[M3tor2nR]

I feel so broken down and betrayed... the pain and agony isn't going away. Depression has a full grasp of me. Haven't eaten or slept for many days now. Can't do anything. Not even goto work.


I met this girl 2 years ago. She fell in love with me. Asked me out on the 3rd date, made the first moves, made out with me and asked me out. I've been single my entire life before I met her. 22 years old. I was prideful and wanted to wait for the perfect person.

But this girl was so aggressive and showed alot of affection... that I gave her a chance and started going out with her. It was great. Alot of love and affection.


But the first thing she told me was about her past. She was cheated on by her first bf. And when she found out after a year... she tried killing herself and almost succeeded. She took bottles of pills and laid still that night until someone found her. She was hospitalized for 2 weeks and barely made it. After that, she was so depressed and hurt that she started sleeping with a whole bunch of guys left and right.

This upset me, but I looked past that and told her I would like to patch up those scars she had.

It made us stronger together. We were in love. All was good. And because of this, she told me I couldn't talk to any girls or go out with them or even goto places that had any girls. She was insecure and begged me if I could do this for her. I told her ok, so she took my phone and deleted all the girls I had on there. She asked me for my passwords to all my accounts. My AIM, Email, MySpace, Forums... pretty much EVERYTHING and deleted all teh girls on there too. And checked up on me everyday. She made me delete my MySpace account because there were too many girls. I had over 3000 friends but I let her delete it. Because SHE was the important person to me. Not anything else.

I was 120% faithful to her. Not only this, but she made me stay home and not go out. If I did go out, I had to be with a certain friend and I had to come home by 10pm. She had set curfews and SOOO many restrictions she needed me to do. This wasn't normal, but I loved her so I agreed and did it for her.

This was the type of girl that got SO upset and mad... even if I didn't pick up her phone call by saying "Hey Baby!" or "Hey Hunnie!"

She would get upset if I was running 10 minutes late from my friends house. She lied to me about being pregnant once and had an abortion with some dude she slept with. And a year later, she told me it was a lie. She made me do EVERYTHING for her. Things that alot of guys wouldn't do. Just so much stress and misery... but I endured it for her. Everytime it got too hard for me, I would tell her maybe we should close it off and break up... but EVERY single time... she would hold on and cry and beg on her knees to not leave her. And everytime... i came back and embraced her and loved her even more afterwards.

The biggest thing I liked about her was that she endured the pain of being cheated on and almost took her own life because of it. So she told me she will NEVER EVER cheat on me and go behind my back. I gave her my 100% trust. That is why I still did so much for her.

During the entire relationship... she was always talking about how she wanted to marry me. Have children. Have dogs in the backyard, etc. In the very beginning of this relationship... my parents being the traditional Koreans they are... didn't really like her. 1. because she wasn't full Korean, and 2. because she wasn't a Christian. I told her that it might be a tough road to travel and if she wants to back out now... now is the time. But she started crying again and said that there's nothing she can do about her nationality, but she'll learn Korean for me. And she has. She was an athiest so she didn't believe in God, but because she wanted to marry me so bad and be with me forever, she said she'd goto church with me every Sunday. She did and after half a year, she started believing. I introduced her to my faith and what good is and I don't regret anything about that. Maybe it was God's plan to have her enter my life so I can introduce her to God. We did alot for each other.


Long story short... I found out after 2 years of deep serious relationship with her... my first GF. My first kiss. My first love... she's been cheating on me the entire time. Meeting and talkin to a whole bunch of guys.

She made me delete my MySpace account and everything. But I found out she cheated on me with one of my friends... and somehow I ran into her secret MySpace account she's ALWAYS had since the beginning till now with over 3000 friends. And the comments that were left on her page was devastating. She was talking to guys and meeting up with them the entire relationship. When she told me not to talk to girls and delete them out of my life... she was lying and cheating on me.

