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Posted 02 October 2007 - 05:03 PM

QUOTE(Deafz @ Oct 2 2007, 03:33 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
There's this guy who has a friend, she's female. They've known each other for years. They haven't seen each other for about a year and a half. One day, she decides to visit him at school. She comes into his class room. They catch up. Then, the teacher asks the student who the person is. Would replying an old friend be a good reply? Is saying a friend better? Does it matter?

The other day, I met this girl. She was with her friend, with is my friend to. So, we all got to talking. The girl who is friends with both of us and I kept talking. The girl I just met was silence for a long time. I kept looking at her so she would not feel left out. Is that a good move? If the same situation happened to you, what would you think? Would you think that the dude likes you or something?

Some guy is hanging with these two girls. Suddenly, he had to leave. He gives one girl a hug. Somehow, it become a group hug. Is that a mistake? Should the dude have given each girl a separate hug instead?


1. i think it does matter. it seems like when you say "good old friend" it has much more meaning and memories to that title instead of "friend" if you know what i am talking about. it's like that person have a special place in your heart, you guys have neutral feelings or perhaps something that faded but it was good memories. a friend is just a friend. ahahahhaha.

2. i think it is a good move, at least you include her into the convo. by eye contact. i always get annoy when i compeletly get left out. but eye contact is a very good thing, even she is not talking and you're making eye contact with her it makes her feel more involved and included, you know. maybe it's just me.

3. no, i don't think it's a mistake. i don't know. but did the other girl came forward and join in or the guy got the other girl to join? i think the dude if he likes her. he should have given her a separate hug, because it's telling the girl he's not 'interested' in other girls but her. you know, something like that. =]


QUOTE(ShinAoshi @ Oct 2 2007, 05:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lol I've always wondered this.

Ages ago when I was on the train, before my station I got up and waited at the front door, standing on the right side. Anyways, a girl walks up to the left side. So I decided to look who the girl was lols. So to my surprise she is leaning with her back and looking at me. First thing I notice was she was gorgeous. Anyways I said to myself alright, I'm not gonna get intimidated by a girls looks. So I lean my back to the right side and notice she is still looking at me. So then I decide to stare her into the eyes LOL lock eyes with her. We're both looking at each other in the eye. This goes on for about 1 minute or more 0_0 . Eventually she looks away.

Now my question is, do girls normally do these kind of stuff if they are confident? I just find it really weird lol


lol us girls.
there are so many different types of us.
for me, i don't randomly look at guy unless one of the following:

-he's being very loud.
-he is wearing something weird
-got something on his face.
-i think he's weird.

if i see an attractive guy, i'll be too shy to look at me.
but that's just me. it all depends on the girl in this case.

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Posted 02 October 2007 - 05:56 PM

QUOTE(ShinAoshi @ Oct 2 2007, 07:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lol I've always wondered this.

Ages ago when I was on the train, before my station I got up and waited at the front door, standing on the right side. Anyways, a girl walks up to the left side. So I decided to look who the girl was lols. So to my surprise she is leaning with her back and looking at me. First thing I notice was she was gorgeous. Anyways I said to myself alright, I'm not gonna get intimidated by a girls looks. So I lean my back to the right side and notice she is still looking at me. So then I decide to stare her into the eyes LOL lock eyes with her. We're both looking at each other in the eye. This goes on for about 1 minute or more 0_0 . Eventually she looks away.

Now my question is, do girls normally do these kind of stuff if they are confident? I just find it really weird lol


It depends on the girl. If she wasn't spacing out and if she wasnt staring because she thought YOU were staring at HER, then yes, i think there is some element of confidence.
but, she could be thinking...
-hmm, i know him from somewhere..
-oh wow he's reaallly good looking/cute/looks like that actor i love
-wtf, whys he staring at me?!
-(just spaced out)




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Posted 03 October 2007 - 05:59 AM

Let's say you girls are in in a relationship right now, and have been dating for around 1-2 weeks already.

How often would you want to see your significant other? Daily? Once every 2 days? Would you get bored of the guy fast if it's everyday?


