[xLionHeartx]

I have an oddly humorous situation and a few odd questions.

The situation -
My cousin, my friend, and I were relaxing in my cousin's inflatable canoe.
This random (grandpa) old guy came over and started staring at us.
Then he was like, "Why aren't you guys in the water, you look really hot up there."
And then he starts swimming over to us, "Why don't you come in, I'll help you."
At this point I felt a bit more than violated and slightly scared that he was swimming over.
So me, being a violent person, I grabbed a paddle and glared like a mad woman.
Saying that if he came over, I'd kill him with the paddle.
And in all honesty, I really would try to kill him with the paddle if he had come over.
Anyways, he stops swimming towards us, gives me a shocked looked,
laughed nervously and swam away.

And before you say I was jumping to conclusions and he was just being friendly,
I'm 110% sure that he wasn't being 'friendly'. He had the whole paedophile smile&look going on.

Now, the question-
01. Why do guys even bother, when they know it's not going to happen?
02. How much would it wound your ego to be threatened death by a paddle?
03. Do you really think you're "smoothe" when you're acting smooth?

Sorry for the strange questions, just something that came to mind.

Am I allowed to answer your questions or are you going to beat me to death with a keyboard for trying?

[xquisite_]

Am I allowed to answer your questions or are you going to beat me to death with a keyboard for trying?

We'll have to see if you try hard enough.

[yungstar]

hahah you're just hilarious

duh! i shall nickname you captain obvious!

Why do guys like to watch xxx video??

i'm orgasmically narcoleptic so it puts me too sleep

Now, the question-
01. Why do guys even bother, when they know it's not going to happen?
02. How much would it wound your ego to be threatened death by a paddle?
03. Do you really think you're "smoothe" when you're acting smooth?

1. we dont wanna wonder "what if" and regret the fact that we never tried. anyways, "hey! it could happen"
2. personally, not much. i would just assume that you are insane and getting rejected by a crazy is a blessing in disguise in my eyes.
3. i'm a smoothe operator baby no question about it there.

[xquisite_]

1. we dont wanna wonder "what if" and regret the fact that we never tried. anyways, "hey! it could happen"
2. personally, not much. i would just assume that you are insane and getting rejected by a crazy is a blessing in disguise in my eyes.
3. i'm a smoothe operator baby no question about it there.

"What if", you were a sixty-five year old man, and the girl(s) were in their teens?
Haha, good point.
lol, I'm sure.

[yungstar]

"What if", you were a sixty-five year old man, and the girl(s) were in their teens?
Haha, good point.
lol, I'm sure.

if that was the case, i guess i'd have to pop a few of those magical, blue pills to keep up
rawrr~!

[xquisite_]

if that was the case, i guess i'd have to pop a few of those magical, blue pills to keep up
rawrr~!

[beckii]

If all of a sudden you start ignoring me I'd pick up something was wrong.

Miss them? That depends on if I liked them, if yes then yes, if no then no. However if I did really like them I wouldn't be seeing other girls.

He is probably taking you for granted, but are you dating, seeing him? If not then he's free to do whatever he wants.

we arent dating, but we've been very close friends, and he has told me hes been interested before...but doesnt think its good for anything to happen [cuz hes goin overseas soon for 6 mths]...i just want to kno if he values me enough as a friend or whatever. but i cant tell atm cuz im not talking to him, obv.

[hked]

i would IM the girl, of interest, solely on the basis that i would never want to put myself in a situation, where i could come to the realization that she doesn't feel the same way about me, such as logging off in the middle of a 3 hr session without once messaging me. that sucks.

lmao...i totally agree with ur last part, but i still dont IM her, coz i think shes prolly talking to some other guy, since everytime we talk she replies hella slow =\

it also sucks, when ur talking in a convo, and she stops replying for 10mins then logs off =X

[nomad_olga]

From a male's perspective, what is your definition of being "over-protective"?
Or do you think being over protective is fine because your reasons are excusable?

