[onesh0t]

thanks ladies.

but yeah, i was surprised as heck too when she told me that she told her parents she went out with me. I mean because i didnt arrive till about an hour later and if her parents called before i got there (which luckily they didnt) i wouldnt of known what to do if they asked for her. So after she told me that, i teased her about it by telling her, "that one day you're gonna get me into trouble."

So yeah, i guess i'll keep seeing her and see if anything developes. Thanks again. =D

[nartmeil]

I really need advice. I'm a male and i've never experienced an intimate relationship with a female. I lack social skills.
<--- short background.

Year 1
So I've met this girl in year 1. She really is an attractive girl and naturally had a boyfriend. So i tried to see her as a person I just know (or little sister). During year 1 I enjoyed her company. I think she enjoyed mine too. She is giving me compliments like: you're really smart, you've a really nice nose in front of her friends , etc and teases me. Sometimes I notice her looking at me with calm and dreamy eyes without saying anything, just staring. It happened that more girls tend to do this to me, but some guys tend to do this to me too . So i usually try to ignore it.

Don't do these things to me. You've a boyfriend for crying oud loud. I still ended liking her just before summer holiday....

Year 2
Summer holiday was over. She broke up with her boyfriend and had a new boyfriend. Her best male friend. I didn't had contcact with her during the holiday. Because i'm still socially retarded. I was quite weirded out and maybe a little bit jealous. She and her boyfriend even asked me if i liked a girl. So mean I still liked you.
I realized there was no reason for me to be jealous. I still enjoyed her presence, meaning she's still doing those things she did in year 1 to me =_______=. The only difference is, I know her boyfriend and he is a nice guy (pretty goodlooking too, many girls liked him).
At some time her boyfriend wanted to hook me up with a friend and roommate of hers. She refused the idea to her boyfriend . They thought i didnt hear the conversation, because i pretendend not to hear it. Did I already mentioned i was weird =___=?

I stopped liking her because i started to notice another girl, (another story). Summer holiday started and as usual i lose contact.

Suddenly she called me out of nowhere to invite me to another's guys birthdayparty. She's paying a lots of attention to me. A lot more than usual. She even handed my coat to me while holding intense eyecontact. I was paralyzed. I didn't knew she already broke up with her boyfriend.

Year 3 is now
It feels like many things are changed. I mean the relationships between their circle of friends,including the boyfriend of year 2. I dont know how to act when i'm with her. Sometimes i try to avoid her and at other times i start t crack random jokes to make her laugh. Maybe subconsciously trying to impress her???? I thought I liked another girl .
At one day she was mad at me, or irritated with me. She told me I ignored her on MSN. OW my god. . Now i'm really acting weird when i'm with her.
So i'm planning to become officially a friend to her. You know, while shaking hands saying: from now on we are officially friends. No more confusion and if there is a problem i dont feel restricted to talk about it.
She never labled me as a brother, she even labled her boyfriend of year 2 a brother in front of me.

All i know is that she (cares a little?) for me of has a small soft spot for me. But does this mean she wants more from me? I mean, we aren't even friends?. What do you people think I should do?

Thnx for reading and pretty please dont mind the bad English.

[c i e l`]

^ I don't know what she is thinking...haha but I guess that you're a big brother to her?
Well don't try to avoid her and all...Just be natural around her, well around everyone just be yourself.
Don't try to hide your opinion too much.
Personnally, I think that she cares about you as a friend or even a very close one? (I actually do that to my guys friend a lot)
If you already talked a lot with her, and know a lot of thing about her then she must think about you as a close friend ^^
Don't think to much about it...^^ let it be hehe

Hope I helped you >< even a little

<3

[nartmeil]

^It helps. She never starts talking to me about her personnel problems and matters. Do I Have to ask watsup? I think It can pretty rude and annoying. We've known eachother for 3 years but still know almost nothing about oneanother =____=. Why can't she be more open? I really like giving advice and solving problems. Even though I'm bad at it . Do i have to start talking about my personnel stuff first? I'm really bad at it and I hate it. I'd rather talk about random things.

