[CookSux]

1. Why do a lot of guys (mostly) binge drink to the point of puking? Is it a college-specific thing? Does it annoy them if a girl asks them to stop or slow it down, especially if he's with other guys? Would you listen -- especially if the girl's intent is for you NOT to be sick later on that night, especially if you have a habit of getting completely drunk?

2. It might just be my area, but a LOT of guys act gay. Literally. Like they'll be touching each other, teasing each other about how buff the other looks, and making jokes about raping each other. At first I was thinking, oh brotherly bond, in a weird way ... but WHAT is up with that?

3. Honestly, I know this has been asked but I've never gotten a clear answer. Do smart, decent girls intimidate guys? How about smart, athletic, somewhat perfectionist girls (they try to, and often do, excel at things they try)? If so, how do we combat that without dumbening ourselves down?

4. Would you be OK with a somewhat independent girl or do you always want to be with your S/O?

1) I dunno, when I was younger I found that the more I had fun the more I got carried away... but I don't think i ever got to the point where I was blacking out. It's not a college-specific thing since I know a lot of older people in that same predicament. And if they're used to drinking that much, I'm sure they know full well what the consequences are for the morning after.
2) If the guys are korean, it's pretty normal.
3) They may intimidate guys who just want ass. The less you dumb yourself down, the more chance you have of getting a quality guy.
4) I hate dependent girls. My last few exs were like that, and it annoyed the sht out of me.

1) what's one obvious things you guys do to hint a girl you like her?
2) do guys like girls who play games? or to them the girls seem tomboy/geeky and a turn off.

1) He tells her he likes her.
2) Games are one thing, but I absolutely dislike girls who are into anime, especially at this age.

So..is it because he just wants to spend as much time as he can with his friends because he won't see them in college? Or can it be something else? Or was my mom right?

He's a young kid. I don't think people that young know how to have proper relationships anyways... no offense to you pre-highcollegers.

do guys ever get intimidated by girls? like girls who are very confident or girls who look you in the eye?

i've been told that when i say sorry to a guy, it makes him feel bad.
why is that/is that true?

do guys care what girl he makes friends w/ as long as she's not annoying/rude/etc?

do guys actually find it attractive when a girl plays the stupid card?

1) Yes, but I don't.
2) I don't know, I don't know why you've heard that cause I'm not gender specific when it comes to apologies.
3) Yah, that shouldn't be a problem.
4) I'm sure a lot of guys like dumb girls, but I get sick of em.

how do you comfort a guy friend who went through a breakup ?

If you're not that close, then don't feel like you have any obligations. Seriously, if I was hung up from a breakup, then I'd hate for random people trying to console me. Well, I've never been heartbroken, so we'll see.

do guys like smart girls? or is that a turn off?
[by smart, i just mean girls that do well in school/street smart/etc]

do guys like the straight-forward approach best?

do guys like to be surprised?

why do guys tease us girls?

do guys really love sports THAT much?

1) What kind of guys are you talking about?
2) See above
3) See above
4) See above
5) See above

Get the point?

[Laxntiga]

What makes guys really happy and grateful? and What disinterests a guy?

Preference question. However, we do have commonalities...........food, beer, cars, women, mechanical-hard-fact-science-things.

Disinterests- same as women, funky odors, snobby people, arrogant people, ugly people, not having power, etc.

If girlfriends don`t give their boyfriends the same affection (like compliments) that they give, do they feel neglected/upset?

Some, yes. We don't realllllllllly pay attention to things like this. More than what is said, we remember what more is done.

do guys ever get intimidated by girls? like girls who are very confident or girls who look you in the eye?

i've been told that when i say sorry to a guy, it makes him feel bad.
why is that/is that true?

do guys care what girl he makes friends w/ as long as she's not annoying/rude/etc?

do guys actually find it attractive when a girl plays the stupid card?

