[asianami]

this question might have been asked already... anyhow,

why do most girls tend to seek athletic guys? not saying all girls prefer the athletic type...

I think because they think athletes are sexy and that a guy that does sports are well... manly in their opinion? Seeing their guy running around, heaving and sweating while chasing after a ball is very sexy, oh yes. Lol.

edit : sorry comp's wackeddddddd yo.

[Sweetraindrops]

if you ladiez like some guy you just see.. how do you want him to make the first move...? have him say hi to you or what..?

[asianami]

if you ladiez like some guy you just see.. how do you want him to make the first move...? have him say hi to you or what..?

Yeah just go up to the girl and say hi and start some small talk is a good first move. Anything but ignoring her and/or accidentally hitting her with an object.

[x~Rin~x]

ok then,

if girls prefer the athletic-manly types, what about the "pretty-boys"?

[asianami]

ok then,

if girls prefer the athletic-manly types, what about the "pretty-boys"?

not all girls would pick an athlete>pretty boys.
some would go for the pretty boy too.
others would just think of pretty boys as "eye-candies" but not date material because its not their type.

all depends on the individual.

edit: or are you talking about why would they prefer pretty boys too?

[forum-love]

Yeah just go up to the girl and say hi and start some small talk is a good first move. Anything but ignoring her and/or accidentally hitting her with an object.

i second that

[watcher]

*applauds* Nicely well said! Sometimes I wonder if you are a girl... jk. Lol

What those other guys have that the nice guys don't is that they have the ability to say "No". Nice guys usually are the ones that can't say no (kind of like pushovers a bit), hence girls feel like they can walk over them like door mats. (No backbone)

I'm not saying the nice guy should say no to everything, but every once in a while, if he doesn't want to do it, then speak up! He's got a mouth and a voice box, so use it!

dunno... i kinda learn as i go... i made plenty of mistakes, and have watched many girls pass by... i guess if i didn't learn this much, i'd be doomed to failure

[oneday]

hi ladies,
so some guy asked me to dinner, i told him i'm busy because i do not want to go to dinner alone with him. he then tells me to call him when i'm not busy anymore.
should i just not call at all? or have the courtesy to tell him that i dont want to go because i think he likes me?

thankyou.

[_Jessssica]

oneday, personally I think you should've told him the truth in the first place, but I am a girl and I know that sometimes you don't want to hurt the other person's feelings, but I think that by saying 'I'm busy...' you gave him hope to think 'oh maybe I do have a chance!' I think you should call him and set things straight before his hopes get any higher. =)

[Lie]

hi ladies,
so some guy asked me to dinner, i told him i'm busy because i do not want to go to dinner alone with him. he then tells me to call him when i'm not busy anymore.
should i just not call at all? or have the courtesy to tell him that i dont want to go because i think he likes me?

thankyou.

I agree with Jessssica. Too often girls mince words or avoid being upfront because they either: a.) don't want to hurt our feelings, or b.) want to avoid confrontation. But it's best to let him know from the beginning where you stand. Being rejecting is actually much preferably to thinking you have a chance when you really don't. I would just call him and let him know how you're feeling so he can work on moving on to a girl that's interested.

[lananhcali18]

uggh twice...sorry
i don't know how to deleted it.

[lananhcali18]

oopss wrong post.
deleted.

[Sweetraindrops]

what something to look for if a girl like like a guy...?

i see buncha stuff.. but not sure if that rite..

[bbyneleh]

what something to look for if a girl like like a guy...?

i see buncha stuff.. but not sure if that rite..

shes shy and go nervous when you see her irl.
shes always happy when you guys talk or see each other.
she smiles randomly at times ? hehe cute..
she likes spending time with you.

.. why not just ask her ?

[florence]

what something to look for if a girl like like a guy...?

i see buncha stuff.. but not sure if that rite..

body language - playing with hair, adjusting clothing, etcetc
laughing at stupid/boring jokes

[Sweetraindrops]

shes shy and go nervous when you see her irl.
shes always happy when you guys talk or see each other.
she smiles randomly at times ? hehe cute..
she likes spending time with you.

