QUOTE(bishie_bashie @ Oct 8 2007, 05:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Would a guy like a girl who is really quiet among people she isnt close with, but really really sociable with her close friends?
hmm.. =/
hmm.. =/
why not?
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 05:57 AM
why not?
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Would a guy like a girl who is really quiet among people she isnt close with, but really really sociable with her close friends?
hmm.. =/
hmm.. =/
of course!!! given that she speaks to me too.....................
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 06:44 AM
Okay, I hate making topics, so I always try to avoid making them, but I'm really...er, curious to know what people who I don't know thinks, so I'm just going to ask here (: Sorry if it's a little long.
Let's speak hypothetically.
As most stories/dilemmas start out, there's a boy. He's like your typical "gangster-wannabe" type; the kind that is into weapons and all that. He doesn't do bad in school, at least (most likely a B average student). He's really confident about himself, and thinks he can get any girl. Then there's this girl, who's almost like a total opposite of him. She's your typical "Asian nerd" except...she doesn't dress badly? Okay, so she doesn't exactly look like all those typical "hot Asian girls" but she doesn't look like a fob either. She really, really doesn't like "gangsters", and doesn't want to ever get involved with them. She's seen how relationships with those kind of guys end up, and she doesn't want that. She's also like a goody-two-shoes, I guess you could say. (Always feels guilty if she doesn't offer her seat to older people, shy, etc.)
But the two end up crossing in each other's paths anyway, despite how the girl doesn't like those kinds of guys (she doesn't mind making friends with them, but she would never want to get into a relationship with them). So, let's try to make this story shorter.
They get closer as the days pass. They talk on the phone basically every night. They become close to the point where the guy actually starts taking the girl home, and takes her to wherever she plans to go after school (i.e. the supermarket, cause the girl needs to buy some crackers for her grandfather, or a dentist appt).
The thing is...the girl thinks she likes him, but she doesn't really want to. She doesn't trust him...AT ALL. He knows this, but it seems like he doesn't care. She's already confessed to him over the phone, but they always somehow manage to get off topic. They also end up arguing over the phone at least ONCE every night over stupid stuff. The girl is dying to know if he really likes her or not as well, but she can never believe it if anyone tells her that he DOES like her. She's asked him before why he keeps talking to her and why not those other girls who are way more pretty and whatnot, and he tells her that he's not into those girls because they always end up thinking they're too good for him and dump him like a month later. He also says he's into long term relationships. The girl believes this at first, but then she finds out from her other friend that he used to like this girl, who is actually one of those "typical hot Asian girls", and that he used to call her every night, just like he is doing with her right now.
Oh, and she tells her other friend, who is a guy, that she finally confessed to him. She tells her friend that she doesn't trust him, and that she wants him to somehow prove to her that he actually, sincerely does like her--if he does--without asking her what to do. So, even though the girl said not to, the friend goes and tells the guy, "You should do something to make ___ trust you." and the guy goes, "Let her do what she wants." Now, what the heck is THAT supposed to mean?
Now, their relationship is going nowhere. It's still the same; talking on the phone, arguing, etc. The guy can never be serious when the girl tries to initiate a serious conversation, so she's thinking about giving up.
What do you guys think? (Sounds like a Korean drama almost though, doesn't it?
) Sorry if I didn't make the story very clear.
Let's speak hypothetically.
As most stories/dilemmas start out, there's a boy. He's like your typical "gangster-wannabe" type; the kind that is into weapons and all that. He doesn't do bad in school, at least (most likely a B average student). He's really confident about himself, and thinks he can get any girl. Then there's this girl, who's almost like a total opposite of him. She's your typical "Asian nerd" except...she doesn't dress badly? Okay, so she doesn't exactly look like all those typical "hot Asian girls" but she doesn't look like a fob either. She really, really doesn't like "gangsters", and doesn't want to ever get involved with them. She's seen how relationships with those kind of guys end up, and she doesn't want that. She's also like a goody-two-shoes, I guess you could say. (Always feels guilty if she doesn't offer her seat to older people, shy, etc.)
But the two end up crossing in each other's paths anyway, despite how the girl doesn't like those kinds of guys (she doesn't mind making friends with them, but she would never want to get into a relationship with them). So, let's try to make this story shorter.
