[megaSTEPxo]

Okay, I really like this girl. A LOT! And I know in the back of my mind that nothing can happen between us. But I can't make myself get over her. I told myself to don't think of her like that, and just think of her as a really good friend. And I'm still trying to convince myself to do that... But that is NOT happening. I can't stop thinking about her. I posted a topic about this, and maybe this topic can help me as well... So ladies, what do I do?

Oh I read your thread^^;
but I didn't leave a response..

Well like the member above said, perhaps you will have to try your best to distance yourself from her to get her off your mind. Try to meet new people or hang out with your other friends.. and just keep yourself busy.

I am not sure how the girl feels.. coz for me, I would feel quite bad if I didn't feel the same way about a certain guy.. but I would completely understand if he suddenly distanced himself from me even though I might miss his presence (as a friend).

[ohnosamoh]

Umm, I wouldn't want to say what she said to me. I don't want to compromise her appearance to anyone. Just know that she was really nice about it, and even though I told her... We're still good friends =]

[Bk.]

^

why cant u like be more then friends with her....?
is it cuz ur jus good friends?

[xLionHeartx]

Isn't that brand expensive? Is it a nice bag? Maybe she just likes the bag ._. Or maybe she doesn't have many bags and that's the best one XD

How did you give it to her exactly? Was it just like, "here, happy birthday" or something like, "i really like you so i got you a present =]"

We've always had more interest in each other than friends but we've never done anything to compromise our friendship. I think everything we gave each other, it was a little more special than just a gift.

I remember giving it to her with a Godiva chocolate bear, swarovski figurine thingie (the swan logo), and the bag. I don't quite remember how I presented it to her but I'm sure it wasn't just like ,"Here, take it."

It's kind of hard to think someone could be emotionally attached to a bag after so long.. but maybe I just desperately want to be with her .. nah.. not maybe, I definitely do..

[ohnosamoh]

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why cant u like be more then friends with her....?
is it cuz ur jus good friends?

It's very very complicated. And that's something that I don't want everyone knowing... I know this makes it harder for everyone to help me, but the reason it's complicated has to remain unsaid. Sorry.

[~ Hard Canday ~]

Okay, I really like this girl. A LOT! And I know in the back of my mind that nothing can happen between us. But I can't make myself get over her. I told myself to don't think of her like that, and just think of her as a really good friend. And I'm still trying to convince myself to do that... But that is NOT happening. I can't stop thinking about her. I posted a topic about this, and maybe this topic can help me as well... So ladies, what do I do?

Hey I've been in this situation before. I think the more you try to stop thinking about someone the harder it becomes! Although u're thinking..ok..I'm not gonna think about her any more, ur mind is still concentrating on the thought of her. So I think, like others have said, distancing urself from her is probably the quickest way. However, since u guys are still good friends, that's not gonna be easy..I know. Personally I tend to keep on liking the person until I have absolutely no energy left to do so, and at that point my mind kinda automatically stop liking the person. Maybe that only works for me though.Another way to stop liking someone quickly is to find another person; concentrate ur energy and thoughts on somebody else. But then again, I dont really like having rebounds cuz I become emotionally attached to people easily..and I don't want myself ending up wanting to have a serious relationship with a rebound. But it might work for u =)Or u can try thinking about her bad habits..haha. Concentrate ur thoughts on the things u don't like about her, maybe?Good luck! I know it's hard..but it'll get easier with time, I promise!!

[ohnosamoh]

Hey I've been in this situation before. I think the more you try to stop thinking about someone the harder it becomes! Although u're thinking..ok..I'm not gonna think about her any more, ur mind is still concentrating on the thought of her. So I think, like others have said, distancing urself from her is probably the quickest way. However, since u guys are still good friends, that's not gonna be easy..I know. Personally I tend to keep on liking the person until I have absolutely no energy left to do so, and at that point my mind kinda automatically stop liking the person. Maybe that only works for me though.Another way to stop liking someone quickly is to find another person; concentrate ur energy and thoughts on somebody else. But then again, I dont really like having rebounds cuz I become emotionally attached to people easily..and I don't want myself ending up wanting to have a serious relationship with a rebound. But it might work for u =)Or u can try thinking about her bad habits..haha. Concentrate ur thoughts on the things u don't like about her, maybe?Good luck! I know it's hard..but it'll get easier with time, I promise!!