Answer to the first question: At times yes, catch us off guard and we will have the puppy dog look on our face.
Second, I personally don't know you so I don't know, but generally speaking if a woman says 'sorry' to me I just think whatever~ or .... I might snap back and be like.... "yeah you better be! you messed up my whole life now!!! in a sarcastic way and just laugh it off *points for making her laugh woohoo~"
Third, No we don't really care. Unless she's trying to introduce you to other guys, talking smack behind our backs, or conspire something.
Fourth, we think you are helpless and cute, like a little puppy dog that needs help. Some find it loathing and will think you are stupid, use it accordingly.

how do you comfort a guy friend who went through a breakup ?

Sex? hahahaha, show him other girls, help him get through his little mind of his that, THAT girl wasn't the only one and there are others who would love to get to know him better and he deserves more. He will continue to say that SHE was perfect and SHE was the one. If she was............ why did they break up? lol I guess it wasn't ment to be

hey guys--thanx for answer all my questions. =)
BUT
i have more ;p

do guys like smart girls? or is that a turn off?
[by smart, i just mean girls that do well in school/street smart/etc]

do guys like the straight-forward approach best?

do guys like to be surprised?

why do guys tease us girls?

do guys really love sports THAT much?

1. Preference question, we pray you are past the borderline-retarded area when it comes to intelligence.
2. Some like to play the game, some like straight-forward. IE. "I think your hot, come home with me tonight" will work on MOST guys at bars or clubs around 2AM and beyond. However, not all men will be willing to get into relationships.
3. Preference question. Some yes, some no. If it deals with...... sex, food, beer, presents we love surprises.
4. Yes, do girls REALLY love talking to their girlfriends on the phones for HOURS, AFTERRRRRRRRR they went shopping for 1/2 the day?- leave it be.

[han.]

Okay..so my boyfriend and I have been going out for about 4 months now..he's already dropped the "L" bomb. (Mind you..he never really had that many girlfriends..he waited 2 years after his ex before he asked me out..and all his friends say he acts "different" with me.) During school, we've always been close (i.e. walk each other to classes, sit next to each other etc.) but during lunch he always went out with his friends. We NEVER ate lunch together. I didn't mind this so much because lunch was sorta "me" time. I've already met his family and he's already met mine..even our families met each other. We never really went out on dates regularly..not counting prom or banquets. We went to the movies ONCE but we always talked to each other online every night. He doesn't call..'cause well I'm not a phone person and his mom is really crazy about the bill. Well we just graduated high school and we're going to college together this fall. But so far during the summer we hardly see each other...We hardly talk to each other (maybe exchange a comment or two on myspace). He says it's because he's been really stressed and bogged down lately..but his sister says he's just been spending the night over at his friends' houses... '

So I'm sitting here thinking..does he just not want to be with me anymore? I talked to his long-time friend (who's also my room mate in college) about it and she says if that were the case he would've already broken up with me. He's not the type to beat around the bush. My mom says he still needs to grow up..I'm a year and a month older than him (19) which makes him 17..turning 18 this month. But I dunno..I think it's something else.

So..is it because he just wants to spend as much time as he can with his friends because he won't see them in college? Or can it be something else? Or was my mom right?

Sorry if it's a little long..I tried to be as detailed as possible.

maybe he saw your signature banner and got butthurt. just kidding.

in all seriousness, when i'm stressed out, i like to spend my time with friends too. hanging out with friends allows me to set aside all my problems for the moment so i can get my mind cleared out.
but i don't understand why he's keeping you in the dark. you are his girlfriend afterall. take some time to set him aside and ask him what's really going on.

[invisiblez7]

how would a guy feel if the gf isn't open about their relationship to their friends? as in the friends are still in the dark about it because the girl does not really want them to know e.g. upon seeing their friends at a distance when out with the guy, the girl will avoid the friends by walking other way.

[M!ke]

how would a guy feel if the gf isn't open about their relationship to their friends? as in the friends are still in the dark about it because the girl does not really want them to know e.g. upon seeing their friends at a distance when out with the guy, the girl will avoid the friends by walking other way.

