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#2251 User is offline   what~the~vu 

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Posted 20 July 2007 - 10:13 PM

QUOTE(alleykat @ Jul 20 2007, 11:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you liked a girl (or maybe just slightly intersted) would you talk to her about other girls (ex. exgirlfriends, the hot girl you saw at some party, etc)


nope....i just want to pay attention to her when im talking to her
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Posted 20 July 2007 - 10:28 PM

QUOTE(beckii @ Jul 20 2007, 09:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
ok so this question might be a bit explicit but il ask it anyway - last night i was the only girl in a group of my guy friends and hence was subjected to a lot of guys talking abt sex...they were complaining abt how much worse it is to sleep with a virgin than a girl whos done it before - on the comfort factor [tightness rofl],etc....so i ask...does it REALLY matter? they were complaining a lot 0_o

also, they were talkin about turn offs - is smoking and tattoos that big a turnoff? i think its pretty hypocritical if the guy can do otherwise [i.e smoke etc].

p.s i have not done/had any of the things i referred to above. rofl.

This is a personal preference for guys. I guess it's understandable for them to want someone with experience. I actually prefer a girl who hasn't done much cause it makes me feel like they're waiting for that special someone to share it with (even if that isn't the case).

-tattoos arent a turn off for me, unless it was some weird stuff that they tattoo'd to their face, like an eye on their eyelid. Although it'd catch eyes, it wouldn't catch mine in a good way, it'd just be strangely amusing. smoking on the other hand is a turn off for me, I can understand that plenty of people smoke, but that's their choice, I wouldn't want to pursue a relationship with them though. There can be lots of answers to these cause all guys have their own preference

QUOTE(yuppieguppy @ Jul 20 2007, 10:26 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
question:
when guys are out clubbing why they tend to grab girls and wanna make out?
when the girl says no guys keep trying...do guys not take "no" for an answer?

another question....
so if your dancing really close to a girl do you guys pop a *bleep*...you notice
or feel awkward??

another question...
how do you feel about a girl you make out w/ a club?

when i read this, i wondered.. wow that's a raunchy a_s club. I've never actually witnessed this or done it myself, but yeah those guys must be really horny.
when a girl says no and they continue to dance/talk with them, guys feel like they still have a chance.. best thing you can do is ignore them, usually theyll go away

we always notice if we do, and it is definitely awkward for both, especially if the other notices too

QUOTE(RawrDesu @ Jul 20 2007, 10:56 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
lets say you live with your friend in a city pretty far away from where your girlfriend lives. you gotta take the train and the bus everyday in and out to get to your temporary "home".

and your friend, he works near the neighborhood where your girlfriend lives and you often goes out of the house with him. so if your friend had a day off or doesn't wanna go out of his house cause of whatever reason, will you come all the way out to see your girlfriend?

cause you and your friend always come and go in and out together. so let's say you dont wanna be lonely or take the train for an hour for so long. will you do all that to see her?

what if you dont have anymore cash left to take the train in and out anymore? will you find a way to come out to see her?

hmm i really don't understand your question, but i'll try my best. um you said the friend lives near the girlfriend, and also that you live with your friend, that part confused me cause then you'd be living near your girlfriend too. well anyways from what I understand, I would see my girlfriend and friend evenly, probably my gf more since i see my friend all the time on the train. if i ran out of money, i would save money until i can go and pay for a ticket, otherwise.. there's no free way of going unless a friend/relative drops me off or if i walk/bike etc. I'm sure the girl should understand that i've run out of money to take the train to see her though, it'd be kind of selfish if she made you do something when it isn't really logical. It'd have to be an emergency or something, otherwise she should understand

QUOTE(alleykat @ Jul 20 2007, 11:09 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
If you liked a girl (or maybe just slightly intersted) would you talk to her about other girls (ex. exgirlfriends, the hot girl you saw at some party, etc)

Only if she asks, or if it was a famous celebrity girl that i saw. It isn't really worth bringing up other girls unless i had the intention to make her jealous for some reason
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Posted 20 July 2007 - 11:06 PM

Do guys tend to forget to say " Happy Anniversary " as the relationship gets longer ?
Or is it just the guy ?


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Posted 20 July 2007 - 11:15 PM

QUOTE(noodl3zx izxd0pe @ Jul 21 2007, 12:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Do guys tend to forget to say " Happy Anniversary " as the relationship gets longer ?
Or is it just the guy ?

some guys do, especially if their lives are really busy at the moment. I can see why it would make someone mad, but it's just a mistake.. it happens blush.gif
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 01:17 AM

So do some guys break off a relationship by just not communicating with them, a.k.a. the silent treatment? Because I thought I was over that in middle school with other 11 year old girls. I have just never experienced this before and am absolutely stumped as to what I should do next. He obviosuly doesn't want to talk to me, but can some guys enlighten me on why this certain guy chooses to show that by totally ignoring me?