.. why not just ask her ?

nah.. dont wanna ask her yet.. need more stuff like u say.. what some other stuff..

body language - playing with hair, adjusting clothing, etcetc
laughing at stupid/boring jokes

oh thx... give me mor mor.. plz.. me lyke..

[Deafz]

~This is following up my last question.

If the "nice guy" is the guy who treats girls nice, the one you can talk to, blah blah blah...so why isn't he boyfriend material? What do those other dudes do that is so special/different?

I think I get what everyone is saying. Could you provide examples anyways? I'm kinda slow.

She knows I like(d) her. I still do. I told her I would move on. She expects that I have. Though I haven't.
If I start to change now by "treating her special", she will know something is up. I'm not too sure if that's good or bad but I'm skeptical.
She'll probably feel weird. She's the type to be awkward around guys who like her when she doesn't like them back.

Anyways, I don't treat everyone the same. Around other girls, I'm kinda a flirt (she says), pretty mean/evil, and kinda a jerk?

For example: When I talk to girls, I'll be like "hey beautiful" or "sup sexy". I'm kinda disrespectful? When I'm talk/with her I'm more gentlemenly-like. Maybe that's why I'm the nice guy, in her eyes (if I am).

Also, I don't always say yes to her.

Anyways, I don't think its the nice guy thing. What/why else would a girl not have feelings for a guy and even worse set him into the best-friend zone?

because she has girlfriends who can do the same thing. but her girlfriends wont fill her needs of love and security. and though nice guys know how to treat a girl well, they treat everyone well. i think in general, girls are selfish. when they want love, they want to know that they are especially loved. not loved because you simply love everyone. secondly, though lots of girls are up in arms about equality and independence, they still have an inner part of them that wants security/stability. they're a bit weaker emotionally. they bend faster [though guys break more often]. nice guys are like frail girls that you're afraid to hug because you might break them. says yes to everything and makes it hard to show the girl that he's got a fight in him too.

i'm sure not every girl is like this, but this generalization is applicable to an overwhelming majority. they are fully smart, capable and can do many things a man cannot, and also many things better than a man. however, there's still some mysteriousness in them that just makes them desire a sturdy guy in her life that fulfills her emotional need to be loved.

*applauds* Nicely well said! Sometimes I wonder if you are a girl... jk. Lol

What those other guys have that the nice guys don't is that they have the ability to say "No". Nice guys usually are the ones that can't say no (kind of like pushovers a bit), hence girls feel like they can walk over them like door mats. (No backbone)

Do you treat everyone (or just all girls) that way? Like, are you nice to all of them? or just one in particular?
The way I see it, if I met a nice guy who treated me (along with some other girl friends) very nicely, I would feel happy, but not special. Girls (I'm sure with guys too) like to feel special, like they're different from others. If you treat everyone the same way, they'll just think of you as a friend because you don't treat them any different than you would a friend.

You can thank WongFu Productions for that lol.

I just saw that video. Lol. I didn't get that message though.

[dann]

why are girls so mean to each other?

[forum-love]

Deafz,

from the way i see it,its pretty sensible for a gurl to doubt ur intentions. 'sup sexy' and stuff like that are a huge turn-off for me. so she may just be being careful....anyhow,she may not know what u really feel. yup,that happens.

but back to ur question about nice guys. believe it or not, a lot of gurls like if their guys aren't completely 'nice' with them. they wanna tease each other playfully,have slight disagreements, stuff like that. ppl are just different i guess.

Dann,

because they can?? what kind of reply were u expecting?

[florence]

oh thx... give me mor mor.. plz.. me lyke..

check if her legs are facing you or away from you (when they're crossed, is her foot facing you? if so she wants to get closer) (when she's standing and talking - is her legs facing you or towards the door)

check if she asks questions about you - if she asks a lot of questions then chances are she likes you and wants to get to know you

she's having a conversation with her friends and she'd look at you

touching you is a sign too