[shirotaka]

Hello ladies, so I'm back for another question this post will be kind of long:

About last Thursday I saw a girl I thought was cute and so I had the courage to go up to her and ask her if she wanted to grab lunch since it was we're in an off campus school. At first she said it depended on whether or not she had to do something. It was a honest reason since one of her friends said she did that often. So I ask her the day after maybe we could do it some other time? She said sure and I assumed things were alright. i had no reason to worry. But when I come back from the weekend to school she's hiding behind her friends when she sees me, looks the other way, and walks fast so I won't talk to her. I'm being just a little brief here.

The two reasons that were conjured up was that 1. She likes a guy and doesn't know what to do or 2. She feels intimidated

Are there any other reasons for this? Also what can I do?

Thanks for all the help in the past and help now would be appreciated.

[shakki]

would you let me take you out for coffee?

HAHA
NO!
jk.
lol

[foreverursVi]

But the fact that I am not interested in you means that I am not interested to meet you see/ get to know you/ even just to get coffee with you. Btw, if this is a trick question, you are a big boy now, I'm sure you will be fine getting coffee on your own.

Ouch.........that hurts....lol

Anyway, a scenario for the ladies:

Let's say Miss A fancies Mr. B a lot. Miss A flirts with Mr. B quite a fair bit and she feels that Mr. B knows of her feelings for him. But since she is the shy kind, she decides to wait for Mr. B to make the first move. Miss A has a best friend, Miss C, who lives in a different state and she told Miss C all about Mr. B. It is safe to say that Miss C is very well aware of how much Miss A likes Mr. B.

So, one day Miss C decides to visit Miss A for a holiday. On one of the nights out in town, Miss A took Miss C out to a club together with Mr. B and several other friends. Even though Miss C has heard a lot and seen some of Mr. B's photos, that night was the first time she saw him. So, somehow, into the night, Miss A had to watch Miss C and Mr. B flirt like there is no tomorrow. Miss C was clearly inebriated, but there was an impression that she was still well aware of what she is doing, she was touchy-feely and even made out with Mr. B during the night. Last but not least, whatever happened between Miss C and Mr. B was just a fling for the night... they were both not serious about it.

My question is, does Miss A have any right to be angry with Miss C? Does Miss A have any right to be angry with Mr. B? Reasons to support your answers will be greatly appreciated too (:

My answer would be yes. Miss A should be furious with Miss C. Coming from a girl's pov, if you take the time to tell a girlfriend how much you like the guy (given that girls are more expressive than guys when it comes to the other sex) and the girlfriend clearly knows, then the guy is off limits. Even if Miss C was inebriated, its still a no-no. I believe guys have "bro's over hoes"? With regards to Mr. B, he's a guy.....and some guys are just plain dense. Feeling that he knows how she feels is not the same thing as him definitely knowing how she feels. Somtimes guys need things spelled out for them otherwise they'd be completely clueless. If Miss A still feels that Mr. B is "worth" it, then get a move on it.

[7thprincess]

Hello ladies, so I'm back for another question this post will be kind of long:

About last Thursday I saw a girl I thought was cute and so I had the courage to go up to her and ask her if she wanted to grab lunch since it was we're in an off campus school. At first she said it depended on whether or not she had to do something. It was a honest reason since one of her friends said she did that often. So I ask her the day after maybe we could do it some other time? She said sure and I assumed things were alright. i had no reason to worry. But when I come back from the weekend to school she's hiding behind her friends when she sees me, looks the other way, and walks fast so I won't talk to her. I'm being just a little brief here.

The two reasons that were conjured up was that 1. She likes a guy and doesn't know what to do or 2. She feels intimidated

Are there any other reasons for this? Also what can I do?

Thanks for all the help in the past and help now would be appreciated.

She's probably shy. Or maybe she thinks you are disgusting. Weird, huh? Girls are so strange. LOL.

[foreverursVi]

Hello ladies, so I'm back for another question this post will be kind of long:

About last Thursday I saw a girl I thought was cute and so I had the courage to go up to her and ask her if she wanted to grab lunch since it was we're in an off campus school. At first she said it depended on whether or not she had to do something. It was a honest reason since one of her friends said she did that often. So I ask her the day after maybe we could do it some other time? She said sure and I assumed things were alright. i had no reason to worry. But when I come back from the weekend to school she's hiding behind her friends when she sees me, looks the other way, and walks fast so I won't talk to her. I'm being just a little brief here.

The two reasons that were conjured up was that 1. She likes a guy and doesn't know what to do or 2. She feels intimidated

Are there any other reasons for this? Also what can I do?

