)So in this case he'll be confused, already without doing anything you are sending mixed signals to him.Also it just sounds as if he's being nice to you, and trying to rebuild the friendship you guys had before. Especially because he has a girlfriend, I'd say just wait it out. To be honest, I'd be hurt too if I lost both my best friend and my love interest. I'd be broken too, and I'd feel awkward if she wanted to be my love interest again.It's not your fault, but I'd say wait it out. He's hurt will go away, maybe even his girlfriend will go away. But you don't want to destroy the rebuilding process of your guys' friendship, and you don't want to be a clingy girl.

Okay. So I met this guy...around...er..October 2006. That sounds about right. We didn't actually start talking until Like, mid-November. He knew me since like, sept. 05 through a friend, but he never approached me[i dont think im scary ;;] but he thought i was cute/pretty. So I invited him to my party this year. I'm pretty sure he liked me then, but he didnt tell me, cuz he thought i was going out with someone else. So I finally worked up the nerve to tell him about..a month ago that i liked him. and he said he felt the same. we went out on like 'dates' and stuff, to the mall and whatnot. He gave me his hat, he offers to do anything for me, he walks with me in the rain[and i got a cold ;;], he plays around with me, my parents LOVE him, we've been to each others houses. Buthe said he must be the first guy to not do anything after i told him.uhm, HELP?

Huh? Are you saying that he's kinda pushing around for power? I don't think I'm quite 100 percent understanding the question.

how does a guy feel if a girl cries about...family?friends?about them?another guy?

It really depends. I mean if I have feelings for a girl (or even be just be on good terms with the girl) if she's crying/venting/angry/sad I'd empathize with her and try to comfort her, but if I have feelings for the girl and she's crying about another guy.... Well it'd make you a little jealous. (Not a little, a lot...... like really a lot)And also it depends on the girl/guy. If the girl is crying about something that is quite trivial, the guy may just kinda be in an awkward position of comforting her while not actually caring for her. Or the guy might just not care at all. All kinda depends.

What do you guys prefer: A girl who wears makeup and wears stylish/fashion-oriented clothes or a girl who is the opposite of that. I'm not saying she's wearing overalls/stretch pants and is total crime against fashion... but doesn't wear makeup and has normal/plain clothes.Urg. I don't think I'm clear about this... but you get what I'm trying to say, right?

If I like her? Y'know if she'd put on make up, and dress nicely to show that she cares about her appearance in front of me. That'd be awesome ^.^

[joongielove]

Huh? Are you saying that he's kinda pushing around for power? I don't think I'm quite 100 percent understanding the question.

No, like, we both like each other and hes done some super sweet things for me, but he didn'task me out? Aish, I feel so stupid asking. T___T;;

[DaAzNkIgGa627]

No, like, we both like each other and hes done some super sweet things for me, but he didn'task me out? Aish, I feel so stupid asking. T___T;;

XD oh lol ok I understand sorry... It's 1 AM and I got like 4 hours of sleep yesterday

Well guys sometimes fish for girls by acting very gentlemen like, but then again he can just be a nice guy acting really sweet to you. See how he acts around other girls.

If he's sweet to all of them, he's just a nice guy.

If he's more sweet to you than other girls, than he's just waiting for you to make the first move.

Hope that helps

[joongielove]

XD oh lol ok I understand sorry... It's 1 AM and I got like 4 hours of sleep yesterday

Well guys sometimes fish for girls by acting very gentlemen like, but then again he can just be a nice guy acting really sweet to you. See how he acts around other girls.

If he's sweet to all of them, he's just a nice guy.

If he's more sweet to you than other girls, than he's just waiting for you to make the first move.

Hope that helps

Hahaha no I did make the first move! I told him I liked him, and he told me he liked me too. Bah. He's stupidd.

[DaAzNkIgGa627]

Hahaha no I did make the first move! I told him I liked him, and he told me he liked me too. Bah. He's stupidd.

Oh XD forgot what you put above sorry XD

Well he's just nervous/insecure.

Reel him in though XD, it really never gets more blatantly obvious than that!

[joongielove]

Hahaha makes him sound like a fish xD

[iEatPowder]

What do you guys prefer: A girl who wears makeup and wears stylish/fashion-oriented clothes or a girl who is the opposite of that. I'm not saying she's wearing overalls/stretch pants and is total crime against fashion... but doesn't wear makeup and has normal/plain clothes.

Urg. I don't think I'm clear about this... but you get what I'm trying to say, right?

Guys just perceive a girl in one of two ways: You either look good doing what you're doing in regards to clothes/make up, or you don't look good doing what you're doing. We don't care if it's "fashion-oriented" or if it's normal and plain. If you can make it work for you, that's all we notice.


Unless of course the dude's metro/homosexual. They notice everything.