Ask The Ladies - Read First Post discuss about behaviors and relationships from female P.O.V.
#1301
Posted 15 December 2007 - 11:54 AM
what do you think about meeting/dating internet guys i.e. talking to them online then meeting in person? like what if one was genuinely interested in being friends with one another and nothing more?
how would one do so without creeping out/scare the other person and not seem perverted?
i'm not sure if i would do that, but maybe ask her to bring some of her friends and you'll bring some of yours. it would definetly make the atmosphere less tense. also suggest a really busy place like a mall first, and then the next time (if she wants to meet up with you again) try somewhere less crowded.
well, i definetly wouldnt now, but maybe when im older. if other people i know know him (like, someone i talk to knows him in person,) then maybe i would meet them. but it just depends on how you perceive them.
why do girls like to pick on guys? D: its just so mean
they use the every little tactic against you, everything you say against you too.
i'm not sure why i do, but then you can laugh and apologize after. it gives you something to say at least. it depends how. if they seem really serious about it, maybe theyre having a bad day or they dont like you. but if they laugh, and its a genuine laugh, i wouldnt worry.
do you think its okay if your bf called another girl sexy? like, the girls one of his close friends
i just happened to see the comment on her myspace
she had said, im having a pimple break out
and he's like, i cant imagine you with pimples on your sexy face D:
well if you're pmsing, you wouldnt want to talk to him about it yet. but it shouldnt mean much. if he talks about her all the time, and hangs out with her a lot, then maybe.
but my ex-bf thought angelina jolie was really hot, and theres nothing i could do about that, right? lol.
#1302
Posted 15 December 2007 - 12:25 PM
it can be all of that.. except for 'hating'
she sounds like she is enegetic .. i dont think its 'hating' .. she did add hehehe.. suggesting.. its a joke!
if she types like this to all her friends.. then the relationship is 'just friends' ..
but anyways, she sounds really comfatble talking to U.. shes being herself around u.. shows she is prob intersted in u
#1303
Posted 15 December 2007 - 12:31 PM
I don't want to feel like I'm annoying my friend. Like I'd give her a text once-twice a day and maybe a call if she doesn't reply or go on MSN. I don't want to feel like I'm annoying her because she doesn't do the same to me either.
Well if you call them everyday, it'll start to get annoying.
Well like she might have a reason she's not on msn or text because she's busy or thinks, " Nah I'll do it later."
Maybe text her once or twice a week and call her on the phone once or twice every 3 weeks lol.
Everyday is a bit too much imo. But if a girl likes the attention, maybe it can be a diff. story.
I call my best friend once a month to see how she's doing.
#1304
Posted 15 December 2007 - 12:37 PM
Well like she might have a reason she's not on msn or text because she's busy or thinks, " Nah I'll do it later."
Maybe text her once or twice a week and call her on the phone once or twice every 3 weeks lol.
Everyday is a bit too much imo. But if a girl likes the attention, maybe it can be a diff. story.
I call my best friend once a month to see how she's doing.
oh okay It makes sense. Thanks.
#1305
Posted 15 December 2007 - 06:06 PM
they use the every little tactic against you, everythign yo usay against you too
and how does the menstrual cycle thing work?
hehe i always do that. :x but guys do it, too!
the menstrual cycle..... i'm not sure how to sum it up, but, it's just something i can't really explain.
I don't want to feel like I'm annoying my friend. Like I'd give her a text once-twice a day and maybe a call if she doesn't reply or go on MSN. I don't want to feel like I'm annoying her because she doesn't do the same to me either.
If it's 5+ messages, I get annoyed. My boyfriend always does that to me, and my credit wastes SOO much. It's like.... just call me if you want to talk! Gah. D: Hate it when people convo-text me. ugh!
i usually say it because i'm teasing him? i guess. ._."
#1306
Posted 15 December 2007 - 08:47 PM
but this comment was a little while back, not recently. so eh. kinda over it now :D
#1307
Posted 15 December 2007 - 08:48 PM
uhm well i say that to my close guy friends in person and
on msn
It's taken as a joke and im just messing around with them... not that im interested in them
it's not hating since she uses those smilies and laughs at
the end .
does she do it to everyone else? if she doesnt then that means
that she's feels comfortable talking to you
but if she does do it to everyone else than that just
means she sees you as a friend


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#1308
Posted 15 December 2007 - 11:39 PM
I don't want to feel like I'm annoying my friend. Like I'd give her a text once-twice a day and maybe a call if she doesn't reply or go on MSN. I don't want to feel like I'm annoying her because she doesn't do the same to me either.
