Ask The Ladies - Read First Post - soompi forums

Ask The Ladies - Read First Post discuss about behaviors and relationships from female P.O.V.

#2351 v_23

Tell me about it.

Group: Members
Posts: 888
Joined: 29-January 08

Posted 24 April 2008 - 05:51 PM

uh serious question girls, or guys. OK so my bf lives four hours away, and he wants us to get a place (studio) and move in together so he doesn't have to drive four hours to visit me. ok so the point is, i'd LOVEEEEEEEE to live with him, but i just kinda DONT want to live with him! BUTTTTTT i feel like if i dont agree to get a place with him, i'll lose him. what to do? we've been dating for ONLY 2 1/2 months and i dont think a place of our own is a good idea.

#2352 mojomunkeez

Member

Group: Banned
Posts: 1,265
Joined: 24-June 07

Posted 24 April 2008 - 06:46 PM

QUOTE (x_TaintedLove @ Apr 24 2008, 06:45 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Have you told her that it doesn't matter? Maybe she's lacking self-confidence and doesn't want to 'burden' you.
Be there for her until she pushes you away. When I say that, I mean as a friend. Tell her that she's doing nothing wrong and you still want to get together.
A lot of girls cover up the real reason of the break up by telling their boyfriends that they don't want to burden them with their problems. It doesn't seem like your girlfriend's like one of those kind of people, but it'd be better if you talked it out and try to resolve the problem.

I told her that I didn't care about being burdened, I was willing to share the load. But she said she wanted to deal with it herself, so I guess I'm giving her space. I told her that if she needed anything, she needed just to call me. Was that the right thing to do?

Facebook
411

#2353 la folie

(I'm a Candy Bar)

Group: Friends of Soompi
Posts: 4,886
Joined: 06-October 05

Posted 24 April 2008 - 06:54 PM

QUOTE (v_23 @ Apr 24 2008, 09:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

How old are you guys?
I think 2 1/2 months is too short to consider living together. I don't think you'll necessarily "lose him" if he doesn't move in together though.

#2354 0rchid

❤ 美少女戦士 ❤

Group: Members
Posts: 1,669
Joined: 06-October 05

Posted 24 April 2008 - 08:03 PM

QUOTE (v_23 @ Apr 24 2008, 09:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

in this case, i'd say trust your gut instinct.

personally, i think it's way too soon to start living together. legally, you have no rights to the property so he can technically kick you out at any time. a lot of other complications would arise as well like bad habits habits that the both of you may have, chores, bills, etc...

٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ ...all bloggers are procrastinators... ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶

A song can take you back instantly to a moment, a place or even a person.
No matter what else has changed in you or the world, that one song stays the same, just like that moment.

#2355 v_23

Tell me about it.

Group: Members
Posts: 888
Joined: 29-January 08

Posted 24 April 2008 - 09:25 PM

QUOTE (I'm a Candy Bar @ Apr 24 2008, 09:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

How old are you guys?
I think 2 1/2 months is too short to consider living together. I don't think you'll necessarily "lose him" if he doesn't move in together though.

19yrs. turning 20 soon.

QUOTE (0rchid @ Apr 24 2008, 11:03 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

my gut instinct is confused, thats why i'm online.

#2356 ominous

Member

Group: Members
Posts: 1,265
Joined: 09-July 07

Posted 24 April 2008 - 10:11 PM

whoa. thought that " Ask the Fellas" was the only thread for these kind of things ahaha.

So...i really don't have anything to ask lol.

#2357 JohnCag

Member

Group: Members
Posts: 34
Joined: 22-April 08

Posted 25 April 2008 - 01:54 AM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5m2T5yfgsZ0

This scene from Love, Actually is really sweet, but to all the girls out there, if a guy did that to you and you were single, would you be like "how creepy" or would you fall for him? Would any guys actually try this?

#2358 charmainee

Member

Group: Members
Posts: 1,446
Joined: 05-April 07

Posted 25 April 2008 - 02:17 AM

Awww. Yes, just a little. xD
I think I'd start crying too. o_O
Then I'd be like, WHY DIDN'T YOU TELL ME BEFORE I GOT MARRIED?

#2359 Xiaoba1tu

Member

Group: Members
Posts: 4,027
Joined: 07-November 07

Posted 25 April 2008 - 05:41 AM

QUOTE (JohnCag @ Apr 25 2008, 05:54 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

bahh..

I was crying halfway.

If the guy was decent, yeah I think most single girls would. We fall very easily.
I wouldn't think it's creepy unless it was from a total absolute stranger. :/

#2360 Deafz

Group: Members
Posts: 1,334
Joined: 09-September 07

Posted 27 April 2008 - 02:01 PM

I have two questions. I only have time for one though. I'll post the other one later.

1) You have a very close good guy friend. You've never thought of him as anything more than a good friend or you never even wanted him as more. You guys are hanging out alone. Something happens. Then, he tells you to close your eyes. Of course, he is a good friend and you trust him. So you close your eyes and won't peak. Suddenly, he gives you a kiss on the lips (maybe cheek). How would you feel? How would you react? Does this sweet nice guy have any chance with you now?

