[j'adoreAZNpop]

have u girls ever been really desperate to talk on the phone wif ur bf like every nite? ...
is it an obsession over the phone or jux to hear his voice??? kuz im not sure bout my situation...

i hate talking on phone...not just to guys.
if i call bf, it is just to hear his voice haha

study says 70% of the girls would go for funny guy regardless of his looks. Is this true??

it's possible. in fact im part of that 70%. the guy doesnt have to be brad pitt but he cant be deformed as well

[joongielove]

have u girls ever been really desperate to talk on the phone wif ur bf like every nite? ...
is it an obsession over the phone or jux to hear his voice??? kuz im not sure bout my situation...

Not every nightcuz we talk in school and afterschool about 1-2 hours every day...

I think it's just to hear his voice though ^^

[StuckAtLust]

I really need help ladies.....

my best friend and i always end up liking the same girls. the problem is he can't raise his game to my level and he has trouble being himself in front of them. he is the type of guy that has problems getting off the general level with girls, or people in general, but especially girls. i know he feels threatened by me being around when he's with a girl he likes. even though he won't admit it, he feels even less confident when I am there and I can tell because i've known him since we were kids.

i am the type of guy that realizes there are other fish in the sea and will take a step back to let him do his thing. sometimes i even unintentionally make the girl a little insecure or even angry at me because im doing this for him. but the problem is he can never finish the job and just cannot off the general and move to the next level with them.

recently, there is a girl that i have very good chemistry with, personality wise, than most girls i have been interested in before. it feels like i won't run into this type of girl too often. guess what? my friend likes her too. i'm the type of friend that will sacrifice things that i want for others, especially my best friend, but i know he has no shot with this girl and he will forever stay in the friend zone with her just like he has with most girls he likes. but he thinks otherwise, just like he always does with all the other girls i've stepped aside to let him have, none of which he ended up getting together with.

so now my question is:

How do I tell a good friend that he isn't good enough to get somebody when he believes otherwise, but I am?

Thank you to those of you who actually read the entire thing, I look forward to hearing some good ideas from a lady's point of view on how to take care of this situation, smoothly. Hopefully with the least amount of fallout and awkwardness for both me and her with my friend afterwards.

[bigbangsmex]

How do I tell a good friend that he isn't good enough to get somebody when he believes otherwise, but I am?

I think this question is better off for the "Ask The Fellas" thread, since they are males, afterall... And they can relate better to your situation than a female perhaps could. But that's just me. ^^;

Anyway, so you're the nice guy that always backs down for his friend, but don't you think it's a bit conceited the way you said that "he isn't good enough to get somebody when he believes otherwise"? Just tell him about the deeper level of chemistry that you feel for this specific girl, and that although you've backed down for him all the other times, this one time is different. @__@;

Wait... does your friend know that you know that he likes her? Because you could always act oblivious otherwise. :D

I don't see it possible to not have some slight awkwardness between you and your friend, but if your relationship with him is strong enough, one girl shouldn't completely wreck it.

[StuckAtLust]

I think this question is better off for the "Ask The Fellas" thread, since they are males, afterall... And they can relate better to your situation than a female perhaps could. But that's just me. ^^;

Anyway, so you're the nice guy that always backs down for his friend, but don't you think it's a bit conceited the way you said that "he isn't good enough to get somebody when he believes otherwise"? Just tell him about the deeper level of chemistry that you feel for this specific girl, and that although you've backed down for him all the other times, this one time is different. @__@;

Wait... does your friend know that you know that he likes her? Because you could always act oblivious otherwise. :D

I don't see it possible to not have some slight awkwardness between you and your friend, but if your relationship with him is strong enough, one girl shouldn't completely wreck it.

No matter what happens we will still be friends. Sorry bigbangsmex but your advice doesn't seem logical to me nor does it give me any insights from the girl's POV. When i ask that question I'm trying to find out what to say to help the girl not seem/feel like a jerk since he offered to pay for her meals and buy her movie tickets all the times we went out together when she didn't want him to.

sorry if i didn't explain clearly on what kind of insight i was looking for from in my original post.

