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#651 megaSTEPxo

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Posted 20 July 2007 - 10:58 PM

QUOTE(alleykat @ Jul 20 2007, 11:36 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

I think I've developed some kind of defense mechanism or maybe something is just wrong with me.... but whenever I like a guy now I feel like I get pretty mean towards him ... like picking on his flaws and things like that to his face which probably makes him angry ....I get very insecure now when I start to like someone and then I don't act the way that I want to show them that I like them....I'm afraid of rejection/getting my heartbroken so maybe thats why I do that but it actually pisses me off lol ..... is anyone like this also? or im just crazy

Well I don't become a mean person towards him..
but I do find myself constantly thinking stuff like... "Oh no, was I too cold to him earlier?.. would he think I am a b!tch?!" "Was I too friendly/nice earlier?.. giving him the wrong impressions" etc.

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#652 zzombie

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Posted 20 July 2007 - 11:48 PM

QUOTE(what~the~vu @ Jul 20 2007, 03:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

AGGHHHH
Why do you girls play so freaking hard to get?!?! its frustrating and it send sooo many mixed messages....bleh

Because, us girls like to feel important and have our ego's boosted too, you know?
So if you try harder to get us, then our ego's will implode from all your efforts.
We'd also like.. die of happiness to know that someone like you (provided that you qualify for the romantic and sweet type)
Are in turn, interested in US.

We just like our self-esteem boosted by every little effort that you give us.
Whether it be in vain or not.

Women are conceited.

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#653 xt1naaa

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Posted 21 July 2007 - 07:18 AM

QUOTE(what~the~vu @ Jul 20 2007, 11:29 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

i asked her if she needed me to come and save her/ pick her up. she said she is a little uncomfortable and she would call me after....

She says that she's uncomfortable, but in her head she's thinking "COME SAVE ME!!!"

#654 pencilsandrulers

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Posted 21 July 2007 - 08:20 AM

QUOTE(jphase @ Jul 19 2007, 06:34 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

what do you girls mean or what can it mean when you girls say

"I don't want a relationship right now?"

simple, she doesnt like you

QUOTE(what~the~vu @ Jul 20 2007, 04:40 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

AGGHHHH
Why do you girls play so freaking hard to get?!?! its frustrating and it send sooo many mixed messages....bleh

QUOTE(n3v3rxdupl1c4t3d @ Jul 20 2007, 04:51 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

because they arent sure if you like them
if you like her, tell her straight out. if she's still playing, forget her. she's probably...not gonna settle down anytime soon.
but other girls,
girls are really insecure, even when they are confident. they need to make sure that the guy likes them first before they say yes. and i mean MAKE SURE. not subtle hints. STRAIGHT OUT.

yea thats right. come on guys, just SAY IT! im so hoping the guy i have in mind will read this and take more initiative!! its soo frustrating!
most girls still dont feel good making the first move or expressing that they like the guy UNLESS they know FOR SURE that the feelings are mutual. you dont know the extent gilrs go to keep their crushes secret hahaha

#655 ms. rachellica

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Posted 21 July 2007 - 11:34 AM

QUOTE(what~the~vu @ Jul 21 2007, 01:29 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

i asked her if she needed me to come and save her/ pick her up. she said she is a little uncomfortable and she would call me after....

maybe she didn't wanna get u involved in any of her problems.

she wants ur help buh doesn't want her problem to be a burden to you.

she's hoping u'll save her anyway.

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#656 Takeru

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Posted 21 July 2007 - 08:01 PM

if a girl calls you sunshine, toots, and other names is it suppose to mean anything?

#657 <vanity>

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Posted 21 July 2007 - 08:43 PM

QUOTE(Takeru @ Jul 22 2007, 02:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

if a girl calls you sunshine, toots, and other names is it suppose to mean anything?

Has sunshine been censored from something? If not and it's just general terms of endearment, I'd say she thinks of you as a friend. I would only call my closest friends something other than their names so I guess she'd have to feel pretty comfortable around you. However, it generally doesn't mean any romantic intentions.

Although I guess you can also take into account the manner in which she calls you those names, if it sounds like flirting? It probably is.

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Posted 21 July 2007 - 08:45 PM

QUOTE(Takeru @ Jul 21 2007, 10:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

if a girl calls you sunshine, toots, and other names is it suppose to mean anything?

jus shows how flirtly or close to you she is

#659 alleykat

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 12:26 AM

QUOTE(Takeru @ Jul 21 2007, 09:01 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

if a girl calls you sunshine, toots, and other names is it suppose to mean anything?

I agree with <vanity> ... i would think shes calling you those names because she thinks of you as a close friend ... then again it all depends on the person ... if she sounds like shes being flirty that it could mean she is interested in you ...but 90% of the time girls wouldn't have "special names" for guys unless they're already together

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#660 xLionHeartx

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 01:05 AM

If a girl says you're mysterious, is there some kind of hidden message behind that? What's attractive about being mysterious? Is it possible to get mysterious and being timid in front of people you really don't know, mixed up?

#661 Offspring89

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 07:47 AM

Im not very good at expressing myself...

I mean, in terms of doing nice things for my lady. What are some nice things i can do every now and then so she knows i like her? Sometimes i pick her up from work and pay for a couple things when we go out, but thats about it Sometimes i think i dont genuinley (sp) like her if i can't think of things like this to do myself. Is that true?

