[joongielove]

Okayy..
There's a girl i liked, first she said she has feelings for me too but then few months later we got into this huge argument which led to our..err.. break up? i dont know whether it is consider a break up or not since we never really got together but oh well. I ignored her after that because it's awkward but i regretted it so I started talking to her again. It turns out that she's avoiding me too, feeling awkward when I'm around and it's just so hard since we're both doing the same thing =.= (i cant help it though, sry) few months has passed, things still remained the same though but of course i got rid of my stupid actions and try my best to get her back again, but then she has a boyfriend already I still havent given up on her yet, but it's not like I'm doing anything to break them up. No, I respect her relationship with her boyfriend. So the thing is, I tried talking to her and she's like giving me short replies (well actually even when Im with her, there's nothing much to talk about anyway unless when we're text msging each other) so since she's giving me short replies, i get the hint that she doesnt really wana talk to me, but when i say i dont wana disturb her and leave, she got kinda annoyed/angry? like she doesnt really want me to leave that fast. Then, i caught her staring at me for quite a few times. She's been doing this ever since we stopped talking to each other (and of course i do stare at her too, i just cant get my eyes off her) but i dont understand. what she really wants from me? i know what i did wrong, and im trying to change (i need time) but now i just dont know what she wants. It's like she's having a hard time choosing between me and her bf and i dont want that.

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anyways mind my grammar, and one more thing. I stopped bothering her because i dont wana be a burden to her relationship but ughh..

>_______< Wow. Uhm, okay. This girl got problemss. Since you guys both liked each other, and were never officially together, she might still have feelings for you. But I agree with Wasabi29 Most likely she's trying to decide between you and her boyfriend, but if that's the case, I'd give her a little more time. Because if she can ditch her bf like that, then in the future she can ditch you like that too. Weigh your options.

[HKS457]

situation:

1) met a girl at club, turned out to be a friend's friend.
2) went out to eat with her 2 days after
3) asked her on mon/tues if she wanted to hang out again this weekend, like food + movie or something

now: she havnt gotten back to me since, altho she said she promised me that she'll get back to me

i havnt talked to her since wednesday n today is saturday night already... do you think shes not interested at all, shes playing a game waiting for my call or shes just being shy? cuz if this is her way of rejecting me nicely i rather not push it anymore.

forgive me if it sounds dumb, i never had a situation like before since i had a gf for 4 + long yrs, i m just used to straightforward actions and not signals and signs =[

[megaSTEPxo]

situation:

1) met a girl at club, turned out to be a friend's friend.
2) went out to eat with her 2 days after
3) asked her on mon/tues if she wanted to hang out again this weekend, like food + movie or something

now: she havnt gotten back to me since, altho she said she promised me that she'll get back to me

i havnt talked to her since wednesday n today is saturday night already... do you think shes not interested at all, shes playing a game waiting for my call or shes just being shy? cuz if this is her way of rejecting me nicely i rather not push it anymore.

forgive me if it sounds dumb, i never had a situation like before since i had a gf for 4 + long yrs, i m just used to straightforward actions and not signals and signs =[

hmm this is hard to say since we don't know if she's shy.. coz some girls may come off as friendly and talkative but when it comes to calling guys, she may be a bit shy. Some girls might not want to seem desperate or is uncertain of how serious the guy is. But if I promised someone I'll get back to them, I would definitely do so. Even if I had a change of mind, then I would probably make up some excuse.. rather than rejecting like that.

But overall, I think it really depends on the girl. When you guys went out to eat, did she seem interested in you?? .. or maybe just send her a text asking her again.. if she ignores you, then she's probably not interested?

[cerealmoo]

I was JUST about to ask if there was a girl version in the guy thread. I'll ask a really vague question that really depends on the person, Ladies, what personality traits do you look for in a guy?

someone who helps u make decisions. eg.
Guy - what movie do u want to watch?
Girl - i dont know
Guy - okay how about this one? (don't take too long to decide, or say i don't know)

a guy who takes ure hand and takes u across the road, some guys just follow the girl.

someone who compliments, but don't be too fake seriously!

[angelxglo]

situation:

1) met a girl at club, turned out to be a friend's friend.
2) went out to eat with her 2 days after
3) asked her on mon/tues if she wanted to hang out again this weekend, like food + movie or something

now: she havnt gotten back to me since, altho she said she promised me that she'll get back to me

i havnt talked to her since wednesday n today is saturday night already... do you think shes not interested at all, shes playing a game waiting for my call or shes just being shy? cuz if this is her way of rejecting me nicely i rather not push it anymore.

forgive me if it sounds dumb, i never had a situation like before since i had a gf for 4 + long yrs, i m just used to straightforward actions and not signals and signs =[

i think its a no.... i know because i do it a lot
it might sound messed up... but there are reasons!
1) they might be persistant so its hard to shake them off
2) we dunt want to seem like a complete biach for turning the guy down before we even give them a chance
3) dunno how to say no. if yu do say no, 80% of the time the guys dunt even wanna be friend yu no more
4) maybe she's busy???