Once a week or so will do.. everyday is so annoying because i have a guy good friend and we were good friend all the while.. he just confessed to me one day and i rejected him but he still texts and calls me everyday. Really anoying but I didn't wanna say anything to hurt him. i don't know about the girl you texts, if she likes you, then maybe everyday will make her happy.
#1309
Posted 16 December 2007 - 01:20 AM
they use the every little tactic against you, everythign yo usay against you too
and how does the menstrual cycle thing work?
#1310
Posted 16 December 2007 - 01:35 AM
its not fair why cant a girl do that to me? why cant there be some pro ass girl who can show me that i am still very low in teh world.
show me from my own eyes. show my from my own expirence that there is still a world of ppl i still do not understand.
many times i try to force myself to like someone. i try so hard, it gets frustrating. so its not like i am not trying. i am giving my effort as hard as i can. sometimes when friends tell me. hey... dont lie to urself. she isn't the one. u kno it. and i say to them. im gonna try, cuz she likes me to much for me to leave now. im gonna try till i got no more sweat to shed or blood to spill.
many ppl guys and girls often tell me, "man, are u ever goign to get married? cuz i imagine u getting older with a bachler pad with a different girl every night"
and im like wtf that is totaly not the life i want to live. wat waste. w/e ppl say that, i guess they think they are giving a compliment, but i see it as a horrible insult. saying im not the type to raise a kid and take care of a family.
prejudge me to much
oh yea. i dont dispise girls. i like them a lot. i show them a good time and even if its boring i show a smile they say "omg ur smile is so adorable, from first sight i wouldn't have guessed u had a nice happy smile"
but inside im like zzzzz
i am friendly i laugh, but when it comes time to be whooped like a love sick dog. im just like.... uh why should i do that, so i just kinda smile and motion with my head "no" and sometimes its fine for a long time. but in the end i just look at them and say to myself. i want someone else.
its not like im super shallow looking for better and better lookin ggirls. if that was the case i would have stayed with one be4 my last.
the girls who have reps as plyers of able to get teh guys, they usualy feel defeated when they realize i find no interest in them and they loose their confidence and many times end up trying to avoid.
but the other kinds of lady players that are just love attention. they are better, but they end up not feeling defeated, they end up wanting to date, but they are to busy getting attentino from toher dudes and by the time they are really rdy, im already gone and they get sad and i cant hold time still while she is doing her own little busyness.
Maybe it's really you. I think..actually im pretty sure you might have thought that the person with the problem is yourself. i read earlier how you suffered a death of someone you adored. That might have affected, but you gotta know that shes up in heaven hoping that you'd find true love once again.
Also, what are you? 18 19 20? you're still young. You have many years to come and conquer. Why are you tryiing to get a girl so hard? i know and understand taht you want to be with someone that youc an last long enough, but you can't just go looking for them, they simply come to you. You have to be patience with love. I noticed that you have a cross on your back. Do you know how/why we believe in jesus? Because LOVE is real. You gotta just wait and be patience.
Don't EVER. let me REPEAT EVER EVER EVER! force yourself to like someone kus not only are you hurting her, but you're hurting yourself (that is, if you're a geniune person whos considerate of the other's feelings) It's easy to "force" yourself to like someone but it's harder to "get out" I dont know. i think you need some time. chill on other girls. Do you really have to be with "some" girl? i mean, its not hard being single. It's not boring either. Yes, it gets lonely, but you've been lonely for how many years already? several days and months wont hurt.
And every girl is different, there will be girls that are trashy that will make a boy skip a heartbeat. It all depends on WHO it is. yOu just haven't met her yet. Be patience. haha i feel like a lecturer. but i want it to get through you to not fool around with your feelings or the others because in the end, oure gona feel lonlier than you began.
take it slow, youre still young, live your life til the fullest! hoped that helped. hahah
they use the every little tactic against you, everythign yo usay against you too
and how does the menstrual cycle thing work?
I like to pick on guys. I like to pick on girls too. I think i just have a fun humor. ahhaha You know how you'reh ella curious why we pick on you boys.. at the very same time, you guys are hella diggin it. hehe
it's kus we keep you on your toes.