She threatened to call the cops and put a restraining order on me if I don't stay away from her now and all this harsh and cold things.



I just don't understand how any human being can do this. It's messin me up pretty bad and I just had to vent. Sorry and thanks for listening.

[xmyheart]

wow.. thats pretty intense.. sorry to hear a fellow female would do such a thing.. seems to me like she wanted attention..
girls these days... they are just.. crazy -0-

i hope you can get over what she has done.. you deserve much better then that... no one should be treated like that.. thats just really... cruel

[huggles]

hope you feel better... i assure you.. all girls arent like that a

[CueTheSun]

you should have dumped her the moment she made you delete all your friends. i mean, if she really cared about you she wouldn't make you do that in the first place. well sorry to hear that, you'll feel better in time and someone who deserves you.

[pencil_geeks*]

that's crazy.. girls can really destroy guys. i'd like to apologize for what she did on behalf of my female peoples.

she probably lied to you from the start. acting she's hurt when she's really not. because if she got hurt she wouldnt really have done that to you. in her stories, its probably her that's done all the cheating. and she puts herself in the guys pov.

girls are secretly evil..

[BABiELiCi0USx3]

that's crazy.
&& your FRIEND?!
you should've dumped her when she first made you do all that stuff ;

[machii]

wth.. that is sooooooo messed up..

i don't even think she's human..

i can't believe you did all that for her..

never stay in a relationship with a girl that tries to control you!

i'm sorry idk how to help..

[mojomunkeez]

Can you say "owned"?
Ouch, that's harsh.

[Amethist]

wow I can't believe yet again how crual some people on this earth can be, that girl's insane !! Such a pity for you that it was all a lie, but I hope you can get over her, because you deserve so much better!! That girl isn't your loss, but you are her loss! Ohwell I hope everything will work out for you, and don't be depressed over her, she is soooo not worth it..

[ShawNzYy]

wow.. i mean dude that is devestating, im sorry to hear that man.. i hope you get through this. you dont need her, man there's always someone out there waiting for you somewhere, don't give up hopes finding that person.

[itrayya]

i think she wanted the power.
she wanted to control you and the relationship.
i mean.... by wanting you to do things just for her....
she wasnt even respecting you by letting you answer the phone with a simple 'hi'.

i think that you shouldnt be so much in depression.
i mean, i know she hurt you....
but.... now you know what kind of person she is.
dont feel sorry for her at all.
she doesnt deserve any sympathy and any good words from you.

i think... maybe right now, are you feeling sorry for yourself?
sorry that you let such a person into your life?
i think, you shouldnt be so hard on yourself or sad in any way.

if she messed up on you, be glad.
and i mean, be glad that you know what kind of person she is.
and that it finally came out. cause it coulda gone on longer than it has.

boy, i tell you, girls like that, you can do without.
even though she was your first love and kiss and such....
everyone needs a first in something, and she was the first you love
and the first to hurt you. nothing bad can happen to you that she hasnt done, right?

you can only move on from here.
you have to be stronger than her.
dont call her back. dont ask her back.
she doesnt deserve a good man like you no mo'.

my brotha, there's so many girls out there who can do so much better than her.

if you're gonna cry, cry now.
if you're gonna feel sorry for whom ever, do it now.
cause my brotha, i want you to start tomorrow fresh and stronger than you were the night before.
you gots me???

dont let her destroy your hope for future love.
dont let her make you feel less than you are.

my brotha, be strong.
she may have threw you down, but only you can pick yourself up.
good luck.

