My friends are all going their seperate ways in college, and so I'm going alone and starting from scratch. I heard it's hard to make friends in college cuz ppl r focused on their education, especially if it's A Community College. They go school, then home, or wherevers. Wat if they already hav their own set of friends? So wat do u guys do??
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Making Friends In College? heard it's hard.
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Posted 09 June 2007 - 11:24 AM
that's life my dear...everybody grows up and separate..but don't worry...making friends in college is very easy. You may think that you will be "too" shy or intimidated to talk to new people. Just remember, there's also a lot of people around you that feels the same way. There's many things that you can become invovled in school that would definitely expose you to a lot of people...join clubs, volunteer, go to work...etc. You will be fine don't worry!
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Posted 09 June 2007 - 01:41 PM
Well I thought whenever I went to a community college over the summer, it was harder to make friends b/c it is true they just go home right after classes. But going to a regular college, making friends was really easy.
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Posted 09 June 2007 - 03:12 PM
its hard to make friends at community college 
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Posted 09 June 2007 - 03:54 PM
I agree with you it is hard. But just take it the initial step~
Go to class early or whenever you are waiting for a teacher to come, strike up a conversation. Like something "Did you do last night's homework? Do you like understand anything he/she says?" XD Or just introduce yourself casually. 8D I did a lot of times & it's a bit awkward at first. [lol--actually knows how this feels whenever I'm introducing myself].
I know it would suck that everyone is separating. But, there's always facebook, one year reunions [my friends & I made a pact that we should at least meet once in a year/once a month depending on whenever they come down or I go up there]. That way, you'll still keep in contact with your old & new friends~!
Go to class early or whenever you are waiting for a teacher to come, strike up a conversation. Like something "Did you do last night's homework? Do you like understand anything he/she says?" XD Or just introduce yourself casually. 8D I did a lot of times & it's a bit awkward at first. [lol--actually knows how this feels whenever I'm introducing myself].
I know it would suck that everyone is separating. But, there's always facebook, one year reunions [my friends & I made a pact that we should at least meet once in a year/once a month depending on whenever they come down or I go up there]. That way, you'll still keep in contact with your old & new friends~!
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Posted 09 June 2007 - 04:30 PM
Don't know about community college since I don't go to one, but....
For me, I had maybe a handful of friends my first year, and part of my third semester. Then I got over it, and decided to just start talking to people. Might seem awkward, but just tell yourself to get over it and it's easy. Most people are pretty happy to talk =) I've got a bunch of friends now, it's so nice.
For me, I had maybe a handful of friends my first year, and part of my third semester. Then I got over it, and decided to just start talking to people. Might seem awkward, but just tell yourself to get over it and it's easy. Most people are pretty happy to talk =) I've got a bunch of friends now, it's so nice.
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Posted 09 June 2007 - 05:26 PM
i go to university, which is pretty similar to college...
i think it depends on the type of person you are...
it's not that hard making friends i don't think....
i'm currently in my 3rd, well just finished and
starting my 4th year in september..
i'm still friends with ppl i met in first year...
we're at the point where we can hang out
outside of school... just a matter of how much
you wanna make friends... its not that hard....
and i'm not an overly outgoing kind of person...
so i don't know.. that's my opinion... =)
i think it depends on the type of person you are...
it's not that hard making friends i don't think....
i'm currently in my 3rd, well just finished and
starting my 4th year in september..
i'm still friends with ppl i met in first year...
we're at the point where we can hang out
outside of school... just a matter of how much
you wanna make friends... its not that hard....
and i'm not an overly outgoing kind of person...