FB Page | Blog | Youtube

#2361 xemily

Member

Group: Members
Posts: 49
Joined: 20-January 08

Posted 27 April 2008 - 02:19 PM

QUOTE (Deafz @ Apr 27 2008, 06:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Mkay, well, if I liked the guy back, then everything would be fine. If not so much, and I only liked him as my friend, then I'd probably be a little weirded out. My reaction would probably be surprised and then having to explain that I didn't like him that way, but I don't want things to change because of it. He might have a chance... I don't know. It really depends on the situation. =T

#2362 summerskies

Member

Group: Members
Posts: 23
Joined: 28-January 08

Posted 27 April 2008 - 02:20 PM

honestly if my very close guy friend kissed me, i would feel weird and awkward. i wouldn't know what to do in that kind of situation. but he wouldn't have any chance with me if i didn't think of him in a romantic way.

#2363 blush

Member

Group: Members
Posts: 1,236
Joined: 23-December 07

Posted 27 April 2008 - 02:29 PM

QUOTE (Deafz @ Apr 27 2008, 05:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

That's happened to me before. I brushed it off, but I was very shocked. No he does not have a chance with me haha, but it depends on the girl herself. Maybe if she's easier or something, he might have a chance. Things were a bit awkward afterwards with me and my friend, and I kind of avoided going out with him anymore. Alone, at least. haha.

#2364 wifey.

Group: Friends of Soompi
Posts: 2,052
Joined: 06-March 07

Posted 27 April 2008 - 11:05 PM

QUOTE (Deafz @ Apr 27 2008, 06:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

No, if I haven't ever thought of him as anything more than a close friend, he wouldn't have a chance with me. I'm sorry if it has already happened but honestly, if I was put in that situation I think it'd make us grow apart because it'd be so awkward.

#2365 junkers

Member

Group: Banned
Posts: 879
Joined: 12-September 07

Posted 28 April 2008 - 02:27 AM

hey girls, do you snore? ROOOFLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

#2366 resa_massu

JunHae = ♥

Group: Friends of Soompi
Posts: 1,094
Joined: 14-October 07

Posted 28 April 2008 - 09:38 AM

QUOTE (Deafz @ Apr 27 2008, 03:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

it really all depends on the person. feelings can start to develop after something like this happens.
for myself, it would depend on the guy really... if its someone i have a lot of fun with... i could start liking him.
but it could also make things a little awkward if i don't return the same feelings.
either way though, if he is a good friend i wouldnt let it affect the friendship at all.

QUOTE (junkers @ Apr 28 2008, 03:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

hey girls, do you snore? ROOOFLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

well girls are human arent they? they eat breath cry sneeze and whatnot.
so of course there are girls that snore.

ღ -- cyworld -- requests -- 411 -- ღ

#2367 Mentos

Member

Group: Members
Posts: 2,473
Joined: 05-October 05

Posted 28 April 2008 - 10:51 AM

QUOTE (junkers @ Apr 28 2008, 03:27 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

hey girls, do you snore? ROOOFLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I don't but I know a few who do =)
We also fart

#2368 0rchid

❤ 美少女戦士 ❤

Group: Members
Posts: 1,669
Joined: 06-October 05

Posted 28 April 2008 - 11:47 AM

QUOTE (v_23 @ Apr 25 2008, 01:25 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

19yrs. turning 20 soon.

my gut instinct is confused, thats why i'm online.

ok, i'll give you this much... i found it interesting that you initially said that this is so that "he doesn't have to drive four hours to visit me". does that imply that you subconciously know that you would be doing it for all the wrong reasons if you do end up agreeing? it sounds to me like it's more of a convenience factor for him than it is because he actually cares about you and wants to be with you. i think it's safe to say that since you're unsure, then it probably you're leaning towards no than yes, so i'd advise against it.

٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶ ...all bloggers are procrastinators... ٩(͡๏̯͡๏)۶

A song can take you back instantly to a moment, a place or even a person.
No matter what else has changed in you or the world, that one song stays the same, just like that moment.

#2369 hongalong

hottest vip.

Group: Members
Posts: 388
Joined: 28-October 07

Posted 28 April 2008 - 02:08 PM

QUOTE (Deafz @ Apr 27 2008, 04:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

If I didn't like him ... then I guess I would be speechless.. & feel a bit awkward :S,

Usually, when I become good friends with a guy, theres always a stage where I question my feelings towards him.. but usually its nothing.
I have never really liked a good guy friend - unless the objective of being such good friends with him in the first place was to get closer

(if you know what I mean lolll)

I say.. if this question is for what I believe it is for :/, 1. Go for it only if you know what the reaction is going to be or 2. Take it s l o w.

✌♡

#2370 bunnie.

Member

Group: Members
Posts: 221
Joined: 20-January 08

Posted 28 April 2008 - 02:44 PM

QUOTE (Deafz @ Apr 27 2008, 06:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

hm.. i have a close guy friend and if he did that to me i would be really really shocked.
it would be really hard for me to suddenly get into that kind of relationship with him.
maybe some time, but i dont know..

★ What hurts them, will only make them stronger. True 소녀시대 fans believe in the power of 9.