They get closer as the days pass. They talk on the phone basically every night. They become close to the point where the guy actually starts taking the girl home, and takes her to wherever she plans to go after school (i.e. the supermarket, cause the girl needs to buy some crackers for her grandfather, or a dentist appt).
The thing is...the girl thinks she likes him, but she doesn't really want to. She doesn't trust him...AT ALL. He knows this, but it seems like he doesn't care. She's already confessed to him over the phone, but they always somehow manage to get off topic. They also end up arguing over the phone at least ONCE every night over stupid stuff. The girl is dying to know if he really likes her or not as well, but she can never believe it if anyone tells her that he DOES like her. She's asked him before why he keeps talking to her and why not those other girls who are way more pretty and whatnot, and he tells her that he's not into those girls because they always end up thinking they're too good for him and dump him like a month later. He also says he's into long term relationships. The girl believes this at first, but then she finds out from her other friend that he used to like this girl, who is actually one of those "typical hot Asian girls", and that he used to call her every night, just like he is doing with her right now.
Oh, and she tells her other friend, who is a guy, that she finally confessed to him. She tells her friend that she doesn't trust him, and that she wants him to somehow prove to her that he actually, sincerely does like her--if he does--without asking her what to do. So, even though the girl said not to, the friend goes and tells the guy, "You should do something to make ___ trust you." and the guy goes, "Let her do what she wants." Now, what the heck is THAT supposed to mean?
Now, their relationship is going nowhere. It's still the same; talking on the phone, arguing, etc. The guy can never be serious when the girl tries to initiate a serious conversation, so she's thinking about giving up.
What do you guys think? (Sounds like a Korean drama almost though, doesn't it?
) Sorry if I didn't make the story very clear.
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 11:30 AM
QUOTE(bishie_bashie @ Oct 8 2007, 07:42 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Would a guy like a girl who is really quiet among people she isnt close with, but really really sociable with her close friends?
hmm.. =/
hmm.. =/
I think most guys would be into someone like that. Shy girls are cute.
QUOTE(shooting_stars @ Oct 8 2007, 09:44 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Okay, I hate making topics, so I always try to avoid making them, but I'm really...er, curious to know what people who I don't know thinks, so I'm just going to ask here (: Sorry if it's a little long.
Let's speak hypothetically.
As most stories/dilemmas start out, there's a boy. He's like your typical "gangster-wannabe" type; the kind that is into weapons and all that. He doesn't do bad in school, at least (most likely a B average student). He's really confident about himself, and thinks he can get any girl. Then there's this girl, who's almost like a total opposite of him. She's your typical "Asian nerd" except...she doesn't dress badly? Okay, so she doesn't exactly look like all those typical "hot Asian girls" but she doesn't look like a fob either. She really, really doesn't like "gangsters", and doesn't want to ever get involved with them. She's seen how relationships with those kind of guys end up, and she doesn't want that. She's also like a goody-two-shoes, I guess you could say. (Always feels guilty if she doesn't offer her seat to older people, shy, etc.)
But the two end up crossing in each other's paths anyway, despite how the girl doesn't like those kinds of guys (she doesn't mind making friends with them, but she would never want to get into a relationship with them). So, let's try to make this story shorter.
They get closer as the days pass. They talk on the phone basically every night. They become close to the point where the guy actually starts taking the girl home, and takes her to wherever she plans to go after school (i.e. the supermarket, cause the girl needs to buy some crackers for her grandfather, or a dentist appt).
The thing is...the girl thinks she likes him, but she doesn't really want to. She doesn't trust him...AT ALL. He knows this, but it seems like he doesn't care. She's already confessed to him over the phone, but they always somehow manage to get off topic. They also end up arguing over the phone at least ONCE every night over stupid stuff. The girl is dying to know if he really likes her or not as well, but she can never believe it if anyone tells her that he DOES like her. She's asked him before why he keeps talking to her and why not those other girls who are way more pretty and whatnot, and he tells her that he's not into those girls because they always end up thinking they're too good for him and dump him like a month later. He also says he's into long term relationships. The girl believes this at first, but then she finds out from her other friend that he used to like this girl, who is actually one of those "typical hot Asian girls", and that he used to call her every night, just like he is doing with her right now.
