[Orchidy]

Want me to be more precise?

I guess I don't really know myself what tough means. I think it's more like what happens if you spot a girl that look as though she is more interested in a book? Do you still pursue or do you give up naturally?

[yuwing]

Want me to be more precise?

I guess I don't really know myself what tough means. I think it's more like what happens if you spot a girl that look as though she is more interested in a book? Do you still pursue or do you give up naturally?

depends on the guy. I'd ask her on a date. whatever. life is too short to worry about things. she means very little to me, so i can afford to lose her. not like it'll hurt me or anything.

[mrunwanted]

depends on the guy. I'd ask her on a date. whatever. life is too short to worry about things. she means very little to me, so i can afford to lose her. not like it'll hurt me or anything.

this is what i need to learn lol if she means so little to you y would u even bother to ask her out on a date? just to have fun with her? i'm a guy too but i dont understand.
i only ask those that i like, and get rejected all the time. guys that just ask for fun and dont like the girl gets the girl. so its true that girls only pay attention to the guys that ignore them huh?

[Xiaoba1tu]

1. Why do some like to play hard to get ?? Like, only answer what you ask them and they don't flow with the conversation and ask the girl anything back ?? Frustating at times.. because it happens to those that I like.. then my interest declines so much from that kinda attitude.. They act like they aren't interested in anything about you - but in general he's a nice guy.. to parents/ other family members.. It's like they don't even have any interest in basic mutual friendship.. Playing hard to get is what girls do.. not guys too..
Oh, and he's the type of guy who I cannot imagine walking up to a girl and chatting to. (Well, actually not sure.. I don't know him super-well and haven't seen that side of him before)
Even my mum thinks he could make a good bf.. I'm like.. 'No.. he acts soo uninterested..'


2. Is this guy a serious jerk/weirdo - ?

one day this guy randomly starts talking to me online (thru PMs), talks all the time about how he's bored, single, says that he 'seriously' needs a gf, wants me be to be 18 fast.. (I take it that he's interested in me..) asks me to go and visit him 'drop by' but I don't and then after awhile (3 weeks ? of convos almost everday) the convos become less frequent.. I physically saw him accidentally once but wasn't sure if it was him but he kinda freaked out when I told him online that I saw him - 'oh, u saw me?' -he ends the convo- then a few days later, he deletes me off the msn (no warning at all).. (I now take it that he has a gf).. and I found out thru browsing thru ppl's friends list on a social networking site, I saw his profile pic ~ It was him with some random girl..(Reality struck me - ok.. he -does- have a gf!)

I seriously wouldn't have minded but if he had told me he couldn't talk to me because of 'someone else' I wouldn't have been as annoyed.. But just that he did not tell me anything at all.. Funny thing is now since he deleted me we haven't talked since.. he avoids me at uni . hehe.. I have no idea, its like he's hiding something ?.. I walk past one time across the library doors and I saw him waiting near the area but he kinda noticed it was me and bit too late.. cos I was wearing sunnies.. and he when he realised it was me he just swung around and turned his back towards me !! what the .. ?! It's like he thinks I'll chuck a psycho at him or something, but I won't... why would I waste my energy on this weirdo..? Well, he's gonna have to keep this up(avoid-I don't know her-thing) for at least another two years..


Oh, and there were two or three occasions when he said 'u wanna go out sometime ??' I took it the wrong way apparently.. (I took it seriously.. like a date..'huh, he just asked me out?' kinda reaction) then I said um.. I'll ask first.. when I replied the next day I said 'uh, I think we should just be friends for the time being'.. then he goes.. 'oh I think this has been a misunderstanding' then my reaction was ..whatt ? ok..


So then I felt like he never liked me in the first place and was just looking for random play.. and probably just used me as entertainment.. in the mid-sem holiday break. - what a jerk..


3. How do you tell when he wants to be 'just friends' and when does he want to be more than friends? Would he tell you upfront ?

4. Why do guys never answer all your questions in emails etc..?? they only select which ones to answer.. but female friends/girls answer almost every question you raise..

EDIT//
sorry for the long post..it just all came out I guess - seems like no-ones replying.. oh well..

[Orchidy]

this is what i need to learn lol if she means so little to you y would u even bother to ask her out on a date? just to have fun with her? i'm a guy too but i dont understand.
i only ask those that i like, and get rejected all the time. guys that just ask for fun and dont like the girl gets the girl. so its true that girls only pay attention to the guys that ignore them huh?

Nah, girls aren't like that. Maybe there are certain ones that always have the attention so a lack of attention makes it more interesting. However, girls aren't stupid enough to just date a guy who treats her unwell, at least I'm not that stupid.