I don't usually fall for people that easily. So it would be hard for me to find someone else. And besides, I don't want anyone else. And thinking of her bad habits... That won't either, cause I don't see any flaws in her. Weird I know. But in my eyes, she's perfect. No matter what other people say, it doesn't matter to me... That's just how I am..

[yungstar]

I don't usually fall for people that easily. So it would be hard for me to find someone else. And besides, I don't want anyone else. And thinking of her bad habits... That won't either, cause I don't see any flaws in her. Weird I know. But in my eyes, she's perfect. No matter what other people say, it doesn't matter to me... That's just how I am..

wow...
you put yourself in a bad situation and you seem content with it.
this is going to make me look like a jerk or whatever but i don't feel bad for you one bit.

i can understand where you are coming from though because 6 months ago, i was in your place.
although i can relate to you, the reason why i don't feel for you is because all of this bs you are going through is self inflicted.

you are getting good advice from all of these girls and are just easily dismissing everything.

i'm basically just going to rehash what the others have said.
the best things you could do for yourself at this time is...
1. distance yourself from her
2. find someone else to focus your attention on
3. keep busy whether hanging out with friends, work, or finding a new hobby

personally, what worked best for me was the gym. i used all the pent up anger i had inside and did something constructive with it.

while its a good thing that you opened up with your feelings, this is like the most attention wh0rish thing you could have done. no one likes a self pitying whiner.

btw, how old are you?
if you're still in high school, ignore my insults as your noobness could just be due to lack of experience.

as the all american rejects say,

when all you got to keep is strong
move along, move along
like i know you do
and even when your hope is gone
move along, move along
just to make it through
move along

[ohnosamoh]

It's not that I'm young. I'm 20. And I do know that I put myself into this situation... it's just that I like her so much. And not being able to do anything about it really sucks. I guess I'm just venting on soompi, and everyone is trying to give me moral support, which I appreciate very much. I don't know...


And the gym DOES help. I go to the gym to box, and when I went today... That took my mind off things for the time being there... I guess I'll be going to the gym more often now.. xD

[~ Hard Canday ~]

I don't usually fall for people that easily. So it would be hard for me to find someone else. And besides, I don't want anyone else. And thinking of her bad habits... That won't either, cause I don't see any flaws in her. Weird I know. But in my eyes, she's perfect. No matter what other people say, it doesn't matter to me... That's just how I am..

Since u're not ready to move on yet..maybe u can just stay close to her and try to be happy with that (atleast for now)...It's great that the gym can keep ur mind off this. On a brighter note..from going to the gym often..U'll soon be able to move on and u'll end up with a super hot body too! hehe..

[yungstar]

It's not that I'm young. I'm 20. And I do know that I put myself into this situation... it's just that I like her so much. And not being able to do anything about it really sucks. I guess I'm just venting on soompi, and everyone is trying to give me moral support, which I appreciate very much. I don't know...
And the gym DOES help. I go to the gym to box, and when I went today... That took my mind off things for the time being there... I guess I'll be going to the gym more often now.. xD

you are able to do something in your situation. you can get up and walk away.
it might not be what you want to do at the moment but in the long run, it could be your best bet.

and yea, just hit up the gym constantly. beating the stuff outta a heavy bag is a lot better than hitting on a wall. not to mention, you'll see lots of random hotties there who may be able to assist you with keeping your mind off of your friend.

