[therey]

girls: lets say there were 2 guys. one of them u met during summer (like summer school, church, mission etc) and he was pretty good looking, nice, tall, etc. and there was this other guy that you see everyday at school who is just average but nice and pretty cute. if both of the guys liked you, which one would u choose and y? you get to see the guy you met during summer every summer cause he lives close to your home while the other guy goes to your school.

[mintcracker]

^ For me, it depends on who I click with, and their personality.

I won't just go for the better looking guy just cos he's good looking.

But some girls do lol.

[myxo]

girls: lets say there were 2 guys. one of them u met during summer (like summer school, church, mission etc) and he was pretty good looking, nice, tall, etc. and there was this other guy that you see everyday at school who is just average but nice and pretty cute. if both of the guys liked you, which one would u choose and y? you get to see the guy you met during summer every summer cause he lives close to your home while the other guy goes to your school.

You're not giving me much to work with here. Such vague characteristics, but I'll give you a shallow answer as well. I'll pick the guy who goes to my school just because it's that much easier to deal with a relationship where I can see the guy every now and then.

hi, something i've been thinking about.

so there's this girl that i like, and she has like a best friend that i also talk to. the bestfriend knows that i like her friend. you know how when two bestfriends talk, i know they talk about things that guys mention to them. like, the bestfriend probably mention to her friend that i like her. sometimes the bestfriend would ask me.. "so when are you gonna ask her out?". what does this mean? bestfriends often talk about discussions of someone liking a person right?

Telling someone's best friend is almost like telling the person yourself... except you don't get the reward of looking brave for mustering the courage to tell her so yourself.

i need help with something...

there's this new girl at work who got a crush on me. she told everybody that she like me so now her friends keep asking me if i would ask her out and if i think shes hot. i ask her friends why they keep asking me that, just leave me alone already. i can't say no cuz the girl that got a crush on me is gonna get hurt and possibly cry so im trying to find a way to do it so everybody can shut up and let me do my work and go home. everyday its the same question..

Her Friends:Hey do you think *name* is hot... wanna go out with her?
Me:STOP ASKING ME THE SAME THING EVERYDAY, JEEZ!!

^it's like that everyday. i try to change the subject but then they bring it back up again.

Man you're nice. I have an ex who was trying to tell this girl that was crushing on him off by saying that he didn't like her because she looks like "godzilla." Poor girl. If only more guys were nice like you.

Either way you're going to hurt her. Might as well do it the easy way-- by actually confronting her about how you feel. It sounds like a hard thing to do, but the results are worth the effort if done correctly.

does height matter in a relationship? like if the guy is 5'3 and girl is 5'8?

I don't think you're here to ask for vague responses, so I'll tell it like it is. That guy is over half a head shorter than the girl (without heels). No guy with one heck of a personality can make up for that height difference to me. Shallow? Yes.

[marvinoppa]

would you ever kiss a rabbit between the ears?

[supa'Wanki]

i have questions about feelings.

How long does it take in average for you girls to generate feelings for a guy(i dont believe in love at first sight)? What does the guy usually do that makes you feel that way? What if it's really awkward/quiet when first talking to a guy? does that change anything? Is it possible to "click" with a guy he's really quiet?

I ask the weirdest confusingly worded questions ever...

[lilmzwhoa]

i have questions about feelings.

How long does it take in average for you girls to generate feelings for a guy(i dont believe in love at first sight)? What does the guy usually do that makes you feel that way? What if it's really awkward/quiet when first talking to a guy? does that change anything? Is it possible to "click" with a guy he's really quiet?

I ask the weirdest confusingly worded questions ever...

i'd say...it depends on how often you guys talk with eachother.
say if i was to talk to you everyday..and you always make me laugh and always give me good compliments here and there such as "wow, lookin' good today" or whatever, and just keep smiling, then you'll have my attention in less than a month.
a girl's gonna have to start feeling comfortable with you in order for her to start having feelings for you.

there's some girls who prefer quiet guys, but i like mine to be able to start a conversation.
(:

[Xiaoba1tu]

girls: lets say there were 2 guys. one of them u met during summer (like summer school, church, mission etc) and he was pretty good looking, nice, tall, etc. and there was this other guy that you see everyday at school who is just average but nice and pretty cute. if both of the guys liked you, which one would u choose and y? you get to see the guy you met during summer every summer cause he lives close to your home while the other guy goes to your school.

I would go with the one I'm most comfortable being around with. Or "click" better with.
Also, we have to have things in common so we have stuff to talk about and share the same values/attitudes.
For eg. doesn't smoke, doesn't do illegal drugs, educated, no tatts etc.

How long does it take in average for you girls to generate feelings for a guy(i dont believe in love at first sight)?

What does the guy usually do that makes you feel that way?

What if it's really awkward/quiet when first talking to a guy? does that change anything?

Is it possible to "click" with a guy he's really quiet?

It depends on "how fast they move", if you know what I mean. Like, if they show interest/care towards me earlier on, and it's effective then the feelings would come.