By the way, I have no idea as to what I've done to set off this behavior. In fact, I haven't tried talking to him until after a week later. What is his problem?
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 02:11 AM

QUOTE(x3keke @ Jul 21 2007, 11:17 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
So do some guys break off a relationship by just not communicating with them, a.k.a. the silent treatment? Because I thought I was over that in middle school with other 11 year old girls. I have just never experienced this before and am absolutely stumped as to what I should do next. He obviosuly doesn't want to talk to me, but can some guys enlighten me on why this certain guy chooses to show that by totally ignoring me?

By the way, I have no idea as to what I've done to set off this behavior. In fact, I haven't tried talking to him until after a week later. What is his problem?

hm ... nobody can actually answer ur question except for himself ...
some guys jus stop to talk to a girl to attract their attention ... well kinda
but since he is continuing ALTHOUGH u tried to talk to him it seems to be sumthin more serious ...
the only solution is actually that u get him to tell u why he is acting like that
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#2257 User is offline   x3keke 

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Posted 21 July 2007 - 03:22 AM

^thanks for the response.

I would love to get him to tell me why... but he's the one that doesn't want to speak to me and allowing me to ask anyways. I'm not that desperate to get him back, but it was just so...childish. So would you suggest I contact him in other ways... like myspace or aim? because I have those but I'm not comfortable with the idea of me being his next creepy stalker. That doesn't stop the fact that I want to know why he's acting this way though. What is considered stalker-ish for you guys out there?
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 04:52 AM

hm ... i wouldnt do it like that ...
do u know one of his friends ... a friend who is close to him ...
perhaps u can ask him if he knows whats goin on
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 08:04 AM

QUOTE(pencilsandrulers @ Jul 20 2007, 10:21 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
basically, i want to know what in the world is going on in this guy's mind. cos guys arent usually like this, right?

we first met a couple of months ago, clicked and have been talking since. here comes the ''glitch'': by talking, i mean ONLY online. like IM. we talk almost everytime we are both online. all were started by him. okay, we talk alot online. we meet sometimes, coincidentally, in school. why doesnt he EVER call or message. given, he does messsage SOMETIMES. we are pretty good friends i think, so doesnt he progress? even if he likes me only as a friend, wont he take steps to make the friendship stronger? or is he just shy. note that when my friends are around, he wont even say hi, but when im alone he makes a lot of conversation. huh? i guess i dont really show my interest in him-i dont meet his eye or say hi when i see him around, and ill look in every direction except his when i know he is around, and i hardly begin any conversations (online). i dont know, im scared maybe? but, NONETHELESS!

what does it mean if a guy keeps pestering about a girl's friendship/relationship with this other guy who likes her? asks about hows its going and all, teases her. AND tells her to give that guy a chance. sussing out if she likes that guy (who lkes her) cause he is jealous or just plain gossipy? he got slightly pissed when i dressed up for this party thing and some ppl said i looked pretty good, which is like er...?

thanks a whole bunch!


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Posted 21 July 2007 - 08:06 AM

QUOTE(x3keke @ Jul 21 2007, 07:22 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
^thanks for the response.

I would love to get him to tell me why... but he's the one that doesn't want to speak to me and allowing me to ask anyways. I'm not that desperate to get him back, but it was just so...childish. So would you suggest I contact him in other ways... like myspace or aim? because I have those but I'm not comfortable with the idea of me being his next creepy stalker. That doesn't stop the fact that I want to know why he's acting this way though. What is considered stalker-ish for you guys out there?


try texting him and say "Can you please tell me why you've been ignoring me lately? if you desire to break up it's fine, but don't just ignore me. if I've done something wrong I'm sorry." Seem passive so he won't be afraid to open up finally (hopefully).

He might want to break up and doesn't know how to spill it to you. i wanna know the reason too,thats awful. *I'm a girl btw.
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#2261 User is offline   Memoriee 

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Posted 21 July 2007 - 08:59 AM

My boyfriend's ex was gone out of town for a long time and came back recently. She doesn't know that he has a new girlfriend [me], and she's been trying to talk to him or act like they were before he broke up with her. He says he hasn't had a chance to tell her yet, and that he's going to... I'm unhappy that he hasn't already, but I was just like okay I'll let him tell her the next time he sees her.

We kind of got together when he hadn't officially broken up with her yet, which is why I didn't want to... But he kept insisting that it was over with her cause she left and never tried to contact him, and that he was going to break up when he had the chance to talk to her. I asked him why he never told her about us, and he says it'll make him sound like a jerk but he felt like it was cheating...the way we got together when he hadn't broken up with her.