[bigbangsmex]

No matter what happens we will still be friends. Sorry bigbangsmex but your advice doesn't seem logical to me nor does it give me any insights from the girl's POV. When i ask that question I'm trying to find out what to say to help the girl not seem/feel like a jerk since he offered to pay for her meals and buy her movie tickets all the times we went out together when she didn't want him to.

sorry if i didn't explain clearly on what kind of insight i was looking for from in my original post.

So are you wondering what to say to HER, now, or your friend? @__@;

And perhaps the reason why he can't get beyond the "general" level with a girl is because you're always there. Going out with all three of you makes the outing more friendly than intimate [right word?].

Coming from a girl's perspective regarding the paying for the meals, tickets, etc., no matter what you say to a girl, she's still going to feel guilty. I mean... it's chivalry to pay for a girl, but doing it all the time is too nice, and it would make her feel like a free-loader.
Does she know that he likes her?


Sorry I can't provide correct insight. I'm going to stop now~ x__x;

[StuckAtLust]

So are you wondering what to say to HER, now, or your friend? @__@;

And perhaps the reason why he can't get beyond the "general" level with a girl is because you're always there. Going out with all three of you makes the outing more friendly than intimate [right word?].

Coming from a girl's perspective regarding the paying for the meals, tickets, etc., no matter what you say to a girl, she's still going to feel guilty. I mean... it's chivalry to pay for a girl, but doing it all the time is too nice, and it would make her feel like a free-loader.
Does she know that he likes her?


Sorry I can't provide correct insight. I'm going to stop now~ x__x;

no i like your insight, its my fault for not explaining it all the first time around. yeah she knows he likes her, he makes it obvious but doesnt give her an opportunity to like him back because he's just so bad at this kind of stuff. and its not just the 3 of us, its like a group of people. she is always following me, and he's always following her. lol. and i know its chivalrous to pay for the girl, but i never pay for the girl like he does from the start, its kind of my style to allow them to feel independent until whats mine is hers and whats hers is mine. after that, i dont care.

[Atmosphere.]

study says 70% of the girls would go for funny guy regardless of his looks. Is this true??

Yeah the answers would most likely be yes or no. Like what other people just said ^^;;
Lets just say 70% yes, and 30% people no then lols. 70% is like what... 500 million and 30% is like 100 million in USA.
Just for example lols.

I like guys with sense of humor too. I won't lie haha but the guy has to be like casual clothing style and cute^^;;
But... if I keep having fail relationships, I probably wouldn't care at all how the guy looks like, just matter with the personality :]

[resa_massu]

so now my question is:

How do I tell a good friend that he isn't good enough to get somebody when he believes otherwise, but I am?

Thank you to those of you who actually read the entire thing, I look forward to hearing some good ideas from a lady's point of view on how to take care of this situation, smoothly. Hopefully with the least amount of fallout and awkwardness for both me and her with my friend afterwards.

Well if you know that the chemistry is good with you and this girl, then your friend should step aside.
If the possiblity of your friend and that girl is none, he should step aside. your feeling should come first sometimes.
You just have to just probably sit him down and lay everything on the table. since you guys are good friends,
im sure he will understand. of course he might be a little hurt but he will get over. he know he cares about your
happiness as well. so i say, you just tell him straight, its always good to be honest with your friends (8

[Antz]

study says 70% of the girls would go for funny guy regardless of his looks. Is this true??

i think that's kinda true, but i can't say that for all girls.
i guess for me, that's how i got my bf. his humour won me. <3

have u girls ever been really desperate to talk on the phone wif ur bf like every nite? ...
is it an obsession over the phone or jux to hear his voice??? kuz im not sure bout my situation...

yup. i actually told hiim and he wanted to do the same, too. so we talk every night before we go to sleep.
i guess just hearing his voice makes me feel better again. i seem to not sleep properly if i don't talk to him at the end of the day.