[manlytoe]

ok. so i'm a girl too, but i can't seem to understand this so you tell me.. lol...
i have these two friends. one called sushi and one called wasabi. and a guy called rice. (i know funnie names eh? i'm hungry right now) anyways... oh and then there's me.

rice is really good looking dresses freakin fobby looks so korean. sushi is average looking people say she looks japanese-ish and chinese-ish. wasabi is average looking as well, but has big eyes.

and i'm so sorry if it's crazy long!

sushi has a class with rice and both begin to kinda look at each other and say hi.
sushi is thinking if she should tell wasabi, her good friend about rice.
but she knows that wasabi is the type that once you mention about a very good looking guy she will get into him and want to see and know him.
so sushi is like since wasabi and i are good friends i should tell her.
so sushi does. wasabi begins stalking rice, but rice doesn't know and sushi begins to notice that wasabi is stalking rice and sushi confronts wasabi. as sushi is confronting wasabi, rice walks by waves hi and smiles at sushi, then wasabi says "i think he likes you sushi" sushi blushes and says "no, we just have a class together" and as rice walks off, wasabi chases after him jokingly and sushi gets all freaked out. sushi gets this feeling that wasabi likes rice, but wishes that it isn't true. oh and the confronting doesn't happen because rice interrupts with his wonderful wave and smile.

yes, sushi is in denial of liking him and wasabi knows it.
wasabi talks about how rice is so good looking and that she wants rice, but rice matches sushi more so sushi should have him, but sushi is unsure of her feelings and she barely knows rice. wasabi talks about rice everyday and yes, sushi is getting jealous. sushi tells me about her feelings and what to do. days later, wasabi tells me about her feelings too. so what should i do? rice knows nothing of this. and rice only knows sushi. what to do?
we know that both like rice. and rice has no clue about this. but seems like rice likes sushi. you can tell he looks at sushi all the time and smiles at her all the time they both see each other. wasabi is always noticing this and whenever rice looks over to sushi, wasabi looks at rice to make him notice her, but he doesn't.

both sushi and wasabi like rice. but wasabi is kinda creepy in that way that she stalks the guys she likes. should i confront wasabi? or should i not get involved? i don't know what to do because both are my friends and if i get involved i'm afraid i could lose both. what do you think of sushi? wasabi? and rice? i need opinions, ideas and brains.. hahah. thanks!

[pencil_geeks*]

if she has labeled you as a brother than your chances of being with her are all gone.


that's weird going out with someone who you think is like family to you..
there's also the fear of losing that person that's why girls preferably don't chose to go out with their "brothers". ruining the friendship and what not.

that's imo.

but, i really don't know what she's thinking. ever tried telling her what you think of her or telling her how you feel?

[c i e l`]

ok. so i'm a girl too, but i can't seem to understand this so you tell me.. lol...
i have these two friends. one called sushi and one called wasabi. and a guy called rice. (i know funnie names eh? i'm hungry right now) anyways... oh and then there's me.

rice is really good looking dresses freakin fobby looks so korean. sushi is average looking people say she looks japanese-ish and chinese-ish. wasabi is average looking as well, but has big eyes.

and i'm so sorry if it's crazy long!

sushi has a class with rice and both begin to kinda look at each other and say hi.
sushi is thinking if she should tell wasabi, her good friend about rice.
but she knows that wasabi is the type that once you mention about a very good looking guy she will get into him and want to see and know him.
so sushi is like since wasabi and i are good friends i should tell her.
so sushi does. wasabi begins stalking rice, but rice doesn't know and sushi begins to notice that wasabi is stalking rice and sushi confronts wasabi. as sushi is confronting wasabi, rice walks by waves hi and smiles at sushi, then wasabi says "i think he likes you sushi" sushi blushes and says "no, we just have a class together" and as rice walks off, wasabi chases after him jokingly and sushi gets all freaked out. sushi gets this feeling that wasabi likes rice, but wishes that it isn't true. oh and the confronting doesn't happen because rice interrupts with his wonderful wave and smile.

yes, sushi is in denial of liking him and wasabi knows it.
wasabi talks about how rice is so good looking and that she wants rice, but rice matches sushi more so sushi should have him, but sushi is unsure of her feelings and she barely knows rice. wasabi talks about rice everyday and yes, sushi is getting jealous. sushi tells me about her feelings and what to do. days later, wasabi tells me about her feelings too. so what should i do? rice knows nothing of this. and rice only knows sushi. what to do?
we know that both like rice. and rice has no clue about this. but seems like rice likes sushi. you can tell he looks at sushi all the time and smiles at her all the time they both see each other. wasabi is always noticing this and whenever rice looks over to sushi, wasabi looks at rice to make him notice her, but he doesn't.

both sushi and wasabi like rice. but wasabi is kinda creepy in that way that she stalks the guys she likes. should i confront wasabi? or should i not get involved? i don't know what to do because both are my friends and if i get involved i'm afraid i could lose both. what do you think of sushi? wasabi? and rice? i need opinions, ideas and brains.. hahah. thanks!

