[sweet_lolita ` x2]

firstly, thanks to everyone who's reading this.+++
so lately, my dad [my birth dad] has been staring at my chest.
it's really uncomfortable and it bugs me a lot. he's never touched me except for the fact that two years ago, when me, my mom, my older brother and my dad were watching tv, I fell asleep on the same couch as my dad. I woke up on the couch to him like literally stroking my butt. my mom was in the same room as him, and she said that it was only because "he thinks im such a cute daughter" and I shouldn't take it in any wrong way. and when I told my brother, he just laughed and said I was being paranoid.
so, I ignored it. he's never touched me besides that so I was just like, whatever, she's probably right.
until now, whenever I see him, I always catch him staring at my chest.
it's really gross. i hate him for it too. but I wonder, what if I'm wrong and I am being
paranoid.
what should I do?
I don't want to tell my mom or my brothers because they'll be like "wth yea right."
and I don't want to confront my dad because it'd be awkward.
what should i do!?
anyone else have this situation?

[poopiness]

yea your dad probably wants some. You should wear sweatshirts at home.

I mean you would expect people to not feel that way about their daughter and family members. But some people they can't help them selves. That's why there are brothers and sister that are in love or have s e to the x. Just wear sweatshirts. Or something that covers up.

[xcindyloooo]

This is really weird...
Have you two ever been really close?
Or has it always been kinda distant with the exception of the "attention" hes giving you?

[swtxcandi]

may i ask how old you are?
if you are at the brink of puberty or in the middle of it or something, you might be just paranoid because girls can become quite sensitive at that stage. i really doubt your birth father is going to stare at you with dirty thoughts. i mean...he's your dad.

of course, i might be totally wrong because i don't actually know your dad or you. however, there is a high probability that you might be just paranoid at this stage. but if you really believe that your dad has other thoughts for you, i think you should talk this out with another family member/close friend that actually knows your dad.

asking soompi gives you a limited amt. of responses because we don't personally know both of you guys and your relationship with one another. just my two cents. ^^;;

editt///_________________
well....if he does touch you again and you feel awkward, i'd start worrying then. but at least talk with your close/best friend that's good at keeping secrets and someone you can trust. what are friends for, right?

[jkeezy88]

i dont think its much, but it is still a bit wierd...
just dont worry about it until something solid comes around....
if he starts feeling up on you a lot...then id worry....
i think if you have been fine through out the years, youll be fine now.

[sweet_lolita ` x2]

answers:
age:::15
my relationship with my birth dad::: has never been close, it's actually on the "bad" side. he's constantly telling me that I have such a bad attitude and such.
talking about it with family::: like I said, it's already been done and they laugh and tell me not to say such things because that's not right and my dad'll get really angry if I confront him

[bubblishxtrem]

Don't take me up on this. But I think you're being paranoid. If you're the first daugher of his, he's probably kinda fascinated by your growth. It's nothing special for him to see your brother grow, since he went through that stage. And then to see you is like a whole new experience. The butt stroking is a bit on the odd side, but maybe he was just petting your butt. He's probably staring at your chest because it's growing, and he just can't help noticing. Okie, what I said sounds odd. But if you're seriously that uncomfortable, you should talk to your dad about it. He might not get as upset as you're anticipating. Or he might not even notice he's staring at your chest.

[ChromeHearts]

probably thinking about what gun to buy because you are becoming of dating age

[sweet_lolita ` x2]

Don't take me up on this. But I think you're being paranoid. If you're the first daugher of his, he's probably kinda fascinated by your growth. It's nothing special for him to see your brother grow, since he went through that stage. And then to see you is like a whole new experience. The butt stroking is a bit on the odd side, but maybe he was just petting your butt. He's probably staring at your chest because it's growing, and he just can't help noticing. Okie, what I said sounds odd. But if you're seriously that uncomfortable, you should talk to your dad about it. He might not get as upset as you're anticipating. Or he might not even notice he's staring at your chest.

I have 2 older brothers, one older sister, and one younger sister.
I THINK he's had enough time to stare at his children's growth.
I'm a D cup and I know that might be a bit too big for japanese girl;s boobs, but still.
he shouldn't stare.
this just really upsets me so much and I hate being near him and don't want him touching me or patting
or ANTHING.
its just sickening.

[~ BunnyliciouS ~]

wear baggy oversize shirt, so that he can't see anything.
when you're bending down, like when u're picking something, make sure he is not peeking into ur shirt.
u're not paranoid, I wouldn't like being patted by my dad if I was your age.

[mojomunkeez]

I have 2 older brothers, one older sister, and one younger sister.
I THINK he's had enough time to stare at his children's growth.
I'm a D cup and I know that might be a bit too big for japanese girl;s boobs, but still.
he shouldn't stare.
this just really upsets me so much and I hate being near him and don't want him touching me or patting
or ANTHING.
its just sickening.

He's japanese? That settles it, then. He's a horndog.

[poopiness]

You are NOT PARANOID. If you are uncomfortable with it, then you are uncomfortable with it. Don't write off how uncomfortable you are just because people tell you that you are paranoid. Don't let anyone convince you are wrong in feeling what you feel. Like I said before, wear something to cover yourself up while at home.

[sillyHO]

^ LOL ... true the japanese have a bad rap for being rather perverted
try catching him in the act. when he is staring, go "what are u staring at?" say it nicely though

[sushiwhore]

dress like a boy at home o_o yah he sounds reallly creepy my dad never looks or even touches me we keep safe distance.. maybe a head pat or back pat but thats liek once every few months o-o

[monchichi]

I have 2 older brothers, one older sister, and one younger sister.
I THINK he's had enough time to stare at his children's growth.
I'm a D cup and I know that might be a bit too big for japanese girl;s boobs, but still.
he shouldn't stare.
this just really upsets me so much and I hate being near him and don't want him touching me or patting
or ANTHING.
its just sickening.

Just tell him. Already is awkward and sickening for you, so what further harm could it do to tell him that his straying eyes are making you uncomfortable?

As for me, my dad (who is not my biological father) used to grab my butt a lot when I was your age too. Not just grab but fully grasp it and massage it and stuff, then slap it. It made me feel degraded and uncomfortable so I just told him to stop it - and he did.

[benjaminlibl]

Dayum... that's scary. And so sick. Can't help you...

[~ BunnyliciouS ~]

probably your dad has collections of hentai....japanese girls with giant boobs....and then he sees yours.... which is the real thing...

[M0NSTER*]

^ AHAHA OMG ~ BunnyliciouS ~
But seriously, you should straight up tell your dad how you feel.

[hippiehop]

That's pretty disturbing...

[toanyone21]

....thats ummm not right.... but tell your closet friends about it....or talk to your dad about it....sorry, I'm not that much help