[hellotiffy]

How do I tell a good friend that he isn't good enough to get somebody when he believes otherwise, but I am?

i don't know if i'll be much help --
if you and your friend know where you guys stand, then a girl shouldn't affect your friendship. and shouldn't the second greatest factor be what the girl wants? who does she have better chemistry with? if you really think you're the one, then it's time your friend stepped down for a change. if he never takes the initiative, then it's his loss. and as a friend, you have already done your part.

[StuckAtLust]

thanks for the advice resa_massu & hellotiffy. i feel the same way as you guys.

to update the situation, last night (friday) i went to a club & after party at friends with a bunch of people including the girl and my good friend. i told him but he already knew like i predicted and he did the same for me but i already knew too. haha! anyways we called it fair game last night. it was basically.... me and her were always together and he'd always folllow us everywhere again. since he was my friend we were including him in conversations but she felt kind of shy to talk personal stuff with me in front of him. we were texting each other to sneak away from him but he's damn good at spotting us out in a crowd lol. I dont think i need anymore advice because everyone who has responded is basically on the same page as me. i just kinda feel bad and so does she so we are going to try to setup one of her girlfriends with him. hahaha hopefully it works out! once again, thx!

[manlytoe]

how do you restrain yourself from liking someone?
i really want to restrain myself from liking this person.
there's absolutely nothing wrong with him besides smoking, but other than that, he's sweet, funnie, cute and has the biggest smile ever, but i have to restrain myself from liking him because if my heart does get attached to him, i'm afraid i'll be the one hurting. why? because this will be the last semester that i will be at the school and i'm afraid that if i get attached to him, i'll miss him, want to love him, visit him, talk to him and want to see him even more and i don't want that when i'm gone away from him. i know i probably shouldn't be doing this, but i have to. i really like him, but i don't think he feels the same (another reason for restraining myself). and because it hurts me when he's just talking with other girls. like i dunno. I NEED TO RESTRAIN MYSELF FROM LIKING HIM, I JUST HAVE TO. MY HEART CAN'T GET ATTACHED TO HIM, IF IT DOES, IT'LL TAKE MONTHS POSSIBLY EVEN YEARS TO DETACH ITSELF FROM HIM.

NOTE: i've never been in a relationship before, so i'm a newbie at this kinda stuff

[Shui]

how do you restrain yourself from liking someone?

you can't.

it's not usually a feeling you can control. if you space yourself from the person you should be able to forgert about them. but it will take time....

[j'adoreAZNpop]

if a female friend of yours posted a pic of her + your bf from a semi formal event....
would you get jealous?
it was a normal pic...not a pic of them drunk or kissing or whatever
plus the girl also took pics with other guys too

[hellotiffy]

if a female friend of yours posted a pic of her + your bf from a semi formal event....
would you get jealous?
it was a normal pic...not a pic of them drunk or kissing or whatever
plus the girl also took pics with other guys too

it's not a big deal, why get jealous over that?

[kylie91]

if a female friend of yours posted a pic of her + your bf from a semi formal event....
would you get jealous?
it was a normal pic...not a pic of them drunk or kissing or whatever
plus the girl also took pics with other guys too

Not at all. It's not like they were being overly physical in the picture. Plus, he wasn't the only guy she took a picture with.

[saranghaese7en]

if a female friend of yours posted a pic of her + your bf from a semi formal event....
would you get jealous?
it was a normal pic...not a pic of them drunk or kissing or whatever
plus the girl also took pics with other guys too

yes lol. but that's only cuz i'm a very jealous person ><
i gues i'm too clingy -sigh-

[leongfun]

Like if you were, really, really close with him. Would your parents let?

I use to sleep over my best friend's house (girl) but now I'm not allowed because I'm sixteen and my parents doesn't want me sleeping over.

[treeshaa]

if a female friend of yours posted a pic of her + your bf from a semi formal event....
would you get jealous?
it was a normal pic...not a pic of them drunk or kissing or whatever
plus the girl also took pics with other guys too

Nah, it's not a big deal if she took pictures with other guys. If they were overly physical and such, then maybe.