Well that could be seen as slightly disrepectful. If I were the guy i'd be thinking is this girl embarrased to be with me infront of her friends?

But again that depends on what the situation is, is the guy also doing the same whenever he sees his friends?

[RiderKamen]

how would a guy feel if the gf isn't open about their relationship to their friends? as in the friends are still in the dark about it because the girl does not really want them to know e.g. upon seeing their friends at a distance when out with the guy, the girl will avoid the friends by walking other way.

Its a slap to the face

there's one thing for not wanting to have your friends all up in your biz (which is understanding) but its another when your dodging in order to not be seen with this person. Whether your a guy or a girl, all you got to do is introduce your mate to your friends, family, people you work with, and etc. After that, you can do whatever you want.

It would make me feel like I'm a embarrassment to her and that I'm a item in the back of her closet.
But my second thought would be "I wonder if she's afraid that I might be taken or she'll be treated differently when they see me".

[invisiblez7]

Well that could be seen as slightly disrepectful. If I were the guy i'd be thinking is this girl embarrased to be with me infront of her friends?

But again that depends on what the situation is, is the guy also doing the same whenever he sees his friends?

from what I know... I think it is the girl doing that only.

[mistresstigress]

This may seem like a silly question, but it left me to ponder. When guys open the door for a girl, does he think she is attractive? More specifically, he waits to open the door for her when he doesn't have to. Could it just be his personality to do so (gentleman quality)?

[sweet_hunie_bee]

i hurt my ex really bad -
basically i was his first love
we broke up cos i lost interest
i started to like someone soon after
but nothing eventuated from that...
but he thinks i cheated on him (or moved on rather quickly)
but technically i didn't...

i've accepted the consequences of his bitterness towards me despite the fact that he doesn't know the complete truth.
there's no point in me trying to justify what i did cos i've already hurt him and i can't really change what he's chosen to believe...it's now 9 months after, i'm still single and he's got another gf (5 months) but doesn't treat her as well as he did me. but it's still as if he's trying to get me back but i don't want to play that game. i've given up trying to renew the friendship.

are guys going to be bitter and ignorant after a situation like this? will they ever get over it? is he ever going to talk to me again? technically speaking, am i responsible for the way he's changed? and the way he treats his new girl?

[r3dalf]

i hurt my ex really bad -
basically i was his first love
we broke up cos i lost interest
i started to like someone soon after
but nothing eventuated from that...
but he thinks i cheated on him (or moved on rather quickly)
but technically i didn't...

i've accepted the consequences of his bitterness towards me despite the fact that he doesn't know the complete truth.
there's no point in me trying to justify what i did cos i've already hurt him and i can't really change what he's chosen to believe...it's now 9 months after, i'm still single and he's got another gf (5 months) but doesn't treat her as well as he did me. but it's still as if he's trying to get me back but i don't want to play that game. i've given up trying to renew the friendship.

are guys going to be bitter and ignorant after a situation like this? will they ever get over it? is he ever going to talk to me again? technically speaking, am i responsible for the way he's changed? and the way he treats his new girl?

first loves always end up that way.
that's because we humans make mistakes?
congratulate couples who make it to marriage if they were 1st loves.

do u regret? i bet u do. however if u know it, then change for the better.

i have a fren whose gf treated him like a piece of s h i t for 2 years (he's still in the r'ship), and he's pretty much given up on girls n r'ship stuff. (changed his POV on girls).

logically, u did affect him.