Oh, and she tells her other friend, who is a guy, that she finally confessed to him. She tells her friend that she doesn't trust him, and that she wants him to somehow prove to her that he actually, sincerely does like her--if he does--without asking her what to do. So, even though the girl said not to, the friend goes and tells the guy, "You should do something to make ___ trust you." and the guy goes, "Let her do what she wants." Now, what the heck is THAT supposed to mean?
Now, their relationship is going nowhere. It's still the same; talking on the phone, arguing, etc. The guy can never be serious when the girl tries to initiate a serious conversation, so she's thinking about giving up.
What do you guys think? (Sounds like a Korean drama almost though, doesn't it?) Sorry if I didn't make the story very clear.
Let's speak hypothetically.
As most stories/dilemmas start out, there's a boy. He's like your typical "gangster-wannabe" type; the kind that is into weapons and all that. He doesn't do bad in school, at least (most likely a B average student). He's really confident about himself, and thinks he can get any girl. Then there's this girl, who's almost like a total opposite of him. She's your typical "Asian nerd" except...she doesn't dress badly? Okay, so she doesn't exactly look like all those typical "hot Asian girls" but she doesn't look like a fob either. She really, really doesn't like "gangsters", and doesn't want to ever get involved with them. She's seen how relationships with those kind of guys end up, and she doesn't want that. She's also like a goody-two-shoes, I guess you could say. (Always feels guilty if she doesn't offer her seat to older people, shy, etc.)
But the two end up crossing in each other's paths anyway, despite how the girl doesn't like those kinds of guys (she doesn't mind making friends with them, but she would never want to get into a relationship with them). So, let's try to make this story shorter.
They get closer as the days pass. They talk on the phone basically every night. They become close to the point where the guy actually starts taking the girl home, and takes her to wherever she plans to go after school (i.e. the supermarket, cause the girl needs to buy some crackers for her grandfather, or a dentist appt).
The thing is...the girl thinks she likes him, but she doesn't really want to. She doesn't trust him...AT ALL. He knows this, but it seems like he doesn't care. She's already confessed to him over the phone, but they always somehow manage to get off topic. They also end up arguing over the phone at least ONCE every night over stupid stuff. The girl is dying to know if he really likes her or not as well, but she can never believe it if anyone tells her that he DOES like her. She's asked him before why he keeps talking to her and why not those other girls who are way more pretty and whatnot, and he tells her that he's not into those girls because they always end up thinking they're too good for him and dump him like a month later. He also says he's into long term relationships. The girl believes this at first, but then she finds out from her other friend that he used to like this girl, who is actually one of those "typical hot Asian girls", and that he used to call her every night, just like he is doing with her right now.
Oh, and she tells her other friend, who is a guy, that she finally confessed to him. She tells her friend that she doesn't trust him, and that she wants him to somehow prove to her that he actually, sincerely does like her--if he does--without asking her what to do. So, even though the girl said not to, the friend goes and tells the guy, "You should do something to make ___ trust you." and the guy goes, "Let her do what she wants." Now, what the heck is THAT supposed to mean?
Now, their relationship is going nowhere. It's still the same; talking on the phone, arguing, etc. The guy can never be serious when the girl tries to initiate a serious conversation, so she's thinking about giving up.
What do you guys think? (Sounds like a Korean drama almost though, doesn't it?
) Sorry if I didn't make the story very clear.If this guy won't engage in a serious conversion, the girl should confront him. She should ask him why he shies away from the topic. As for the girl liking the boy, perhaps she could give the poor dude a chance but with heavy guards. As he shows more promise, she can let her guards down little by little. You never know. He could be a good guy or become one.
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 11:51 AM
hmm girls (or most I assume) are quite intuitive.. and they trust their instincts about certain things.
Do guys feel that way?
Do guys feel that way?
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 12:30 PM
QUOTE(megaSTEPxo @ Oct 8 2007, 02:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
hmm girls (or most I assume) are quite intuitive.. and they trust their instincts about certain things.
Do guys feel that way?
Do guys feel that way?
Yes we love video games, we love to sleep and we love to eat...
We are very intuitive in that sense...
Well ok to be honest, we are because we are generally more arrogant and prideful therefore our assumption is that we are indeed correct.
QUOTE(sensible @ Oct 8 2007, 03:02 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lol... Just talk to him, I'll post it on your topic but he'll never know. And popular guys don't necessarily like all the girls that are around them. I'll elaborate more on your topic
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 12:57 PM
Can somebody please explain to me how legs are a turn on for guys? I'm so floored by this...