[HKS457]

hmm this is hard to say since we don't know if she's shy.. coz some girls may come off as friendly and talkative but when it comes to calling guys, she may be a bit shy. Some girls might not want to seem desperate or is uncertain of how serious the guy is. But if I promised someone I'll get back to them, I would definitely do so. Even if I had a change of mind, then I would probably make up some excuse.. rather than rejecting like that.

But overall, I think it really depends on the girl. When you guys went out to eat, did she seem interested in you?? .. or maybe just send her a text asking her again.. if she ignores you, then she's probably not interested?

i think its a no.... i know because i do it a lot
it might sound messed up... but there are reasons!
1) they might be persistant so its hard to shake them off
2) we dunt want to seem like a complete biach for turning the guy down before we even give them a chance
3) dunno how to say no. if yu do say no, 80% of the time the guys dunt even wanna be friend yu no more
4) maybe she's busy???

turned out she got sick yesterday =.= so if she doesnt want to ask me back out then i m just going to forget about it.

thanks for the advice tho.

[Deafz]

I have two questions.

1. Some of you ladies complain that (some) guys are to shy to express their feelings. Yet, you girls get your friends to send messages to the guy you like. Why is that? Are you shy to? Do you think it is the best course of action? Does it happen that you friend blurts it out before you get a chance to say anything?

2. Some guy really likes me, I guess. Her friend come up to me and told me that her friend really likes me. I told her friend that "I didn't care unless she told me herself in person". It's been a little while now. She hasn't talked to me. She seems like she is avoiding me. I think she is nervous and shy. So, is what I said too harsh? I was just trying to get her confidence up and personally I think getting your friends to tell some guy stuff is so 'blah", for a lack of a better word. Should I go to talk her? Or should I stand by my words? I don't want to hurt her feelings nor do I want to be a hypocrite. This is so confusing. Help!~

[megaSTEPxo]

2. Some guy really likes me, I guess. Her friend come up to me and told me that her friend really likes me. I told her friend that "I didn't care unless she told me herself in person". It's been a little while now. She hasn't talked to me. She seems like she is avoiding me. I think she is nervous and shy. So, is what I said too harsh? I was just trying to get her confidence up and personally I think getting your friends to tell some guy stuff is so 'blah", for a lack of a better word. Should I go to talk her? Or should I stand by my words? I don't want to hurt her feelings nor do I want to be a hypocrite. This is so confusing. Help!~

Yeah I think she's just shy and nervous. Maybe she got her friend to do it just to HINT to you that she likes you too... so YOU can approach her. Perhaps, the way you said it made it sound like you didn't like her and that you took it as a joke... so.. maybe that's how she took it?

Yeah, I think you should talk to her. I think it's good for a guy to stand by your words but in this case, be a gentleman .. and just casually talk to her first before asking straight out, "Do you like me?"

[predator]

What would you do if more than one person had feelings for you?

[blatant]

What would you do if more than one person had feelings for you?

depends. but i can bet that most girls will just date the one THEY like. IF she even likes any of them.

[xx_princess]

I have two questions.

1. Some of you ladies complain that (some) guys are to shy to express their feelings. Yet, you girls get your friends to send messages to the guy you like. Why is that? Are you shy to? Do you think it is the best course of action? Does it happen that you friend blurts it out before you get a chance to say anything?

2. Some guy really likes me, I guess. Her friend come up to me and told me that her friend really likes me. I told her friend that "I didn't care unless she told me herself in person". It's been a little while now. She hasn't talked to me. She seems like she is avoiding me. I think she is nervous and shy. So, is what I said too harsh? I was just trying to get her confidence up and personally I think getting your friends to tell some guy stuff is so 'blah", for a lack of a better word. Should I go to talk her? Or should I stand by my words? I don't want to hurt her feelings nor do I want to be a hypocrite. This is so confusing. Help!~

1. Well all girls are different, but I guess girls only think about what guys do, but not what they do to guys. Like they dont realize what they're doing.

2. She's just shy and nervous. Maybe she thought you'll laugh at her or something is she told you face to face. I think you should talk to her. Like just talk casual like "how's the weather today?" or something before you ask her "do you like me?"