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Posted 03 October 2007 - 06:12 AM

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Let's say you girls are in in a relationship right now, and have been dating for around 1-2 weeks already.

How often would you want to see your significant other? Daily? Once every 2 days? Would you get bored of the guy fast if it's everyday?


it depends because since the relationship has just started.. it wouldnt matter as much
but i think later on i would start to get bored if i see the guy everyday.
maybe around a couple of times a week?
but yeah it all depends on the girl smile.gif
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Posted 03 October 2007 - 10:11 AM

QUOTE(DarkWaltz @ Oct 3 2007, 06:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Let's say you girls are in in a relationship right now, and have been dating for around 1-2 weeks already.

How often would you want to see your significant other? Daily? Once every 2 days? Would you get bored of the guy fast if it's everyday?


2 days is good for me

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Posted 03 October 2007 - 05:32 PM

QUOTE(DarkWaltz @ Oct 3 2007, 09:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Let's say you girls are in in a relationship right now, and have been dating for around 1-2 weeks already.

How often would you want to see your significant other? Daily? Once every 2 days? Would you get bored of the guy fast if it's everyday?


Mmmmmm maybe once every 2 days, or 3 days, depending on how you defiine week. 5 days? 7 days? smile.gif
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Posted 03 October 2007 - 06:34 PM

QUOTE(ShinAoshi @ Oct 2 2007, 05:39 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Lol I've always wondered this.

Ages ago when I was on the train, before my station I got up and waited at the front door, standing on the right side. Anyways, a girl walks up to the left side. So I decided to look who the girl was lols. So to my surprise she is leaning with her back and looking at me. First thing I notice was she was gorgeous. Anyways I said to myself alright, I'm not gonna get intimidated by a girls looks. So I lean my back to the right side and notice she is still looking at me. So then I decide to stare her into the eyes LOL lock eyes with her. We're both looking at each other in the eye. This goes on for about 1 minute or more 0_0 . Eventually she looks away.

Now my question is, do girls normally do these kind of stuff if they are confident? I just find it really weird lol

for me personally i like staring at guys. i like to look at the the potential he has, that's why i stare. lol.
i find it more of a game... you stare at the guy and wait till he looks at you. and when he does and lock eyes with you.. you wonder who will look away first.
entertaining to me to do that to a guy that i think is cute, hot, or just ok-looking. smile.gif
it's a form of teasing and playing around.



QUOTE(DarkWaltz @ Oct 3 2007, 07:59 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
Let's say you girls are in in a relationship right now, and have been dating for around 1-2 weeks already.

How often would you want to see your significant other? Daily? Once every 2 days? Would you get bored of the guy fast if it's everyday?

whenever i want to see him? lol. sometimes you don't want to see your s/o a lot cuz your not sure about where your relationship stands yet. i wouldn't want to bother my bf if he was talking to his friends and just barge in there.

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Posted 03 October 2007 - 07:35 PM

i cant think of anything to say to her or to continue a conversation, whether online or in real life. i want to try and continue the conversation, but no topic comes into my head. i dont know if i should stop there or just try anyhow to make her talk about herself.
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Posted 04 October 2007 - 11:41 AM

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i cant think of anything to say to her or to continue a conversation, whether online or in real life. i want to try and continue the conversation, but no topic comes into my head. i dont know if i should stop there or just try anyhow to make her talk about herself.

so she's not making any effort to keep the convo going? Either she's shy or she's not interested in you. But she probably feels the same and she wonders what she could say and nothing comes into her head.

Basic stuff: music,school, movies, family.

But if you want her to open up more, open up first, so she could get comfortable. Share some high school/childhood memories with her and if she's not responding, well go back with some random stuff. wink.gif
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Posted 04 October 2007 - 04:48 PM

I think this would work for both genders:

Is it better to save those "I love you's" for special occasions, or is it better to say to everytime you see/talk to him/her?

I know it depends on the person, but I'm askin you guys.

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Posted 04 October 2007 - 06:19 PM

^ Personally, I prefer it for special occasions only.. coz if he says that to me everytime we see or at the end of a phone call, it gets a bit too much.