Thanks for all the help in the past and help now would be appreciated.

if you're not afraid of her reaction, maybe you should just ask her why.....or at least her friends why she's doing that

[CriticalHit]

Hello ladies, so I'm back for another question this post will be kind of long:

About last Thursday I saw a girl I thought was cute and so I had the courage to go up to her and ask her if she wanted to grab lunch since it was we're in an off campus school. At first she said it depended on whether or not she had to do something. It was a honest reason since one of her friends said she did that often. So I ask her the day after maybe we could do it some other time? She said sure and I assumed things were alright. i had no reason to worry. But when I come back from the weekend to school she's hiding behind her friends when she sees me, looks the other way, and walks fast so I won't talk to her. I'm being just a little brief here.

The two reasons that were conjured up was that 1. She likes a guy and doesn't know what to do or 2. She feels intimidated

Are there any other reasons for this? Also what can I do?

Thanks for all the help in the past and help now would be appreciated.

Hm... I can think of only three reasons:

1) Shes not attracted to you and said "sure" without really wanting to follow through,
and now she wants to avoid you.

2) She's extremely shy.

3) She's playing hard to get.

Yeah... I'm not really helpful... but really there could be a million reasons why she did that.
Just ask her friends for straight-up answers. Or you could just ask her, it's more straight forward =)

[shirotaka]

She's probably shy. Or maybe she thinks you are disgusting. Weird, huh? Girls are so strange. LOL.

Thanks for the straight answer haha. I'd seriously rather just have people tell me instead of being cowards about it. I wasn't one so why should they? =P.

if you're not afraid of her reaction, maybe you should just ask her why.....or at least her friends why she's doing that

I'm not but I want to straighten things out and I'd have to walk really fast to catch up to her haha. If I don't get a straight forward answer from her I'd have to be quick about asking her friends. Sigh. Thank you for the advice.

Hm... I can think of only three reasons:

1) Shes not attracted to you and said "sure" without really wanting to follow through,
and now she wants to avoid you.

2) She's extremely shy.

3) She's playing hard to get.

Yeah... I'm not really helpful... but really there could be a million reasons why she did that.
Just ask her friends for straight-up answers. Or you could just ask her, it's more straight forward =)

1. Well this one sucks for me since I can't really change it eh? Thanks for the reply.

2. I don't know, thats probably not very likely...

3. I haven't really seen a girl play hard to get when avoiding and such. But I guess this is possible?

[shakki]

Hello ladies, so I'm back for another question this post will be kind of long:

About last Thursday I saw a girl I thought was cute and so I had the courage to go up to her and ask her if she wanted to grab lunch since it was we're in an off campus school. At first she said it depended on whether or not she had to do something. It was a honest reason since one of her friends said she did that often. So I ask her the day after maybe we could do it some other time? She said sure and I assumed things were alright. i had no reason to worry. But when I come back from the weekend to school she's hiding behind her friends when she sees me, looks the other way, and walks fast so I won't talk to her. I'm being just a little brief here.

The two reasons that were conjured up was that 1. She likes a guy and doesn't know what to do or 2. She feels intimidated

Are there any other reasons for this? Also what can I do?

Thanks for all the help in the past and help now would be appreciated.

i think she feels really awkward around you.
OR
she wants you to go their and get her!

it might be a test you never knoww

[shirotaka]

i think she feels really awkward around you.
OR
she wants you to go their and get her!

it might be a test you never knoww

Haha thanks for the optimism but I'm pretty sure its just awkward. Although it didn't seem awkward the first 2 days...

[shakki]

Haha thanks for the optimism but I'm pretty sure its just awkward. Although it didn't seem awkward the first 2 days...

haha.
maybe.
but i dont think you did anything wrong...
maybe the girl is weird.

[marvinoppa]

But the fact that I am not interested in you means that I am not interested to meet you see/ get to know you/ even just to get coffee with you. Btw, if this is a trick question, you are a big boy now, I'm sure you will be fine getting coffee on your own.

you drive a hard bargain. ok ok, you can take me out to coffee.

[Xiaoba1tu]

Hello ladies, so I'm back for another question this post will be kind of long:

-shortened-

The two reasons that were conjured up was that 1. She likes a guy and doesn't know what to do or 2. She feels intimidated

Are there any other reasons for this? Also what can I do?

Thanks for all the help in the past and help now would be appreciated.

Your two reasons there, are probably not the case.
Like others have said, she's probably shy over the fact that someone asked her out and probably hasn't been with many guys before/ has very few guy friends.
She may possibly like you too.
Do her friends tease her when you're nearby or approaching? (can be 10m away or less)
That could mean she likes you too, but not necessarily. Most of the time it is.

What can you do? Maybe try to talk to her again and ask her why she's avoiding you?
Ok. For the walks-away-from-you-very-fast thing, that might mean she thinks you're a creep or just generally shy about a guy talking to her and stuff.