About just asking for fun and why bother, I don't think there is a much chance the girl will bother back? Not to repute anyone's answer because I asked for it but I think I have heard some who give up without much trying if the girl is a bit tough. Oh well, since guys are the go getting girls it's harder for them. I think rejection is a painful thing. Ah, we should have it so that the girls go get the guys. Then again the guys think the girls are too easy...

So here I am with a new question.

What do you think about the type of girls who would go after a guy she likes?

[lol...I'm that type haha]

[Xyeun]

You're thinking too much. I think it's best to let his words do the talking rather than his actions, since they're all stupid-like.
You say that he acts diffferently only to you, but are you really sure? When we have crushes/like someone, we often exaggerate every little small move they make and consider them a sign of affection towards you. are you sure it's not just you?

Maybe he feels comfortable around you like a little sister. but it's obvious that if he wants a relationship out of it, he needs to grow out of biting papers and hiding things.

Well, he doesn't bother any of my girl friends or other girls I know..:0
And when around his friends he's more serious and ..nice.
My friends are always tell him to stop bothering in a nice way but..
err..he just gets more annoying towards me.

When I say hi to him in the hallways he's quiet/looks kinda shy and sometimes he even ignores me 0_0
I guess I could be like a little sister to him so I probably am thinking a little too hard.
LOL. But, yes, he seriously needs to grow up D:

~Nuey

[*smilez*]

1) Hey guys i need ur opinion. i rejected a shy not talkative guy 6 months ago and ever since we didnt talk. now he talks to me agn with this new crazy personality, like teasing me. Anyways we are pretty close now and im starting to fall for him, is there anyway he will approach me agn or is he jus toying with me?

2) Also would u hang up on a girl u like on the phone after just a few minutes just to play some video game? like if u like a girl wouldnt u stay on the phone with her?

[RawrDesu]

thanks yuwing, moonk379, and mrunwanted! i guess it's some personal things between us that makes him act that way. he's kinda predictable so if i DO ask him why he is talking to me like that, i just know the answer -.-'' but anyways..i still wanna ask [everyone, that is lol]

do you think guys who are in a long relationship (more than a year..and a few months) will get bored of his girlfriend? and especially when his girlfriend is about three years younger? i know it could be things like; we've been together for so long, we know everything about each other and nothing much to talk about. but is there anything else specifically? is it his own personal problems or do you think it's the girl's fault?

thanks in advance!

[mrunwanted]

1) Hey guys i need ur opinion. i rejected a shy not talkative guy 6 months ago and ever since we didnt talk. now he talks to me agn with this new crazy personality, like teasing me. Anyways we are pretty close now and im starting to fall for him, is there anyway he will approach me agn or is he jus toying with me?

2) Also would u hang up on a girl u like on the phone after just a few minutes just to play some video game? like if u like a girl wouldnt u stay on the phone with her?

1) hmm maybe he's trying a new apporach to u? no idea on whether he is just toying with u though sorry.

2) yes i would if i only treat her as a normal friend. i wouldnt if i like her.

What do you think about the type of girls who would go after a guy she likes?

[lol...I'm that type haha]

i'll love it since it has nv happened to me before lol

[FLY HIGHHH]

how come boys are so stupid?


jk. actually..


you see, i like guys who are bright, active, and have positive attitudes. but seriously, almost all the guys i know are emo and dark and depressed... why why why are guys so depressed and down?

and if a guy has interest in a girl and that girl seems to have interest in him as well, would that guy take initiative and try to get to know her? or would he just stare at her as an eye candy?

[mrunwanted]

you see, i like guys who are bright, active, and have positive attitudes. but seriously, almost all the guys i know are emo and dark and depressed... why why why are guys so depressed and down?

and if a guy has interest in a girl and that girl seems to have interest in him as well, would that guy take initiative and try to get to know her? or would he just stare at her as an eye candy?

think they are shot down by reality.

if that guy has balls he probably will try to get to know her, unless the girl gave off wrong signals or the guy misinterperted them

[CIRee]

eh i havent posted here in a while.

1) Hey guys i need ur opinion. i rejected a shy not talkative guy 6 months ago and ever since we didnt talk. now he talks to me agn with this new crazy personality, like teasing me. Anyways we are pretty close now and im starting to fall for him, is there anyway he will approach me agn or is he jus toying with me?

2) Also would u hang up on a girl u like on the phone after just a few minutes just to play some video game? like if u like a girl wouldnt u stay on the phone with her?

1.you hurt his feeling so he toying with you. It's your fault for rejecting him then falling for him.

2. i dont play video games but i would leave a girl to hang out with my friends.

how come boys are so stupid?


jk. actually..


you see, i like guys who are bright, active, and have positive attitudes. but seriously, almost all the guys i know are emo and dark and depressed... why why why are guys so depressed and down?

and if a guy has interest in a girl and that girl seems to have interest in him as well, would that guy take initiative and try to get to know her? or would he just stare at her as an eye candy?

were not stupid, were just more concern about ourself then you

because they cant get any girls so they are negative to the world loser~~~~

most guys would not take the initiative because they dont want there ego to be bruise. But girls also have the same fear, everyone afraid of rejection.

