[LOVEspell.]

3. She has a piano exam, and needs to practice which I understand, but I do want this relationship to grow, so I've tried to be inclusive such as inviting her to go see a movie with some of my friends. In order to work around her being stressed I've tried to say things that are inclusive where I could be with her and help her out at the same time - ie. with her portfolio, because I have to do mine as well. She says, "we'll have to see" <---- What does this mean?

its a personal thing.

[xLionHeartx]

Why do you guys make it so damn hard to love you? Breaking my heart... seriously.

[LOVEspell.]

Why do you guys make it so damn hard to love you? Breaking my heart... seriously.

specify, please.

[EmiPark]

Why do you guys make it so damn hard to love you? Breaking my heart... seriously.

I'm sorry i didnt know you loved me!!!! ahem only joking.....BUT women normally do that when they don't trust you, are testing you to see if they should trust you, or they are never going to trust you.

I think. O_O im tired. zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

EmiPark

[megaSTEPxo]

Could I get more people's opinion on this? Although helpful, the response didn't feel complete with only one perspective. I should really put this in my signature.

I think you did a good job since you seemed really thoughtful of her.. like making sure she got home not too late. About her getting her Dad to pick her up... my guess is that her parents are a bit strict and if her Dad picked her up then, it would ease off the atmosphere when she gets home. It's hard to say if she trust you now but I think it's something that grows over time... and same for opening up to you.

I think some people might have a hard time opening up to another person right away. How long have you known her? because if you haven't for a long time, it will grow over time.

At least for me, I am like that. If I just met a guy even as a friend or even a colleague, I would be a bit more reserve than I would be with my close friends because I am uncertain of the person's intention or I'll worry that if I become too friendly, I might give the wrong signals. So perhaps, the girl just wants to wait and see what kind of person you are first.. before she completely trust and open up to you.

"we'll have to see" ... I think that sort of means a No but with hesitant and uncertainty.

I am not sure if my answers helped but from the last question you asked, it seems like the girl is very independent.. so I think you'll just have to be very patient.

[EmiPark]

I got a question! I dunno if someone already asked it, but imma ask aniwaiz!

sometimes in a relationship with a Boy and a Girl the Boy tries to get in the

Girls pants. I know its very very sad, but somewhat true. Guys you know what i mean.

Okay so here is my question whats the Girls main objective?

It isnt cause of sex....the womans objective is try and make the bloke like her more than just wanting sex, unless she is a sl*g, but then again if that was the case you wouldnt need to TRY and get in here panties. Like players for instance, the only reason the women stick around is cause they seem to think that they can mek that bloke player like just her and only her, for more than just sex. Know what i mean? Its like a competetion between women, something like tha.

EmiPark

[`LANE]

Why do you guys make it so damn hard to love you? Breaking my heart... seriously.

i think, its a trust issue. i guess women do a little testing on u because i do ;_;

-- lane

[LOVEspell.]

It isnt cause of sex....the womans objective is try and make the bloke like her more than just wanting sex, unless she is a sl*g, but then again if that was the case you wouldnt need to TRY and get in here panties. Like players for instance, the only reason the women stick around is cause they seem to think that they can mek that bloke player like just her and only her, for more than just sex. Know what i mean? Its like a competetion between women, something like tha.

EmiPark

depends on their relationship

[EmiPark]

depends on their relationship :unsure:

Lol, no need to look so worried xP.....what you mean? O_o;;

EmiPark <33

[LOVEspell.]

Lol, no need to look so worried xP.....what you mean? O_o;;

EmiPark <33

not all relationships are like that , and u know that

if it's a mutual relationship, the girl will do in spite of love

[EmiPark]

not all relationships are like that , and u know that

if it's a mutual relationship, the girl will do in spite of love

Lol, you've given me a head ache!! ...Kekekeee~~ only joking!
I can't even remember what we was talking bout...?? O_o;; </3

EmiPark <3

[yungstar]

It isnt cause of sex....the womans objective is try and make the bloke like her more than just wanting sex, unless she is a sl*g, but then again if that was the case you wouldnt need to TRY and get in here panties. Like players for instance, the only reason the women stick around is cause they seem to think that they can mek that bloke player like just her and only her, for more than just sex. Know what i mean? Its like a competetion between women, something like tha.

EmiPark

i disagree, unless the girl is 11 yr old, been sheltered her whole life, or super innocent, i think both guys and girls want to have sex. guys are just generally more blunt, not caring how they are perceived by society. while most girls, on the other hand, try to downplay their desire for sex so that they won't come off as slutty. amirite womenz?? virgins need not reply.

[EmiPark]

i disagree, unless the girl is 11 yr old, been sheltered her whole life, or super innocent, i think both guys and girls want to have sex. guys are just generally more blunt, not caring how they are perceived by society. while most girls, on the other hand, try to downplay their desire for sex so that they won't come off as slutty. amirite womenz?? virgins need not reply.

Lol, you couldnt just agree could you, to make me feel better bout myself! heheee joke joke....well im right in SOME cases. Because i've known woman like it. Because the blokes play their minds about. 'amirite womenz'? lol NA! xP virgins need not reply? whats that all bout? O_o

EmiPark <33

[onesh0t]

so i haven't spoken to my friend (a girl) for the past few months now. No real reason why i haven't, there's nothing between us and actually we're like super close and get along well. And so today i was at work party and my phone vibrates and i got a text message from her. I was shocked, since i didn't expect it at all. Here's what it said.

"Hi there~ U crossed my mind several times this week. Anything significant going on?"

and i replied, "Nope, not really. Currently at a work party. So how are you missy?"

she goes, "I'm about to type my thoughts and think stuff over. Work party huh? How ironic =)"

in return i go, "Ironic? How so? But a lot on your mind... =( something wrong?"

she writes back, "since when did work and party go together? =) With my family together and all i have to face old wounds."