(i hope im making sense lol)

[iEatPowder]

From a male's perspective, what is your definition of being "over-protective"?
Or do you think being over protective is fine because your reasons are excusable?

(i hope im making sense lol)

It's hard to define what "over-protective" is, because everyone is so different. What really matters is just finding the fine line where it's okay to be protective, without overdoing it.

For me, personally, I think over-protective would be calling all the time to find out where you are and what you're doing. I don't like to be clingy, and I highly dislike clingy women. I'm supposed to be your lover, not your father. Calling in moderation is okay, to tell her I love her or what not. I think it's also dumb for guys to get angry and belligerent when another guy looks/stares at his girlfriend. I mean, to start something over something so trivial is pointless, fruitless, and immature. You're already with the girl, and she's with you for a reason. It's a different story if the on-lookers are disrespectful and rude. I don't think it's ever right to go through a s/o's phone to see what he or she has been up to, and who they've been calling (unless there is "just cause" to do so). I don't know... what else would you consider over-protective?

[pencilsandrulers]

lmao...i totally agree with ur last part, but i still dont IM her, coz i think shes prolly talking to some other guy, since everytime we talk she replies hella slow =\

it also sucks, when ur talking in a convo, and she stops replying for 10mins then logs off =X

uh oh i do that ''stop replying then sigh off'' thing sometimes because my internet connection dies on me.

i have question on this topic too.
1. this guy i know used to IM me INSTANTLY the moment he or i signed in. but recently he has been waiting real long and i dont know if its because he is busy doing work or just disinterested in talking to me. but when he talks, what he says doesnt make it seem that he is uninterested in talking to me, in fact i think he might like me. so did he 'discover' that it might look desperate like what someone above said or what?

2. if a girl and a guy talk on AIM often, everytime they are both online, but the girl hardly ever starts the convo, say 3 times out of 20, will the guy tink she is not interested, or just shy/doesnt want to take the initiative?

3. its happening again, its really frustrating.
now we are oth online but he is not talking to me. i think it is most likely that he is rushing school woek. so should i begin the cnversation?

4. what does it mean if a guy IMs a girl all the time but hardly smses her? and this goes on for a couple of months of quite frequent IMing. not interested or simply shy to take a bold next move??

note that all guys mentioned above are the same guy

[MiShi*~]

let`s say u met a girl months ago & have only hung out twice but one night u randomly call her pretty late (2am) and ask her to hang out.
if she says yes & u end up going back to ur place to chat/watch borat until 7am would u think that she's interested?

would u say i was leading him on? cuz i totally didn`t mean to, i only wanted to get to know him better as a friend.. i only realized afterwards that it probably wasn`t the smartest thing to do since it could easily be misinterpreted.
on top of that he put his arm around me when we were watching the movie and gave me a kiss on the cheek when he dropped me off "/ & i didn`t push him away cuz i am horrible at rejecting guys!

so what should i do? cuz our relationship is only barely developing & i don`t want to ruin our chance at being friends...

thanks!

[poopiness]

let`s say u met a girl months ago & have only hung out twice but one night u randomly call her pretty late (2am) and ask her to hang out.
if she says yes & u end up going back to ur place to chat/watch borat until 7am would u think that she's interested?

would u say i was leading him on? cuz i totally didn`t mean to, i only wanted to get to know him better as a friend.. i only realized afterwards that it probably wasn`t the smartest thing to do since it could easily be misinterpreted.
on top of that he put his arm around me when we were watching the movie and gave me a kiss on the cheek when he dropped me off "/ & i didn`t push him away cuz i am horrible at rejecting guys!

so what should i do? cuz our relationship is only barely developing & i don`t want to ruin our chance at being friends...

thanks!