Just showing affection, giving attention, showing genuine care and things like that. But only towards me.

I think that would be harder to generate feelings for someone like that, because communication is important otherwise you don't really get to know the person, if you don't talk.
If it becomes ok after the first few meetings of awkward silences, then perhaps there could be feelings? Depends though, I think these feelings are best developed over a longer period of time.

This question is very similar to the previous, see above.

[Juli~<3]

AIM
gf: brb going to go take a shower
me: kk i'll miss you haha
gf: lol
gf: try not to
me:lol o ok

what does sheee mean try not tooo?!

shes just joking, but its really cute that you thought to ask here haha

does height matter in a relationship? like if the guy is 5'3 and girl is 5'8?

for me, yes.
but its different for everyone.

[supa'Wanki]

i'd say...it depends on how often you guys talk with eachother.
say if i was to talk to you everyday..and you always make me laugh and always give me good compliments here and there such as "wow, lookin' good today" or whatever, and just keep smiling, then you'll have my attention in less than a month.
a girl's gonna have to start feeling comfortable with you in order for her to start having feelings for you.

there's some girls who prefer quiet guys, but i like mine to be able to start a conversation.
(:

WOW about a month? thats really slow... =/ i've always asked for a date in a week or less, but I guess having feelings for a guy comes after going out on dates? even after being together? I think quiet guys would get boring for a girl, same way a quiet girl gets too boring if she doesnt open up.

It depends on "how fast they move", if you know what I mean. Like, if they show interest/care towards me earlier on, and it's effective then the feelings would come.

Just showing affection, giving attention, showing genuine care and things like that. But only towards me.

I think that would be harder to generate feelings for someone like that, because communication is important otherwise you don't really get to know the person, if you don't talk.
If it becomes ok after the first few meetings of awkward silences, then perhaps there could be feelings? Depends though, I think these feelings are best developed over a longer period of time.

This question is very similar to the previous, see above.

nah the previous question above mine is too generalized on looks. I've always thought it'd be a couple hours or days at max to where you start having feelings for someone. I'm guessing it takes a long time for girls? maybe even after you become boyfriend/girlfriend? Idk.. awkward silences aren't going to go anywhere if theres no physical attraction either, haha.

[superwingetjestringetje]

i need help with something...

there's this new girl at work who got a crush on me. she told everybody that she like me so now her friends keep asking me if i would ask her out and if i think shes hot. i ask her friends why they keep asking me that, just leave me alone already. i can't say no cuz the girl that got a crush on me is gonna get hurt and possibly cry so im trying to find a way to do it so everybody can shut up and let me do my work and go home. everyday its the same question..

Her Friends:Hey do you think *name* is hot... wanna go out with her?
Me:STOP ASKING ME THE SAME THING EVERYDAY, JEEZ!!

^it's like that everyday. i try to change the subject but then they bring it back up again.

Just tell them you have a girlfriend or tell somebody else at your work that you have a girlfriend...then soon everybody knows including that girl...( only at your work!)... 0 0 it's that easy haha...then she will stop having a crush on you!

[INSANE]

Just tell them you have a girlfriend or tell somebody else at your work that you have a girlfriend...then soon everybody knows including that girl...( only at your work!)... 0 0 it's that easy haha...then she will stop having a crush on you!

just hope she's not one of those girls who like to be a homewrecker. =x
GOOD LUCK!

[Telmedragon]

^ Erm, I really wouldn't worry too much about it. Seems like she's just kidding to me.

@Telmedragon
Honestly, if I was your friend, I'd probably be really uncomfortable with talking to you; unless you were really close to me, that is. I agree with your friend; if you don't want to have a relationship with her, I think it's best that you just keep quiet about it. Liking someone isn't a crime, don't feel like you have to stop just b/c she's your friend. If you find that you really do like her a lot, then that's the time when you should tell her-- not when it's just a crush.

It's not the fact that she's my friend that wants me to stop liking her. It's the fact that whenever I think about her, I try not to, and then I just get extremely depressed and such. I hate being in that sad state. I've liked her for almost a year now.

[shakki]

would you ever kiss a rabbit between the ears?

hahahaha
ur funny

[jaykidding]

It's not the fact that she's my friend that wants me to stop liking her. It's the fact that whenever I think about her, I try not to, and then I just get extremely depressed and such. I hate being in that sad state. I've liked her for almost a year now.

But. Why would you feel sad? (Never been in your position, so just wondering) Is she interested in other guys? Well, in that case, if you really can't hold it in then just tell her. But if you don't get a good response, just act casual anyways and change the subject. She'll probably go with the flow-- I would. If you act all awkward, most likely she will too.

[Telmedragon]

But. Why would you feel sad? (Never been in your position, so just wondering) Is she interested in other guys? Well, in that case, if you really can't hold it in then just tell her. But if you don't get a good response, just act casual anyways and change the subject. She'll probably go with the flow-- I would. If you act all awkward, most likely she will too.