[ms. rachellica]

What would you do if more than one person had feelings for you?

it depends. if i like one or the other or both or neither. if i like one, then i'd obviously choose that one

[stonerboi27]

theres a timing for evrything right? as in once you miss it you basically miss the opportunity. well theres this girl i met my first year in college, and i know for a fact that she liked me then. but at the moment, i wasnt too into her, so i ignored all hints and such. we became good friends throughout our first year, and now(sophomore year) im actually really into her. thing is that she seems to have lost interest in me, and i honestly dont know how to approach her about this at this point. uggh i know its been awhile and there are always plenty of other girls around, but im still into her..

[megaSTEPxo]

theres a timing for evrything right? as in once you miss it you basically miss the opportunity. well theres this girl i met my first year in college, and i know for a fact that she liked me then. but at the moment, i wasnt too into her, so i ignored all hints and such. we became good friends throughout our first year, and now(sophomore year) im actually really into her. thing is that she seems to have lost interest in me, and i honestly dont know how to approach her about this at this point. uggh i know its been awhile and there are always plenty of other girls around, but im still into her..

Are you still good friends with her?

If yes.. then maybe ask her out to the movies or something first to see if she's still interested? If she says yes, then maybe you still have a chance.

If you aren't friends with her, maybe just try start talking to her again.

It's a tricky situation because whether she's interested in you again depends on how much she liked you before and how you 'rejected' her that made her lose interest.

[ms. rachellica]

theres a timing for evrything right? as in once you miss it you basically miss the opportunity. well theres this girl i met my first year in college, and i know for a fact that she liked me then. but at the moment, i wasnt too into her, so i ignored all hints and such. we became good friends throughout our first year, and now(sophomore year) im actually really into her. thing is that she seems to have lost interest in me, and i honestly dont know how to approach her about this at this point. uggh i know its been awhile and there are always plenty of other girls around, but im still into her..

maybe u shud confront her and ask her where she believes u guys are relationship wise. it's the only way to get a straightout answer

[Pur3Lif3]

Quick question, i feel like a dork, but its too embaressing to ask a friend =].

Soo...sometimes if im flirting, ill ask a girl if she has a boyfriend.
The usual response i get is something like "You're not supposed to ask me that"
just wondering, how come? im curious as to why i shouldn't be asking o.o.

8), yeah, im a dork.

[VindictusDame]

Quick question, i feel like a dork, but its too embaressing to ask a friend =].

Soo...sometimes if im flirting, ill ask a girl if she has a boyfriend.
The usual response i get is something like "You're not supposed to ask me that"
just wondering, how come? im curious as to why i shouldn't be asking o.o.

8), yeah, im a dork.

maybe when u ask that, the girl thinks you're up to something... and u won't leave a good impression on her. especially if u two just met. 'cause that's a personal question.

[lovinrainydays]

Quick question, i feel like a dork, but its too embaressing to ask a friend =].

Soo...sometimes if im flirting, ill ask a girl if she has a boyfriend.
The usual response i get is something like "You're not supposed to ask me that"
just wondering, how come? im curious as to why i shouldn't be asking o.o.

8), yeah, im a dork.

well, it depends on how close you are with the girl, if your asking a stranger, ofcourse she will be like thats none of your business. cuz your getting too private and close than you suppose to be. but for me, personally i wont reply like that thou.

so if your flirting with some random girl then dun ask that, ask sth common instead like what school you go to, what do you like to do etc....

[Twiggy]

Coming from a fellow female, but in the following situation what would you do:

Your boyfriend is telling you that you guys should see other people and he says that he's already seeing someone or you know that he is going to start dating another person soon. Would you?

a) *sigh* and tell him that you are relieved because your seeing someone else ( a lie, cf course)
b ) shrug it off and tell him ok
c) Cry and beg for him to stay ( I really hope no one does this, applies to both boys and girls)
d) Another lie just to let him know you have other people who are interested in you, eg you were thinking about dating this other guy
e)Other option (explain)

My friend used option a, because her bf said he was going to start seeing this girl in his class and she said that she understood his need and told him she was going on a date on Saturday. The jerk called her the next day and asked to go out on Saturday, and she rejected him. *evil chuckle* Honestly I would use A just to hurt his pride a little, even though it's kinda mean but then again he would start it, wouldn't he? But I'd like to know what every else would do.

[mrunwanted]

theres this girl i like. so far i'm the one initiating a conversation almost everytime we're online on MSN. the only time when she msgs me is when she wants to confirm some stuff in class. she's the only one i keep talking to in class (purposely). she doesnt seem to be irritated by me trying to talk to her everytime i see her online, but since she never initiates a conversation with me i guess she isnt interested either. or is it my fault for not being obvious enough?