Well, it isn't that good to be involved in this kind of thing because well there's consequence. If I was you I won't try to help any of them because it's their life. And if anything goes wrong, they'll be very mad at you I think. Even if you want to help them you can't do a lot...just listen to what they tell you and stuff ^^ be there for both of them.

I personally think that wasabi shouldn't be like that. She shouldn't stalk the guys she likes, and if rice really likes sushi or is really interested in her she doesn't have to do anything just give up and forget. It's just going to break their friendship...I don't think anything about rice since he didn't do anything wrong right? And for sushi hm... well if she really likes rice then she shouldn't give up and give it a try ^^

I was in this situation before except that I was sushi...

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nartmeil -> Hm well since I think you should try to be like a big brother to her, talk about random things ^^ if she's down comfort her. Maybe you should talk a bit about youself, perhaps she'll talk about her life too and so on ^^
Just talk ^^ it'll help you to be more open. And well maybe she doesn't like to talk about herself much,,, just wait and talk =] be there for her as a friend and I think everything will be alright =D

[nartmeil]

I wish she labled me as a brother. Someone even mentioned to her how good she and her ex (boyfriend year 2) look as a couple. She said bluntly to us: No way, more like brother and sister. She never said it to me. It makes things less complicated if she did. Or if she just get another boyfriend. So I can act accordingly.

I'ts not like I want a relationship with her. I just want everything to be normal. Difficult to explain.

I'm planning to ask her how she views me and after that asking to be an official friends. It makes talking easier. After this i might tell her i how felt and just become a friend from now on.

[&gravity.]

Thanks so much. Would it be a good idea to confront her about this IF I still want to hang out with her? Just straight out ask her, "you're just keeping me around til someone better comes around huh?" (I'm in a kind of a "Reap the benefits before everything goes to hell" thing at this point between the girl and i haha)

Yes, it would be a good idea to just ask her straight out like that. Most girls tend to hate it when guys are straight foward -- but you will never know until you ask. I hope all goes well for you.

[c i e l`]

I wish she labled me as a brother. Someone even mentioned to her how good she and her ex (boyfriend year 2) look as a couple. She said bluntly to us: No way, more like brother and sister. She never said it to me. It makes things less complicated if she did. Or if she just get another boyfriend. So I can act accordingly.

I'ts not like I want a relationship with her. I just want everything to be normal. Difficult to explain.

I'm planning to ask her how she views me and after that asking to be an official friends. It makes talking easier. After this i might tell her i how felt and just become a friend from now on.

That's a good thing ^^ just go for it =]
Hope it will go well for you
Hwaiting ~ ^^

[nartmeil]

Thnx for the advice y'all. Hopefully I get to meet her at friday. I think I'll update till then.

[angelxglo]

ok. so i'm a girl too, but i can't seem to understand this so you tell me.. lol...
i have these two friends. one called sushi and one called wasabi. and a guy called rice. (i know funnie names eh? i'm hungry right now) anyways... oh and then there's me.

rice is really good looking dresses freakin fobby looks so korean. sushi is average looking people say she looks japanese-ish and chinese-ish. wasabi is average looking as well, but has big eyes.

and i'm so sorry if it's crazy long!

sushi has a class with rice and both begin to kinda look at each other and say hi.
sushi is thinking if she should tell wasabi, her good friend about rice.
but she knows that wasabi is the type that once you mention about a very good looking guy she will get into him and want to see and know him.
so sushi is like since wasabi and i are good friends i should tell her.
so sushi does. wasabi begins stalking rice, but rice doesn't know and sushi begins to notice that wasabi is stalking rice and sushi confronts wasabi. as sushi is confronting wasabi, rice walks by waves hi and smiles at sushi, then wasabi says "i think he likes you sushi" sushi blushes and says "no, we just have a class together" and as rice walks off, wasabi chases after him jokingly and sushi gets all freaked out. sushi gets this feeling that wasabi likes rice, but wishes that it isn't true. oh and the confronting doesn't happen because rice interrupts with his wonderful wave and smile.