#1311
Posted 16 December 2007 - 09:45 PM
Anyway, I was talking to my best friend of FOUR years on AIM one night:
Me: I went shopping today. I was contemplating whether I should buy your present at [insert store name], but I decided to think it over first before I bought it.
Him: We're exchanging presents this year?
I was incredibly sad, so much that I even cried that night.
Was I wrong to assume that we were giving each other Christmas presents? Do I have a right to be mad at him?
#1312
Posted 16 December 2007 - 10:13 PM
#1313
Posted 17 December 2007 - 12:12 AM
Well... I usually say something random, haha. We just act crazy, really. :/
Depends which friends I'm with, though.
#1314
Posted 18 December 2007 - 06:23 AM
Anyway, I was talking to my best friend of FOUR years on AIM one night:
Me: I went shopping today. I was contemplating whether I should buy your present at [insert store name], but I decided to think it over first before I bought it.
Him: We're exchanging presents this year?
I was incredibly sad, so much that I even cried that night.
Was I wrong to assume that we were giving each other Christmas presents? Do I have a right to be mad at him?
well i guess it depends on whether you exchanged presents last year...
i suppose if he knew that you got him one and he didnt get you anything then you could be mad at him
otherwise hes well...a guy...and from my experience most guys really dont care about that
#1315
Posted 18 December 2007 - 02:32 PM
i just talk about something random .. and then extend it..
topics like wots my family doing .. and then wot they buying.. and then talk about food all of a sudden..
#1316
Posted 18 December 2007 - 03:01 PM
should guys be doing the talking or the girls?
how would you piss us off? in what ways? why?
are girls forgetful? it seems to be that they are.
how come girls hold hands with other girls and not guys with guys and why do we see it fine if they do but not if guys hold hands?
how come girls are so picky?
why do girls put on makeup is it to attract people or to make them feel good?
why does someone try to be innocent still when they know they are losing it. lol. i dont get it geez...
why do guys have to pay for stuff and girls expect them to pay? seriously if girls want to be treated equally why do they expect us to pay T_T?
why do girls tell their friends things that would embarrass us guys, -.-''? like how we wrote a lame corny letter or w/e..
how do you know if a girl is getting bored with you?
how do you know if a girl has taken a shower that day or not?
how do you know if a girl is a virgin?
how do you if a girl is not a Bia?
ahh bell rang im at school! ill ask more questions later.
#1317
Posted 18 December 2007 - 03:11 PM
should guys be doing the talking or the girls? Both, depending on the personality.
There is no "should" in conversation.
how would you piss us off? in what ways? why?
To make you jealous by going with another guy, ignore you, or just plain dump you.
are girls forgetful? it seems to be that they are.
Nope. We pretend to be. It's cool. Try it.
how come girls hold hands with other girls and not guys with guys and why do we see it fine if they do but not if guys hold hands?
Try ask the guys. I think it's more of a manly side. You are guy right? You should know.
how come girls are so picky?
In what? Guys? If so aren't guys always nagging about fatness, hotness, and such? It's both ways fella.
why do girls put on makeup is it to attract people or to make them feel good?
Do you not like make up on girls? The majority looks better. If not then you can tell your gf to not put on make up. She will slap you, probably.
why does someone try to be innocent still when they know they are losing it. lol. i dont get it geez...
Naturally, we are in denial. Well, some are really innocent like the just about to grow up type. Yet I highly doubt anyone is really innocent these days [ talking about teens wise now...]
why do guys have to pay for stuff and girls expect them to pay? seriously if girls want to be treated equally why do they expect us to pay T_T?
Traditionally for me guys always pay. I don't care though. If guys can lose their pride and let me pay my own meal, sure why not. I don't lack a few dollars.
why do girls tell their friends things that would embarrass us guys, -.-''? like how we wrote a lame corny letter or w/e..
Didn't guys always say girls are gossipy? Guys talk perverted stuff with each other, same way with girls.
how do you know if a girl is getting bored with you?
When she is getting bored with you. Dude, you will know if a girl loses interest in you: she literally dumps you. If not, she is probably using you. *shrug*
how do you know if a girl has taken a shower that day or not?
Smell her. Smell like soap or perfume? A blend sometimes...
how do you know if a girl is a virgin?
You can never know unless you have sex with her. Sometimes you can't even know that either. If you care so much about virgin, go hump a wall.
how do you if a girl is not a Bia?
Bia? What does that mean? You mean Bi? I don't know, she swim for both ways? *shrug*
ahh bell rang im at school! ill ask more questions later.
hope this help ^^
#1318
Posted 18 December 2007 - 03:37 PM
I'm answering these for you cause I'm also bored.