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 02:38 PM
QUOTE(メリーゴ @ Oct 8 2007, 11:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
why not?
QUOTE(Deafz @ Oct 9 2007, 05:30 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think most guys would be into someone like that. Shy girls are cute.
Ohh. haha. XD
Thanks ^^
QUOTE(mrunwanted @ Oct 9 2007, 12:15 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
of course!!! given that she speaks to me too.....................
But he has to strike the first convo....
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 06:15 PM
thanks for answering moonk379 
i have another problem
guy cannot make it on the date the girl sets. however he offers another date BUT didn't say place and time.
does this mean he's just trying to be polite and is not interested?
OR he's playing hard to get?
OR he's indecisive and wants the girl to set everything
OR something esle?
i have another problem
guy cannot make it on the date the girl sets. however he offers another date BUT didn't say place and time.
does this mean he's just trying to be polite and is not interested?
OR he's playing hard to get?
OR he's indecisive and wants the girl to set everything
OR something esle?
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 08:32 PM
hello.
so there's this one guy and i just got a haircut
i told him it was hecka ugly and i do have a low self-esteem
then he's all like it probally itsn't that bad
cause he's a friend he's suppose to lie to you
lol
then he's all like im telling the truth cause im nice
then im like no.
you.
aren't.
then he goes like you are always saying or doing things that always make me mad.
so then i go like okay...
then i'll just stop talking.
and i did.
do you guys think im being too dramatic?
he's a flirt
and i use to think i like him
but by now im just confused and frustrated
actally he's a really big flirt.
would you guys think that's something not worth getting mad at?
at the moment it was more of a "..( so this is what you think when im talking to you)"
so there's this one guy and i just got a haircut
i told him it was hecka ugly and i do have a low self-esteem
then he's all like it probally itsn't that bad
cause he's a friend he's suppose to lie to you
lol
then he's all like im telling the truth cause im nice
then im like no.
you.
aren't.
then he goes like you are always saying or doing things that always make me mad.
so then i go like okay...
then i'll just stop talking.
and i did.
do you guys think im being too dramatic?
he's a flirt
and i use to think i like him
but by now im just confused and frustrated
actally he's a really big flirt.
would you guys think that's something not worth getting mad at?
at the moment it was more of a "..( so this is what you think when im talking to you)"
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 08:39 PM
After rejecting a girl, do most guys ignore and avoid that girl or would you treat her like normal?
Guys: Have you EVER fell for the girl you've rejected in the past? and why did you change your mind?
Is it true that guys are only friends with decent or above average looking girls and that they usually ignore the ugly ones? I'm talking about high school guys. thanks!
Guys: Have you EVER fell for the girl you've rejected in the past? and why did you change your mind?
Is it true that guys are only friends with decent or above average looking girls and that they usually ignore the ugly ones? I'm talking about high school guys. thanks!
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 09:25 PM
say yur in a class. and there is this girl...
you smiled at her but you get no response.
what would you think? how would you respond??
he moved away! he freaken got up and moved away!!!!
do yu think he'll try again later in the term??
you smiled at her but you get no response.
what would you think? how would you respond??
he moved away! he freaken got up and moved away!!!!
do yu think he'll try again later in the term??
note to self: nothing will come of nothing...
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 09:39 PM
QUOTE(twinkle_toe @ Oct 8 2007, 11:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
After rejecting a girl, do most guys ignore and avoid that girl or would you treat her like normal?
Guys: Have you EVER fell for the girl you've rejected in the past? and why did you change your mind?
Is it true that guys are only friends with decent or above average looking girls and that they usually ignore the ugly ones? I'm talking about high school guys. thanks!
Guys: Have you EVER fell for the girl you've rejected in the past? and why did you change your mind?
Is it true that guys are only friends with decent or above average looking girls and that they usually ignore the ugly ones? I'm talking about high school guys. thanks!
I tend to treat them normally, I don't like being awkward.
It's possible to fall for a girl who has been rejected, sure, but she'd have to have to really good qualities to make me change my mind.
Well, it's true that none of my friends are deathly ugly, but then again, it just happened to be that way. You know, they're my friends and they're good-looking, not they're good-looking and they're my friends. And yeah, guys do have "ugly " girl friends.
