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Ask The Ladies - Read First Post discuss about behaviors and relationships from female P.O.V.

#1051 angelcadex

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Posted 10 September 2007 - 11:30 PM

QUOTE(mindey @ Sep 9 2007, 03:16 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

i wonder y boys act TOTALLY DIFFERENT infront of his friend, but infront of his gf, it just seems like hes another person

They do that because they have to act tough in front of their boys.

I know this isn't the same, but I act way different in front of my girl friends XD

#1052 MUGETSU

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Posted 11 September 2007 - 06:59 PM

Alright. There's this girl in my class.

First day we glanced at each other and met eyes a couple of times.

This happened again like at least once every time that class met during the week.

So a week after I decided to introduce myself. In the morning I got there early and she was the second person that came in. I said hi my name is ____ what's yours? I got her name and that was about it.

So I'm thinking...how should I approach her to talk?

I think she's interested in me. My friends in the class tell me they've seen her staring at me.

Now I'm thinking she's interested or I might have something on my face, or maybe I'm just extremely ugly that she has to look at me. I'm hoping its the first one. haha

I tried talking to her the first time, but the way she said her own name implied to me that she might be very shy. She's a ... (hate using this word like this) fob, so I think that my sudden introduction might have intimidated her?

What's next?

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Posted 11 September 2007 - 08:11 PM

^

I think you should say Hi to her next time you see her in your class. And if there's a chance to talk, say something related to the class so there's a convo going on.. like did you do your readings for this week?.. or how are you liking this class?? Or the prof's teaching style? etc.

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#1054 MoiraElla

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Posted 11 September 2007 - 09:13 PM

QUOTE(MUGETSU @ Sep 11 2007, 07:59 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I think you should keep greeting her, and try to start a conversation like, "where are you from" haha, or what megastepxo said, anything class related.

#1055 Remix

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Posted 12 September 2007 - 05:41 AM

I have a question but it's more of a friendship kinda thing.

I have this friend for quite some time now and she gets mad at me very easily.

for example: i tease her a bit and she slaps my arm and go "#@$#@%^@# you make me so mad all the time >=("
^it kinda pisses me off cause when she does it she laughs without knowing her own hypocrisy(sp?)

so then i try staying quiet and she goes "Why are you so quiet

say somethingggg!!!! >=["

So either way she gets mad whether i open my mouth or not!

It wasn't always like this, we use to get along fine and almost always laughed together. Now it's like we're both 2 old grumpy married couple who complain at each other every so often.

So ladies, how can i bring us back to the way we were b4?

Also, why is she so nit picky around me and get angered so easily in comparison to other guy/girl friends?
is it because she expects a greater deal from me or something?

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Posted 12 September 2007 - 03:07 PM

QUOTE(Remix @ Sep 12 2007, 08:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

say somethingggg!!!! >=["

So either way she gets mad whether i open my mouth or not!

It wasn't always like this, we use to get along fine and almost always laughed together. Now it's like we're both 2 old grumpy married couple who complain at each other every so often.
So ladies, how can i bring us back to the way we were b4?

Also, why is she so nit picky around me and get angered so easily in comparison to other guy/girl friends?
is it because she expects a greater deal from me or something?

pwahahaha it sounds like she LIKES YOU.

lol. idk. if shes saying it like, with a playful smile then she probably likes you.
if shes just being annoying, then shes weird.
bipolar maybe.

maybe you should talk to her about it. say like, we used to be so much fun...what happened?
maybe shell tell you. maybe shes just be like OMFG STFU.

...god i dont even know about much about others of my gender. (it took me a while to phrase that- ididnt want to say "idk my own gender.")

sorry for the bad advice. -______-;

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#1057 bripac

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Posted 13 September 2007 - 01:52 AM

Is it true most girls prefer older guys? I seem to be interested in girls who are older than me as I like maturity in a girl... I find that i can get a conversation going easier with an older girl....

#1058 xtiinee

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Posted 13 September 2007 - 04:42 AM

QUOTE(bripac @ Sep 13 2007, 03:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hahaha, me myself, I prefer older or same age. Definately not younger, unless it's not much younger and they can prove they can be mature, you know? (:

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Posted 13 September 2007 - 09:13 AM

QUOTE(bripac @ Sep 13 2007, 04:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I prefer older guys because I want to be in the same maturity level with the guy...because guys mature slower. Younger guys...I'm friends with them but they seem like as if they are still kids...I don't know why, its just a year or two difference and I feel that way lol. So I get what you're saying...I think we want a partner who's mature and have intellectual conversations.

But yeah, i do see a couple of older woman, younger guy stories, just the girl is in denial that shes in love with a younger guy.

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Posted 13 September 2007 - 01:45 PM

QUOTE(bripac @ Sep 13 2007, 02:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Girls mostly want to find a guy that is on (or close to) their own maturity level.
I think if you are more mature than people your age, then sure..go for the person you have a connection with and don't worry about age--if the girl feels the connection with you too, there should be no problem unless she's really..narrow-minded o.O haha then that's not the girl for you!

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Posted 13 September 2007 - 02:26 PM

QUOTE(bripac @ Sep 13 2007, 02:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

hmm. well for me i prefer older guys and ive never really fallen head over heels for a younger guy, just a little crush.
but for some girls they do prefer younger guys, so no worries, you might get a chance?
and umm i think usually older people have better communication skills. (:

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Posted 13 September 2007 - 07:02 PM

QUOTE(bripac @ Sep 13 2007, 03:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

it depends, but for me, i usually prefer older guys

#1063 seefaithrun

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Posted 13 September 2007 - 07:16 PM

For me, its all about the connection. If its there, then I would go for it. As long as the guy and I are on the same level maturity-wise.

