[forum-love]

u girls feel da need to strut urself to otha guyz

hermmm,what do u mean? dressing-up? dressing less?

a lot of females dress-up to look good in the eyes of their female friends.(yup,i realized that thru a thread on soompi. found it interesting)

but i would say that dressing less would definitely be fishing for male attention--consciously or not.

[rehonishi]

u girls feel da need to strut urself to otha guyz

we do it because it helps us feel confident
and attention from 'da guyz
are just the perks

[Sweetraindrops]

I'll be ... darned() if i go out on a date with a random guy who makes me pay for the food and THEN wants something at the end of it. Goodluck with that one bud.

lool...no needd luck.. haha

^ I think his "free food" = the girl

I'll have your words in mind next time a guy ask me for a date.

hahah...yup.. butt there some nice guyz out there.. like mee..

I hope that lamp behind you puts some sense into you =)

lool... what lamp..

no offence, u ask a lot of these kinda questions. have u ever thought that YOU may have been the person that is being awkward? that the person is staring at you coz YOU keep on looking at them.
honest to god, sometimes ppl just stare randomly. especially in the library.it gets boring in there.

yup yup... me so crazzi.. hahaha... u ppl know u can tell who stare at u even u dun stare at them rite..

lol librarui aint borin.. maibi cuz u borin..

I feel sorry for your next victim.

me to me to... lool..

[shirahime]

u girls feel da need to strut urself to otha guyz

I like to dress up. Mostly for myself. I feel more confident when I'm well coordinated in clothes, make-ups, accesoiries and so on.
The second reason would be to get ppls' attention, doesn't matter gender.
On few occassions I would dress up aiming to get attention from guys, but that's very rare.
To sum up, I think most of the time girls dress up because we like to dress up and it makes us happy.

[forum-love]

yup yup... me so crazzi.. hahaha... u ppl know u can tell who stare at u even u dun stare at them rite..

lol librarui aint borin.. maibi cuz u borin..

in reply to that,

Certain ppl actually do go to the library to study,not check out ppl of the opposite gender...

1)and as i've told you, ppl just stare at times. i don't think its fair to generalize that every moment of eye-contact/staring means something.

honestly,i am a gurl,i have my gurl friends.so,i should know more about why we do certain things.

2)of course,u can still profess that these females ARE staring at you because they find u physically attractive etc.... and if so, sometimes thats all it is--they find u physically attractive. If u also find them attractive or what not,by all means, go up to them.

3)they just find u different,which may or may not be a positive thing.

yup,thats all i can think of.

[beana*]

I like to dress up. Mostly for myself. I feel more confident when I'm well coordinated in clothes, make-ups, accesoiries and so on.
The second reason would be to get ppls' attention, doesn't matter gender.
On few occassions I would dress up aiming to get attention from guys, but that's very rare.
To sum up, I think most of the time girls dress up because we like to dress up and it makes us happy.

i agree i don't necessarily "strut" my stuff to get other guys attention
but confidence for myself

[Sweetraindrops]

-what mean everytime you turn somewhere.. you see some girl sit somewhere where you guys see each other...

-what mean when some gurl no talk online.. but when you too meet... she act all upclose too you n talk blah blah...

-what mean when some gurl try too look four you in the mornin...

yup yup... me so crazzi.. hahaha... u ppl know u can tell who stare at u even u dun stare at them rite..

lol librarui aint borin.. maibi cuz u borin..

in reply to that,

Certain ppl actually do go to the library to study,not check out ppl of the opposite gender...

1)and as i've told you, ppl just stare at times. i don't think its fair to generalize that every moment of eye-contact/staring means something.

honestly,i am a gurl,i have my gurl friends.so,i should know more about why we do certain things.

2)of course,u can still profess that these females ARE staring at you because they find u physically attractive etc.... and if so, sometimes thats all it is--they find u physically attractive. If u also find them attractive or what not,by all means, go up to them.

3)they just find u different,which may or may not be a positive thing.

yup,thats all i can think of.

LOOL... kinda hard when ppl walk back n ford n just look watcha up tooo...

1.uhh.. what bout they stare four like 5secon... then later stare again.. then later go in somewere for away n stare 10sec....

2.im girrl to here... so what you talkin bout... N NO... im ugly and fat...

3.diff like fat n ugly... ye...

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[manlytoe]

how do you deal with a very nice guy that has rejected you?
i mean, he's become nicer, and better around you and it bothers you.
how do you deal with that? run away?

[nonamebrand]

manlytoe: if i was originally pretty goodfriends with him i'd tell him straight up that your extra niceness is annoying because it seems like he's nicer outof pity.

if i wasnt really friends, i'd pretend nothing happened.

[Deadalready]

coz we're shy.

Are you sure the girls are consciously avoiding eye contact with you? Maybe they don't even notice you to begin with. I swear I have the poorest peripheral vision ever. Unless if someone or something is in my way, I most likely won't notice the person or the object. Sad as it is, I don't have the innate trait to look at people, but I find objects more amusing... No I do not have any mental disorders.

Now if you're certain someone is avoiding eye contact with you, like someone you know, then I guess it can be of two reason. You look really intimidating or you hurt their eyes. Normally when I see someone attractive, I throw quick glimpses and smile if the gaze was caught, but I never purposely avoid looking, capiche?

Here's what I could think of:
1. We're shy.
2. We're lying
3. We want to be mysterious~
4. At that moment just looking at that person's face pisses us off.
5. We're annoyed.
6. We have eye problems and some of us are blind.
7. If we don't care, we don't look.
8. Maybe the person's eye is so goddang gorgeous and we're so jealous, we avoid eye contact.

good question..
i have two reasonable reasons
1) just shy or self-conscious. (trying to avoid any attention drawn to her)
2) avoid being hit on randomly.. in some situations.. especially when walking alone. (my friend gets hit on constantly and trys to avoid eye contact as much as possible)

Thanks for your replies ladies, because of the variance in replies obviously different girls avoid eye contact for different reasons. Would any of you girls be willing to do a quick description of your personalities for my reference?