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QUOTE(angelxglo @ Oct 8 2007, 11:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
say yur in a class. and there is this girl...
you smiled at her but you get no response.
what would you think? how would you respond??
you smiled at her but you get no response.
what would you think? how would you respond??
try again once or twice (not exactly on the same day). if still nothing i'll just give up.
QUOTE(angelxglo @ Oct 8 2007, 11:25 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
he moved away! he freaken got up and moved away!!!!
do yu think he'll try again later in the term??
do yu think he'll try again later in the term??
huh? i dont get this lol
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 09:41 PM
So, I'm very confused right now. My ex crush who graduated this year, was friends with my bff. (Keyword: Was. They no longer are because she said she was mad at him for the way he treated me and everything he caused.)
Anyway, when they were friends, my crush had decided he wanted to learn how to dance. So, he took a ballroom dancing class with my bff. They've been taking it for more than a year now. They began to drift apart friend wise.
Yet, they are still partners up to now. And have just been picked as the couple out of their entire class, to compete in this big competition in NY. Apparently, they have 5 songs they will be dancing to.
I know she doesn't like him in that way (that's been made very clear).
My 2 Questions Are:
1. Do you think he likes her or am I just being paranoid?
2. If they're not friends anymore, why are they still in class together?
Another thing I found weird was that when I first liked him, a looonngg time ago, when he had found out I was friends with her, out of nowhere tried extremely hard to get her attention and become her friend . He never was interested in being her friend until I liked him. WTF??? Help me out here....
Anyway, when they were friends, my crush had decided he wanted to learn how to dance. So, he took a ballroom dancing class with my bff. They've been taking it for more than a year now. They began to drift apart friend wise.
Yet, they are still partners up to now. And have just been picked as the couple out of their entire class, to compete in this big competition in NY. Apparently, they have 5 songs they will be dancing to.
I know she doesn't like him in that way (that's been made very clear).
My 2 Questions Are:
1. Do you think he likes her or am I just being paranoid?
2. If they're not friends anymore, why are they still in class together?
Another thing I found weird was that when I first liked him, a looonngg time ago, when he had found out I was friends with her, out of nowhere tried extremely hard to get her attention and become her friend . He never was interested in being her friend until I liked him. WTF??? Help me out here....
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Posted 08 October 2007 - 09:41 PM
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i never thought i'd post something here but DAMN !
i need someone from the outside to look at this because i've been replaying something over and over again in my mind;
it's starting to frustrate me and i dont know what to think anymore. it's to the point where everything seems paradoxical
(does that word exist? haha). i'll just briefly skim through the things that happened because that'll be long enough:
there was this guy that i kind of- well, liked, at school. he was quiet and really nice when i had one class with him,
but we'd talk a few times at lunch too. we became friends and he'd be really nice to me. i liked being with him, but at that
time it wasnt because i liked him. then when a new school year started we had almost all our classes together.
at first he acted like he did the grade before and we got pretty close. then this 'thing' happened where i think this girl
said a few things to him about her thinking that he likes me and vice versa, and from then on he wasn't as nice. then
she started to get close with him.. but that's another story that i dont want to discuss because that's not what i want
get at. i got to know him more deeply and found out that he wasnt a very talkative person but certainly not quiet, and that
he was nice but cold-hearted a lot of the times and quite cocky because he says that he knows he's smart and better at a
lot of things than most people. he didnt say it frequently, but once in a while he'd act like he knew everything. point is, he
wasnt the same person i thought he was, but i didnt mind that a lot. he'd call me stupid and other things quite frequently,
to the point where i had to tell him to stop a few times, but i know he isnt a horrible person. the real thing im trying to ask
is, did he ever like me?
he's pretty shy and doesnt like to express his emotions or feelings. he speaks in a monotonous voice sometimes, and
some of the kids in our class asked him to say, "my dog just died" because he seemed so unemotional. but he sometimes
expressed his emotions or feelings really vividly when he was around me. if we were with people he'd be slightly mean
sometimes, but when we were alone he'd be quiet and quite nice again.
when we were in a group for a project together, we'd argue a few times, but when i had to make a phone call for the
project, he was the only one that was with me for almost the whole time i was on the phone. when we went to our friend's
house to do that project i acted coldly towards him because at that time i was dumb and thought being mean to him would
make him feel bad for being mean to me; he was nice to me, tried to get closer to me and complimented me a few times.