[Elee]

damn. im really sorry to hear that. WTF. this puts a shame to all of us girls.... i know how you feel. my sister... she kinda does the same thing. she doesnt care how guys feel.. she cheats on them all the time, she begs and cries about how shes going to change.

pls. try to move on. at one point she gave you joy and happinness, we all know that, but you have the right to forget her. very well written story. Thats just so cold... what she did is unforgivable. I'm a girl... but i have some consciousness in me.. and i hope that i would never get to that lowest point and cheat on someone who loves me dearly.

pls. try to move on. what i predict from you is... you will find a new girl, maybe not now, but later on in life... who will show you loyalty and love... who, this time, will mend your broken heart.

you trusted this girl way to fast, i think that was the problem. but dont worry, thats a common mistake everyone does. your really going to have a hard time trusting people now.

be glad that you found this out this early.. because what if you found this out once you guys were married ?
be happy. be optimistic, she will NEVER EVER find a guy like you...
you sound like a guy whos HARD to find. really hard to find... you sounded like every girl's dream guy, btw. a guy who would do anything for a girl, thats like finding riches at the end of a rainbow.

[`LANE]

wow.. intense. sorry dear.. hope u'll get better.

but that really is a bit inhumane how she cheated on u during the entire relationship ?! thats 2 years =\

sorry for ya. please move on.

[Fui]

Wow,
First off I want to say that you're really one of a kind. That there are no other guys out there like you.
I've been cheated on so I know how it feels. Don't feel bad about it. There are many girls out there that are more compatible with you than her. Just take your previous relationship as a life lesson... that's what I did and it made me stronger as a person.
The best way to get over this is to keep yourself busy and go out with your friends... Good luck and I hope everything work out in your favor in the end. Just stay strong.

[~ BunnyliciouS ~]

what the heck

what a selfish female dog.

i'm so sorry, *hug* I hope you get better, be stronger and move on

[Sp0iL3d_Br8t]

Creeeeeepy. I didn't know such people really exist, I thought it was only on TV.
I hope you find someone better and I hope karma bites her in the ass good.

[ace']

daym son... there were so many red flags. the baggage she came with, the pyscho jealousy, etc..

anyway, the best thing to do is to surround yourself with close friends. friends, that you know will have your back.

granted its a really rough time in your life right now, it'll eventually heal, and make you a lot stronger.

keep your head up.

[melkimx]

She threatened to call the cops and put a restraining order on me if I don't stay away from her now and all this harsh and cold things.

that is so dumb. unless you really are stalking her, she's making a claim she can't even follow up on. i think she knows on some level what a horrible person she is, but she's trying to twist it around in her mind so that you're the one who's harassing and bothering her, to protect herself. because otherwise i don't think anyone can live with the knowledge that they did the things that this girl did to you.

i think this story sounds a little familiar to me, except it's like 100x more intense. there are ways i've acted and standards i've set for the guys i've dated that i know are out of line... for me, it comes from having a weird way of perceiving things and needing control. i mean, i'm not THIS bad, of course, but i'm not going to lie, my bf says i put him through a lot.

i think what'll help you start to recover is reclaiming the social life that she tried to ensure you wouldn't enjoy... like try to get back your friends, start up myspace again, etc. during my last breakup, i was so out of it... i went to work and everything, but when i got home i couldn't even turn on the lights, and i wasn't eating anything or picking up phone calls... but it helped to have a friend who let me cry on his shoulder, and other friends offering their support. and it helped to know that time would do its thing. like you know a couple months down the road, UNLESS you go back to her, you're going to be in a much better place than you're in now, because you're going to be more detached and able to realize that she totally wasn't worth it.

[CriticalHit]

Oh wow... I've heard so many stories about terrible evil boyfriends, but wow, this girl... like someone said, she is INSANE.

I hope you know not all girls are like that. I'm sorry for you ... man that is one crazy woman...

[apparition]

horrible...iunno what to say.... ugh, girls are scary

[Ryskie]

You should of dumped her when she started to try to change you.
A girl should love you for who you are when she meets you, not for what she makes you into...

But since you can't take that back, just keep the lesson you've learned and move on.
There are girls out there that aren't going to use you or change you, but you should make sure you're ready to find them or let them find you.
Emotional baggage isn't nice to have when you start a new relationship, since it really should be a fresh start.