yes, sushi is in denial of liking him and wasabi knows it.
wasabi talks about how rice is so good looking and that she wants rice, but rice matches sushi more so sushi should have him, but sushi is unsure of her feelings and she barely knows rice. wasabi talks about rice everyday and yes, sushi is getting jealous. sushi tells me about her feelings and what to do. days later, wasabi tells me about her feelings too. so what should i do? rice knows nothing of this. and rice only knows sushi. what to do?
we know that both like rice. and rice has no clue about this. but seems like rice likes sushi. you can tell he looks at sushi all the time and smiles at her all the time they both see each other. wasabi is always noticing this and whenever rice looks over to sushi, wasabi looks at rice to make him notice her, but he doesn't.

both sushi and wasabi like rice. but wasabi is kinda creepy in that way that she stalks the guys she likes. should i confront wasabi? or should i not get involved? i don't know what to do because both are my friends and if i get involved i'm afraid i could lose both. what do you think of sushi? wasabi? and rice? i need opinions, ideas and brains.. hahah. thanks!

in my opinon, wasabi isn't a good friend.
if she noes that sushi likes rice boy from the start then wasabi shouldnt be all up in rice boy in the first place.
and sushi needs to confront wasabi and be like "thats my rice boy! step away."
yu need to just step away cuz its their battle and yu have nothing to do wid it. cuz if yu side wid one person then the other is gonna get mad yu and vise versa.
it seems that rice boy is interested in sushi so sushi should just make a move unless she wants wasabi to take her rice boy.
i will keep a very close eye on wasabi in the future if i was sushi. lols.

[Xiaoba1tu]

^It helps. She never starts talking to me about her personnel problems and matters. Do I Have to ask watsup? I think It can pretty rude and annoying. We've known eachother for 3 years but still know almost nothing about oneanother =____=. Why can't she be more open? I really like giving advice and solving problems. Even though I'm bad at it . Do i have to start talking about my personnel stuff first? I'm really bad at it and I hate it. I'd rather talk about random things.

I think there's no need to talk about your personal things to her.. some girls may take awhile to 'open up' so I guess maybe she's not ready to go that one step further when it comes to being more than friends..

Feel free to talk about random things.. random things still allow you to find out more about each other..

''She never starts talking to me about her personnel problems and matters'' <- I don't think anyone does that unless they are very close and feels like they can trust them..

After 3 years and you still feel like you don't know her..<- that's alright, it takes time..

But maybe after all these mixed signals you've recieved from her were misinterpreted as hints that she likes you in that way, it could be that she sees you as a friend/brother for now..

Take it slow.. it may take you guys more than 3 years to know each other but its worth it right..

Has she told you she likes you more than a friend ??

The worst case that may come by- is probably can be mutual friends... and eventually lose ur obsession over this girl.. there are plenty more and you said you liked another girl too..

And if you're still young.. study first.. !! kidding !! haha

[nartmeil]

^"Has she told you she likes you more than a friend ??"

No. She never even told me that I'm a friend. Yet i know she cares for me a little. She never told me this either.

- She likes helping me. Never complains if i'm asking something. Never says no. But I don't ask a lot.
- She asks me to hang out. I never do. =_________=
- Some dudes were trying to do a prank on me while I was asleep. She was trying to stop them. They still did it though =____=, drawing stuff on my face. I heard she washed my face after. I've never thanked her though X_X.
- Her Ex boyfriend tried to hook me up with her roommate and friend, a nice girl. She seriously refused this idea to her ex boyfriend. Don't know why exactly. Could mean a lots of things. That girl deserves better or I deserve better or we just dont match or she wants me to be single. I always thought girls like to hook up people together.

So... Basically I don't know what I am to this girl. I'm determined to ask this.

[Xiaoba1tu]

She was trying to stop them.

I heard she washed my face after.

I've never thanked her though X_X.

She might just be feeling sorry for you.. and not want you to be made fun of by other guys.. doesn't necessarily mean she likes you..

Well, if you haven't asked her to hang out.. there's no way she will know or get a hint that you like her..

how often do you keep in contact with her ?? cos if its only occasionally (once every few months) she could be getting the idea that you aren't interested.. in that way.