Not all this applies to all girls though ^^
should guys be doing the talking or the girls?
It depends on both of course. Girls don't really mind if guys do all the talking sometimes.
how would you piss us off? in what ways? why?
Ignore your calls, give you the silent treatment, etc.
and you might as well know why at least.
are girls forgetful? it seems to be that they are.
Again, this depends. Some are and some not.
how come girls hold hands with other girls and not guys with guys and why do we see it fine if they do but not if guys hold hands?
Do you feel comfortable or want to holding a guys hand? -__-
how come girls are so picky?
Because we need a man who can give us what we want/need.
why do girls put on makeup is it to attract people or to make them feel good?
It's a daily routine or either it's just another way to make them look better for themselves.
why does someone try to be innocent still when they know they are losing it. lol. i dont get it geez...
Because they are desperate and really want something or..cause it's for fun.
why do guys have to pay for stuff and girls expect them to pay? seriously if girls want to be treated equally why do they expect us to pay T_T?
First off, guys offer to pay most of the time.
Girls don't always make guys pay and they may feel guilty about it too.
why do girls tell their friends things that would embarrass us guys, -.-''? like how we wrote a lame corny letter or w/e..
Because they want their gf's to know how uncool or you could say "cute" their bf is ^^
how do you know if a girl is getting bored with you?
uncomfortableness, little conversation, sometimes busy schedules [excuses], tone of voice [blah/monotone], etc.
how do you know if a girl has taken a shower that day or not?
Geebus, just sniff the hair and then confirm if it's clean D:
how do you know if a girl is a virgin?
She's uncomfortable when you go at a faster pace like kissing, sexual stuff, etc.
Sometimes, you just won't be able to tell unless they tell you.
how do you if a girl is not a Bia?
Hard to figure out.
Ask them face to face and then get lost.
~Nuey
Member of Soompi Private Investigating Team. Notorious S.P.I.T.
#1319
Posted 18 December 2007 - 03:47 PM
should guys be doing the talking or the girls?
both.. it takes two to tango..
are girls forgetful? it seems to be that they are.
yeah .. its normal to b forgetful.. i have to revise for my exam u see..
how come girls hold hands with other girls and not guys with guys and why do we see it fine if they do but not if guys hold hands?
errm.. if a guy hold a guy hand.. they look gay.. if a girl hold a guy hand they look like a couple, unless hes a dongseng..
how come girls are so picky?
that depends on personality.. picky girls are probably perfectionst? .. or they just like the best..
why do girls put on makeup is it to attract people or to make them feel good?
both.. girls feel good looking good because people will look at them and find them attractive..
girls wouldnt put make up when they at home.. so u get my point..
why does someone try to be innocent still when they know they are losing it. lol. i dont get it geez...
coz they want to look cute.. but i get wot u mean..
why do guys have to pay for stuff and girls expect them to pay? seriously if girls want to be treated equally why do they expect us to pay T_T?
coz we want a guy who can look after us.. protect us! b a gentlemen!
why do girls tell their friends things that would embarrass us guys, -.-''? like how we wrote a lame corny letter or w/e..
because its sweet.. and girls like to gossip! ..
how do you know if a girl is getting bored with you?
when they yawn.. or look at the time.. ask the time.. short reply's ..
how do you know if a girl has taken a shower that day or not?
if they smell nice..
how do you know if a girl is a virgin?
if they sound innocent.. i think? .. also if they dont like talkin or doing anything that is dirty.. im just guessing here! i dont know..
#1320
Posted 18 December 2007 - 04:51 PM
for me usually, things go good and we have a really deep convo, but then after exchange contacts and stuff (my friends tell me the fact she is willing to give out her contact means something), it tend to become a bit, like they try to avoid even thu im just trying to get to know them a bit better or even make a friend.
its ironic, i mean doesnt all girls like confidence, when it comes to confident in approaching them and stuff, it conveys wrong idea about the guy making him look sleezy.
i asked alot of my chik friends this and it seems like, chiks assume ur player just trying to "pick up". while it totally not the case. i mean is it a big deal for girls to get to know the guy a bit better and become friends.
how would girls liek to get approached anyways, the question is, is there a way to approach a chik, and make it seem like, friendly and casual instead of looking like their getting picked up.




























