[CriticalHit]

I always meet the wrong girl when I start being nice to them, because my true self is just being annoyed at everything and being mean..
Whenever this happens, the girl that I'm being nice to is actually having somewhat of a feeling towards me..
But when I find out her true personality and her weird funky characteristic, even though she's being herself..
I start to lose interest towards her, because she's never thinking before she talks and other stupid little things..
It's not even a mistake for her, because she's being herself.. But I start to get my true self coming back again..
Being annoyed at her and I start treating her in a mean way.. Sometimes, get in her face and pissing her off..

Is there a problem with me or is there a problem with the girls I'm talking to..?
Because I really can't tell and when I can't tell.. I assume it's the girl's fault and treat her like she ruined everything.

(Sorry about the no-more-than-2-replies rule but this question really applies to me o.o)

That's funny, because there's a guy I was talking to that is almost acting exactly like that. He was nice at first but being myself I'm pretty weird and after he found out I'm kinda weird he didn't talk as much and in fact he is quite mean now. My personal feelings about that is that I feel hurt and angry because this guy was talking to me and all of a sudden he's giving me an attitude, and I don't even know what I did wrong. I have no idea that the guy might have been thinking that I'm too weird and he's not interested in talking to me anymore. So from the girls point of view she may be really confused about why you "suddenly" gave her an attitude; but its not sudden, it's because you don't like her personality. And not that there's anything wrong with being weird of course...

From a more backing off view, you're just being yourself. You don't like her personality? That's fine, you don't have to force youself to like anyone. Who you like is your choice. However giving her an attitude might hurt her feelings and like you said, make her pissed off. So in that way you are not thinking about the girls feelings. If you don't care about her feelings, then that's too bad... you could be nice and instead of acting mean to her you could just not talk as much to her. You know, the whole "treat others as you want others to treat you" thing.

But it's all your own choice. You can stay like the way you are because you're being you, or you can be a nicer person and not be a meanie to girls whose personality you don't like.

Hope that answers you question...

[hippiehop]

I always meet the wrong girl when I start being nice to them, because my true self is just being annoyed at everything and being mean..
Whenever this happens, the girl that I'm being nice to is actually having somewhat of a feeling towards me..
But when I find out her true personality and her weird funky characteristic, even though she's being herself..
I start to lose interest towards her, because she's never thinking before she talks and other stupid little things..
It's not even a mistake for her, because she's being herself.. But I start to get my true self coming back again..
Being annoyed at her and I start treating her in a mean way.. Sometimes, get in her face and pissing her off..

Is there a problem with me or is there a problem with the girls I'm talking to..?
Because I really can't tell and when I can't tell.. I assume it's the girl's fault and treat her like she ruined everything.

All I can say is... don't mask who you really are. You want a girl to like you for you, not for who you think you should be. It comes off as a shock if you all of a sudden become mean when you were really nice before. Sure, you want a girl to like you, but aren't you lying to her this way? But I also guess it depends on what you find annoying about her, because it might be reasonable or it might just be you.

[MoiraElla]

(Sorry about the no-more-than-2-replies rule but this question really applies to me o.o)

I think the threadmaker erased that rule.

anyways, i have a problem and i need help from my fellow soompi girls.
it's not all that complicated actually, i just need very good suggestions on what to do. I know what i should be doing but i need push or someone to point it out to me. Anyways, i wouldn't say i have a boyfriend. I sort of do, I guess. the relationship i have with him is actually very complicated and i don't want to be too detailed about it but if you must know, please pm me. Anyways, he left more than a month ago to juvy. sort of like a jail but for the youth. I'm basically waiting for him to come back, but I haven't visited him enough. When i write to him, he doesn't respond to them. I can't see him because I don't live very close to the center but...when i have time, I do. But it's hard to, i try to make time to but I can't. So i write to him, but he NEVER responds to me, and for his friends that do visit him often, he doesn't tell them to give me any messages. It would be nice if he did, but I don't think he did. Now, I'm basically waiting for him to come back which is WHO KNOWS when. and, so now, there's a ANOTHER guy that i knew who recently just talked to me again after a few months --close to a year. and he started talking to me daily now. And I sing for fun, so he asked me if i can sing with him and his friend, they're rappers and basically they're asking me to do a collaboration with them. I was like sure, why noT? that sounds fun. but just yesterday, the guy told me that he had a surprise song for me. i was like O_O oh man, i think this guy is liking me. that's my initial thought. i know, a little cocky but this guy, he's really.....like..he has his heart on his sleeve. he likes girls very easily i guess. and a year ago, we sort of did like each other. To me, I think he's continuing from where we left off....so, the thing is, I already have someone in mind but seems like he doesn't seem to be trying to make up this time that he's away..it would be nice to send at least ONE letter, cmon. OH and these two guys, they know each other. ok? they're not friends but they sort of have the same friends. I don't know what to do. I don't like this rapper though. Should i tell him that I have someone in mind? I don't want to hurt him. But i'm not going to lead him on either.
sigh thanks for whoever's taking the time to read this (:
please ask me any questions if confused.

[DBSK_love]

I always meet the wrong girl when I start being nice to them, because my true self is just being annoyed at everything and being mean..
Whenever this happens, the girl that I'm being nice to is actually having somewhat of a feeling towards me..
But when I find out her true personality and her weird funky characteristic, even though she's being herself..
I start to lose interest towards her, because she's never thinking before she talks and other stupid little things..
It's not even a mistake for her, because she's being herself.. But I start to get my true self coming back again..
Being annoyed at her and I start treating her in a mean way.. Sometimes, get in her face and pissing her off..