[truexskills]

hey
so ive been having trouble with this one girl..and i was wondering if you guys could offer some advice

so theres this girl and basically shes really pretty and a lot of guys thiknk shes good looking as well
and we've been friends for around 4 years now..and over the past year or so ive been talking to her a lot more than i used to..and i feel like im starting to like her, but im not sure because i dont feel like im getting any interest back..so i keep thinking that it might just be a lost cause...

we talk pretty often, me initiating the conversations more than she does (most of the time actually)..and we joke around with each other..being both mean and nice to each other..and often we're all like "i love you <3" and "haha jk<3" and just play like that..and sometimes i think i mistake it for her actually having some sort of interest in me..

and she says stuff like oh lets chillll and idk..i think its sorta like "im asying lets chill, but not really" but anyway we do end up hanging out seeing each other when we can..i was just at a party with her on new years eve and we hung out, joked with each other, did stuff a couple of our friends saw as "flirting"

but the thing is, i think shes just one of those genuinely joking, nice, flirty girls and that she doesnt actually see anything in me except anything but as a friend..

is it a lost cause...? or if there may be the slightest possibility..how can i really make myself stand out to her?

[Xiaoba1tu]

^ I wouldn't say you have no chance - I reckon every guy has a chance if so far nothing bad has happened between you two..
I think there is the slightest possibility.. esp. the fact that she plays along with the 'I love you' thing but as a joke is a good sign..

Sounds like you get along quite well which is good ^^

''how can i really make myself stand out to her?'' <-- if you really like her, then try to focus your attention to her only when other girls are around.. (spend more time talking to her than other girls).. ask her out (as friends) more and take it slow.

Does she flirt with other guys too ??

''i dont feel like im getting any interest back.''
hmm.. possible signs that she might like you back (aaargh.. kinda hard.. cos it varies a little between girls)
- looks/gazes in your eyes when you talk.. lots of eye contact
- she looks like she is enjoying every moment she's with you
- touches you a bit.. sometimes when the right moment comes..
( :/ this sounds like flirting now.. eergh.. not sure.. =X )

Hope that helped.

[nartmeil]

She might just be feeling sorry for you.. and not want you to be made fun of by other guys.. doesn't necessarily mean she likes you..

Well, if you haven't asked her to hang out.. there's no way she will know or get a hint that you like her..

how often do you keep in contact with her ?? cos if its only occasionally (once every few months) she could be getting the idea that you aren't interested.. in that way.

But would you stick up for a guy you didn't care at all? I know this doesn't mean she likes. it's true she could be feeling sorry, because I was in a pitiful state. =___=. Still you need to be a caring person to do this. I don't she is a caring person

She had boyfriends back then. So I never hinted i liked her. Remember, past tense!!!! Now i'm just i little confused.

I only meet in school and hang out when school is finished. Those signs you mentioned above, it applies to her. But I think it doesn't mean anything.

But please answer this. Why would you refuse to hook someone up to your friend? Being matchmaker is fun.

I think I'll just hit the books. Concentrating on school.

[Xiaoba1tu]

Why would you refuse to hook someone up to your friend? Being matchmaker is fun.

She refused to allow her friend/room-mate to hook up with you because myb she doesn't want to see you around anymore than she currently does.. that would be what I would be thinking if I were her (assuming she doesn't like you in that way..
For me, if I really don't like this particular guy.. and I let him hook up with my friend/room-mate it means I will be seeing him a lot more..

I think I'll just hit the books. Concentrating on school.

yup.. good idea

[AiriinxKumori]

But would you stick up for a guy you didn't care at all? I know this doesn't mean she likes. it's true she could be feeling sorry, because I was in a pitiful state. =___=. Still you need to be a caring person to do this. I don't she is a caring person

She had boyfriends back then. So I never hinted i liked her. Remember, past tense!!!! Now i'm just i little confused.

I only meet in school and hang out when school is finished. Those signs you mentioned above, it applies to her. But I think it doesn't mean anything.

But please answer this. Why would you refuse to hook someone up to your friend? Being matchmaker is fun.

I think I'll just hit the books. Concentrating on school.

hmm i'm a bit not sure on this but i'm gonna give out what i think. maybe she just likes you to be there. always that one person she can feel comfortable with. and maybe gets jealous if your shared with someone else and she can't stand to watch. but that still leaves the question why she wants you to stick to her side if she has a bf? mixed feelings perhaps and wants both?