#1064 MinJi13

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Posted 14 September 2007 - 02:25 AM

I need advice from a girls POV.. guys friends aren't all that good at that..

On the bud trip back from a school trip I sat next to my guy friend, whilst my boyfriend sat with his friend behind us.
The trip is about an hours drive and I had this huge headache so I decided to sleep. For the 20 minutes I just tilted my head sideways, but it got uncomfortable so I leaned on my friend. He didn't seem to mind.
I stretched for a while after and my friend next to me teased me, so I glared at him. When he apologises, he usually gives then a hug, so he hugged me, but he left one arm around me. I didn't think much of it because of my headache. He then sorta gave me a one-arm-hug/pull me close hug. Once again I didn't think much of it because of my headache (which was getting worse by the minute) and just leaned on him and slept until we reached school.

Um.. is that a bad thing to do infront of my boyfriend? He didn't say anything afterwards.. I didn't realise until my friend (who i was leaning on) who was waiting with me for my dad to pick me up said he must've been cut when I did that. Then I realised it must've been really bad because of my best friend's reaction.. now I feel really confused and guilty..
Is it a bad thing to do? I know my friend doesn't like me, for sure. I thought it was a normal friend thing to do? Should I be feeling guilty?

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Posted 14 September 2007 - 05:20 AM

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What was your boy's reaction? If he doesn't care, that means he trusts you. If he's sorta pissed off you should just explain it. "Are you bad about what happened on the bus? Dude, I had a headache and we're only friends. Don't you trust me? Why would I cheat on you in front of you." Then some mushy words. But those words are sorta heated up. Which is good? So that you get his attention and show that you care.

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Posted 14 September 2007 - 06:28 AM

QUOTE(MinJi13 @ Sep 14 2007, 05:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hm, you should talk to your boyfriend about this. Explain to him you had a massive headache and that what happened didn't mean anything to you... and that your boyfriend is the person you care about. Your boyfriend may not have said anything but I think you should explain to him... Or maybe he didn't see it at all?

Hopefully your boyfriend understands you're not cheating.

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Posted 14 September 2007 - 06:46 AM

QUOTE(Remix @ Sep 12 2007, 06:41 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

say somethingggg!!!! >=["

So either way she gets mad whether i open my mouth or not!

It wasn't always like this, we use to get along fine and almost always laughed together. Now it's like we're both 2 old grumpy married couple who complain at each other every so often.
So ladies, how can i bring us back to the way we were b4?

Also, why is she so nit picky around me and get angered so easily in comparison to other guy/girl friends?
is it because she expects a greater deal from me or something?

Well, I think I've been in her position a couple of times...treating a guy friend differently than others; acting like he made me mad all the time; hitting and generally bothering him..etc. and it was all because I was starting to fall for him and it was just a quirky subconscious (didn't know I was being that annoying) way to show him attention and get attention back. So anyways, she could be saying the worst things ever to you "I hate you! You make me so MAD!" but you just have to analyze her tone..is she really mad? o_O probably not..she's just playing around, and she wants you to play along (act like you're sorry and sad) for a little while =)

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Posted 14 September 2007 - 08:01 AM

QUOTE(bripac @ Sep 13 2007, 03:52 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

well for me, i'm more attracted to younger guys >_< i think it's because they're more fun to hang out with and more flirty
but then it all comes down to the guy himself...the qualities and all of that...but i guess girls will want a responsible sooner or later...
i guess it's what kind of a relationship you're looking for. are you just dating of the heck of it? or do you want a serious relationship? then it all comes down to weighing the qualities ahaha

QUOTE(MinJi13 @ Sep 14 2007, 04:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

in a relationship you need to trust each other right? =) and communication
if you feel guilty, ask him how he felt about it and just clear it up, then this whole situation will be off your back =D

#1069 MinJi13

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Posted 14 September 2007 - 03:53 PM

QUOTE(absolutelyboredx @ Sep 14 2007, 11:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

QUOTE(speak without my voice @ Sep 15 2007, 12:28 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Hopefully your boyfriend understands you're not cheating.

QUOTE(ticatee @ Sep 15 2007, 02:01 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

in a relationship you need to trust each other right? =) and communication
if you feel guilty, ask him how he felt about it and just clear it up, then this whole situation will be off your back =D

Thank you for your advice

He just seemed pretty quiet afterwards.. but i'll talk to him if he continues to be quiet.
Once again thank you! =]

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Posted 15 September 2007 - 04:29 PM

QUOTE(MinJi13 @ Sep 14 2007, 04:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

"When he apologises, he usually gives then a hug, so he hugged me, but he left one arm around me. "

aww, now if that was your bf that wudnt be so much of a problem.. (still, its not that serious..)
the dudes your friend.
your bf is behind yu.
that dude.+yur bf=friends

mmm guys can get jealous easy... and that dude knows that wen..:"said he must've been cut when I did that", aish.. he knew about your bfs feelings.. alittle backstabbing much.

welps for now dw about it too much. . acttually do worry a bit. your bf is prolly cut inside.

im sure ppl will forget it as time pass. ^^v.

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