i shot him down a few times. then when i was helping out with a swim team meet (he was in it), he'd say my name, smile
and nod. he'd constantly do that to the point where my friend smirked at me and i had to elbow her he's really good at
swimming so i told him so, and he said, "i know." he'd compliment me once in a while, and say nice things. gahh ! it's just
so confusing. he was nice then mean, then nice. he'd constantly change. sorry. this is kind of long. but any opinions would
be appreciated
i need someone from the outside to look at this because i've been replaying something over and over again in my mind;
it's starting to frustrate me and i dont know what to think anymore. it's to the point where everything seems paradoxical
(does that word exist? haha). i'll just briefly skim through the things that happened because that'll be long enough:
there was this guy that i kind of- well, liked, at school. he was quiet and really nice when i had one class with him,
but we'd talk a few times at lunch too. we became friends and he'd be really nice to me. i liked being with him, but at that
time it wasnt because i liked him. then when a new school year started we had almost all our classes together.
at first he acted like he did the grade before and we got pretty close. then this 'thing' happened where i think this girl
said a few things to him about her thinking that he likes me and vice versa, and from then on he wasn't as nice. then
she started to get close with him.. but that's another story that i dont want to discuss because that's not what i want
get at. i got to know him more deeply and found out that he wasnt a very talkative person but certainly not quiet, and that
he was nice but cold-hearted a lot of the times and quite cocky because he says that he knows he's smart and better at a
lot of things than most people. he didnt say it frequently, but once in a while he'd act like he knew everything. point is, he
wasnt the same person i thought he was, but i didnt mind that a lot. he'd call me stupid and other things quite frequently,
to the point where i had to tell him to stop a few times, but i know he isnt a horrible person. the real thing im trying to ask
is, did he ever like me?
he's pretty shy and doesnt like to express his emotions or feelings. he speaks in a monotonous voice sometimes, and
some of the kids in our class asked him to say, "my dog just died" because he seemed so unemotional. but he sometimes
expressed his emotions or feelings really vividly when he was around me. if we were with people he'd be slightly mean
sometimes, but when we were alone he'd be quiet and quite nice again.
when we were in a group for a project together, we'd argue a few times, but when i had to make a phone call for the
project, he was the only one that was with me for almost the whole time i was on the phone. when we went to our friend's
house to do that project i acted coldly towards him because at that time i was dumb and thought being mean to him would
make him feel bad for being mean to me; he was nice to me, tried to get closer to me and complimented me a few times.
i shot him down a few times. then when i was helping out with a swim team meet (he was in it), he'd say my name, smile
and nod. he'd constantly do that to the point where my friend smirked at me and i had to elbow her
he's really good at swimming so i told him so, and he said, "i know." he'd compliment me once in a while, and say nice things. gahh ! it's just
so confusing. he was nice then mean, then nice. he'd constantly change. sorry. this is kind of long. but any opinions would
be appreciated
imo..hes just treating you like a good frd. i think if a guy starts joking comfortably about you being stupid and does it a lot of times...i think hes just treating you as a close frd. its how i treat all my closer frds...guys+grls. youre just putting too much thought into it...maybe hes mean and nice and mean again cuz he has his moods? high and low? hahaha some ppl just have days where they feel nice and some days they dont. maybe if he starts to care for you as in curious about how you feel and try to make you happy..then he might be liking you...but other than that it seems to me that hes just acting like how he is normally around frds...nothing special.
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Posted 09 October 2007 - 07:14 PM
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imo..hes just treating you like a good frd. i think if a guy starts joking comfortably about you being stupid and does it a lot of times...i think hes just treating you as a close frd. its how i treat all my closer frds...guys+grls. youre just putting too much thought into it...maybe hes mean and nice and mean again cuz he has his moods? high and low? hahaha some ppl just have days where they feel nice and some days they dont. maybe if he starts to care for you as in curious about how you feel and try to make you happy..then he might be liking you...but other than that it seems to me that hes just acting like how he is normally around frds...nothing special.
thank-you : ) i kind of figured as much.. but then i'd be like, "maybe..." and hope for something else.
though.. if those were his mood swings than he has some big mood swings. im so glad i can now close this book : )
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