If I was that guy I would've totally thought the feelings were mutual. Yea I think he definitely thinks you're interested. So before it gets any further just tell him you just want to be friends. It looks like he's definitely interested in you, so it's not like you're just saying that when he's not even interested and then look like a jerk. So just tell him straight out, and yea I know it sounds mean but trust me it will hurt him a hell of a lot more if you tell him later. I mean it's still going to be hard for him to be just friends with you, but he's going to have to deal with it, and he'll eventually get over it. Oh and if it's hard for you to reject people, you better come up with pretty strong reasons why you won't give him a chance, because he probably will have questions. It's probably a good idea to give him some times afterward to get over you too. I mean if he sees you often afterward getting over you is going to be a bi.tch.

Does a guy IM a girl he likes on AIM, or wait for her to IM him?
(( Different types of guys, different types of actions ))
But... What's you guys do? P:

Uh... I can't speak for everyone because frankly I don't know what they do, but as for me. I usually IM the girl first because usually girls don't like to make the first move as it makes them seem desperate, but like some people have said, I let her sign on for 5 to 10 mins before sending her an IM. However, I try not to initiate the conversation all the time, just to see if she's interested. What do I mean by that? Well for example, she would sign on and 1/4 times I would not IM her and see if she IMs me eventually. If she does then she's probably interested in talking with me, if not then I just don't IM her at all. Unless I really really like her then I'll IM her out of desperation haha.

[nomad_olga]

It's hard to define what "over-protective" is, because everyone is so different. What really matters is just finding the fine line where it's okay to be protective, without overdoing it.

For me, personally, I think over-protective would be calling all the time to find out where you are and what you're doing. I don't like to be clingy, and I highly dislike clingy women. I'm supposed to be your lover, not your father. Calling in moderation is okay, to tell her I love her or what not. I think it's also dumb for guys to get angry and belligerent when another guy looks/stares at his girlfriend. I mean, to start something over something so trivial is pointless, fruitless, and immature. You're already with the girl, and she's with you for a reason. It's a different story if the on-lookers are disrespectful and rude. I don't think it's ever right to go through a s/o's phone to see what he or she has been up to, and who they've been calling (unless there is "just cause" to do so). I don't know... what else would you consider over-protective?

thanx for your opinion iEatPowder, it just so happens that my s/o acts "clingy" towards me and even though we've been seeing each other for a while now (9 months) i thought he would of gotten over this 'stage'.

Any suggestions as to how i can bring it up without hurting his feelings and at the same time get the msg to stick in his head? (i guess, again this depends on the person's willingness to be reasonable sicne everyones diff.)

[poopiness]

we arent dating, but we've been very close friends, and he has told me hes been interested before...but doesnt think its good for anything to happen [cuz hes goin overseas soon for 6 mths]...i just want to kno if he values me enough as a friend or whatever. but i cant tell atm cuz im not talking to him, obv.

wait why are you not talking to him again? I mean he's leaving in 6 months, you are going to miss him. Not going to use the time to have fun before he leaves? Or are you trying to ignore him now to reduce the impact of him leaving later.

[hked]

uh oh i do that ''stop replying then sigh off'' thing sometimes because my internet connection dies on me.

i have question on this topic too.
1. this guy i know used to IM me INSTANTLY the moment he or i signed in. but recently he has been waiting real long and i dont know if its because he is busy doing work or just disinterested in talking to me. but when he talks, what he says doesnt make it seem that he is uninterested in talking to me, in fact i think he might like me. so did he 'discover' that it might look desperate like what someone above said or what?

2. if a girl and a guy talk on AIM often, everytime they are both online, but the girl hardly ever starts the convo, say 3 times out of 20, will the guy tink she is not interested, or just shy/doesnt want to take the initiative?

3. its happening again, its really frustrating.
now we are oth online but he is not talking to me. i think it is most likely that he is rushing school woek. so should i begin the cnversation?