[crayon851]

So I've been around and talked to a lot of girls about what they look for in a guy and the conclusion? They want a nice guy, whatever that means.

Guys,

Have you ever talked to a girl you're interested in and who has been giving you all the "signs",or at least you think so anyway, to turn around and reject you? Especially after saying that she wants a nice, intelligent, and caring guy and that looks don't matter as long as he meshes well with her. On your end, you're thinking "Oh man this is awesome, I fit all those traits! It's definitely a go!" Finally when you ask her out, she says no and crushes your eedy beedy heart. Then after you've given it a few minutes to settle in, it's like it slaps you in the face like a big middle finger! "I am all of those! What the hell?" you exclaim in your head, while maintaining some composure on the phone. What she's trying to say is, you're not intelligent, nice, caring and you are one ugly mofo.

I'm speaking partly from experience, though this has only happened with one girl but she was one I really liked.

So what do girls really want, aside from a really hot dude with lots of cash?

[blush]

In all honesty, for me, looks do matter.. just, it's not the most important thing.
For me, I want a guy that's basically nice, caring, and yeah, intelligent, but don't we all?
But I usually reject guys is because I don't want to be in a relationship.. or that I think that the guy might be clingy.
Another trait I want in a guy: independence. Of course, it's never mentioned when guys themselves ask me, but if a guy seems clingy to me, it's pretty much gonna stay in the friend zone for a very long time.

But mostly its because I don't want to be in a relationship or I just don't have that little 'spark' with them. Yeah, those traits matter, but so does that little connection, doesn't it? :|

[lilatlbabishorti]

hmm just because she wants a intelligent nice caring guy doesn't mean she would accepted you just cause you had some traits of what she wants. And i seriously doubt that majority of us girls would want a hot dude with lots of cash..money isnt everything. And did she really said you were the opposite of what she wants?

-Girls have different wants and needs so pretty much you have to ask yourself what do YOU want in a girl...
-im not a guy as you can tell (although i still like to point it out to you)

[mintcracker]

well lots of ppl fit those traits, but does it mean she likes every one of those guys??


Eh.

I actually don't think looks matter that much, I've liked alot of guys that were...let's just say I would be nice to call them average.


I guess the most important thing is both of you clicking.

[colloquy]

Tbh, women rarely say what they really want. "A nice guy" is 99% a lie. Women also lie to themselves on a daily basis, so they may not be aware of it. but just see the type of guys that get the girls.

[Kiribati]

I think their definition of "nice guy" is different than the guy's definition of "how to be nice to a girl".


(emphasis on sarcasm...)
Girl's definition is - a guy who "cares" about her, but lets her have her space, a guy who has his own "thing," but is there when she needs him, a guy who knows what (expensive) gifts to get her, without overdoing it. And they're happy, until they realise that they've just been with our (the guy's) definition of a jerk. Then they get sad and wonder why they never get the (guy's definition of a) nice guy, even though they've probably dated more than enough, but never really liked 'em.

Guy's definition (or a guy who actually is....nice) - a guy who "cares" about her, but lets her have her space, a guy who has his own "thing," but is there when she needs him, a guy who knows what gifts to get her, without overdoing it. Only problem is, some girls can't tell the difference, and usually the jerks that take advantage of this and make it a loss for the "nice guy."

Catch my drift?
But there really is no nice guy, is there?

[Villian]

So I've been around and talked to a lot of girls about what they look for in a guy and the conclusion? They want a nice guy, whatever that means.

Guys,

Have you ever talked to a girl you're interested in and who has been giving you all the "signs",or at least you think so anyway, to turn around and reject you? Especially after saying that she wants a nice, intelligent, and caring guy and that looks don't matter as long as he meshes well with her. On your end, you're thinking "Oh man this is awesome, I fit all those traits! It's definitely a go!" Finally when you ask her out, she says no and crushes your eedy beedy heart. Then after you've given it a few minutes to settle in, it's like it slaps you in the face like a big middle finger! "I am all of those! What the hell?" you exclaim in your head, while maintaining some composure on the phone. What she's trying to say is, you're not intelligent, nice, caring and you are one ugly mofo.

I'm speaking partly from experience, though this has only happened with one girl but she was one I really liked.

So what do girls really want, aside from a really hot dude with lots of cash?

they dont know what they want, thats why you just gotta act like a sells person

and convince why they should pick you!

duh! silly goose

[meliawy]

Girls are not lying when they say they want those things... they just tend to forget to mention the part where they need to feel at least some chemistry with the guy. Which is understandable since "chemistry" is subjective for every girl and it is indescribable.

So, maybe you do fit all those descriptions, the only gamble is figuring out whether she has any feelings for you or not in the first place.

Frankly speaking, this applies to everyone, regardless of gender.