so i don't know.. that's my opinion... =)
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Posted 10 June 2007 - 08:58 AM
not really...just be your own self and talk to them hahaha..XD I made friends right away O_O LOL
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Posted 10 June 2007 - 11:12 AM
its hard as balls to make good friends to stick with u in college if you are a commuter
don't listen to ne of the ppl that dorm here and say that its easy to make friends, of course it is for them! they are always around their roommates or classmates and they live on campus and party together what do u expect
i made a lot of friends in college during my freshman year in class, got a lot of phone numbers and chilled outside of school then 2nd year everyone went their seperate ways b/c everyone had diff majors or classes, so those friends made other friends and then i loss in touch with them cuz they have their own groups and such
2nd year i just went to class and went home like usual even if i did see my old friends it was akward, now i just hang with highschool buddies that went their seperate ways most of them partying or working, same old boring shiz for them and me
but the good thing about college is that ppl are very out going and nice in class, easy to strike up conversations to make friends with but staying friends is another obstacle cuz these ppl usually have a lot since they party and live on campus besides ppl like me
but life is life, i guess i have to party to make good friends and such but i don't party, and in college it seems that they are so many types of ppl that tries to be friends with each other but i didn't share the same interests as them like for me it would be soccer and they would do their own thing
don't listen to ne of the ppl that dorm here and say that its easy to make friends, of course it is for them! they are always around their roommates or classmates and they live on campus and party together what do u expect
i made a lot of friends in college during my freshman year in class, got a lot of phone numbers and chilled outside of school then 2nd year everyone went their seperate ways b/c everyone had diff majors or classes, so those friends made other friends and then i loss in touch with them cuz they have their own groups and such
2nd year i just went to class and went home like usual even if i did see my old friends it was akward, now i just hang with highschool buddies that went their seperate ways most of them partying or working, same old boring shiz for them and me
but the good thing about college is that ppl are very out going and nice in class, easy to strike up conversations to make friends with but staying friends is another obstacle cuz these ppl usually have a lot since they party and live on campus besides ppl like me
but life is life, i guess i have to party to make good friends and such but i don't party, and in college it seems that they are so many types of ppl that tries to be friends with each other but i didn't share the same interests as them like for me it would be soccer and they would do their own thing
how many times must I fall over and over again? and when will i finally succeed at a such a vital point in my life while my time is dwindling away???
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Posted 11 June 2007 - 02:56 PM
in community college it can be hard but in 4 year universities, no problem.
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Posted 11 June 2007 - 03:03 PM
QUOTE(chinkboye22 @ Jun 10 2007, 02:12 PM) 
its hard as balls to make good friends to stick with u in college if you are a commuter
don't listen to ne of the ppl that dorm here and say that its easy to make friends, of course it is for them! they are always around their roommates or classmates and they live on campus and party together what do u expect
i made a lot of friends in college during my freshman year in class, got a lot of phone numbers and chilled outside of school then 2nd year everyone went their seperate ways b/c everyone had diff majors or classes, so those friends made other friends and then i loss in touch with them cuz they have their own groups and such
2nd year i just went to class and went home like usual even if i did see my old friends it was akward, now i just hang with highschool buddies that went their seperate ways most of them partying or working, same old boring shiz for them and me
but the good thing about college is that ppl are very out going and nice in class, easy to strike up conversations to make friends with but staying friends is another obstacle cuz these ppl usually have a lot since they party and live on campus besides ppl like me
but life is life, i guess i have to party to make good friends and such but i don't party, and in college it seems that they are so many types of ppl that tries to be friends with each other but i didn't share the same interests as them like for me it would be soccer and they would do their own thing
don't listen to ne of the ppl that dorm here and say that its easy to make friends, of course it is for them! they are always around their roommates or classmates and they live on campus and party together what do u expect
i made a lot of friends in college during my freshman year in class, got a lot of phone numbers and chilled outside of school then 2nd year everyone went their seperate ways b/c everyone had diff majors or classes, so those friends made other friends and then i loss in touch with them cuz they have their own groups and such
2nd year i just went to class and went home like usual even if i did see my old friends it was akward, now i just hang with highschool buddies that went their seperate ways most of them partying or working, same old boring shiz for them and me
but the good thing about college is that ppl are very out going and nice in class, easy to strike up conversations to make friends with but staying friends is another obstacle cuz these ppl usually have a lot since they party and live on campus besides ppl like me
but life is life, i guess i have to party to make good friends and such but i don't party, and in college it seems that they are so many types of ppl that tries to be friends with each other but i didn't share the same interests as them like for me it would be soccer and they would do their own thing
depends on the town too. Where I went, the school was basically the town, so even if you commutted you still hung out at around the same places as the kids that didnt. Went to the same mall, bars, etc, whatevers downtown. If you commutted to say NYU, then things would be different and it'll be harder to make and keep friends, maybe.