[ilovesongyoona]

you are able to do something in your situation. you can get up and walk away.it might not be what you want to do at the moment but in the long run, it could be your best bet.and yea, just hit up the gym constantly. beating the stuff outta a heavy bag is a lot better than hitting on a wall. not to mention, you'll see lots of random hotties there who may be able to assist you with keeping your mind off of your friend.

I'd listen to yungstar, I'm currently getting out of this situation and everything that the members have said on this board works. Because I have tried all of them.But in my situation, I can feel at ease about forgetting about her because I finally told her how I felt about her last year and she didn't feel the same way about me. So i know I have tried my best and it's time to quit.I know the ladies are suppose to answer on these, but I just thought this needed a guy's opinion, because I think guys are put in this situation more often than people acknowledge it.

[EmiPark]

wats the best way to put you down slowly, girl im messin wit now is starting to annoy me how do i let her down slowly from ur perspective

God damn, you caused the mess, you best sort it out properly!!! or ill hunt you down! xD.. jezz that pisses me off. Some blokes seem to think they can do what they want and when things aint the way they thought it would be they let go and leave the person HANGING! RAWR! You can't. When you take someone so far, they aint going to leave you if they don't know their way back. If you know what i mean. Puh puh. >_>;; </3

If the guy in the relationship is funny and the girl in the relationship is unbelievably boring, is there a chance for these two to go out together?

lol nope. Like the quote goes 'you cannot love someone with whom you never laugh with.' Simple but its true. Your with someone because they make you happy, whether it be because they make you laugh with jokes, make you happy with gifts, make you on top of the world with sweetness, or make you high with sex. If she doesn't make you happy in any kind of way, your relationship is doooomed xD kekeke~~ sowii that wasn't funny O_O </3

Wow, boredom got the best of me here xD Rawrahahahaha...

EmiPark <33

[ahmong_]

if a really shy guy likes a really shy girl----how should he approach her?

[MoiraElla]

if a really shy guy likes a really shy girl----how should he approach her?

idk how he should do that but someone gotta be the braver one.
maybe a letter? or in person.........? idk im just saying anything! sorry!

[MeNahBabe]

Okay, I really like this girl. A LOT! And I know in the back of my mind that nothing can happen between us. But I can't make myself get over her. I told myself to don't think of her like that, and just think of her as a really good friend. And I'm still trying to convince myself to do that... But that is NOT happening. I can't stop thinking about her. I posted a topic about this, and maybe this topic can help me as well... So ladies, what do I do?

she's ur friend right? dont try to stop talking to her, or ignoring her, or trying to totally forget about her. U enjoy ur time together as friends right? But u KNOW u cant be TOGETHER? Then just keep it as it is. i dont think u should give up on HER, just give up on trying to be her bf. even if ur not her bf....u can still do the same things a bf does besides kiss. u'll just have to forget those urges.....wait....but the urges r the problem.....oooooooo.. my b....im clueless now....heh heh.

just stay friends.....its how all failed relationships end up between girls and boys. try so geh tings? mol laaaaaaa T.T

[megaSTEPxo]

if a really shy guy likes a really shy girl----how should he approach her?

I think you would just have to find the courage to approach her.. coz if she's really shy, then the chance of her approaching you would be like zero.
Hmm where do you see her often??
Say she's in your class.. maybe you can ask her a simple question about the class to get started on the convo..

[natt2828]

if a really shy guy likes a really shy girl----how should he approach her?

LOL, be like.. "oops can i borrow ur pen?" "oh, where did u get this from?" "oh yeah? what classes do u have next?" "oh me too!!" bla bla bla. Careful of awkward moments tho xD

[han.]

why do girls always go to the bathroom in groups? seriously, i know it's not like anybody needs help in there.

[xtiinee]

why do girls always go to the bathroom in groups? seriously, i know it's not like anybody needs help in there.

They don't like going alone. Why is that such a problem to you guys?

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Or so they can go off and gossip about guys lol. ;D