[manlytoe]

YO FELLAS!
what do you think of short kid height women?

[Aesthetic_Chinese]

^ dido. that.
like how girls think that its perfect for the guy to be a head taller
or to fit right underneath their chin.

#2.
hahah.

so theres this new kid at work. we've been catching each other a lot [eyeing]
&& like i get really shyy so i look away or just dont look at him.
i can "feel" him looking at me. && when he looks away i look at him
haha. then he turns arounds catches me. && it just goes in a circle.

so question...can he tell im nervous? && does he have any interest what so ever?

[mrunwanted]

so theres this new kid at work. we've been catching each other a lot [eyeing]
&& like i get really shyy so i look away or just dont look at him.
i can "feel" him looking at me. && when he looks away i look at him
haha. then he turns arounds catches me. && it just goes in a circle.

so question...can he tell im nervous? && does he have any interest what so ever?

unless he has alot of experience with women and what their every movement means, i dont think so. we're not psychics u know lol

since he's looking at u he either finds u pretty or hes interested.

[moonk379]

YO FELLAS!
what do you think of short kid height women?

if you mean really short like midget short then its absolutely a no - no , but if your talkin like maybe 5 ft and up then its w/e for me since im only 5'9.

[ohsnapboobytrap]

what do guys think of girls who play video games? i'm no pro-gamer, but i've definitely played my fair share of mario, and i'm just curious if guys think that's weird.

also, what would a guy prefer relationship-wise: going out with a girl he knows fairly well, creating a relationship from scratch, and learning things about said girl as their relationship progresses; or going out with a girl he knows a lot better and has maybe even been really good friends with, and building a relationship based on the one they already have?

haha, sorry if that second questions is hard to read. i don't really know how to phrase what i mean. :/

[bokcheelo]

so theres this new kid at work. we've been catching each other a lot [eyeing]
&& like i get really shyy so i look away or just dont look at him.
i can "feel" him looking at me. && when he looks away i look at him
haha. then he turns arounds catches me. && it just goes in a circle.

so question...can he tell im nervous? && does he have any interest what so ever?

if he keeps lookin like that he probably thinks ur cute/pretty/hot.... i'd say theres a 75% chance he's interested

what do guys think of girls who play video games? i'm no pro-gamer, but i've definitely played my fair share of mario, and i'm just curious if guys think that's weird.

also, what would a guy prefer relationship-wise: going out with a girl he knows fairly well, creating a relationship from scratch, and learning things about said girl as their relationship progresses; or going out with a girl he knows a lot better and has maybe even been really good friends with, and building a relationship based on the one they already have?

haha, sorry if that second questions is hard to read. i don't really know how to phrase what i mean. :/

i don't think thats weird at all... i mean video games are for everyone.. any guy who thinks video games arent for girls is just sexist.
if it was me i'd prefer the first one because if i had a reaallly good friend i've been with for a while it would be kind of weird to go out with her. even though u didn't list it i'd prefer to be with someone i don't really know that much at all.. its the thrill of finding out about the other person as you go along.... its very risky.. but definitely worth a try sometime

[*smilez*]

1) hmm maybe he's trying a new apporach to u? no idea on whether he is just toying with u though sorry.

2) yes i would if i only treat her as a normal friend. i wouldnt if i like her.

eh i havent posted here in a while.


1.you hurt his feeling so he toying with you. It's your fault for rejecting him then falling for him.

2. i dont play video games but i would leave a girl to hang out with my friends.

U guys both have really different opinions.......but thx guyss!

Is there anymore guys willing to answer my question? i want some more feedback.

[Laxntiga]

eh i havent posted here in a while.


1.you hurt his feeling so he toying with you. It's your fault for rejecting him then falling for him.

2. i dont play video games but i would leave a girl to hang out with my friends.


were not stupid, were just more concern about ourself then you

because they cant get any girls so they are negative to the world loser~~~~

most guys would not take the initiative because they dont want there ego to be bruise. But girls also have the same fear, everyone afraid of rejection.

My answers compared to CIRee's lol ;D

First question:

1. He possibly might be just playing you.
2. If I like the girl, I'd make sure she'd be on hold longer than other girls when I play my video games hahahaha

Second question

Why are the guys you seem so gloomy? Maybe you are looking at the same people over and over again. You know.... you can meet new and different people too.
Men will probably take the first move. Boy's will not. Me......... depending on how hot the girl is, ahh nvm I'd take the first move within 3 seconds.