Is there a problem with me or is there a problem with the girls I'm talking to..?
Because I really can't tell and when I can't tell.. I assume it's the girl's fault and treat her like she ruined everything.

well...first off the girl does have problem...if she doesnt think before she talks then that can be rude in a lot of cases

otherwise for you....dont assume its the girls fault, think about what u did too, and also since u werent being yourself in the first place, seeing a change in you could have pissed her off...like u said shes jus being herself and if u cant accept her personality then shes not right for you

[koumi]

All irreverent posts are deleted and removed. Please stick to the original topic and don't post anything inappropriate.

[1lasthope]

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[wasabi29]

^ But the person who asked was in his twenties

[Antz]

Here's a question!

For those of you who have been/are in love, how/when did you know you were in love?

And yes, I realize for every person it's different. I'm just curious about everyone's experiences. XD

I knew it when the feeling wasn't like any other feeling that I've had for another guy. I thought about him a lot, how much he could change me and that I missed him even from being apart from him for five minutes.

[1lasthope]

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[wasabi29]

So...? Is he in a long term relationship? Was his question: what should I do for my 1 or 2 year aniversary? (I don't remember the question already, lol)
'cause if he was to do something so dramatic (even for one month aniversary) i think most girls (especially non-drama watchers) would be a bit freaked out...

I really don't feel like arguing today. But your reasoning's weak. Just for the sake of this thread, let's just end it. Again, it's my opinion and I don't think it's wrong since this is what the thread's all about.

[1lasthope]

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[what~the~vu]

i catch this girl glancing at me a lot during class. meaning....?

[predator]

i catch this girl glancing at me a lot during class. meaning....?

I think it could mean a couple of things:
- there's something on your face
- she likes you
- or you're just good eye candy =]

[monchichi]

^^

XD Agreed. Either she likes you, you've got something on your face or you're pleasant to look at.

Just stare at her back with a smile and if she blushes, then usually there's some sort of feeling in there.

[givemecheese]

couple of q's from a 16-year old male.

1. How do u know if a girl likes you? i mean.. if she singles you out to walk with you to talk, does that mean shes being friendly, or is she interested?

2. In your opinion, what do girls like the most (gift for the b day or sumthin)?

3. I actually.. never really asked somebody out.. it was always the other way.. How would you ask out a girl you're interested in??

1. singling a guy out to walk with him might not mean anything. at best it might mena that she probably likes to talk to you as a friend. for me, it would mean that i definelty dont like the guy. because if i like someone, i would never make the first move, so i would not single him out. but this really does depends on the girl.

2. from guy friends: um stuff toys or.. hmm i dont know
bf: flowers, and a pretty necklace or some handmade , sentimental value thing. would be sweet

[[HyuNi]]

John, it hurts when you said my suggestions were ridiclous...Which one? Where? Your date seems typical and boring, you might as well take my suggestions in too.

Ooh~ I didn't mean for it to sound rude. I apologize if it came out that way.
I was trying to say that the date itself doesn't have to be a spectacular event that will be remembered forever. Once in a while to "wow" her is good, but especially for the first date, I wouldn't go to the extremes of some of the things you suggested. I guess my favorite dates could sound boring to you, but we both really enjoyed them the most. It must be one of those, you must have been there, things to understand.

I'm actually planning a "wow" her event the middle of august before we both start school again. I should ask you for some good ideas then!

I think he thinks that the ideas are ridiculous because you got them from dramas and... there's a reason it only happens in dramas O_O I mean, if someone i've been dating for a long time took me to a romantic dinner and paid some guy to play the voilin for me and then asked me to marry him, then yes,awesome idea. But if i'm still in high school and there isn't really a relationship yet (first or second date) i would be like, "WTF...?! too serious..."

Thanks for sticking up for me(?) haha I came back to check if anyone commented back and I was like "whoa, totally didn't mean it to sound that way."

If I wanted to live like the krn dramas, that could also mean that someone would get cancer, go blind, someone's mother faints, parents oppose me dating my girl, I'm a son of a wealthy family and am fabulously rich but unsatisfied with life, there's a car crash that leaves someone in the hospital in a coma for months, I find out that I am in some kind of love triangle, etc...

I think that's why we watch dramas... because it shows the best and worst of what can happen when we are living life. I wouldn't want to copy some krn drama for ideas because thats really unoriginal. I remeber this guy I used to know. He would say those lines from the krn movies to girls he liked and the girls atually fell for it. Obviously nothing ever lasted because they started to catch on that he really didn't mean them and was only saying them because he saw them in dramas.

^ But the person who asked was in his twenties

<-- I am in my 20's. haha I actually think I'm the same age as IEatPowder.
Maybe when we're young, we have this image of what a perfect date is...
but I think a date can be "perfect" by just simply spending the day with someone you really care about.

-John

[wasabi29]

I'm 17, so I guess I just wanted to be swept off my feet *swoosh*..hahahah.

[ChaeRinxx]

i catch this girl glancing at me a lot during class. meaning....?

Hm well it could mean,

1. she thinks you're kinda cute
2. shes kind of considering you as a person.
3. theres something on your face or on your person thats funny

haha yeahh thats what i think

[hoer]

Why do you talk so much and have an own opinion?

[CriticalHit]

i catch this girl glancing at me a lot during class. meaning....?

She thinks you're good looking, or like someone said considering you as a person.
Or you could be horrendously disfigured, but I doubt that's it .

Why do you talk so much and have an own opinion?

What do you mean talk so much?
You mean non-stop talking? Not all of us are like that...
It really depends, sometimes. If you ask a question and the girl gives you a long answer
like I am now, I'm trying to give you a good explanation. Of course some girls don't know
when to shut up and let you talk, are you talking about that kind?

And everyone has their own opinions. If everyone had the same opinion, the world would be really boring. ^^