So if it felt wrong and like cheating to him, then why did he go out with me without breaking up first...? I just kind of feel like I don't trust him as much atm, especially since he hasn't told her. And I heard her say to him I still love you.
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 09:41 AM

why do guys cheat when they "love" their girlfriend?
why can't they just break up and go out with another girl instead of cheating?
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 09:55 AM

QUOTE(Memoriee @ Jul 21 2007, 09:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
My boyfriend's ex was gone out of town for a long time and came back recently. She doesn't know that he has a new girlfriend [me], and she's been trying to talk to him or act like they were before he broke up with her. He says he hasn't had a chance to tell her yet, and that he's going to... I'm unhappy that he hasn't already, but I was just like okay I'll let him tell her the next time he sees her. We kind of got together when he hadn't officially broken up with her yet, which is why I didn't want to... But he kept insisting that it was over with her cause she left and never tried to contact him, and that he was going to break up when he had the chance to talk to her. I asked him why he never told her about us, and he says it'll make him sound like a jerk but he felt like it was cheating...the way we got together when he hadn't broken up with her.So if it felt wrong and like cheating to him, then why did he go out with me without breaking up first...? I just kind of feel like I don't trust him as much atm, especially since he hasn't told her. And I heard her say to him I still love you.


she's his safety/plan b

he doesn't like the idea of totally giving up on a girl that likes him and wants to put it aside until you break up with him


QUOTE(lubo0gx3 @ Jul 21 2007, 10:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why do guys cheat when they "love" their girlfriend?why can't they just break up and go out with another girl instead of cheating?

no one's ever in love till they get a job, live by themselves, and knows what responsibily is [and know how to spell it]

plus our hormones are always on the sprinz
when he sees an attractive girl all the blood rushes to his thing and not enough blood goes to his brain/ the part that he uses to make decisions
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 11:13 AM

when a guy says "don't get me anything" for his bday, does he really mean it?


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Posted 21 July 2007 - 12:18 PM

QUOTE(ms. rachellica @ Jul 21 2007, 12:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
when a guy says "don't get me anything" for his bday, does he really mean it?

Yes! Most of the time we dont want anything but to be with our girl.
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 12:39 PM

QUOTE(lubo0gx3 @ Jul 21 2007, 11:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why do guys cheat when they "love" their girlfriend?
why can't they just break up and go out with another girl instead of cheating?


we cheat because we are actually torn between physical attraction for one girl, while still remaining emotionally attached with the other one. another situation would just be we feel like we could get along with both and we simply want to see which girl is better before making any rash decisions, and the last situation is that the guy is avoiding the problem of choosing between the two by taking both. you can quote me on this, but i think girls cheat for pretty much the same reasons...

QUOTE(ms. rachellica @ Jul 21 2007, 01:13 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
when a guy says "don't get me anything" for his bday, does he really mean it?


hmmm, that is a clear sign of "please dont get anything expensive", because if you do, our male pride would want us to top that for your bday.

we may not want anything materistic in particular, but we still want to feel that our bday was acknowledged, just something cheap and simple is actually fine, like buy him dinner? or just a really small inexpensive gift as a gesture, you being with him would be great.
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 12:41 PM

QUOTE(dabrain @ Jul 21 2007, 05:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hm ... i wouldnt do it like that ...
do u know one of his friends ... a friend who is close to him ...
perhaps u can ask him if he knows whats goin on


I don't know any of his friends... but if I did I would have definitely asked them. Argh soo the methods i mentioned are too stalkerish...

QUOTE(hibari @ Jul 21 2007, 09:06 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
try texting him and say "Can you please tell me why you've been ignoring me lately? if you desire to break up it's fine, but don't just ignore me. if I've done something wrong I'm sorry." Seem passive so he won't be afraid to open up finally (hopefully).

He might want to break up and doesn't know how to spill it to you. i wanna know the reason too,thats awful. *I'm a girl btw.


I sent him a text asking him to tell me if he doesn't want to see my anymore, not just by ignoring me. And he never responded!
BTW, my friend also experienced this too. This guy showed so much interest in her, then he never contacted her again. She tried to contact him, but he barely answered. She gave up in the end.

So should I just stop wondering and trying guys?
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 01:07 PM

have any of u guys developed feelings for a close friend of the opposite sex and eventually gone out with them?
if so, did u regret it and want to go back to how it was before or did it turn out well?
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 01:53 PM

QUOTE(thetimeisright @ Jul 21 2007, 04:07 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
have any of u guys developed feelings for a close friend of the opposite sex and eventually gone out with them?
if so, did u regret it and want to go back to how it was before or did it turn out well?

That's actually what I prefer doing. Not to say that I make friends just to go out with them, but I prefer being close friends with a girl before dating them. It makes it so that we both know each other very well and understand each other better than if we had just met. And plus, I don't have to worry about pleasing her or whatever because I already know what to do.
I'm still best friends with these girls even though we've ended. But I can't say that this is this case for most other guys. I wouldn't know.
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Posted 21 July 2007 - 03:49 PM

when a guy talks to you about marriage & kids, is he serious about the relationship between you two?
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