4. what does it mean if a guy IMs a girl all the time but hardly smses her? and this goes on for a couple of months of quite frequent IMing. not interested or simply shy to take a bold next move??

note that all guys mentioned above are the same guy

1. Well, if u talk to him, does he reply immediately and promptly ? If he replies quick, then hes not disinterested, since he literally sounds like me. =X. IF he likes you, and he thinks you found out, its highly likely he doesnt want to start the conversation, to avoid being seen like a desperate guy, or he thinks ur talking to another guy. Altho thats just me

2. Yes..dude...yes

3.refer to 1..and yes start and test him

4. Im and SMS are pretty similar, in a sense that theyre all typed. He's prolly just not an sms person...

[SweetTea]

Oh gosh, I made a typo on my firdst post. How ugly. That's how I feel,
when the guy I want to talk to signs off without IMing me. It's like,
heavy feeling~ heavy feeling~ "Go away, leave me to die."

Maybe he wants to talk to me, but is playing
"hard to get". I supppose... P: Do you guys think so?

[iEatPowder]

thanx for your opinion iEatPowder, it just so happens that my s/o acts "clingy" towards me and even though we've been seeing each other for a while now (9 months) i thought he would of gotten over this 'stage'.

Any suggestions as to how i can bring it up without hurting his feelings and at the same time get the msg to stick in his head? (i guess, again this depends on the person's willingness to be reasonable sicne everyones diff.)

If it's his first relationship, it's understandable. He could be just testing the proverbial waters, and doesn't know exactly what to do because that's how first relationships usually are - clueless. If it's not his first relationship, then I'd lean more towards the assumption that he might be insecure, which is why he's clingy/over-protective. You're probably thinking, "well, how could he know that?" I've been in the same situation, but it was my first love and I was insecure, so kind of a double-whammy. =P It's kind of hard to bring it up without hurting his feelings, because he's probably blinded by his ways, and probably doesn't even see that he's doing anything wrong. I hate to say this but, it's impossible for you to change someone. The person needs to realize the need for change within oneself in order for the change to happen. My ex left me because she couldn't take it anymore, which was a wake up call. It shocked me back into reality, but it wasn't until a couple years later did I realize that it was my fault and not hers. My being insecure pushed her away, and she wasn't just a cold b*tch who left me and watch me suffer. Now I'm not saying to walk out on your s/o, but honestly, I don't know what to tell you. I mean, truth hurts. I don't think there's anyway you can baby the situation. Trying to tell him with sugar on top won't really get the message across, if you catch my drift. Good luck!

[DaAzNkIgGa627]

Oh gosh, I made a typo on my firdst post. How ugly. That's how I feel,
when the guy I want to talk to signs off without IMing me. It's like,
heavy feeling~ heavy feeling~ "Go away, leave me to die."

Maybe he wants to talk to me, but is playing
"hard to get". I supppose... P: Do you guys think so?

Do you mean he logs off while talking to you

Or logs off without talking to you

If he logs off while talking to you, he's just not interested.

If he logs off without talking to you, he maybe fishing.

[mojomunkeez]

uh oh i do that ''stop replying then sigh off'' thing sometimes because my internet connection dies on me.

i have question on this topic too.
1. this guy i know used to IM me INSTANTLY the moment he or i signed in. but recently he has been waiting real long and i dont know if its because he is busy doing work or just disinterested in talking to me. but when he talks, what he says doesnt make it seem that he is uninterested in talking to me, in fact i think he might like me. so did he 'discover' that it might look desperate like what someone above said or what?

2. if a girl and a guy talk on AIM often, everytime they are both online, but the girl hardly ever starts the convo, say 3 times out of 20, will the guy tink she is not interested, or just shy/doesnt want to take the initiative?

3. its happening again, its really frustrating.
now we are oth online but he is not talking to me. i think it is most likely that he is rushing school woek. so should i begin the cnversation?

4. what does it mean if a guy IMs a girl all the time but hardly smses her? and this goes on for a couple of months of quite frequent IMing. not interested or simply shy to take a bold next move??

note that all guys mentioned above are the same guy

1. He wants to know if you care enough to actually start a conversation with him so he knows that it's not just him trying and fighting for a relationship.

2 and 3. Well, it would be best to start more conversations, it really lets us guys know that we matter and that you don't talk to us just for the sake of responding.

4. Maybe he just doesn't want to spend the money to send SMS? Or maybe he's just one of those people who don't like to text?