[philophobia.]

my ex & i broke up in june 6th.. (we went out for a year and 6 months)
i am still in love with him..
we talk as friends..
and he also has a soompi id.
but he hasnt been on ever since we broke up.
thats probably why im asking for opinions here now.


i have no idea whether or not he's over me
but im not.
i really want him to know.
and everyone around me has been encourging me to talk to him
and tell him how i truely feel. ..

no matter what i do,
he's always in my head.
i miss him, and i love him alot.

i want to tell him how i feel before its too late.
but then im afraid i`ll loose him even as a friend..

he's the only person i've said "i love you" and
it means alot because i dont just say it.
i've had others before him but never did i say i love you.
so the point is.

should i call him out & tell himm..?

please i really need honest opinions.

to me it seems as if he gives me mixed signals. maybe it just me..

edit_
urm let me say.
i wasnt the one to break up with him.
this our second worst break up..
well now its the final.
but urm... yeahh he broke up with me
because of something i did.
i didnt cheat on him or anything
we had a very strong long argument which lead him to that decision becasue
i said something he didnt want to hear.. well it wasnt the answer he was wanting.
but i only said the truth because he hates it when i lie to him..
i cried and asked him to take me back that day.
call me clingy and stuff but i knew he loved me still..
and he's breaking up with me because i hurt him..
i've asked for forgivenes..
honestly.
im very strong on the whole "self-esteem"
but i gave it up for him.

i really need to know whether or not i should talk to him..
but im planning too..

[Je t'aime]

it doesn't hurt to hear that you are being loved.. but you know that either way.. there's consequences. but i think the best way for you is to tell him and get his point of view.. if he still loves you like you do.. then great.. but if he doesn’t then that gives you closure.. and if you loose him as a friend.. well it’s too bad for him.. if he can’t handle the truth.. it’s worthless to be even friends..

i was in the same situation not so long ago.. i told him that i was hurting cuz of him.. that i still love him and that i want him back.. but he wasn’t brave enough to tell me yes or no.. so i was dwelling with the confusion for so long.. and finally realized.. he wasn’t worth it.. cuz if he was really worthy.. i wouldn’t have had to go thru what i did.. but since he was worthless, he was able to hurt me and not feel bad about it.. and not be straight forward.. a real man knows how to be honest about their feelings.. especially to the s/o or ex s/o..

but yea.. i lost him as a friend.. but truth be told he’s not worthy of my friendship.. so yea..

if your ex is a real man.. he will know how to handle the truth and be able to own up to it.. he won’t just ignore you just because he knows how you feel.. if he doesn’t feel the same.. he will help you get closure..

[xmyheart]

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totally agree.. i'd tell him if i was in your position.. i think i would feel better letting it all out instead of keeping it all inside..
if he doesnt have the guts to tell you yes or a no... i dont think its worth it darling..

it might hurt now.. but there are many other guys out there who will be willing to love you more then this guy did..

[huggles]

hope you feel better...

[ace']

it doesn't hurt to hear that you are being loved.. but you know that either way.. there's consequences. but i think the best way for you is to tell him and get his point of view.. if he still loves you like you do.. then great.. but if he doesn’t then that gives you closure.. and if you loose him as a friend.. well it’s too bad for him.. if he can’t handle the truth.. it’s worthless to be even friends..

i was in the same situation not so long ago.. i told him that i was hurting cuz of him.. that i still love him and that i want him back.. but he wasn’t brave enough to tell me yes or no.. so i was dwelling with the confusion for so long.. and finally realized.. he wasn’t worth it.. cuz if he was really worthy.. i wouldn’t have had to go thru what i did.. but since he was worthless, he was able to hurt me and not feel bad about it.. and not be straight forward.. a real man knows how to be honest about their feelings.. especially to the s/o or ex s/o..

but yea.. i lost him as a friend.. but truth be told he’s not worthy of my friendship.. so yea..

if your ex is a real man.. he will know how to handle the truth and be able to own up to it.. he won’t just ignore you just because he knows how you feel.. if he doesn’t feel the same.. he will help you get closure..

the "truth" you speak of, is subjective... his "truth" may have differed from your "truth."

im sure he felt bad, but if he told you he felt bad (or the "truth"), that would have given you false hope, making things more difficult for you to move on. sometimes its harder to not say anything than to say something. because deep down they still care, but they know that them trying to help, will only make the process of moving on, that much harder.

honestly, being friends after a recent break up rarely works. there's always one side that wants more, thus making a real friendship difficult to occur. however, it is possible to be friends after some time has passed, after both parties have come to terms with the breakup.

[Fui]

You should tell him because if not you'll never know...
It's best to do it now then to look back upon this in the future and wonder what would happen.

[Elee]

10 years from now.
put ur self in ur shoes 10yrs from now.
do u think your going to regret?

and oh yeah. i read this quote:

"to be friends with someone you used to love means you still have feelings, or you were never in love at all"

[philophobia.]

10 years from now.
put ur self in ur shoes 10yrs from now.
do u think your going to regret?

and oh yeah. i read this quote:

"to be friends with someone you used to love means you still have feelings, or you were never in love at all"

when i read it i didnt even have to think twice about it.
i know i wont regret it if i tell him..



i really want to talk to him.
he's going away to hawaii for few days.
and i want to tell him before i leave to san fransisco in few days..
im planning to tell him on monday but i havent talked to him because he's on but he signs off right after,
he's working or out drinking..

(btw. he didnt drink or smoke when we were going out because he knows how much i hate it.... but everytime we break up he does.. to relief stress as he says...
he told my friends that he's trying to keep himself VERY VERy occupied..)

i tried to but at the end of the day.. or throught the day when im doing something
i always think of him :/

[monchichi]

I think he still habours some sort of feeling for you if he's trying ot keep himself occupied (like he's trying to keep his mind off the relationship).

It could go either way but think about it - if you don't tell him, it'll hang over your head forever and if you do tell him, there's always the time ahead to fix the friendship.

[twinkle_l0ve]

the way you talk about it, i can tell that you really miss him.
i think you should tell him about how you feel.
but dont get your hopes up for something good to happen~

[mwookta]

mm this happened to me before too... i really missed my ex and i just couldn't get over him. so i decided to tell him how i feel, well part of this has to do with my personality, like i cant hide my feelings. even though we still decided to not get together but it felt much better since i told him how i really felt, because before i told him i felt like i really miss him and stuff and i think it has to do witht he fact that i constantly think about if i should tell him or not so he ended stay in my head for more than usual.

just tell him. no matter if it will be a rejection or get together, if you think its worth it, then why not do it? its much better to get rejected and move on than having the regrets for never trying and leave your self in your million possibilities/imagination of what will happen if you tell him.

good luck! hope this can help you a bit ^.^

[philophobia.]

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