So far I suspect that I'm just plain intimidating to be around, I fit into the "quiet serious guys" niche.

[Antz]

how do you deal with a very nice guy that has rejected you?
i mean, he's become nicer, and better around you and it bothers you.
how do you deal with that? run away?

if it bothers me, i'd ignore him. if he changed the way he acts, then i know that it was because of the rejection & that stuff, so i'd be like, err..
i wouldn't want him to change just because of that.

i'd still be nice to him but if it bothers me, i ignore.

[Sweetraindrops]

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LMAO... wth.. lol...

you maeean..

[adurian]

how do you deal with a very nice guy that has rejected you?
i mean, he's become nicer, and better around you and it bothers you.
how do you deal with that? run away?

Umm. I don't think I like it anyway. Though I would still respect him a lot (if he is nice, as you said), it's still uncomfortable around him. It takes time for a girl to forget. Maybe at some specific point of her life, she could look back and face the guy as if nothing happened. Still, in the short term, awkwardness is unavoidable. She may or may not try to avoid you. Maybe just talk less and more shy when you are around.

And do not bother her and try to be so nice. She could take it as you are playing and torturing her attempts to forget you.
Okay, and I am talking about nice girls. If the girl is flirty, then who knows?

Hope that helps.

[spiral_flare]

how do you deal with a very nice guy that has rejected you?
i mean, he's become nicer, and better around you and it bothers you.
how do you deal with that? run away?

Yeah, kinda what everyone else said. While he might be nice and while I still know that it's not his fault he doesn't like me like THAT, I still wouldn't like it and hold some sort of hatred towards him as little as it may be (even though I know it's not logical to).

Yes, I would try to avoid him.

[Lie]

Question for the girls:

If you had a boyfriend and you felt like things were kind of going south. Not necessarily any fights, but the chemistry was starting to disappear, things were getting stale,

Would you:
a.) tell him that you feel that way
b.) not tell him so that he doesn't worry about it
c.) break up, because you feel that once things get to the level that the chemistry is gone the relationship isn't worth saving
d.) other (if so, please explain what)

?

[asianami]

Question for the girls:

If you had a boyfriend and you felt like things were kind of going south. Not necessarily any fights, but the chemistry was starting to disappear, things were getting stale,

Would you:
a.) tell him that you feel that way
b.) not tell him so that he doesn't worry about it
c.) break up, because you feel that once things get to the level that the chemistry is gone the relationship isn't worth saving

?

Option A: Tell him that you feel that way.

Then try to do exciting things or events to have that spark going again. Something to try and keep the relationship alive.

[saysjessi]

Question for the girls:

If you had a boyfriend and you felt like things were kind of going south. Not necessarily any fights, but the chemistry was starting to disappear, things were getting stale,

Would you:
a.) tell him that you feel that way
b.) not tell him so that he doesn't worry about it
c.) break up, because you feel that once things get to the level that the chemistry is gone the relationship isn't worth saving
d.) other (if so, please explain what)

?

the mature thing to do is Choice A and work it out together, and come to a mutual decision (stay together or not). but to be honest, i've always just broken it off with the guy.

[Lie]

Very interesting! Thank you guys.

[forum-love]

-what mean everytime you turn somewhere.. you see some girl sit somewhere where you guys see each other...

-what mean when some gurl no talk online.. but when you too meet... she act all upclose too you n talk blah blah...

-what mean when some gurl try too look four you in the mornin...


LOOL... kinda hard when ppl walk back n ford n just look watcha up tooo...

1.uhh.. what bout they stare four like 5secon... then later stare again.. then later go in somewere for away n stare 10sec....

2.im girrl to here... so what you talkin bout... N NO... im ugly and fat...

3.diff like fat n ugly... ye...

alright
first question,is very vague.what makes u think so? it could be coincidental... or she wants to befriend you,or she doesn't like you.

second question,some ppl prefer face-to-face contact. or it could just be that she is a fake

third question,too vague....she just needs to see/talk to you?

honestly,i did think u were a guy. must've been the guy pics in ur sig...

i still think that ur probably over thinking it...but even if they really were staring at you coz u were 'fat and ugly',do u want to get affected by it? for me body-image should equal health. if i have a healthy physique ( i said physique,not weight) then i am satisfied. I can't lie and tell u that ppl are gonna stop staring. but do u know why some ppl do stare? some ppl stare to mock, while some stare because they kinda feel sorry.

What i think you can do is try to figure out what YOU want. Ur asking a lot of similar type questions,and from what i see,it is kinda bothersome. (feel free to correct me). I think one good way to start is by talking to either ur friends or family.

ps- i do apologize if i have come across as being mean. i did think that u were some conceited guy. and the 'reply later post',meant just that.
check this out if u want

Question for the girls:

If you had a boyfriend and you felt like things were kind of going south. Not necessarily any fights, but the chemistry was starting to disappear, things were getting stale,

Would you:
a.) tell him that you feel that way
b.) not tell him so that he doesn't worry about it
c.) break up, because you feel that once things get to the level that the chemistry is gone the relationship isn't worth saving
d.) other (if so, please explain what)

?

first,i would talk to me close friends about it. second, i would probably talk about it on soompi lol.( btw,the 2nd is optional) third,i would attempt to talk to him about it,or just try to work it out with him through some hang-outs.

if all that fails,hopefully i would be sane enough to break-up with him.