Hmm, unsure how to explain this:
I like her, I know it wouldn't work out for us, I know she doesn't like me, but then whenever I think about her, it stabs me in the heart to know I can't be with her. So then I just wanna rid myself of the feeling of liking her. Then my mind just goes crazy I guess O_O.

I'm afraid that if I tell her, I'll lose the friendship I have with her right now, which I cherish.

[meliawy]

I need some help please...

Well today I just went up to a girl I had no clue who she was or anything at school. I kind of asked her out on a date. She said she'll see if her dad could drop her off. So I took that as a kind of good sign. Onward, past the senseless blabbering, my problem is:

What am I going to talk to her about?

I know I know the original lines of "be yourself". Sometimes its just kind of hard to be yourself when you're afraid to make a complete fool out of yourself or carrying out a dead convo. Help? x.x.

You can talk about anything under the sun really. The key is to try and find a few topics that both of you are interested in and can talk more in depth about. Personally, guys make a fool out of themselves when they fail to consider other people's point of views/ are not open-minded and try to argue to the death for someone to accept their point of views. One of the trick to keep conversations going is to steer away from questions that only require "yes" or "no" as answers. Ask her to elaborate. If she said, "I don't know" or simply shrugs, that usually points to disinterest and you should move on to another topic.

Good luck

i have questions about feelings.

How long does it take in average for you girls to generate feelings for a guy(i dont believe in love at first sight)? What does the guy usually do that makes you feel that way? What if it's really awkward/quiet when first talking to a guy? does that change anything? Is it possible to "click" with a guy he's really quiet?

I ask the weirdest confusingly worded questions ever...

Depends on each girl. I tend to fall really fast unfortunately... give a week or two quite sad actually. Hmmm... usually it has something to do with the way they carry themselves or the initial impressions they leave on me? As shallow as it seems, I do tend to go for the looks first. But gradually, over time, I tend to like them more when I find something in them that really stand out to me, be it the way they smile, how well-versed they are, their intriguing personalities or even how they shuffle their feet. I cannot really explain it.

Even if the first few encounters were really awkward, I realize that they do not really matter when I do click with the guys later on. Sure I am a bit wary at first, but I am fairly open-minded, I give people two more chances to redeem themselves

Frankly speaking, most of my first encounters with guys were awkward since I am not exactly approachable to say the least.

And I don't quite understand what you mean by the last question. Lol. But I suppose it is possible to click with someone who is generally quiet if we got to know each other on a one-on-one basis?

would you ever kiss a rabbit between the ears?

YES! Since I used to do that to my hamsters... ...

Hmm, unsure how to explain this:
I like her, I know it wouldn't work out for us, I know she doesn't like me, but then whenever I think about her, it stabs me in the heart to know I can't be with her. So then I just wanna rid myself of the feeling of liking her. Then my mind just goes crazy I guess O_O.

I'm afraid that if I tell her, I'll lose the friendship I have with her right now, which I cherish.

My advice is to listen to your friend's advice: try to keep your feelings to yourself as much as possible (since you are not looking for a relationship) and I take it that you'd rather keep a friend rather than lose one. Frankly speaking, you can't just stop liking someone as and when you want to, (but if there is someone out there who knows how to do it, please share with me! Hehehe) losing feelings for someone tends to happen gradually. It does suck liking someone even though you know you have no future with that person... happened to me before. Buuutttt... I stuck with it, got over it and looking back, realized I have nothing but good memories from it

Another option that I can think of is that you turn your focus to another girl completely; that seems to work sometimes, kind of defeats the purpose if you ask me, but it might work

Or you can start a journal and pen down your thoughts and feelings rather than keeping it all inside, vent your frustrations a bit... is that gay? That is kind of gay, isn't it? But I did it, and it helped rather than having the feelings kill me inside every now and then.

[burntvinyl]

This has nothing to do with a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship type question.

So girls, how would you react if one of your closest friends (but not your closest) just "dumped" you as a friend? Kinda out of the blue?

[meliawy]

This has nothing to do with a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship type question.

So girls, how would you react if one of your closest friends (but not your closest) just "dumped" you as a friend? Kinda out of the blue?

I feel sad and even angry sometimes... but really, aside from family, you cannot expect people to remain in your life forever, they have their own lives even if it means having to move away and out of yours sometimes.

I've been dumped and I've been responsible for dumping (not proud of it by the way). The worst part is that most of the time, they are due to differing interests. Yeah, it really hurts when I first had to deal with it but then I'd think we'd just drifted apart and that's just the way life is sometimes. You gain some, and you lose some...

[shakki]

This has nothing to do with a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship type question.

So girls, how would you react if one of your closest friends (but not your closest) just "dumped" you as a friend? Kinda out of the blue?

be angry
dont forgive them
their loss!

[ms. rachellica]

This has nothing to do with a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship type question.

So girls, how would you react if one of your closest friends (but not your closest) just "dumped" you as a friend? Kinda out of the blue?

i've had this happen b4 nd i was pisseddd. but what can u do? better late than never. at least u get to see their true colors. if they dun want me as a friend, then it shows that even if i did forgive them, they might jus feel the same way over again.