#662 hibari

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 08:36 AM

QUOTE(xLionHeartx @ Jul 22 2007, 05:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

People say i'm mysterious too. I take it to mean that your quiet and keep to yourself. mine comes from me being really shy, and REALLY shy in front of people I don't know (so I'm thinking its the same for you). there is no hidden message in being called mysterious. i think what people find sexy about mysterious people is that they're sitting over there doing their own thing, which makes them stick out from the crowd. Plus, by not speaking alot it makes other people wonder about you. i think media helps too because if you notice in movies the cool person is always someone thats badass and mysterious (take Legolas for example from LOTR,he barely spoke but alot of girls liked him).

QUOTE(Offspring89 @ Jul 22 2007, 11:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

i think guys should always do something nice for their girl. you could make her breakfast in the mornings, leave her little notes on the fridge that say something sweet; "i love you and I hope you have a great day at work." if you feel you only love her when you're doing something sweet for her then maybe you need to sit back and re-evaluate the relationship. put doing all those nice things aside and think to yourself does she have the qualities I'm looking for in a girl? Think about all the things about her you love, then if she checks most of the list off you'll know you still do like her. if not, then you know what you may need to do.

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 08:39 AM

QUOTE(xLionHeartx @ Jul 22 2007, 04:05 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

1- Well if I say a guy is mysterious, it means that he's different from other guys & I'd like to get to know him better.

2- I don't know what's attractive about being mysterious, really. I think it's because you stand out from guys who just "quiet" or "loud", I guess.
3- Well I think a mysterious guy would be someone who talks and like makes you want to find out more about him. So I think it is possible to get mysterious & being timid mixed up in front of people you don't really know.

QUOTE(Offspring89 @ Jul 22 2007, 10:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Well give her presents or surprise her once in a while. All girls love surprises

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 11:20 AM

Once I'm over a girl, is it gone forever?

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 02:54 PM

I'm suprised no one has replied yet.

QUOTE(강유미 @ Jul 22 2007, 12:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Once I'm over a girl, is it gone forever?

What's gone? Your relationship, your feelings?

I'm confused about your question.

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 04:33 PM

QUOTE(강유미 @ Jul 22 2007, 02:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Once I'm over a girl, is it gone forever?

if you want it to be......
but if you guys were deeply in love.....your feeling should still be there.

#667 xLionHeartx

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 04:47 PM

Is it wrong to not remember your first kiss?
If it is, what if you don't remember because it didn't mean anything to you?

Do girls generally think first love is the first person you actually emotionally loved or someone you just really liked, wanted to have or even had a relationship with?
Can a girl get off with just an intense make out session?

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 05:58 PM

QUOTE(Offspring89 @ Jul 22 2007, 09:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

some people find it hard to actually do things that express their love, but i dont think thats nessecarily true.
if you feel that you HAVE to do something to show her, re-evaluate (like what someone else said ^^)
do you really love her or is all of this pressuring you too much?
if you're just looking for ways to make her happy, you have to know her a little first.
does she like things to be really romantic and almost cheesy?
or does she like the plain, simple things?
you sound like you're really trying and that should be enough for her.
i say just hug her around the waist and hold her hand. give her random mini kisses.
ahahah just my opinion

QUOTE(xLionHeartx @ Jul 22 2007, 06:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

my head hurts so i'll just answer the first question. sorry x.x;;;

hmm well it's surprising you dont remember your first kiss...
but i guess if you had a lot more kisses after that and the first really was that insignificant, then im pretty neither you or the other person will feel bad.
after all, thats all you should be worried about, right? the girl?
i think the only person who should be the judge of this is you hahah
nobody can really do anything about it...

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 08:03 PM

QUOTE(xLionHeartx @ Jul 22 2007, 06:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

its fine not to remember ur first kiss...its like u dont have to remember ur first love either..
if it didnt mean anything to you then it didnt...it doesnt matter if it meant anything or if it didnt...

i have to say most girls its someone who they emotionally loved...but some girls who usually never like anyone their first love is someone they like...mostly its someone they have a relationship with...
depends on the girl and how much shes into you...

QUOTE(강유미 @ Jul 22 2007, 01:20 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

Once I'm over a girl, is it gone forever?

no..its not...
it may comeback every once in awhile..

QUOTE(Offspring89 @ Jul 22 2007, 09:47 AM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

no...
jus because you dont do things for her doesnt mean u dont like her...some ppl know how to show it, and some ppl know how to say it...

i would say if u do want to show her, then invite her over and cook her a meal

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Posted 22 July 2007 - 09:35 PM

QUOTE(xLionHeartx @ Jul 22 2007, 08:47 PM) <{POST_SNAPBACK}>

It's not wrong... but most people remember. Even players who have had plenty of girls remember their first kiss (but maybe not the number of girls they've dated, though). And if it didn't mean anything to you, it doesn't need to be the "official" first kiss. You can choose one that was meaningful to you, and say it was your first kiss.

First love, for me, would be the first guy I truly loved (not just really liked) and actually HAVE a relationship with. I don't believe that you can really love someone (in a romantic way) when you haven't been with them.

Erm. Hahah. Some do... I guess xD.