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Posted 04 October 2007 - 07:08 PM

Saying "I love you" too often makes it tidous and takes the meaning behind it. Actions were always better than words anyways.
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Posted 04 October 2007 - 07:17 PM

QUOTE(Patra86 @ Oct 4 2007, 01:41 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
so she's not making any effort to keep the convo going? Either she's shy or she's not interested in you. But she probably feels the same and she wonders what she could say and nothing comes into her head.


how shy can she be when i try to talk to her everytime in class (class is only once per week though)??? its not as though we've just met. almost 3 months have passed. i guess she's just not interested since she nv asks me about myself.........
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Posted 04 October 2007 - 09:57 PM

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how shy can she be when i try to talk to her everytime in class (class is only once per week though)??? its not as though we've just met. almost 3 months have passed. i guess she's just not interested since she nv asks me about myself.........


Yep, if it's been that long and she hasn't warmed up to you yet, she's most likely not interested in you.
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Posted 04 October 2007 - 10:16 PM

i personally don't think it should be only for special occasions.
and maybe not everyday either.. i like them random. or wen you share a moment that's just right.

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Posted 04 October 2007 - 11:29 PM

QUOTE(megaSTEPxo @ Oct 4 2007, 07:19 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
^ Personally, I prefer it for special occasions only.. coz if he says that to me everytime we see or at the end of a phone call, it gets a bit too much.


Yea, although I do love her, it's become more of a chore. Got any suggestions, maybe..."I'll miss you!" or something?

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Posted 05 October 2007 - 07:07 AM

QUOTE(Kiribati @ Oct 4 2007, 08:48 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I think this would work for both genders:

Is it better to save those "I love you's" for special occasions, or is it better to say to everytime you see/talk to him/her?

I know it depends on the person, but I'm askin you guys.


Special occasions. biggrin.gif

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Posted 05 October 2007 - 07:57 AM

I have a question . Is it okay for me to still be hanging out with a girl ( I like her and stuff but) who has boyfriend? She's having problems with him and she tells me things are falling apart . The way she talks about him too makes him seem like a complete ***hole . He lives a single persons life and has a girlfriend . Stuff like clubbing and partying with out her because she's younger than him so she can't go . Like he doesn't bother to call her anymore or come to see her and when she wants to come to visit him he tells her not to . Doesn't ever say he loves her , etc. Stuff like that.

I feel like were getting closer , well we are but is this right? Is it too much to say that maybe I'm uh, rescuing her?
I'm not worried that much about the boyfriend because honestly it doesn't seem like he even cares .
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Posted 05 October 2007 - 08:30 AM

QUOTE(ccw @ Oct 5 2007, 11:57 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>
I have a question . Is it okay for me to still be hanging out with a girl ( I like her and stuff but) who has boyfriend? She's having problems with him and she tells me things are falling apart . The way she talks about him too makes him seem like a complete ***hole . He lives a single persons life and has a girlfriend . Stuff like clubbing and partying with out her because she's younger than him so she can't go . Like he doesn't bother to call her anymore or come to see her and when she wants to come to visit him he tells her not to . Doesn't ever say he loves her , etc. Stuff like that.

I feel like were getting closer , well we are but is this right? Is it too much to say that maybe I'm uh, rescuing her?
I'm not worried that much about the boyfriend because honestly it doesn't seem like he even cares .

It's okay as long as you don't get too involved/fall for her. It's okay to be a girl's support system, but it's not okay if you fall for her even though she's still in love with her bf. What could be worse is that you fall for her, she falls for you, but she still doesn't want to leave her bf because a.) she loves him more or b.) she's afraid of hurting his feelings if she breaks up with him. :T

How old is this girl? o_O

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Posted 05 October 2007 - 04:58 PM

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It's okay as long as you don't get too involved/fall for her. It's okay to be a girl's support system, but it's not okay if you fall for her even though she's still in love with her bf. What could be worse is that you fall for her, she falls for you, but she still doesn't want to leave her bf because a.) she loves him more or b.) she's afraid of hurting his feelings if she breaks up with him. :T

How old is this girl? o_O

She's 20 he's 26 .
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