I blabber back, "oh i see....of course there are their pros and cons....but i think the pros out weigh the cons. Thats something we both agree on."

...and she never replied back... =( so i say, " This will probably be late and all, but good night. Sleep tyte and dont think too much. Great hearing from you, miss ya."

so finally i just got back, "ahhh >< i fell asleep hehe. Somethings suck but i'm glad my familys here... it was my last thought before i lost conciousness...heh...i was so tired."


....so thoughts ladies? =\ With her things are like on and off...i mean we're super compatible, we've known each other for like 4 years now. At the same time we both know our places and have just settled for a friendship type of thing, so yeah....

[Rinrinn]

[edit:] post removed . thank you. =)

[innocentlilchineseboy]

if a couple were in a relationship but halfway into the relationship the girl starts to act really shady, calls the guy less and not see each other that much anymore...what is that a sign of? some inputs on this would help a lot! ^__^ thanks.

[Bk.]

if a couple were in a relationship but halfway into the relationship the girl starts to act really shady, calls the guy less and not see each other that much anymore...what is that a sign of? some inputs on this would help a lot! ^__^ thanks.

that theres something wrong with her or theres a break up coming

[masala_chai_tea]

With her things are like on and off...i mean we're super compatible, we've known each other for like 4 years now. At the same time we both know our places and have just settled for a friendship type of thing, so yeah....

The question is...are you comfortable with where things are at now? Do you want something more? Is she the kind of person who surfaces only every so often? I can be that way myself with my friendships mainly because I turn into a hermit sometimes. Maybe you should talk to her about making some time to hang out if you want to.

[LOVEspell.]

woahs. i'm in a somewhat similar situation okayy.. let's see what we got here

I could tell she secretly likes this guy at work (yeah, we met each other from work) for quite a while, but then the guy is not interested in her, but me. *sad* I was also interested in him too.

how do u know?how come nothing happened?u guys talk? ( u didnt mention it in the story. )

To keep this simple (cuz i don't want to bore u ppl from reading a story of the issue), I'm just gonna say that my friend and I were really close friends. I could tell she secretly likes this guy at work (yeah, we met each other from work) for quite a while, but then the guy is not interested in her, but me. *sad* I was also interested in him too.

are you sure? she does HAVE a boyfriend. did she mention anything? or u just assumed?

Also, I dunno if she trash-talked me, cuz I notice some people(eg: girls) were starting to act 'cold' towards me.*sigh*... Why are some girls that cruel to others??

just wondering, what IS ur job?

so i haven't spoken to my friend (a girl) for the past few months now. No real reason why i haven't, there's nothing between us and actually we're like super close and get along well. And so today i was at work party and my phone vibrates and i got a text message from her. I was shocked, since i didn't expect it at all. Here's what it said."Hi there~ U crossed my mind several times this week. Anything significant going on?" and i replied, "Nope, not really. Currently at a work party. So how are you missy?"she goes, "I'm about to type my thoughts and think stuff over. Work party huh? How ironic =)"in return i go, "Ironic? How so? But a lot on your mind... =( something wrong?"she writes back, "since when did work and party go together? =) With my family together and all i have to face old wounds."I blabber back, "oh i see....of course there are their pros and cons....but i think the pros out weigh the cons. Thats something we both agree on."...and she never replied back... =( so i say, " This will probably be late and all, but good night. Sleep tyte and dont think too much. Great hearing from you, miss ya."so finally i just got back, "ahhh >< i fell asleep hehe. Somethings suck but i'm glad my familys here... it was my last thought before i lost conciousness...heh...i was so tired." ....so thoughts ladies? =\ With her things are like on and off...i mean we're super compatible, we've known each other for like 4 years now. At the same time we both know our places and have just settled for a friendship type of thing, so yeah....

she's just catching up.maybe she there was a thing between u guys and out of the blue, she probably wondered what happened so she texted to start a casual conversation

The question is...are you comfortable with where things are at now? Do you want something more? Is she the kind of person who surfaces only every so often? I can be that way myself with my friendships mainly because I turn into a hermit sometimes. Maybe you should talk to her about making some time to hang out if you want to.

^ that's the next step

[JiaJia]

Hi ladies, just wanna clear off a few questions I have resting on my chest which I am seeking answers/solutions for.


Ok, where do I begin...

First off I had this convo with a friend of mine where I told him about a sitution I had, a prefect opportunity to talk to this girl whom I fancy but screwed up bad. Afterwards I was bombarded by him for been "dumb". He told me that I shouldn't make friends with the girl first but rather just ask her out straight away or only after meeting a few times since if I become a close friend of hers then she would never look at me as bf material. Is this true? And what are your thoughts on this?


Secondly, is she single or taken? Ok here's the confusing part. I've spoken to a friend of her's before and she explicitly told me that she [the girl i like] has a bf. So I tried to find out and had a bit of a chit chat where I kindda strayed into the convo about bf/gfs. She told me she was single and didn't have a boyfriend. Now I know I should trust her more than her friend but its just bugging me since her friend has no reason to lie to me, yeh? I don't wanna look like some interrogative answer demanding tool so I don't really know how to appraoch the situation. Should I just directly ask her?

Since I only see her once a week during church its hard for me to talk to her in person. I really do like her and I would like to ask her out. Should I just take the risk and ask her without finding out first if she's taken? And would it be plausible to do it through MSN or SMS ... as lame as it is.

Oh and one more thing. A friend of mine told me never to tell a girl straight up that you like her cause if you do they willl lose interest in you really quick. Is it best if I confess? Will she think that Im too easy?

Just wanted to let everything out =| ... can't sleeP ... *sigh*

Thanks for reading guys and girls !