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Posted 11 June 2007 - 04:54 PM
QUOTE(aznboi1107 @ Jun 11 2007, 06:56 PM)
in community college it can be hard but in 4 year universities, no problem.
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Posted 11 June 2007 - 07:36 PM
I'm currently at a CC (glad to see I'm not the only one around here lol) but I've made a handful of really close friends and I haven't even been here a year yet! Although, I guess in my case, it's a bit different. I started last summer, taking only a couple of classes. In my freshman English class, there were only 9 people in there. I met this one guy and became pretty close. In the fall, I met all his friends who went to high school with him and we ALL just HAPPENED to need to take the same classes. So we've stuck together for.. three or four semesters already. Haha. (:
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Posted 14 June 2007 - 02:22 PM
i think its hard, but yea you have to put yourself out there.
do it even when you are scared.
do it even when you are scared.
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Posted 14 June 2007 - 11:31 PM
Same as what everyone is saying. The best bet would be to get involve in clubs, as many as u can lol. Striking up conversations in class didn't seem to work that well for me. Out of class, then we go our separate ways. Personally my high school buddies are going to the same university i go too, so i can hang out w/ them most =)
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Posted 15 June 2007 - 01:20 AM
I moved from Hawaii to Washington
And as a commuter it was extremely hard to make friends.
I met people in class who Id have lunch with everynow and then, but no one that I really clicked with.
A year later I was feeling really homesick when I was flyerd to rush for a sorority.
I took my chances, and told myself that If didn't gain friends from this, Id take the first plane back home.
Its been nearly 8 months and Im so GLAD that I took that initiative to do something new.
I got to make new people, and make new friends, SISTERS who've helped me settle into Washington.
BLAHH... harhar, My post is really cheesssy.
The best advice is to get involved. Don't be afraid to get out of your comfort zone!
And as a commuter it was extremely hard to make friends.
I met people in class who Id have lunch with everynow and then, but no one that I really clicked with.
A year later I was feeling really homesick when I was flyerd to rush for a sorority.
I took my chances, and told myself that If didn't gain friends from this, Id take the first plane back home.
Its been nearly 8 months and Im so GLAD that I took that initiative to do something new.
I got to make new people, and make new friends, SISTERS who've helped me settle into Washington.
BLAHH... harhar, My post is really cheesssy.
The best advice is to get involved. Don't be afraid to get out of your comfort zone!
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Posted 15 June 2007 - 08:54 PM
I don't know exactly what to get involved in. I'm going to a party school with a predominant Greek life. I don't want be make "friends" by binge drinking or sleeping around. Then again, it's just like high school. I am okay with being low-key and having few true friends.
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Posted 17 June 2007 - 06:51 AM
QUOTE(shortee28 @ Jun 9 2007, 07:26 PM)
i go to university, which is pretty similar to college...
i think it depends on the type of person you are...
it's not that hard making friends i don't think....
i'm currently in my 3rd, well just finished and
starting my 4th year in september..
i'm still friends with ppl i met in first year...
we're at the point where we can hang out
outside of school... just a matter of how much
you wanna make friends... its not that hard....
and i'm not an overly outgoing kind of person...
so i don't know.. that's my opinion... =)
i think it depends on the type of person you are...
it's not that hard making friends i don't think....
i'm currently in my 3rd, well just finished and
starting my 4th year in september..
i'm still friends with ppl i met in first year...
we're at the point where we can hang out
outside of school... just a matter of how much
you wanna make friends... its not that hard....
and i'm not an overly outgoing kind of person...
so i don't know.. that's my opinion... =)
agreed, it's all about how out going you generally are when it comes to meeting new people, just don't be afraid or embarassed when your putting yourself out there! it's definitely not hard because University/College is so diverse that you're bound to meet a group that has similiar characteristics and personality as you
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