[feelitup]

Okay..so my boyfriend and I have been going out for about 4 months now..he's already dropped the "L" bomb. (Mind you..he never really had that many girlfriends..he waited 2 years after his ex before he asked me out..and all his friends say he acts "different" with me.) During school, we've always been close (i.e. walk each other to classes, sit next to each other etc.) but during lunch he always went out with his friends. We NEVER ate lunch together. I didn't mind this so much because lunch was sorta "me" time. I've already met his family and he's already met mine..even our families met each other. We never really went out on dates regularly..not counting prom or banquets. We went to the movies ONCE but we always talked to each other online every night. He doesn't call..'cause well I'm not a phone person and his mom is really crazy about the bill. Well we just graduated high school and we're going to college together this fall. But so far during the summer we hardly see each other...We hardly talk to each other (maybe exchange a comment or two on myspace). He says it's because he's been really stressed and bogged down lately..but his sister says he's just been spending the night over at his friends' houses... '

So I'm sitting here thinking..does he just not want to be with me anymore? I talked to his long-time friend (who's also my room mate in college) about it and she says if that were the case he would've already broken up with me. He's not the type to beat around the bush. My mom says he still needs to grow up..I'm a year and a month older than him (19) which makes him 17..turning 18 this month. But I dunno..I think it's something else.

So..is it because he just wants to spend as much time as he can with his friends because he won't see them in college? Or can it be something else? Or was my mom right?

Sorry if it's a little long..I tried to be as detailed as possible.

He probably needs time for himself. However, if you claim he doesn't beat around the bush, then why make excuses just to hang out with your friends? What's the point in a relationship if you're unable to communicate truthfully? While you're both still in your teen years, it's him who doesn't seem to be mature enough in how to fully handle a relationship in a communicational manner. If he continues the same way when making new friends in college, then you may want to confront him about what's going on with both of you.

If he tells you one thing and someone tells you different, then there's obviously something that you need to know.

[r3dalf]

This may seem like a silly question, but it left me to ponder. When guys open the door for a girl, does he think she is attractive? Could it just be his personality to do so (gentleman quality)?

it's a 50-50 case.
personality (guys act [differently] like that in front of girls) / attraction

only 1 variable of 'him opening the door' is not enough.

[Joanne <3]

Do you want a MAN or do you want a adolescent immature prepubescent BOY?

pffffft boy's need their feelings broken, they need to have a rough time, even cry a little..... turns them into thick skinned, coarse, rough manly men.

I don't know, but at that rate... I don't think that I'd get either.

[CookSux]

I just open the door for anyone out of politeness. What goes around comes around.

[kelly]

This dude tat I'm talkin to is makin things so hard....so I've been tryin to not miss him since I'm out of town it's so hard for me but it's not like he contacts me anyway...but lastnight when we finally talked he said it seems like I dun miss him and was sayin it was b/c of wat happened b4 tat made him feel like i didn't want to talk to him no more? we got in a lil arguement gosh why are guys so DUMB and ERRR piss me off!

[강유미]

I just open the door for anyone out of politeness. What goes around comes around.

No, it does not. We're not living a recycled life.

[Laxntiga]

This dude tat I'm talkin to is makin things so hard....so I've been tryin to not miss him since I'm out of town it's so hard for me but it's not like he contacts me anyway...but lastnight when we finally talked he said it seems like I dun miss him and was sayin it was b/c of wat happened b4 tat made him feel like i didn't want to talk to him no more? we got in a lil arguement gosh why are guys so DUMB and ERRR piss me off!

Uhhh..... is this a question? Rant? I dont know.


To the open the door thing. No, we do it because its nice. Just because we open doors for you, it doesn't mean we like you.

[mtrgl7]

My brother dated this woman nine years older, of a more 'inferior' ethnicity in the eyes of the people around him, not a pretty face, and no figure. She's served him like a maid though.

Do guys date ANY girl they can bed regardless of her looks? Isn't it cheap? Isn't it disgusting?

[r3dalf]

My brother dated this woman nine years older, of a more 'inferior' ethnicity in the eyes of the people around him, not a pretty face, and no figure. She's served him like a maid though.

Do guys date ANY girl they can bed regardless of her looks? Isn't it cheap? Isn't it disgusting?

maybe he's desperate for sex or needs it regularly.
sex just turns on most guys.

[FusionGT2]

I just open the door for anyone out of politeness. What goes around comes around.

I do that too out of politeness. But I don't expect a girl to open a door for me, in fact I hate when they do it. I usually say to them "That's my job.. "